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Post by dewryce on Jun 11, 2019 18:01:10 GMT
But there are many outgoing lines at most facilities, the front desk, nurses stations, administration, and therapy department just to name a few. What if family was in an accident and a hospital needs to get a hold of you? Or there was an accident and they call you from a friend’s phone? Some emergency calls I’ve gotten have not been from expected numbers. eta: Jinx tricia FYI, you can also set it to ring through any number if the number calls twice within a set number of minutes. Thanks! I’ll have to ask DH if this is the practice in nursing homes, how likely they are to purposefully call back from the same number in a short time period. I can still see a lot of emergency situations this wouldn’t happen. I just don’t think I’d ever be comfortable assuming someone could get through when needed for an emergency. |
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Post by Linda on Jun 11, 2019 18:01:16 GMT
I still have a landline not a mobile but DH has a mobile. I don't make phone calls outside of 9am-9pm unless it's been pre-arranged (ie when DS was overseas, he would FB message me to make sure I was awake and then call).
Texts, FB messages, emails? those I'll send whenever and I expect some to come in overnight that I'll see in the morning. And I don't necessarily stick to 9am-9pm for sending them either.
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Post by dewryce on Jun 11, 2019 18:11:07 GMT
No, they don’t. For a variety of reasons. Please pay attention to the time. You don’t. Everyone I text does 🤷🏻♀️ I’m curious, you’ve asked literally everyone you text if they use DND at night? Personally, I’d be hesitant to do it regardless of the recipient’s use of DND as you’d never know if the DND was accidentally turned off that evening. My desire to send it right then doesn’t trump my desire to be polite and not accidentally wake someone. And don’t understand the need to send it at night when you won’t get a reply then anyway. For me, I type the message when I think of it so that I don’t forget, back out of it so it is saved as a draft at the top of my messages, and send at an appropriate time the next day. |
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Post by dewryce on Jun 11, 2019 18:15:34 GMT
Yikes! This occasionally happened with DH's team members in the past, usually those on Mountain or Pacific time and he had to put his foot down. If someone calls us after 9 p.m., I'm assuming it's an emergency and with my mom's failing health, 2 grandbabies and daredevil sports adult children, I'd be dressing as I answered the phone to run & help. If I picked up anything less than an emergency call after 9 p.m., someone is going to hear about it. lol Wait, hold up. Grandbabies? Did we know they were here? Did you post pics? I’m visual so I will often remember pics and not text print. Am I a bad pea for not remembering? |
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Post by casii on Jun 11, 2019 18:23:57 GMT
Yikes! This occasionally happened with DH's team members in the past, usually those on Mountain or Pacific time and he had to put his foot down. If someone calls us after 9 p.m., I'm assuming it's an emergency and with my mom's failing health, 2 grandbabies and daredevil sports adult children, I'd be dressing as I answered the phone to run & help. If I picked up anything less than an emergency call after 9 p.m., someone is going to hear about it. lol Wait, hold up. Grandbabies? Did we know they were here? Did you post pics? I’m visual so I will often remember pics and not text print. Am I a bad pea for not remembering?  My DD gets fussy about all the grammie's posting so many photos, so here's Mother's Day. Don't let her know I shared! Alex & Ellie! |
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Post by dewryce on Jun 11, 2019 18:32:16 GMT
Wait, hold up. Grandbabies? Did we know they were here? Did you post pics? I’m visual so I will often remember pics and not text print. Am I a bad pea for not remembering? My DD gets fussy about all the grammie's posting so many photos, so here's Mother's Day. Don't let her know I shared! Alex & Ellie! I literally squeed out loud. Oh Casii they are precious beyond words.  The chub legs & cheeks, big eyes, bald heads!!! Do you just stare at them? I so would. Your secret is safe with me, and about a thousand other women. |
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Post by casii on Jun 11, 2019 18:43:39 GMT
My DD gets fussy about all the grammie's posting so many photos, so here's Mother's Day. Don't let her know I shared! Alex & Ellie! I literally squeed out loud. Oh Casii they are precious beyond words. The chub legs & cheeks, big eyes, bald heads!!! Do you just stare at them? I so would. Your secret is safe with me, and about a thousand other women. They are truly delicious. I trek up there one day a week for Grammy time. Alex had a bit of a health scare a couple of weeks ago, so that was my last post-9 p.m. phone call and I hope it's a long time before there's another. Talk about your heart rate spiking when your hear your DD crying about rushing her baby to the hospital! I can't take it. Alex is fine now, but I told her she's not allowed to be sick ever again. She promptly presented me with a poopsplosion diaper. Kids these days. |
