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Post by mikklynn on Mar 13, 2019 13:38:31 GMT
I agree that senior/assisted living is what you and Dave need. My dad's brother and his partner lived in one near me for years. It was fabulous. They had a 2 bedroom apartment. They got all their meals in the dining room. Someone cleaned for them. Someone came in and helped with medication.
You and your DD could talk to a social worker through the hospital about options.
I wish you and Dave the best.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 13, 2019 14:12:34 GMT
well they are sending dave home today tbankfully... ang told them that he wont leave untill he gets a paper/prescription for a wheel chail so insurance will pay and the shower chair.. she told them and said if they do it soon he will be home early but if they do not he will not come home until she gets off of work this evening
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Post by Zee on Mar 13, 2019 18:58:38 GMT
well my daughter called finally thankfully. she worked yesterday and was at the hospital all night..she was there this am too.. she was told she coould talk to th e drs so she waited for them...she also requested a wheel chair and shower chair and they said she had to talk to a different person so she waited and waited for hours and finally left..she was exhausted so she slept..she then called a bit ago. she is coming over tomorrow thankfully. so is my neice. she said that we do not need to be in a nursing home but that was a great suggestion. I'm not talking about a nursing home, I'm talking about Assisted Living. It's not the same thing. I really think you should call the hospital while your husband is there and ask to speak to his nurse. Have his nurse contact the social worker there to ask about Assisted Living or home health aides. I don't know your health history but eventually you may need to consider a nursing home and it doesn't have to be a bad thing. You will be kept safe from falls and have someone always available to check on you. It might be a huge relief for you. Some places will let spouses stay together, or let one stay in Assisted Living while another stays in the extended Care (nursing home) part. I think connecting with a social worker would really help you see what options you have besides counting on your daughter and her boyfriend to stay with you, unless they plan on moving in permanently. I'm wishing the best for you and your husband so you can be safe and no longer living in fear
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Post by Zee on Mar 13, 2019 19:00:28 GMT
Oops I missed the part about him coming home today, so the social worker at the hospital won't really be an option. Instead try calling his or your primary care physician to discuss options. Hopefully they can help point you in the right direction.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 2:02:48 GMT
well they had some issues at the hospital today so they are sending him home tomoorow
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 2:06:48 GMT
well my daughter called finally thankfully. she worked yesterday and was at the hospital all night..she was there this am too.. she was told she coould talk to th e drs so she waited for them...she also requested a wheel chair and shower chair and they said she had to talk to a different person so she waited and waited for hours and finally left..she was exhausted so she slept..she then called a bit ago. she is coming over tomorrow thankfully. so is my neice. she said that we do not need to be in a nursing home but that was a great suggestion. I'm not talking about a nursing home, I'm talking about Assisted Living. It's not the same thing. I really think you should call the hospital while your husband is there and ask to speak to his nurse. Have his nurse contact the social worker there to ask about Assisted Living or home health aides. I don't know your health history but eventually you may need to consider a nursing home and it doesn't have to be a bad thing. You will be kept safe from falls and have someone always available to check on you. It might be a huge relief for you. Some places will let spouses stay together, or let one stay in Assisted Living while another stays in the extended Care (nursing home) part. I think connecting with a social worker would really help you see what options you have besides counting on your daughter and her boyfriend to stay with you, unless they plan on moving in permanently. I'm wishing the best for you and your husband so you can be safe and no longer living in fear I am not against nursing home at all. my daughter was an aid at one for 13 to 16 years. my husband spent part of sept at one too.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 15:01:33 GMT
I just talked to my husband and he is upset he said he has not heard from my daughter yet or the hospital either.. my daughter said he is really coming home this am last night... I sure hope that is true... I asked my neice to come over again today. I sure hope she does. I hope that my husband does not anger my daughter at all. she answers every call from us and calls dave daily which is great. he would have died long ago if it wasn't for her. she has gone to the er or hospital every time he goes... she usually stays too and gets him anything he wants too.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 14, 2019 15:11:44 GMT
