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Post by hmp on Nov 5, 2018 22:51:02 GMT
My mom is dying. According to hospital staff she only has days left. She doesn't seem to recognize us any more. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. Not even sure why I posted this thread. If any of you have words of advice please tell me what to do.
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julie5
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Post by julie5 on Nov 5, 2018 22:53:57 GMT
I have no words. Just sending you some comforting thoughts during this hard time.
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Post by CarefreeSadie on Nov 5, 2018 22:54:56 GMT
I'm so sorry you are going through this....if there is anything you want to say to your mother do it now, even if she doesn't know who you are or what you are saying do it for you, also sit and hold her hand if she will let you.....hugs!
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Post by dewryce on Nov 5, 2018 22:55:07 GMT
I'm so very sorry. Even if you don't think she's listening or understands, you don't know for sure, she just may not be able to communicate that. Say anything you would regret not saying. Tell her you love her. Thank her for whatever is important. Share some of your favorite memories with her. Make sure she is comfortable.
eta: What would you want to hear from your loved ones if it were your last days? Tell her those things.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 5, 2018 22:55:14 GMT
My mom is dying. According to hospital staff she only has days left. She doesn't seem to recognize us any more. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. Not even sure why I posted this thread. If any of you have words of advice please tell me what to do. Just be with her. Sit and talk to her. That's what my cousins did when their mom was dying. I am so sorry, |
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Post by Montannie on Nov 5, 2018 22:57:15 GMT
Hugs to you. Just be there with her. Hold her hand. She'll feel comforted; maybe you will, too.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Nov 5, 2018 22:57:38 GMT
If you have the time go sit with her and talk to her. IF that is something you think you could do. Spend time talking with other family members. Stay home and rest and take care of you. There is no right or wrong here. Do what you think is best for you and/or your family.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Nov 5, 2018 22:57:43 GMT
I’m so very sorry.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 5, 2018 22:58:37 GMT
I think carefreesadie gave good advice. Hugs to you. Sending a prayer to you for comfort.
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Post by MorningPerson on Nov 5, 2018 22:59:46 GMT
I'm so sorry. I lost my Mom many years ago and I know how difficult it is.
Just be with her. Be with her as much as you can. Talk to her. Even if she doesn't respond or seem to recognize you, I'm sure she wants to hear your voice. Tell her the important things you want her to know. And after that you can talk about anything at all. Your day. What your kids/siblings are doing. The weather.
Just be with her. You won't regret it.
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Post by inkedup on Nov 5, 2018 23:02:39 GMT
These days are a heartbreaking blur. The only advice I have is be gentle with yourself. Do what feels right for you.
I'm so sorry.
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Post by MizIndependent on Nov 5, 2018 23:04:28 GMT
I'm so sorry. I lost my Mom many years ago and I know how difficult it is. Just be with her. Be with her as much as you can. Talk to her. Even if she doesn't respond or seem to recognize you, I'm sure she wants to hear your voice. Tell her the important things you want her to know. And after that you can talk about anything at all. Your day. What your kids/siblings are doing. The weather. Just be with her. You won't regret it. This. So much this.
I'm so sorry. Will be praying for you and your family.
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Post by hop2 on Nov 5, 2018 23:06:57 GMT
Hugs
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Nov 5, 2018 23:08:06 GMT
{{{{hugs}}}}
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Post by papersilly on Nov 5, 2018 23:08:08 GMT
just be with her. even if she can't communicate with you, she can hear you. just talk to her. remember wonderful times with her. i'm sorry you are going through this.
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Post by arielsmom on Nov 5, 2018 23:08:25 GMT
Sit with her, play her favorite music, read to her. Rub lotion of her hands and arms.
I spent the last week with my dad. (MY mom passed away very suddenly but I was able to be with her also.) It is not always an easy journey, but I am so glad I was with him and her. And take care of yourself....be sure to drink water and take time to eat.
Sending you hugs....will keep you in my thoughts. Hope her journey is peaceful.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Nov 5, 2018 23:09:12 GMT
I'm so sorry. Just spend time with her and tell her things you want her to know. She (and you) will get comfort from that. ((Hugs))
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Post by peasquared on Nov 5, 2018 23:11:58 GMT
I am so very sorry. We are just never prepared for a loss like this.
You have a lot of thoughtful advice here. I would like to add one thing that I was told quite awhile ago. Tell her it's ok to go, that you'll be with her again, (I know it's hard to say and I'm not sure if you believe or not) but it lets them know you'll be okay. Even if you won't for a very long time. She's still worries about you.
I hope that comes across with the love I mean it to have. (((Hugs))
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 5, 2018 23:12:03 GMT
It’s such a tough thing to go through. I’m sorry. I hope you are able to feel some peace in the process.
And, you don’t need to make sense here. We understand. Come here and say anything you need to. We’ll be here for you.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Nov 5, 2018 23:14:31 GMT
Im so sorry. I lost my mom fairly recently and it is a very difficult time. Give yourself some grace during this process and take time to care for yourself too, while you take care of everyone else.
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Post by christine58 on Nov 5, 2018 23:20:32 GMT
You have a lot of thoughtful advice here. I would like to add one thing that I was told quite awhile ago. Tell her it's ok to go, that you'll be with her again, (I know it's hard to say and I'm not sure if you believe or not) but it lets them know you'll be okay. Even if you won't for a very long time. She's still worries about you. I hope that comes across with the love I mean it to have. (((Hugs)) This is great advice, |
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Post by cakediva on Nov 5, 2018 23:22:11 GMT
I'm so sorry...hugs to you and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2018 23:25:00 GMT
I'm sorry. Use this time to say your goodbyes and to tell her anything else that you want her to know while she is still here.  |
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Nov 5, 2018 23:28:20 GMT
(((Hugs))) - we're here if you want someone to talk to.
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Post by mom on Nov 5, 2018 23:28:57 GMT
I am so sorry. I will be praying for you, your mom and your entire family. We are here if you need to talk or vent.
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Post by quinlove on Nov 5, 2018 23:29:34 GMT
Sending hugs and love. ❤️
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 5, 2018 23:31:55 GMT
No words, just hugs. I'm sorry.
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Post by PLurker on Nov 5, 2018 23:33:51 GMT
So sorry. Just be there for her and be kind to yourself. It's a hard time for you and everyone handles it in their own way. There is no right way. Perhaps just don't leave anything unsaid if that is meaningful to you.
Hugs. It's so hard...
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Post by kkrenn on Nov 5, 2018 23:34:16 GMT
I am so very sorry
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 5, 2018 23:45:41 GMT
I'm so very, very sorry. |
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