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Post by craftedbys on Jun 11, 2019 13:01:57 GMT
When it is not an emergency!
My dad is 92 and lives in an independent living apartment, MIL has just gone into a secure memory care unit at a nursing home and during the school year both kids are away from home; so any middle of the night phone call takes us from sound asleep to heart racing/adrenaline pumping on the first ring.
Which is why when one of DH's work associates calls in the middle of the night for something that is clearly NOT an emergency and the information could be conveyed through a text message or email I get extremely cranky and stabby, to put it mildly.
Last night, it was well after midnight when the phone rang and we both jumped up. It was DH's counterpart from California who was flying in to oversee DH's building operations while DH is out of town for a few days.
I was justifiably annoyed and loudly said "does he not have any concept of how time zones work?"
He was calling to let DH know is plane got in late and would be in to the office later. Seriously? DH is up at 5, if not before, and at his office we'll before 7. Dude could have emailed or texted him.
So we both had trouble getting back to sleep after that and then it was tossing and turning. DH ended up getting up before 5 and left the house around 530. Now he has to wok part of the day then drive 300 miles to meet with someone from his company this afternoon andgo to his conference that starts tomorrow.
I told DH he needed to call the jackhole at 5 am to tell him he was going to work early, but I'm a b!tch like that.
Seriously people! Think before you call someone after 10pm! (or in our case, 9)
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Post by peano on Jun 11, 2019 13:08:57 GMT
I have my iPhone set to do not disturb from 10pm until 10am except for family members. This happened after I was constantly being awakened by fevered text chains from friends at 8am. And another friend who likes to call me on her way to work. I wake up earlier now than I used to, but I don't really want to talk to anybody until I've had a cup of coffee.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 11, 2019 13:15:42 GMT
The guy is a moron. I'd have no problem telling him that was incredibly rude.
I am the same way - late night calls scare the heck out my.
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Post by jenjie on Jun 11, 2019 13:15:56 GMT
That stinks!
Can cell phones be set to do not disturb EXCEPT FOR particular numbers? But I guess that won’t even work if your kids have an emergency and someone else needs to reach you on their behalf.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 11, 2019 13:18:30 GMT
If I had an elderly parent responsibility, I'd have a talk with the guy.
I put my phone on mute after about 9:30 'cause my sisters will go into a text fury after 11. One sister is a night owl and forgets that the rest of us go to bed before 3 AM. She is retired so the time does not matter to her.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 11, 2019 13:20:37 GMT
I once had an acquaintance, not even a close friend, who would call me at 4 AM. It was after she had a stroke and I'm not sure she realized the time. I just stopped answering but was very annoyed at her calls. I never said anything because she was struggling so much with just living after the stroke.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 11, 2019 13:21:36 GMT
I have my iPhone set to do not disturb from 10pm until 10am except for family members. This happened after I was constantly being awakened by fevered text chains from friends at 8am. And another friend who likes to call me on her way to work. I wake up earlier now than I used to, but I don't really want to talk to anybody until I've had a cup of coffee. This is what I do too. My phone doesn’t make a peep after 10 pm unless it’s DH calling me. I remember those days when our moms were in failing health and every time the phone rang we had a coronary thinking someone died.
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Post by myshelly on Jun 11, 2019 13:22:30 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️
I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep.
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Post by candleangie on Jun 11, 2019 14:39:46 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. No, they don’t. For a variety of reasons. Please pay attention to the time.
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Post by JustTricia on Jun 11, 2019 14:53:52 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. I don’t know a single person who puts their phone on DND. Some may, we just haven’t had that conversation. My parents turn their phones off. A few people I know leave their phones in a different room while they sleep. Everyone else I’ve had the conversation with has their phone in their bedroom at night. After being unreachable because I didn’t have my phone on me for over an hour when my four year old had an hour and a half seizure, my phone stays on me and on at all times. I probably would have had my siblings on DND and missed the 4 am phone call that my BIL was in the hospital and would have still been asleep when he died instead of there at the hospital for my sister. And before someone says repeat calls come through, I got two calls from two separate numbers (same sister calling). That repeat call wouldn’t have come soon enough to trigger the override because she was going down a line of people to call and would have come back to me. Just because we have this technology doesn’t mean we should disregard manners. Back in the day of landlines our rule of thumb was never call after 9 pm (some family, 10) and never call before 9 am, and I know the same rule was applied in several friends and family’s households. I still adhere to that.
