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Post by malibou on Nov 5, 2018 23:46:38 GMT
I am so sorry you are going thru this. You've been given excellent advice, so I will wish you both peace as you go thru this process. May your happy memories of time with your mom help see you thru these difficult days.
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Post by andreasmom on Nov 5, 2018 23:55:23 GMT
I'm so sorry. I lost my Mom many years ago and I know how difficult it is. Just be with her. Be with her as much as you can. Talk to her. Even if she doesn't respond or seem to recognize you, I'm sure she wants to hear your voice. Tell her the important things you want her to know. And after that you can talk about anything at all. Your day. What your kids/siblings are doing. The weather. Just be with her. You won't regret it. This a million times. If you are there, and can do it, then just be with her. Hold her hand. And when the time comes, tell her it’s ok to let go. (((((Big hugs))))))
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Post by KelleeM on Nov 5, 2018 23:58:09 GMT
I’m so sorry.
If you’re close by just sit with her. Hold her hand. Tell her anything you want to say. This is what I did with my Mom during her last days. She wasn’t aware of anything so it was for my comfort.
Losing my Mom was the hardest time in my life. Hugs.
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Post by jenjie on Nov 5, 2018 23:58:54 GMT
I’m so sorry. Such good advice given. Give her permission to go.
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Post by ladytrisha on Nov 6, 2018 0:02:53 GMT
Hold her hand, love her, talk to her as if its just the two of you.
When we were losing my Dad, the nurses told us the same thing - talk, share, love - and we were so thankful she did. We told my Dad it was okay to go - it helped him and us in that moment.
My heart is with you and your Mom.
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Post by newfcathy on Nov 6, 2018 0:03:10 GMT
My mom passed away 2 years ago after suffering from Alzheimer’s for over 12 years.
She went very quickly. I had seen her a few weeks earlier & her last words to me were that she loved me. A long sentence for her at that point.
One of nurse’s called one morning when wouldn’t eat, even though she had been fine the night before, and that the nurse the end was near.
She was right. My sister & I spent her last 2 days by her side. They made us very comfortable.
We read some letters that her sister had written her from Australia (Mom was a war bride). They were very sarcastically funny. She was mad at her dh when their oldest dd got married. She started referring to him as ‘the bride’s father’.
She passed peacefully right before midnight of the second day.
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Nov 6, 2018 0:04:20 GMT
I'm so sorry. When my dad was dying, the nurse told us that hearing is the last to go; so we shared memories and told him we loved him. No doubt the most difficult thing I've done; sitting and watching my dad go. Blessings to you and your family.
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 6, 2018 0:05:23 GMT
My mom is dying. According to hospital staff she only has days left. She doesn't seem to recognize us any more. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. Not even sure why I posted this thread. If any of you have words of advice please tell me what to do. Just be there. Hold her hand and talk to her. I am very sorry. I have been down this road.
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Post by KikiPea on Nov 6, 2018 0:06:04 GMT
I have no advice, but am sending up prayers for peace.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Nov 6, 2018 0:07:24 GMT
I'm so very sorry. When my mom was dying, my sister sat and stroked her hand and told her daddy was waiting for her. She passed away that night and my sister said she had the most serene look on her face. Hugs to you.
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Post by Zee on Nov 6, 2018 0:08:00 GMT
I'm very sorry. Just be there as much as you can but don't beat yourself up if you can't be there 24/7. We all do our best.
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Post by questioning on Nov 6, 2018 0:08:00 GMT
I have no advice, but you will be in my thoughts.
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Post by destined2bmom on Nov 6, 2018 0:09:09 GMT
Huge hugs and prayers to you and your family.
Everyone has given you great advice. My mom died in 2016 from Alzheimer’s. And we all took turns holding her hand and talking to her. We stayed with her as long as we could and we took turns being in the room with her.
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Post by piebaker on Nov 6, 2018 0:12:28 GMT
I am sorry. I sang some hymns and said prayers my mom might have recognized before she passed away.
Wishing you comfort.
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Post by styxgirl on Nov 6, 2018 0:14:16 GMT
These days are a heartbreaking blur. The only advice I have is be gentle with yourself. Do what feels right for you. I'm so sorry.
This is so true and very good advice.
When my Mom passed, I held her hand, stroked her hair. I told her I loved her and thanked her for being my Mom. Even though she wasn't responsive, I know in my heart she could hear me.
Hugs.
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Post by Mystie on Nov 6, 2018 0:16:50 GMT
I'm so very sorry. I hope for peace for her and for you and all your family.
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Post by Anita on Nov 6, 2018 0:18:17 GMT
I just lost my father last month. Hold her hand. Be with her as much as you can. Tell her you love her. That's all you can do. Big hugs. It's hard.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Nov 6, 2018 0:24:33 GMT
I’m very sorry
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Post by kate on Nov 6, 2018 0:26:37 GMT
I'm sorry. God bless you both as you walk this road.
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Post by peasapie on Nov 6, 2018 0:33:47 GMT
I’m very sorry. It’s unthinkable when our parents leave this earth. Sit and hold her hand and let her know you are there, whether she is alert or not.
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Post by alexa11 on Nov 6, 2018 0:33:51 GMT
I'm so sorry sending prayers for you and your family.
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 6, 2018 1:01:00 GMT
I'm so sorry. You are in my prayers.
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Post by tanya2 on Nov 6, 2018 1:03:59 GMT
I'm so sorry!!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2018 1:04:29 GMT
I have no advice, just sending you some prayers for strength and love during this time. I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine how hard it is for you. xo
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Post by withapea on Nov 6, 2018 1:04:36 GMT
I'm so sorry, I'll be keeping you and yours in my thoughts. I wish I had words of wisdom and comfort, there's nothing that can make what you're experiencing okay.
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Post by Skellinton on Nov 6, 2018 1:06:53 GMT
I have no words, I am sure your mom feels your love. I hope she is comfortable. I am very sorry. Hugs to you.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2018 1:41:54 GMT
So heartbreaking, I'm sorry. Much peace to you and all your loved ones.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Nov 6, 2018 1:43:45 GMT
I’m so sorry. Wishing peace and comfort for your family in the difficult days ahead.
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Post by hockeymom4 on Nov 6, 2018 1:52:57 GMT
I hope you can find strength and peace in this most difficult time....
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Post by scrapngranny on Nov 6, 2018 1:59:13 GMT
I’m so sorry you are facing this. When my dad was on his last days my 2 daughters spent the whole day with him at the nursing facility. He was not conscious, but we talked to him, cried and laughed at our favorite Grandpa stories. He had a great sense of humor, so there lots of good stories. We left in the evening at peace. The facility called me at 5:30 am the next morning that he was near the end. I was there in about 15 minutes and spent the last hour with him. His passing was very peaceful. I was the only one there and cherished those last moments.
Do what will give you peace. Let her know you are going to be ok. Prayers for your family.
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