GREAT UPDATE #2: Another prayer request for my mom & grandma
Jun 13, 2019 18:21:55 GMT
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 13, 2019 18:21:55 GMT
UPDATE 6/19 8PM:
More great news...
After her 5 days of respite care (observation), the home has determined that she does not yet qualify for hospice. That means that Medicare won't cover her stay. The good thing is, grandma has the money to pay for private care. She will be able to stay for about a year before those funds run out. At that time, it will be determined if she is qualified to stay, and Medicare would kick in to cover it.
In the meantime, my mom is still looking at other facilities. Some have up to a year wait list, so if she finds one she really likes, she will go ahead and get her on that list, and just remover her if they end up not needing to move her.
Mom talked with the funeral home about the things she has covered, and everything has been paid for with the exception of the flowers, and if we decide to do a slide show, which we like.
All in all, things seem to be going smoothly. The hardest thing for mom right now is that they are not feeding her the same way she would, and it's hard for her to give up control of her care, and put her in someone elses hands that she knows won't follow her guidelines.
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GREAT news...
After visiting with a couple people from Visiting Angels, mom was worried that the in home care she could have gotten through them would still not be the best situation, so she contacted the palliative care facility. They came to talk with her, and it’s been decided that grandma will go there tomorrow for the next 5 days for observation. They want to make sure they see her issues and can meet her needs.
The facility comes highly recommended by my moms neighbor that she’s known for at least 38 years, so she fully trusts her opinion. Grandma is fully on board if it will make them both happy. That helps a TON. The facility will be covered by Medicare.
After talking with mom tonight, her demeanor seemed so much lighter. I feel so much better that she feels like this may be the right thing to do. Yay!
Thank you all SO much for your prayers. I feel that they have made a huge difference, and a black cloud has been lifted. Please continue to pray that the next 5 days go well, and that, if she is to stay there, the transition will be smooth.
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Small update 6/14:
Mom took grandma to her Dr for a follow up, and sign off on her getting into a facility...BUT, he told her she was doing everything right, and didn't need to change anything. She didn't need to move to a facility until she was bedridden.
Well, that put the idea in mom's head that she at least had to TRY keeping her at home, but with the help of Visiting Angels that can come in to sit with her when mom needs to leave the house, and can come stay overnight. They will come in for an evaluation today. Prayers that that goes well.
Grandma did a weird thing again last night around 2:30AM. Mom actually got about 2 hrs of sleep before this happened, which is about an hour and a half more than she usually gets before she has to get up. It just really worries me that mom wants to try to keep her home. I just worry about her stress level. She literally has no life outside of taking care of grandma, and taking my dad, aunt and neighbor to all of their Dr. appointments. I want this VA place to be all the help she needs, but I just don't know. I want mom to do what's right, not only for my grandma, but for her. She did say that she just wants to try, but is still pursuing the palliative care facility so that it will be ready for her when the time does come.
I dread the day we are put in this situation. It really sucks.
Thank you all SO much for all of your thoughts and prayers. They really need all they can get.
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OP:
My grandma is in her mid 90’s. She lived alone until about 4 years ago when she moved in with my parents. Everything was going pretty well, but it has been a LOT of work for my mom, especially since she is my aunts guardian, and during this time, my dad had neck/spine surgery.
My grandma has been in and out of the hospital for various things, and this last time it was an issue that has just become too much for my mom. My grandma also has (most likely) alzheimers. Mom has come to the conclusion that she’s done all she can, and grandma needs special care.
She found a place, but there’s a lot of red tape to get her in. Mom is really struggling with all of this.
Please pray for peace for her, and my grandma, and for a smooth transition.
Thank you!
More great news...
After her 5 days of respite care (observation), the home has determined that she does not yet qualify for hospice. That means that Medicare won't cover her stay. The good thing is, grandma has the money to pay for private care. She will be able to stay for about a year before those funds run out. At that time, it will be determined if she is qualified to stay, and Medicare would kick in to cover it.
In the meantime, my mom is still looking at other facilities. Some have up to a year wait list, so if she finds one she really likes, she will go ahead and get her on that list, and just remover her if they end up not needing to move her.
Mom talked with the funeral home about the things she has covered, and everything has been paid for with the exception of the flowers, and if we decide to do a slide show, which we like.
All in all, things seem to be going smoothly. The hardest thing for mom right now is that they are not feeding her the same way she would, and it's hard for her to give up control of her care, and put her in someone elses hands that she knows won't follow her guidelines.
******************************************************************************************************************
GREAT news...
After visiting with a couple people from Visiting Angels, mom was worried that the in home care she could have gotten through them would still not be the best situation, so she contacted the palliative care facility. They came to talk with her, and it’s been decided that grandma will go there tomorrow for the next 5 days for observation. They want to make sure they see her issues and can meet her needs.
The facility comes highly recommended by my moms neighbor that she’s known for at least 38 years, so she fully trusts her opinion. Grandma is fully on board if it will make them both happy. That helps a TON. The facility will be covered by Medicare.
After talking with mom tonight, her demeanor seemed so much lighter. I feel so much better that she feels like this may be the right thing to do. Yay!
Thank you all SO much for your prayers. I feel that they have made a huge difference, and a black cloud has been lifted. Please continue to pray that the next 5 days go well, and that, if she is to stay there, the transition will be smooth.
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Small update 6/14:
Mom took grandma to her Dr for a follow up, and sign off on her getting into a facility...BUT, he told her she was doing everything right, and didn't need to change anything. She didn't need to move to a facility until she was bedridden.
Well, that put the idea in mom's head that she at least had to TRY keeping her at home, but with the help of Visiting Angels that can come in to sit with her when mom needs to leave the house, and can come stay overnight. They will come in for an evaluation today. Prayers that that goes well.
Grandma did a weird thing again last night around 2:30AM. Mom actually got about 2 hrs of sleep before this happened, which is about an hour and a half more than she usually gets before she has to get up. It just really worries me that mom wants to try to keep her home. I just worry about her stress level. She literally has no life outside of taking care of grandma, and taking my dad, aunt and neighbor to all of their Dr. appointments. I want this VA place to be all the help she needs, but I just don't know. I want mom to do what's right, not only for my grandma, but for her. She did say that she just wants to try, but is still pursuing the palliative care facility so that it will be ready for her when the time does come.
I dread the day we are put in this situation. It really sucks.
Thank you all SO much for all of your thoughts and prayers. They really need all they can get.
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OP:
My grandma is in her mid 90’s. She lived alone until about 4 years ago when she moved in with my parents. Everything was going pretty well, but it has been a LOT of work for my mom, especially since she is my aunts guardian, and during this time, my dad had neck/spine surgery.
My grandma has been in and out of the hospital for various things, and this last time it was an issue that has just become too much for my mom. My grandma also has (most likely) alzheimers. Mom has come to the conclusion that she’s done all she can, and grandma needs special care.
She found a place, but there’s a lot of red tape to get her in. Mom is really struggling with all of this.
Please pray for peace for her, and my grandma, and for a smooth transition.
Thank you!