I just talked to my husband and he is upset he said he has not heard from my daughter yet or the hospital either.. my daughter said he is really coming home this am last night... I sure hope that is true... I asked my neice to come over again today. I sure hope she does. I hope that my husband does not anger my daughter at all. she answers every call from us and calls dave daily which is great. he would have died long ago if it wasn't for her. she has gone to the er or hospital every time he goes... she usually stays too and gets him anything he wants too. Please look into assisted living or something...you need some help and your DD and niece may need a break too.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 16:14:41 GMT
I just talked to my husband and he is upset he said he has not heard from my daughter yet or the hospital either.. my daughter said he is really coming home this am last night... I sure hope that is true... I asked my neice to come over again today. I sure hope she does. I hope that my husband does not anger my daughter at all. she answers every call from us and calls dave daily which is great. he would have died long ago if it wasn't for her. she has gone to the er or hospital every time he goes... she usually stays too and gets him anything he wants too. Please look into assisted living or something...you need some help and your DD and niece may need a break too. my husband is noot bad enough really. my daughter and son call him daily not cause they are sick cause they love him. he calls them too same with me. both kids have called dave and me daily for our whole life cause they love us dearly not cause we are sick at all. it is cause they love us dearly. I call my son daily too which is cause I love him not cause I got sick a few years ago. same with my daughter... I call her cause I love her cause she is my baby and so is my son. I loved my mom dearly and was over to her house every single day caause she was my mom. we did stuff together daily. she did not drive at all either so I took her places too cause I love her. I did this my whole life and she and I were best freinds whe did stuff daily which she loved I do not think it is unsual for a parent or child to call daily that is normal to us thankfully in later years when my mom got HD too notthing changeds for us at all. we still were there daily and doing things like we always did.. my mom loved garage sale and we went weekly for many many years there was a time where it was hard for her to get out of the car so I epulled in the drivway so shde could see the items. I would brimg her anything she wanted to see and buy. my mom sat in my van seat every single day before she got sick and did the same thing after she did get sick until she died I did this cause I loved her dearly. I never ever felt like I did not want to be there ever cause I loved her dearly. my dad wanted mom to stay at home forever which we were luckky enough to have happen. mom wanted to stay on her 2 acres too till the end. I dearly wanted this for her too. I thought she deserved it cause I loved her dearly. I never ever felt like I was being put upon by her or this situation. plus my daughter dearly loved her grandma and came over every day to visit her whole life. there was a time when mom could not be alone anymore so my daughter stayed with her then. she loved her dearly and wanted my mom to stay home like my mom wanted. she never ever felt put upon at all. she did this cause she thought it was right. in the last year of moms life my husband moved in cause he could lift her if she needed it. my husband never ever felt put upon by this situation. he is a guy who does the right thing all the time. he thought my mom should stay at her house just like she wanted. plus he loved her dearly. I do not feel my neice is being put upon at all. she certainly wants to help and tells me daily that she is glad to do it. plus I have only seen her when dave is in the hospital. which is not that often. plus my neice just called and is happy to help..she does not feel put upon at all like you think.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 16:23:07 GMT
plus my daughter said that when my husband passes she and her boyfreind are moving in to help me..she is saying that cause she loves me and not feel put upon either.
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 14, 2019 17:00:39 GMT
I’m not sure you understand the difference between a nursing home and assisted living - they are NOT the same thing, so 'not being bad enough' is not the issue.
Assisted living provides varying levels of support for people, ranging from an aide who checks on you and aides and a nurse who are available when needed, meds handled and dispensed, meals available, laundry service, to bathing and dressing assistance and more care. As needs become greater, services increase.
Most facilities that have assisted living also have nursing home rooms for when that becomes necessary. My mom just moved to assisted living in a place that also has independent living and nursing home.
The downside to assisted living facilities is that they tend to be expensive, so they are not an option for everyone.
