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Post by leannec on Mar 11, 2019 1:49:23 GMT
Positive thoughts coming your way!
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Post by mikklynn on Mar 11, 2019 2:06:00 GMT
Oh, gosh. I am so sorry. I'm adding my prayers.
Give your DD and her BF hugs from your Pea friends.
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Post by peasquared on Mar 11, 2019 2:11:58 GMT
I am so sorry! I'll keep you and your DH in my prayers. Take care.
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 11, 2019 2:29:34 GMT
I can't thank all of you for the prayers and thoughts. I sure appreciate them all. I do not know what I would do without all of you here. I sure hope he comes home soon. I Hope my daughter and her boyfreind got a shower and some well needed sleep cause they deserve it
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Post by tentoes on Mar 11, 2019 3:27:53 GMT
Praying for you and your husband. I have a son and his family that lives close by, and like you, don't know what I would do without their help sometimes--especially when we're not feeling well.
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Post by flanz on Mar 11, 2019 3:59:26 GMT
Sending you thoughts for healing and good outcomes! (((HUGS)))
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Post by cawoman on Mar 11, 2019 7:18:34 GMT
I’m so sorry for both him and you. It’s just exhausting even for the one not in the hospital, isn’t it? Prayers for you both.
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Post by disneypal on Mar 11, 2019 8:10:58 GMT
Praying
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Post by roberta on Mar 11, 2019 13:52:56 GMT
Sorry. Hugs and prayers.
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Post by mellyw on Mar 11, 2019 15:20:04 GMT
Many positive thoughts for all of you.
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flute4peace
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 11, 2019 16:57:38 GMT
How are you feeling today, dald222 ? You've been on my mind and heart!
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Mar 11, 2019 17:35:42 GMT
Many prayers to you and your husband. Thankful for your DD and boyfriend for their help.
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Post by Basket1lady on Mar 11, 2019 18:14:05 GMT
I hope things are better today and that you are all home—in your own homes!
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 11, 2019 22:22:26 GMT
How are you feeling today, dald222 ? You've been on my mind and heart! that is very kind of you. my daughter and her boyfreind needed sleep so bad yesterday that I did not call her at all. she called and came over after she went to the hospital for a minute. she stayed for a bit. she has to work today so she is coming over after work. her boyfreind is coming over after he gets off work at 6 pm too thankfully. our house is weird cause we do not have a couch. we only have 2 recliner chairs. so they have been napping on them. we did clean a bunch of stuff out of our middle room recently. my daughter had a blow up mattress there but it is gone. we are going to put a double bed in there so she and her boyfreind can sleep here. the hospital called and ang said that dave would not go to a nursing home. he probably need care and ang said she would do it. she also said it might be good to get a home worker too. so that makes me feel better. we are going to try to get different stuff too. may be we can get a couch too. she told my son to pay for a wheelchair for dave cause he might need it for a bit.
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 11, 2019 22:34:10 GMT
Praying for you and your husband. I have a son and his family that lives close by, and like you, don't know what I would do without their help sometimes--especially when we're not feeling well. that is great that you have someone that will help you close my son needs the money he is making down there. he always mails stuff to my husband often from ensure boxes.. to clothes..to medical stuff too... my daughter told him to buy a wheelchair for him today...plus when she has not been working so much to help my husband she has my son send money for her gas and supplies so my son has been sending lots of money and supplies since my husband has been sick..
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Post by eastcoastpea on Mar 11, 2019 22:36:00 GMT
Prayers being said and hugs being sent.
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 12, 2019 4:31:33 GMT
I am so grateful that my daughter and boyy freind are going to clean up the middle room more. we are going to remove and get rid of lots of stuff there so we can put in a full bed so they can sleep there while dave is recouping...she said she would help him. the hospital called today and ang said he would not go in a nursing home again. we also think he should get some home health aids to help too. we do not have a couch either. ang thinks dave needs a wheelchair some daays when he is in pain and can't move well. so she told my son to pay for it today. he refused before but I just talked to him dave about getting one and only have it when he is sore or weak.. he didn't poo poo it thankfully we need to move lots of stuff in our living room..rearrange some things and get rid of lots too for the wheelchair same with our kitchen area. our bathroom is going to be a problem we may have to remove the door..we also need to do some other stuff in there so he can use the chair. his walker fits in there sideways. ang said she has to talk to hospice tomorrow....this really scared me but she said it is for his heart failure that we already knew....it doesn't mean he goes there now. she is not sure when he will leave yet ang was here yesterday to get stuff for dave. but she and her boyfreind were so sleep deprived that I did not call at all.. she was glad. she called at 12 today and came over for a bit cause dave was out of it...she then went to work..she came over after work again for a bit but left cause dave wanted food again. her boyfreind came over after work at 6pm and stayed for a long time. he left around midnight tha nkfully.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 12, 2019 4:42:22 GMT
my neice came over almost every day every time he was in but she is out of town.. she messaged me and said where they were..so I just asked her if she was on her way home I sure hope so.. cause I hate being alone sometimes... my daughhter and her boyfreind sure have so much to do and they live so far away. I feel bad
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 1:08:00 GMT
great news.. my husband is a bit better and moved from icu to his own room he called my daughter to bring wendys almost daily which she did..one time he felt too bad to eat..my daughter was there this morning and he wanted to eat...the food they brought him was not good to him so the nurse told her how to order different food there so he had eggs and 2 bacon which was good I thought she said he would be home in 2 days which I hope is true..she also was going to sleep today and come over after that thankfully. I do not know what I would do without her. I know my husband feels the same way too. my neice is home now so I asked her if she could come tomorrow like she did almost dailyy when he was in the hospital/nursing home before.