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Post by dewryce on Jun 11, 2019 18:48:53 GMT
I literally squeed out loud. Oh Casii they are precious beyond words. The chub legs & cheeks, big eyes, bald heads!!! Do you just stare at them? I so would. Your secret is safe with me, and about a thousand other women. They are truly delicious. I trek up there one day a week for Grammy time. Alex had a bit of a health scare a couple of weeks ago, so that was my last post-9 p.m. phone call and I hope it's a long time before there's another. Talk about your heart rate spiking when your hear your DD crying about rushing her baby to the hospital! I can't take it. Alex is fine now, but I told her she's not allowed to be sick ever again. She promptly presented me with a poopsplosion diaper. Kids these days. I’ve always admired a child who has a ‘voice’ and knows how to use it  So glad she is okay, how scary for everyone! Congratulations on your beautiful grandbabies. If you occasionally find the need to share photos we won’t rat you out, promise. |
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Post by Merge on Jun 11, 2019 18:54:18 GMT
My phone is our "main" number so I can't DND at night because of teenage children our driving and tenants in vacation rental far away. Fortunately, my friends and work contacts are considerate and do not call or text at all hours.
I make DH put his on DND, though, because his friends and work associates have zero concept of time and will text him all dang night. He can sleep through it, but I hear the buzz and see the lighted screen in the dark room.
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Post by sabrinae on Jun 11, 2019 18:58:34 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. DND won’t work for everyone for a variety of reasons. I have to be available for work 24-7 but don’t want my sleep disturbed otherwise and there is no way to put every possible number in. Plus I help care for my 89 year old grandmother— what if she falls or has an ambulance take her to the hospital. I have to be available for those calls and have no way to know what numbers those calls might come from. |
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Post by Rhondito on Jun 11, 2019 19:29:26 GMT
One of my BFFs has a habit of texting pretty late. Normally I'm in bed but not asleep yet, or my phone is on silent so I don't hear it.
We had a cycling event on Memorial Day and we had to be at registration at 7:00am. She texted one of our other friends at 11:30 the night before. The next day she said something about it and I could tell our other friend was irritated - she said she had been asleep for a while and then never could go back to sleep after the text woke her up! It made me feel so bad for her.
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Post by smartypants71 on Jun 11, 2019 19:55:08 GMT
Everyone I know including friends AND co-workers know that I go to bed at 9p and if they know what's good for them, they won't call or text unless it's really important. I wear a glucose monitor, and if I go out of range, I get an alarm. Because of that, I don't sleep great, so if someone calls while I'm sleeping, I'm outrageously angry about it.
The worst offender is my son's school district and extremely early morning robocalls. I think it was last year, I got a call at 430a to tell us that school was IN session. I just about lost my mind!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2019 19:55:53 GMT
No, they don’t. For a variety of reasons. Please pay attention to the time. You don’t. Everyone I text does 🤷🏻♀️ Once again, you prove to be rude and selfish and unwilling to see outside your tiny bubble. |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 11, 2019 20:06:40 GMT
I’m guessing that those who use DnD on their phones have never had to deal with a true, middle of the night crisis. Ya know, like your scared dad calling while he waits for the EMTs to arrive in the middle of what turned out to be a fatal heart attack. They never got him to the hospital.
I doubt he would have called a second time if he couldn’t get through the first time. Because I answered, I will always remember the last words he spoke to me, even though they haunt me.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 11, 2019 20:10:43 GMT
I also think many people easily fall back asleep and don't realize how inconsiderate it is for people who can't fall back asleep.
My friend has a one year old and thinks nothing of texting at five a.m. Her husband works at 4:30 a.m, so everyone knows not to text her after 8:30, but she can't figure out others aren't on that schedule.