But, staying in your own home isn’t always the best thing. My brother and sister and I are all happy because we know there is someone always available for my mom, and she isn’t dependent on us being able to handle everything - because we all also have things going on that impact our ability to be able to drop everything at any moment. That’s a reality for anyone. For example, we don’t have to go to the doctor's office to get the paper Rx for her pain meds and then go get it filled and get the meds to her; the facility handles all that. If she has an accident and needs help cleaning herself or the bed or chair, there is someone available to do that. They clean and do her laundry every week.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 14, 2019 17:10:05 GMT
Please look into assisted living or something...you need some help and your DD and niece may need a break too. my husband is noot bad enough really. my daughter and son call him daily not cause they are sick cause they love him. he calls them too same with me. both kids have called dave and me daily for our whole life cause they love us dearly not cause we are sick at all. it is cause they love us dearly. I call my son daily too which is cause I love him not cause I got sick a few years ago. same with my daughter... I call her cause I love her cause she is my baby and so is my son. I loved my mom dearly and was over to her house every single day caause she was my mom. we did stuff together daily. she did not drive at all either so I took her places too cause I love her. I did this my whole life and she and I were best freinds whe did stuff daily which she loved I do not think it is unsual for a parent or child to call daily that is normal to us thankfully in later years when my mom got HD too notthing changeds for us at all. we still were there daily and doing things like we always did.. my mom loved garage sale and we went weekly for many many years there was a time where it was hard for her to get out of the car so I epulled in the drivway so shde could see the items. I would brimg her anything she wanted to see and buy. my mom sat in my van seat every single day before she got sick and did the same thing after she did get sick until she died I did this cause I loved her dearly. I never ever felt like I did not want to be there ever cause I loved her dearly. my dad wanted mom to stay at home forever which we were luckky enough to have happen. mom wanted to stay on her 2 acres too till the end. I dearly wanted this for her too. I thought she deserved it cause I loved her dearly. I never ever felt like I was being put upon by her or this situation. plus my daughter dearly loved her grandma and came over every day to visit her whole life. there was a time when mom could not be alone anymore so my daughter stayed with her then. she loved her dearly and wanted my mom to stay home like my mom wanted. she never ever felt put upon at all. she did this cause she thought it was right. in the last year of moms life my husband moved in cause he could lift her if she needed it. my husband never ever felt put upon by this situation. he is a guy who does the right thing all the time. he thought my mom should stay at her house just like she wanted. plus he loved her dearly. I do not feel my neice is being put upon at all. she certainly wants to help and tells me daily that she is glad to do it. plus I have only seen her when dave is in the hospital. which is not that often. plus my neice just called and is happy to help..she does not feel put upon at all like you think. No one is questioning your DD's love and desire to help. I know I suggested senior living so that you have people around you because you are lonely, would have help with housekeeping, a dining room option for meals, planned outings and activities and be in an environment where aid is immediately available if needed. Looking at the health challenges you and your DH are facing, Assisted Living really does sound like a better option. You can not physically help your DH if he has another heart attack. I'm not sure why he is returning home in a wheelchair, but neither of you will be able to help the other if one has a fall. Have you looked at services like Meals-on-Wheels or a caregiver/companion coming in to help with meals/light housework and companionship a few afternoons a week?
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 17:55:26 GMT
I just told my neice what some of you said about her and she said family is family and she is happy to help so she does not feel pput upon at all.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 18:07:47 GMT
my husband is noot bad enough really. my daughter and son call him daily not cause they are sick cause they love him. he calls them too same with me. both kids have called dave and me daily for our whole life cause they love us dearly not cause we are sick at all. it is cause they love us dearly. I call my son daily too which is cause I love him not cause I got sick a few years ago. same with my daughter... I call her cause I love her cause she is my baby and so is my son. I loved my mom dearly and was over to her house every single day caause she was my mom. we did stuff together daily. she did not drive at all either so I took her places too cause I love her. I did this my whole life and she and I were best freinds whe did stuff daily which she loved I do not think it is unsual for a parent or child to call daily that is normal to us thankfully in later years when my mom got HD too notthing changeds for us at all. we still were there daily and doing things like we always did.. my mom loved garage sale and we went weekly for many many years there was a time where it was hard for her to get out of the car so I epulled in the drivway so shde could see the items. I would brimg her anything she wanted to see and buy. my mom