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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 0:36:11 GMT
I hope that his mother can be as strict with him as you have been.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 23, 2018 0:38:31 GMT
So sorry about your pup. It's hard!
Glad your EXDH has a plane ticket. I join with Elaine, waiting to see your new couch!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 0:38:59 GMT
And for peace sake, don’t take this as karma. You don’t deserve bad karma.
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Post by KikiPea on Oct 23, 2018 0:44:58 GMT
Well, I’m happy that you have a solution. Praying for your sweet pup, and peace for you. You have done nothing wrong. Big hugs, lady!
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Post by AllieC on Oct 23, 2018 0:56:33 GMT
I'm so happy to red this update. What an awful time you have had of it lately.
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Post by Nanner on Oct 23, 2018 1:08:45 GMT
awww, I'm so sorry about your dog. But glad to hear you're getting rid of your ex-h. That'll take such a load off your mind.
I am not sure why you didn't want him to go to his mother's? Just be glad he's gone. And don't take him back!!!!!!!
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Post by inkedup on Oct 23, 2018 2:36:10 GMT
I dont have any advice, but did want to send you a huge hug. I'm sorry about your pup.
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Post by zella on Oct 23, 2018 2:40:45 GMT
I'm SO glad you finally have a workable plan; yay for you!
I'm really sorry about your dog. Don't minimize it with your kids. They may need to say goodbye soon, and that can be tricky when they don't live at home any more. Give them time to process it.
Hugs to you; you both need and deserve hugs!
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Post by JoP on Oct 23, 2018 3:52:27 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 4:05:44 GMT
OMgoodness. I somehow missed this thread when you originally posted.
I am SO SO SO sorry to hear of your weariness and stress and anger and sadness.
I'm glad to hear you've found a resolution.
You are a good person to have done so much for so long. Many gentle thoughts of peace for you and your ex and your families.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 4:08:30 GMT
Hugs to your sweet pup too. Life really can suck hard sometimes. {more hugs}
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Post by tanya2 on Oct 23, 2018 4:57:14 GMT
I'm so sorry about your puppy - but so thrilled for you that you're finally getting your house back! You have been so wonderful caring for him like you have, but it's time to be done
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Post by anniefb on Oct 23, 2018 4:59:22 GMT
So sorry to hear about your pup but good to read the rest of your update and to hear there is a solution for now.
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Post by craftykitten on Oct 23, 2018 8:35:15 GMT
I'm so sorry about your pup. I'm really glad that you've found a solution that lets you have your life and your house back. I think you're a very strong woman who has shown a lot of compassion.
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Post by disneypal on Oct 23, 2018 10:32:05 GMT
Good update - it sounds like it will work for the best
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Post by joelise on Oct 23, 2018 10:43:10 GMT
I’m so sorry to hear about your pup. It sounds like you’ve been having a really tough time lately. I hope things work out for the best for you with regard to your ex.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 23, 2018 11:18:08 GMT
I'm so, so sorry about your dog, losing a pet is so hard. But I am relieved to hear that your EX will be leaving soon, and I completely understand his mother wanting him with her, after all, they are our kids no matter how old they are.
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Post by Rhondito on Oct 23, 2018 15:49:37 GMT
This is a much better update in regards to your ex than I had ever imagined. I guess I had no idea he had a parent who was still alive. My heart is so happy that the end of this situation is near for you.
And I'm so sorry about your sweet pup. I've been through the same thing with my beloved little Maltese and when I lost her it was almost as bad as when my father passed. I will be praying for you.
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Post by peabay on Oct 23, 2018 16:03:06 GMT
Whew! Light at the end of the tunnel! I'm so sorry about your pup though.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Oct 23, 2018 16:10:20 GMT
Oh goodness, I'm so sorry about the dog. Huge hugs.
But it sounds as if you have light at the end of the tunnel, and his mom is taking on your wings and halo. Meanwhile, wear them proudly.
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Post by papersilly on Oct 23, 2018 18:30:47 GMT
i'm glad your ex found a place with his mom. i hope it works out for them. i know it was exhausting for you and you were great to have been so kind and accommodating to him.
sorry about your pup! once your ex moves out, i hope you have all the time your need to focus on him.