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Post by Zee on Mar 13, 2019 1:12:46 GMT
Would assisted living be possible for the two of you together? If you fall a lot and have trouble caring for yourself, and your husband is chronically ill, it might be better for everyone for you to be safe and have someone else to check on you.
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 1:34:34 GMT
Would assisted living be possible for the two of you together? If you fall a lot and have trouble caring for yourself, and your husband is chronically ill, it might be better for everyone for you to be safe and have someone else to check on you. we never thought of that before..my husband was recently diagnosed with heart failure.. I saw that you can go in for a recovery time too.
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 13, 2019 2:55:15 GMT
Would assisted living be possible for the two of you together? If you fall a lot and have trouble caring for yourself, and your husband is chronically ill, it might be better for everyone for you to be safe and have someone else to check on you. I think this is a fantastic idea! Doesn’t your daughter work in an extended care place?
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Post by alexa11 on Mar 13, 2019 3:08:37 GMT
Sending prayers.
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 4:54:11 GMT
Would assisted living be possible for the two of you together? If you fall a lot and have trouble caring for yourself, and your husband is chronically ill, it might be better for everyone for you to be safe and have someone else to check on you. I think this is a fantastic idea! Doesn’t your daughter work in an extended care place? well I will have to talk to dave about it.. she did work in a nursing home as a nurse aid for many many years 13 or 16 maybe but she got mad abbout something and quit recently. she is now working for olive garden.. but I think she was thinking about going back to it... I sure hate being alone at all now..since I cant drive or have any freinds in person any more. plus since we moved...after a few yrs I do not have any body to call and talk any more either. so that makes being alone much worse I talked to my daughter earlier today and she said she was going to sleep and come over tonight.. but she has not yet come. I called her around midnight and told her I hated being alone and she was coming over tonight but she did not answer or call me back yet. i started sobbing for a long time i do not know what I would do without all of you here to talk to.. I can't be mad at my daughter cause she does so much for me and dave.
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 7:13:01 GMT
well my daughter called finally thankfully. she worked yesterday and was at the hospital all night..she was there this am too.. she was told she coould talk to th e drs so she waited for them...she also requested a wheel chair and shower chair and they said she had to talk to a different person so she waited and waited for hours and finally left..she was exhausted so she slept..she then called a bit ago. she is coming over tomorrow thankfully. so is my neice. she said that we do not need to be in a nursing home but that was a great suggestion.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 13, 2019 8:08:59 GMT
well my daughter called finally thankfully. she worked yesterday and was at the hospital all night..she was there this am too.. she was told she coould talk to th e drs so she waited for them...she also requested a wheel chair and shower chair and they said she had to talk to a different person so she waited and waited for hours and finally left..she was exhausted so she slept..she then called a bit ago. she is coming over tomorrow thankfully. so is my neice. she said that we do not need to be in a nursing home but that was a great suggestion. Is a senior living home something you could consider? My dad moved into a senior living apartment after my mom needed full time care. Unfortunately her care needs with dementia meant they couldn't be together and he didn't want to deal with the upkeep and loneliness of staying in the family home. Senior living means he has his own apartment plus the luxury of lunch and dinner provided, housekeeping and emergency response if needed. He has his own space but is never alone. Is there anything like this that could work for you?
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 8:24:58 GMT
well my daughter called finally thankfully. she worked yesterday and was at the hospital all night..she was there this am too.. she was told she coould talk to th e drs so she waited for them...she also requested a wheel chair and shower chair and they said she had to talk to a different person so she waited and waited for hours and finally left..she was exhausted so she slept..she then called a bit ago. she is coming over tomorrow thankfully. so is my neice. she said that we do not need to be in a nursing home but that was a great suggestion. Is a senior living home something you could consider? My dad moved into a senior living apartment after my mom needed full time care. Unfortunately her care needs with dementia meant they couldn't be together and he didn't want to deal with the upkeep and loneliness of staying in the family home. Senior living means he has his own apartment plus the luxury of lunch and dinner provided, housekeeping and emergency response if needed. He has his own space but is never alone. Is there anything like this that could work for you? that is a good idea... I do not want my own apartment. I need someone to live with me cause I fall often. plus I am not able to cook much...or do house work. I need company too..
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dald222
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 8:41:36 GMT
well my daughter and her boyfeind are coming on thurs to see what we can move and downsize and rearrange the house for the wheel chair and room.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 13, 2019 10:27:02 GMT
Would assisted living be possible for the two of you together? If you fall a lot and have trouble caring for yourself, and your husband is chronically ill, it might be better for everyone for you to be safe and have someone else to check on you. we never thought of that before..my husband was recently diagnosed with heart failure.. I saw that you can go in for a recovery time too. You need your daughter or the hospital's social worker to look into this for you. You and he are NOT safe alone. They may not release him to home if you cannot provide a safe spot for him (and YOU). Please please please look into this. You will both be safe and among others. It will also take the burden off those trying to care for you both plus work.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 13, 2019 10:29:01 GMT
that is a good idea... I do not want my own apartment. I need someone to live with me cause I fall often. plus I am not able to cook much...or do house work. I need company too.. You and Dave could live together at an assisted living...they have meals and company and social events.
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