sat in my van seat every single day before she got sick and did the same thing after she did get sick until she died I did this cause I loved her dearly. I never ever felt like I did not want to be there ever cause I loved her dearly. my dad wanted mom to stay at home forever which we were luckky enough to have happen. mom wanted to stay on her 2 acres too till the end. I dearly wanted this for her too. I thought she deserved it cause I loved her dearly. I never ever felt like I was being put upon by her or this situation. plus my daughter dearly loved her grandma and came over every day to visit her whole life. there was a time when mom could not be alone anymore so my daughter stayed with her then. she loved her dearly and wanted my mom to stay home like my mom wanted. she never ever felt put upon at all. she did this cause she thought it was right. in the last year of moms life my husband moved in cause he could lift her if she needed it. my husband never ever felt put upon by this situation. he is a guy who does the right thing all the time. he thought my mom should stay at her house just like she wanted. plus he loved her dearly. I do not feel my neice is being put upon at all. she certainly wants to help and tells me daily that she is glad to do it. plus I have only seen her when dave is in the hospital. which is not that often. plus my neice just called and is happy to help..she does not feel put upon at all like you think. No one is questioning your DD's love and desire to help. I know I suggested senior living so that you have people around you because you are lonely, would have help with housekeeping, a dining room option for meals, planned outings and activities and be in an environment where aid is immediately available if needed. Looking at the health challenges you and your DH are facing, Assisted Living really does sound like a better option. You can not physically help your DH if he has another heart attack. I'm not sure why he is returning home in a wheelchair, but neither of you will be able to help the other if one has a fall. Have you looked at services like Meals-on-Wheels or a caregiver/companion coming in to help with meals/light housework and companionship a few afternoons a week? well he fell 4 times this past weekend. I am never able to help him back up. If he can't get back up by himself I call the squad. we call my daughter too to tell her but not pick him up. when I fell the last times we called the squad too to help me back up
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 18:10:27 GMT
he is on his way home now thankfully
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Post by Deleted on Mar 14, 2019 18:19:10 GMT
well he fell 4 times this past weekend. I am never able to help him back up. If he can't get back up by himself I call the squad. we call my daughter too to tell her but not pick him up. when I fell the last times we called the squad too to help me back up You must see that this is a terrible situation for everyone? Assisted living sounds like a good solution for you all.
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 14, 2019 18:29:05 GMT
well he fell 4 times this past weekend. I am never able to help him back up. If he can't get back up by himself I call the squad. we call my daughter too to tell her but not pick him up. when I fell the last times we called the squad too to help me back up You must see that this is a terrible situation for everyone? Assisted living sounds like a good solution for you all. Please show this thread to your daughter.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 14, 2019 18:35:14 GMT
well he fell 4 times this past weekend. I am never able to help him back up. If he can't get back up by himself I call the squad. we call my daughter too to tell her but not pick him up. when I fell the last times we called the squad too to help me back up You must see that this is a terrible situation for everyone? Assisted living sounds like a good solution for you all. I hope the next time he falls isn't deadly...seriously.
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Post by dald222 on Mar 14, 2019 18:39:04 GMT
well he fell 4 times this past weekend. I am never able to help him back up. If he can't get back up by himself I call the squad. we call my daughter too to tell her but not pick him up. when I fell the last times we called the squad too to help me back up You must see that this is a terrible situation for everyone? Assisted living sounds like a good solution for you all. since my mom and brother had HD falling is a common sympton and not one to be afraid of. I know that my falling is going to happen no matter what. I can't really change it all... there are hundreds of symptons that you can go through..my feet move a bit no matter where I am.it is common to have your hands jerk uncontrollably but mine never have thankfully... I try to think positive about my disease.. and get through it. if I thought having this and my symptons as terrible it would make me feel very depressed and go to bed all the time..
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Post by Deleted on Mar 14, 2019 18:47:25 GMT
You must see that this is a terrible situation for everyone? Assisted living sounds like a good solution for you all. since my mom and brother had HD falling is a common sympton and not one to be afraid of. I know that my falling is going to happen no matter what. I can't really change it all... there are hundreds of symptons that you can go through..my feet move a bit no matter where I am.it is common to have your hands jerk uncontrollably but mine never have thankfully... I try to think positive about my disease.. and get through it. if I thought having this and my symptons as terrible it would make me feel very depressed and go to bed all the time.. I was referring to your husband falling.