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Post by purplebee on Oct 23, 2018 19:05:42 GMT
Sorry to hear about your doggie. Sure hope the plans for your Dh to live with his mom work out. Keeping my fingers crossed for you, you deserve a break.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 23, 2018 19:20:48 GMT
So sorry about your pup...wishing you both well.
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Post by leftturnonly on Oct 23, 2018 20:10:11 GMT
I've read bits and pieces of your struggle, so I only know part, but your update sounds like great news about your ex!
Sad news about your pup. {{{hugs}}}
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Post by kate on Oct 24, 2018 0:08:48 GMT
Great news about the XH and his mom! Take a mental break by making a Pinterest board of new couches. I'm so sorry to hear about your dog, though. That's tough stuff.
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Post by mrssmith on Oct 24, 2018 2:39:22 GMT
Sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you are couch dreaming/shopping! Glad you have found a solution. Why didn't his mom take him earlier?
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Post by flanz on Oct 24, 2018 3:21:19 GMT
I'm so happy to read that there is a solution going forward with your exDH. So sorry about your dog. (((HUGS)))
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Post by Deleted on Oct 24, 2018 3:24:37 GMT
Sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you are couch dreaming/shopping! Glad you have found a solution. Why didn't his mom take him earlier? I think the mom is older and not in good health. I hope there are going to be a lot of people around to help the mom. Red is a strong woman and she is pooped out over this.
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Post by Really Red on Oct 24, 2018 11:10:40 GMT
Sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you are couch dreaming/shopping! Glad you have found a solution. Why didn't his mom take him earlier? I think the mom is older and not in good health. I hope there are going to be a lot of people around to help the mom. Red is a strong woman and she is pooped out over this. Yes, thanks @megmc . My MIL is 86 and she, who used to be so strong and powerful, is wilting. About 2 months ago she finally decided to move into a retirement community and at first she was worried, because after 61 years in the same apartment, she was nervous. But I think she was thinking she might have to watch her son. It has given her a bit of a renewed lease on life, **I think**. My BIL is strongly, strongly opposed. He was quite vehement in his objections that he did not want his brother in Switzerland. I made a lot of concessions, but they weren't enough and he called my ex and told him all the reasons why it would be wrong of him to come. The thing is, I don't disagree 100% with my BIL. I understand where he's coming from completely. My MIL also thinks she is getting dementia. The doctors do not agree, but she is losing a bit of her memory. I am a bit worried about her taking on someone who is so removed from society in the best of times (pre-stroke) to now. However, he's not angry or mean or anything like that. He's a bit docile. But he is not helpful at all. So I have been worried about my MIL, but she seems to be determined to take him and she is the only one. I am calling all his old friends and cousins and begging them to see him once a month each. He has a big family. That should amount to 2-3 visits per week, which is 2-3 people more than he sees now. FWIW, I have an excellent relationship with his whole family. They are doing these visits for me and for his mom. Yesterday put a nail in the coffin of him ever staying with me anymore. Long story short, yesterday I had to take his car in to the shop, then I had to call the insurance who refused some payment (then the doctor's office, etc.). Finally, I got a series of texts from him that were meant for someone else. Again he tried to gaslight me (which he did our whole marriage) and make it seem like it was I who was crazy. I am pissed off that I easily spent 2 hours yesterday taking care of things for him and he does this. I'm just so completely and totally done. I do not feel the slightest bit bad. Well, not the biggest bit bad; I do feel a little bad, but I know this is the right thing to do.
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Post by Really Red on Oct 24, 2018 11:13:47 GMT
Great news about the XH and his mom! Take a mental break by making a Pinterest board of new couches. I'm so sorry to hear about your dog, though. That's tough stuff. This made me smile. A Pinterest board is a great idea! The dog goes into surgery on Monday. If they get all the cancer, we're good. Since I take the dog to annual visits, and his last visit was last November, I hope this cancer was found soon enough. Thanks to you and everyone for your good thoughts about my pup. He is getting a ridiculous amount of love from me these days!
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