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Post by Really Red on Jul 9, 2018 0:49:16 GMT
Really red, ask for a cognitive test. OT can do it. Either a SLUMS or something else. This will help with getting help and showing the Dr's his cognition. Did he have an OT and Speech evals? I know they've done this. I will talk to them again tomorrow about it. Thank you!! This is not a nursing home situation. She has said he is functional. It's his speech, comprehension,and possibly cognition. It is more of an assisted living situation if anything. It's really too soon for everything though. He may well fully recovery. Does he have family out of the country? Could he return there? I agree. I will not put him in a nursing home at this point. I might after a year, but certainly not at this point. His family does not want him back and do not think I should take him in either. My advice is to keep meticulous records for every single financial decision you make. I understand that you feel there is no other option, but the idea of an ex-wife obtaining POA while there is some cognitive issues just seems like a recipe for disaster. I have no idea what your relationship with the ex was before, but think long and hard about any decision that is the least bit controversial and could be questioned at a later date. I am meticulous. If I thought that he would not have agreed with POA when he was 100% in his right mind, I would not have done it. Finances have never been an issue with us. I took less for the divorce for many reasons and did not fuss when he had already given over $30K to someone. That is not because I have so much, but because money is not worth the fuss. I feel absolutely certain this will not come between us at all. He says at least 20-30 times daily he wants me to have all his money for the kids. peanutterbutter your questions are excellent and you are absolutely right. I cannot be confident in that now. I am hoping the therapist can help me strategize a bit tomorrow on that. renny lots of hugs to you. Today, Ex did better. Here is what happened to help me, though. I talked with a friend of mine who is a speech therapist and she helped me understand about his understanding. I thought if the brain cells were destroyed, that was that. She explained that the cells are all attached and others repurpose themselves to take over. OMG. That brightened my mind. I see a bit of understanding and now feel confident that with all that he is doing to try to get better, it will. Not sure he'll work again but who knows? It doesn't feel as dire now. I am amazed, however, at how little we do for stroke victims. Thank you all for getting me through the first 5 days. My ex wrote down every number until he got to 90, which is when I told him he would start feeling a little more normal. So 85 to go for me, too!
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Post by christine58 on Jul 9, 2018 1:00:45 GMT
I agree. I will not put him in a nursing home at this point. I might after a year, but certainly not at this point. His family does not want him back and do not think I should take him in either. What does his family want for him???
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 9, 2018 1:38:40 GMT
His family does not want him back and do not think I should take him in either. Why do they not want him back? what do they think should happen then? Ask the OT for the test scores, and what test they did. You can look it up online. Glad your SP friend explained that to you. Yes, the brain is amazing. We actually do A LOT for stoke patients. Not sure what you mean by not doing much for them?
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Post by christine58 on Jul 9, 2018 1:50:42 GMT
His family does not want him back and do not think I should take him in either. Why do they not want him back? what do they think should happen then? Ask the OT for the test scores, and what test they did. You can look it up online. Glad your SP friend explained that to you. Yes, the brain is amazing. We actually do A LOT for stoke patients. Not sure what you mean by not doing much for them? Why oh why does the quote feature continue to attribute quotes to people who didn't say it?? That above was from Really Red...not me
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Post by Really Red on Jul 10, 2018 11:20:42 GMT
His family does not want him back and do not think I should take him in either. Why do they not want him back? what do they think should happen then? Ask the OT for the test scores, and what test they did. You can look it up online. Glad your SP friend explained that to you. Yes, the brain is amazing. We actually do A LOT for stoke patients. Not sure what you mean by not doing much for them? His family lives in Europe and they have their own lives. I asked about OT yesterday and the nurse couldn't tell me anything!! I will be there today for OT and see what's going on. They tell me he does not have any need for OT, but I disagree. He has vision issues from the stroke and some right side weakness that fallunder OT. You CAN do a lot for stroke patients, but for people like my ex, who are young and otherwise healthy, they need more therapy than is offered. My ex is being given 3x/week ST when his doctors say he is a prime candidate for 5x/week 3/hrs daily. Obviously, I can work with him the other days, but dang work gets in the way. Also, my ex shouldn't be by himself, but the choice is literally a nursing home or daily care, paid for by me. I am not putting him in a nursing home. So while the technology exists to help stroke patients, most stroke patients are older and maybe just need to function in a certain way, but the younger ones, who need to go back to work should get the help they need to do so. If I weren't taking care of my ex, he would be lost in the system. And I know this one is minor, but I wasn't with him in the afternoon yesterday (had to come back home to prepare his room), and the nurse never ordered him dinner. He can't read or respond to stuff! He's in a neurological unit. It really bothered me that unless I'm there, he doesn't get food, apparently.
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