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Post by chlerbie on Mar 14, 2019 18:57:05 GMT
You've mentioned crying--full out sobbing--because you're home alone and lonely sometimes. Assisted living would really help with that. You and your husband would have your own place and if he, or you, were to fall, there'd be someone there immediately to help you. Of course your family loves you--but they do have their own lives as well and would probably rest a lot easier if you were both in a safer situation. They can still come and see you, do things with you, etc.
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Post by Zee on Mar 14, 2019 20:49:21 GMT
In no way is it acceptable to fall four times in a weekend and call an ambulance each time to get back up. That is using vital resources AND risking serious injury for your husband. You too, obviously. You need safer living arrangements. I am not sure why you don't realize that.
It's not about how dearly they love you, it's just becoming unmanageable for everyone. Your husband has been admitted to the hospital numerous times and each time you are scared, crying, and lonely and fearful of the power going out.
Please have your daughter read this thread. We care about you and your safety!
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Post by christine58 on Mar 14, 2019 22:29:23 GMT
I just told my neice what some of you said about her and she said family is family and she is happy to help so she does not feel pput upon at all. We didn't say it to be mean at all. You deserve to be SAFE as does your DH. I get the feeling that you're angry with those that suggested it. You have told us in the past about how your niece and DD help to the point of their exhaustion or they are so tired from working that they can't come. You have also come here and cried about how lonely you are. Assisted living centers are FILLED with activities--you'd never ever be lonely. Huntington's disease also causes a decline in thinking and reasoning skills, including memory, concentration, judgment, and ability to plan and organize. It doesn't just cause you to fall. I watched a friend's husband suffer from HD....
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Post by Basket1lady on Mar 14, 2019 22:42:39 GMT
I just told my neice what some of you said about her and she said family is family and she is happy to help so she does not feel pput upon at all. We didn't say it to be mean at all. You deserve to be SAFE as does your DH. I get the feeling that you're angry with those that suggested it. You have told us in the past about how your niece and DD help to the point of their exhaustion or they are so tired from working that they can't come. You have also come here and cried about how lonely you are. Assisted living centers are FILLED with activities--you'd never ever be lonely. Yes. Of course your DD loves you! But imagine if your DD and niece could visit you and just visit. Not clean, worry about falls, doctors, how you are eating, cleaning out a bedroom... They could just relax and visit after a long day at their jobs. My in laws live in a complex with duplexes for seniors, with care that they can escalate with a surgery or illness or declining health. They can have their meals in their own home, or at the senior center, someone else cares for the snow removal and grass cutting, and they can have an aide in the home if necessary. They also looked at another development that was apartment living. It was a series of apartments with varying levels of care, including one where it was just a regular senior apartment connected to the activity center. They could eat their meals in the common room or in their own apartment (or breakfast in their own room, lunch out with friends, and dinner in the common room), there was someone who could do laundry if they chose, come and clean the bathrooms, etc. If they wanted company, there was a day use room down the hall where they could watch TV or visit with other residents who also wanted company. And a big kitchen area they could reserve if they wanted a family dinner and their apartment was too small. One of the apartments in the complex was also for subsidized housing. There are a lot of options out there! Most of the good ones have waiting lists, so it's better to look at your options before you need them.
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 14, 2019 22:44:39 GMT
I just told my neice what some of you said about her and she said family is family and she is happy to help so she does not feel pput upon at all. We didn't say it to be mean at all. You deserve to be SAFE as does your DH. I get the feeling that you're angry with those that suggested it. You have told us in the past about how your niece and DD help to the point of their exhaustion or they are so tired from working that they can't come. You have also come here and cried about how lonely you are. Assisted living centers are FILLED with activities--you'd never ever be lonely. Huntington's disease also causes a decline in thinking and reasoning skills, including memory, concentration, judgment, and ability to plan and organize. It doesn't just cause you to fall. I watched a friend's husband suffer from HD.... No one is suggesting anything in a mean way. Many of us have been caregivers or watched someone exhaust themselves from caregiving. It has nothing to do with how much they love their family member. It just becomes too much sometimes and then their health or their own family's well-being suffers. Sometimes the caregiver dies before the one they were taking care of and then you are operating in an emergency situation. It concerns many of us that your husband has fallen so many times. Why is this happening? He is lucky if he only needs to be lifted up, but that luck could end and he could hurt himself seriously in a fall - a neighbor broke ribs when she fell against the bathroom counter and then the toilet. He could easily hit his head in a fall, for example. It is also a concern that you are alone when he is in the hospital. Your caregivers can't always be with him AND with you at the same time. If you are fearful of being alone, or have health issues that make that risky, you really need to consider another option.