My husband finally put his phone on DND because he works with a dozen twenty-somethings and they are all over the place with group texting midnight to five am. He needs to be able to get a text from his sister, but she too is clueless about texting when she is up in the middle of the night.
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 11, 2019 20:12:48 GMT
I’m guessing that those who use DnD on their phones have never had to deal with a true, middle of the night crisis. Ya know, like your scared dad calling while he waits for the EMTs to arrive in the middle of what turned out to be a fatal heart attack. They never got him to the hospital. I doubt he would have called a second time if he couldn’t get through the first time. Because I answered, I will always remember the last words he spoke to me, even though they haunt me. I think it is important that people see life isn't always their little piece of the world. Hugs on your dad. Mine passed away almost 20 years ago and those last words are haunting. |
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Post by paigepea on Jun 11, 2019 20:13:48 GMT
My phone flips to DND from 11pm-8am. Notifications still pop up. It just doesn’t make noise.
My DJ is on call 24/7 for work so his phone is always by his bedside. He gets calls at all crazy hours. Sometimes it’s totally important and he’s off to work. Other times it’s annoyingly not important. I can’t complain though because it pays the bills. He keeps his phone loud, too. Because while I’m a light sleeper he’s a deep sleeper and the loud ring wakes him so violently and he jumps up 😂. It’s terrible. This happens multiple times weekly so really I’m just used to it. Sometimes I go back to sleep and sometimes I can’t.
Really great tips on here about how to do DND to some numbers while let others through. Thx!
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Post by pinklady on Jun 11, 2019 20:24:11 GMT
Wow, I had no idea you could DND for certain time periods and exclude some numbers. Thanks peas! I gotta look into that.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jun 11, 2019 20:28:21 GMT
I leave my phone on DND and DS can FaceTime me on the iPad. There is no emergency in my life. Everyone else knows how to reach me or is dead. Sad but true. I have no relatives I talk to. Kids are fine. Nights are DND every night.
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Post by FuzzyMutt on Jun 11, 2019 20:34:28 GMT
I'm a super heavy sleeper, and most people that know me know that.
I have literally said before "It doesn't matter what time you call or text me. I'm not going to hear it if I'm asleep." And if something does wake me up (and that is soooooooooo rare that something can wake me up,) I can generally fall asleep again in seconds.
That said I'd never call someone after 9, unless it was someone in my family of heaving sleeping night owls. My mom is way more likely to be awake to answer the phone at midnight than at noon.
Also, since it seems people seem to be of the school of thought that folks regularly DND their phones- I would never put my phone on DND mode. A) It's not necessary, and B) in the event that someone reaches out and I'm awake I'd want to either take or ignore the call.
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Post by mustlovecats on Jun 11, 2019 20:46:49 GMT
I don’t use do not disturb. If the hospital calls, the EMT, a doctor, the nursing home, I won’t have any of those numbers set to ring through because I won’t know to do that.
Last month it was a police officer who called me when my dad collapsed at the store, I almost didn’t answer it because I didn’t know the number.
I think if you can use it great, but not all of us can because we have to be reachable.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Jun 11, 2019 21:36:00 GMT
Ugh! How rude!
My mom has somehow butt dialed me twice in the middle of the night. She lives with my 92 yo grandmother and my mom’s health isn’t the greatest. So both times my heart has dropped.
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Post by Zee on Jun 11, 2019 21:49:12 GMT
I don’t use do not disturb. If the hospital calls, the EMT, a doctor, the nursing home, I won’t have any of those numbers set to ring through because I won’t know to do that. Last month it was a police officer who called me when my dad collapsed at the store, I almost didn’t answer it because I didn’t know the number. I think if you can use it great, but not all of us can because we have to be reachable. My dad could collapse at any time too I guess, or my kids could have an accident, or any other thing but I can't do anything about it immediately being hundreds of miles away so I'm going to sleep peacefully every night without calls or messages bothering me. During the day when I'm sleeping I don't even hear it anyway because I put it on vibrate. Basically there is no emergency I can respond to immediately other than if it was my husband so I am not going to worry needlessly that something MIGHT happen. Sometimes I'm just unreachable. |
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Post by marzbar71 on Jun 11, 2019 22:37:31 GMT
I don't use DND and my phone is charging on my nightstand every night - BUT my ringer is just a vibrate as is my text notification. So I never hear them anyway. I've woken up in the morning to dozens of texts.