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Post by dewryce on Jun 11, 2019 14:55:26 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. But there are many outgoing lines at most facilities, the front desk, nurses stations, administration, and therapy department just to name a few. What if family was in an accident and a hospital needs to get a hold of you? Or there was an accident and they call you from a friend’s phone? Some emergency calls I’ve gotten have not been from expected numbers. eta: Jinx tricia
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 11, 2019 15:01:40 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. No, they don’t. For a variety of reasons. Please pay attention to the time. I agree completely. If my kid was older and of driving age out at night, I don’t think I would put my phone on DND until she was home. Kids are notorious for doing dumb things like letting their phone go totally dead, and might need to borrow a friend’s to call home in an emergency.
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Post by M in Carolina on Jun 11, 2019 15:01:52 GMT
That stinks! Can cell phones be set to do not disturb EXCEPT FOR particular numbers? But I guess that won’t even work if your kids have an emergency and someone else needs to reach you on their behalf. Yes. Google your specific phone model for instructions and then have your special numbers call after your phone is on DND to make sure everything is working right i just upgraded my phone because my old one was really old and wasn’t alerting me to texts. So I’m really careful about double checking everything
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jun 11, 2019 15:02:09 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. I don’t know a single person who puts their phone on DND. Some may, we just haven’t had that conversation. My parents turn their phones off. A few people I know leave their phones in a different room while they sleep. Everyone else I’ve had the conversation with has their phone in their bedroom at night. After being unreachable because I didn’t have my phone on me for over an hour when my four year old had an hour and a half seizure, my phone stays on me and on at all times. I probably would have had my siblings on DND and missed the 4 am phone call that my BIL was in the hospital and would have still been asleep when he died instead of there at the hospital for my sister. And before someone says repeat calls come through, I got two calls from two separate numbers (same sister calling). That repeat call wouldn’t have come soon enough to trigger the override because she was going down a line of people to call and would have come back to me. Just because we have this technology doesn’t mean we should disregard manners. Back in the day of landlines our rule of thumb was never call after 9 pm (some family, 10) and never call before 9 am, and I know the same rule was applied in several friends and family’s households. I still adhere to that. I agree and I don’t know anyone that puts their phone on dnd.
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Post by bklyngal62 on Jun 11, 2019 15:02:31 GMT
I hate late night calls ! Like you, my heart races thinking something is wrong and then can't go back to sleep. My family and friends know not to call after 9 unless it's an emergency.
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Post by M in Carolina on Jun 11, 2019 15:06:41 GMT
craftedbys Is that moron a coworker or more like a client? Because he needs to be told in no uncertain terms that calling people in the middle of the night isn’t ok. I feel bad for your Dh and you. I know how exhausted Rob gets when he can’t sleep and goes into work early. Especially when he has to travel. Maybe it’s crabs in a bucket. Dude is pissed he had to be up in the middle of the night and decided to pull your Dh down with him. Even a client needs to know that’s not ok. I know that feeling of being afraid someone is hurt or dying. It sucks.
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Post by mallie on Jun 11, 2019 15:09:10 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. No. They do not. In your little world, everyone you KNOW may put their phone on DND. But in the much bigger world outside your control, most people do not put their phones on DND. So you cannot say "everyone" puts their phone on DND. The more important issue is that sometimes in the bigger world, people end up in the hospital or in other kinds of trouble and if you have a DND while you sleep, you may miss a critical phone call you will regret missing. I missed a call from the hospital about my dh who had gone there from work. Having the people closest to me on a DND override was useless because the call from some desk in a huge hospital was not on my "pass through" list. I got the call eventually, but I wish I had gotten there asap. Because IRL, when someone you care about is in the hospital, the call probably will not come from their phone. It will come from the hospital, or friend, or workplace, or a coworker or a dorm residence assistant, etc. I am so glad I do not do that any more, because when my sibling for whom I am their next of kin/POA was hospitalized in the middle of the night and it was her best friend calling from her phone, I got the call.
