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Post by LisaDV on Sept 9, 2017 17:47:40 GMT
So sorry for your family 's loss and your worry. Hugs and prayers.
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Post by SockMonkey on Sept 9, 2017 17:54:05 GMT
I would say that his lawyer is going to handle legal issues, and for now, I would not worry about that (or at least not focus on it). Your son's mental health is going to be of utmost importance. He is going to need therapy and support to get him through these early stages of the grieving process. Focus on that, because the legal stuff will be somewhat out of all of your control for a while.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
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Post by gale w on Sept 9, 2017 17:55:31 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending prayers for your family.
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Post by anniefb on Sept 9, 2017 18:03:08 GMT
No advice - just sending prayers and positive thoughts to you and your family.
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Post by Really Red on Sept 9, 2017 18:05:21 GMT
Ugh. I am so sorry. Of course you must be sick with worry and with grief. It's pretty hard to prove vehicular manslaughter. My friend's child was killed by someone who did bad stuff, but wasn't even charged. I don't know that she ever even got a ticket. Like others, I feel angry that that person didn't have to pay, but I'm not sure jail is the answer when no drugs/alcohol are involved.
I am really sorry.
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Post by scrappinmama on Sept 9, 2017 18:08:39 GMT
I'm so sorry! You all must be devastated by such a great loss.
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Post by Merge on Sept 9, 2017 18:13:16 GMT
I'm terribly sorry. Big hugs to you and your family.
I'm not a lawyer, but I agree with those who say that a charge of vehicular manslaughter generally requires some evidence of gross recklessness. Drunk drivers who kill people in my state are often given this charge. Speeders generally are not. But I know your mom heart can't help but worry.
Best wishes to you all as you navigate this difficult path.
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Post by valleyview on Sept 9, 2017 18:51:12 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss and the circumstances around it. I hope that you include his in-laws in the funeral planning and come together as a family. That may be helpful to him later. I'd recommend counseling, but it might be helpful to consult with an attorney just to help him with legal issues of probate/death and to discuss how the accident could impact him. It might help all of you in order to allay some of the worry.
Hugs.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 9, 2017 18:58:53 GMT
My sympathies to your family on the loss of your daughter-in-law.
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Post by grove420 on Sept 9, 2017 19:26:20 GMT
A work friend of mine ran a stop sign and her mother in the passenger seat was killed when the car was broadsided. I believe she received a ticket for failure to stop, but no other charges were filed.
My sympathies to you, your son, and your DIL's family, and strength to you for supporting your son.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2017 19:34:45 GMT
My heart is breaking for all of you.
Sending prayers your way.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Sept 9, 2017 19:36:28 GMT
I am so sorry what a horrific situation.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Sept 9, 2017 19:41:19 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your family.
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Post by kristi on Sept 9, 2017 19:41:39 GMT
{hugs} I'm sorry
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Post by hutchfan on Sept 9, 2017 19:45:50 GMT
Sending my prayers for you, your son and family.
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Post by RosieKat on Sept 9, 2017 20:02:20 GMT
I'm another one with no insights, although I agree with what others have said. I just wanted to chime in and offer my condolences and hopes that everyone involved can come to peace sooner rather than later.
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Post by melissa on Sept 9, 2017 20:05:37 GMT
How devastating! I am so very sorry.
I agree with the others. This sort of thing usually does not go anywhere.
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Post by AnotherPea on Sept 9, 2017 20:12:56 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
In my area, vehicular manslaughter is not terribly uncommon. If someone is killed in an auto accident, there is a very real possibility that a driver will be charged. I do not know of a case where a parent or spouse was charged after his child/wife was killed. There might be some, but I do not know of any. I do know of a couple of cases where people were found guilty of vehicular manslaughter but no time was to be served.
Let the lawyer worry about that part. You and your family take time to heal.
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 9, 2017 20:17:36 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice for you other than to try to stay calm and take this all one day at a time. I can't even imagine what your family is going through right now. My thoughts are with you all.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Sept 9, 2017 20:18:38 GMT
I worked for a guy who was driving (speeding) in his Porsche wrecked and his wife and daughter killed. He was not charged.
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Post by melanell on Sept 9, 2017 20:23:20 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope your son can eventually find some degree of peace in his life in regards to this tragedy and that the circumstances of the accident are not ones that will lead to any charges against him. Hugs to you.
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Post by Gravity on Sept 9, 2017 20:23:42 GMT
I am so sorry for the loss of your DIL. ((HUGS)) to you and your family.
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Post by leeny on Sept 9, 2017 20:28:15 GMT
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by cawoman on Sept 9, 2017 20:28:22 GMT
I'm too so sorry for this terrible accident. I hope there's a resolution that won't make your poor son feel more guilt than he already does. I know it's next to impossible but I hope you can take this day by day so you don't make yourself literally sick over what the future holds. Hugs to you and your family.
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Post by elaine on Sept 9, 2017 20:32:19 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss and worries.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Sept 9, 2017 20:33:13 GMT
I'm sorry for you and your families.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Sept 9, 2017 20:36:21 GMT
I am so sorry. I hope your son can forgive himself for the loss of his dear wife.
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Post by PLurker on Sept 9, 2017 20:39:41 GMT
I can not even imagine the heartache(s). Hugs and best wishes. Please consider any help you are offered.
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Post by Lexica on Sept 9, 2017 21:03:22 GMT
I am so sorry. I truly hope that there will be no charges brought against your son. Losing his wife is punishment enough and something he is going to have to live with the rest of his life. Did they have any children together?
Try to keep your focus on his emotional well being and let his attorney deal with the legal ramifications. There isn't anything you can do on his behalf in that regard anyway, right? Have you mentioned therapy to him, and possibly for your entire family, to deal with the loss of your DIL? It would be good to have someone that he can talk to through this. There is probably going to be some surviver's guilt in there too.
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Post by tduby1 on Sept 9, 2017 21:39:27 GMT
i am sorry for your loss. I hope for the best for your son emotionally and legally.
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