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Post by Florida Cindy on Mar 14, 2019 23:35:01 GMT
This is awfully stressful on your Husband, you and your family. I am sending positive energy.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 15, 2019 2:44:19 GMT
In no way is it acceptable to fall four times in a weekend and call an ambulance each time to get back up. That is using vital resources AND risking serious injury for your husband. You too, obviously. You need safer living arrangements. I am not sure why you don't realize that. It's not about how dearly they love you, it's just becoming unmanageable for everyone. Your husband has been admitted to the hospital numerous times and each time you are scared, crying, and lonely and fearful of the power going out. Please have your daughter read this thread. We care about you and your safety! My dad thought it was just fine to let my mom wander off for a walk and call the police if she didn't come back when he expected her. LEO was pretty understanding the first couple times and then had a tough love talk with dad, making it very clear he wasn't dealing with his problem. Sadly, it did mean mom had to go into a care home. Dad promised mom he would never put her in a home and felt tremendous guilt for a long time. In hindsight, he has come to peace with his decision. It was the right choice and has nothing to do with how much he loves her or my siblings & I love them.
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Post by me2 on Mar 15, 2019 5:03:20 GMT
I have no doubt that your daughter and niece love both of you. I know I loved my grandma more than anyone. I took care of her for 6 years as she went through colon cancer, strokes, TIAs (mini strokes), heart attacks and broken ribs.
I will tell you that we BOTH were happy when she got into assisted living! When I went to visit her she was rarely in her room! Normally she was playing bingo or doing something fun and it made me so happy to see her socializing again. One of my biggest regrets is being her caretaker and not just her granddaughter. I loved her more as a mother since mine had died in 99 and was an alcoholic with other mental health issues. I just feel that I would've been so much better off (and have had more energy) being her granddaughter and not her caretaker too. It doesn't mean I didn't love her or she didn't love me.
I wish we had looked into it a lot sooner! She had her own room and something to wear around her neck that she could push and alert the staff that she had fallen or needed something. The food was amazing (I know because she saved some for me). She was genuinely happy and felt much less alone in a place fulll of her peers.
She was at the lowest level of care in the beginning so basically she just went to the activities, got her medication when the nurses made rounds and got all of her meals taken care of. It was so much better!
I am still dealing with the stress and depression caused by not living my own life and only taking care of her (this is 100% my fault not hers). I realized how codependent we were with each other and how unhealthy it was.
It's great to have loved ones and I'm glad you have a great relationship with your family. I think that ALL of you need some relief and that you need a sense of safety. Assisted living places will know what to do if the electricity goes off or if either of you fall. You'll likely have a selection of activities and you can choose your meals. It's just something to look into. There are waiting lists so I wouldn't wait too long. I think it would be a relief to all of you!
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Post by dald222 on Mar 15, 2019 15:30:20 GMT
about my husbands falling...the last time was 3 months ago.. he gets where he starts to fall down and sometimes falls..he usually can get up but if he can't I call the squad.. this falling last for 2 -3 days then goes away. the wheel chair is for when those times are here so he will not fall. he will only use the wheelchair during those times to keep him from falling. he went to the er if he hurt himself. which was not often. he had a home nurses today and they are coming 3 times a week to check on him.. they are sending home therapy too for him to do too. the nurse today said that they are trying to keep him home and not in the hospital at all.
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dald222
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 27, 2014 0:50:15 GMT
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Post by dald222 on Mar 16, 2019 5:52:41 GMT
I want to thank you for all the prayers you have given. my nurse aid daughter told me to tell you to f.o.
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