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Post by myshelly on Jun 11, 2019 15:11:54 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. No, they don’t. For a variety of reasons. Please pay attention to the time. You don’t. Everyone I text does 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by mrst on Jun 11, 2019 15:15:19 GMT
We were in Banff, Canada, recently and had 2 calls at 2am from Europe. It was our local Spanish town hall.....they were not to know my niece was terminally ill.
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Post by moodyblue on Jun 11, 2019 15:32:38 GMT
No, they don’t. For a variety of reasons. Please pay attention to the time. You don’t. Everyone I text does 🤷🏻♀️ And that’s so blissfully ignorant about what could happen and who might need to contact you in an emergency. I don’t live in that blissful ignorance anymore - I’ve gotten too many calls with bad news to believe that no one would need to contact me or that the calls might come from a number I don’t know.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 11, 2019 15:35:39 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. Not everybody.
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Post by bc2ca on Jun 11, 2019 16:26:06 GMT
I'd be annoyed, too, craftedbys. With elderly parents and mobile young adults, there is no way we turn off our phones all night. An insomniac friend used to text in the wee hours until I said something about it.
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Post by ashley on Jun 11, 2019 16:29:47 GMT
I too have DND scheduled for night time hours. My phone will ring if my immediate family were to call or if the same number calls back-to-back. Easy to be responsible for one’s own sleep.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Jun 11, 2019 16:33:27 GMT
That stinks.
We get texts for school delays and closings. It's extremely annoying when people start responding and I can't fall back to sleep.
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Post by Zee on Jun 11, 2019 16:35:36 GMT
I put mine on DND because of stupid late night calls/texts from friends. I allow certain family to get through at any time. I blocked repeat calls too. I'm unavailable from 10-7 and I sleep just fine.
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Post by casii on Jun 11, 2019 16:45:39 GMT
Yikes! This occasionally happened with DH's team members in the past, usually those on Mountain or Pacific time and he had to put his foot down.
If someone calls us after 9 p.m., I'm assuming it's an emergency and with my mom's failing health, 2 grandbabies and daredevil sports adult children, I'd be dressing as I answered the phone to run & help.
If I picked up anything less than an emergency call after 9 p.m., someone is going to hear about it. lol
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Post by littlemama on Jun 11, 2019 16:49:32 GMT
That stinks! Can cell phones be set to do not disturb EXCEPT FOR particular numbers? But I guess that won’t even work if your kids have an emergency and someone else needs to reach you on their behalf. My phone is set to Do Not Disturb, but it allows my mom, dh and ds to get through always. If any other number calls twice in 15 minutes, it will come through.
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Post by papersilly on Jun 11, 2019 16:50:08 GMT
i am particularly sensitive about late night calls. when my mother was terminally ill, she had live in caregivers. when the phone rang late at night, this was always a crisis at the other end. 10 years after she died, i still have a touch of PTSD when the phone rings late at night even if it's a wrong number.
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Post by oliquig on Jun 11, 2019 17:25:05 GMT
Set it to DND, but allow calls from the facility to come through 🤷🏻♀️ I don’t think twice about what time I text or message someone because everyone puts their phone on DND when they go to sleep. But there are many outgoing lines at most facilities, the front desk, nurses stations, administration, and therapy department just to name a few. What if family was in an accident and a hospital needs to get a hold of you? Or there was an accident and they call you from a friend’s phone? Some emergency calls I’ve gotten have not been from expected numbers. eta: Jinx triciaFYI, you can also set it to ring through any number if the number calls twice within a set number of minutes.
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Post by breetheflea on Jun 11, 2019 17:35:51 GMT
Last winter pretty much everyone in my large city got an 11 pm call to tell us 9-1-1 was down and to call some other number. I wonder how many heart attacks that call actually caused...
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