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Post by hop2 on Jun 11, 2019 22:41:30 GMT
When it is not an emergency! My dad is 92 and lives in an independent living apartment, MIL has just gone into a secure memory care unit at a nursing home and during the school year both kids are away from home; so any middle of the night phone call takes us from sound asleep to heart racing/adrenaline pumping on the first ring. Which is why when one of DH's work associates calls in the middle of the night for something that is clearly NOT an emergency and the information could be conveyed through a text message or email I get extremely cranky and stabby, to put it mildly. Last night, it was well after midnight when the phone rang and we both jumped up. It was DH's counterpart from California who was flying in to oversee DH's building operations while DH is out of town for a few days. I was justifiably annoyed and loudly said "does he not have any concept of how time zones work?" He was calling to let DH know is plane got in late and would be in to the office later. Seriously? DH is up at 5, if not before, and at his office we'll before 7. Dude could have emailed or texted him. So we both had trouble getting back to sleep after that and then it was tossing and turning. DH ended up getting up before 5 and left the house around 530. Now he has to wok part of the day then drive 300 miles to meet with someone from his company this afternoon andgo to his conference that starts tomorrow. I told DH he needed to call the jackhole at 5 am to tell him he was going to work early, but I'm a b!tch like that. Seriously people! Think before you call someone after 10pm! (or in our case, 9) I most definitely call first thing in the morning to let him know I was going in early. 👍🏻Or at least I would in my head. |
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Post by ilikepink on Jun 12, 2019 0:23:51 GMT
I have the same problem, but reversed. I work nights and sleep all day. I have my phone on DND except for children and certain friends. If I get a middle of the night call when I’m not working, I’m fine getting back to sleep. But during the day, I cannot get back to sleep. And those calls aren’t even emergencies typically. My close friends and family know if I don’t answer, I’ll get back to you when I wake up.
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Post by craftedbys on Jun 12, 2019 0:27:13 GMT
I tried to get DH to call him at 5am but he wouldn't. However, he did get a bit of payback. He arrived too late at his hotel and they had given his room to someone else so he had to go to a different hotel in a less than stellar neighborhood.
DH got a call this afternoon from his brother, his mom stopped breathing during dialysis this morning and was taken to the hospital. This is why we leave our phones on at night.
I was raised that you don't call between 9pm and 9am. DH has an aunt and uncle that went to bed by 9pm every night for years and everyone knew not to call after 845 unless bloodshed was involved.
I usually turn my notifications volume off at bedtime so I don't hear it and it doesn't bother me if friends send me texts or emails during the night.
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Post by annabella on Jun 12, 2019 0:39:44 GMT
My phone goes into DND automatically at 10pm except for calls from my mom.
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Post by tincin on Jun 12, 2019 0:57:55 GMT
That stinks! Can cell phones be set to do not disturb EXCEPT FOR particular numbers? But I guess that won’t even work if your kids have an emergency and someone else needs to reach you on their behalf. My phone can be set to do not disturb but will ring through if the same number calls twice within 3 minutes. |
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Post by lisae on Jun 12, 2019 2:06:12 GMT
Ooh, I know how this is. When the phone rings at a late hour or very early I'm just sure it will be something with my Mother. I'm relieved when it isn't but really mad at whoever is calling. I had an aunt with an 8 to 8 rule. You didn't call her before 8 am or after 8 pm unless it was an emergency.
I don't even know what DND is. I know that if you have an elderly parent, you have to have your phone available 24/7.
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The chub legs & cheeks, big eyes, bald heads!!! Do you just stare at them? I so would. Your secret is safe with me, and about a thousand other women.
So glad she is okay, how scary for everyone! Congratulations on your beautiful grandbabies. If you occasionally find the need to share photos we won’t rat you out, promise.
