Coaches Wife

I'm not a coaches wife but my brother was a coach (not a head coach) and his wife did not attend all games. I know the head coach's wife at our high school attends the games but her son is also on the coaching staff as well.

Not a coach's wife, but a mom of a (now graduated) 2 sport varsity athlete.

Our coaches' wives attend some games. Not all because they are moms too, but their presence is appreciated by the coaches and the parents. It's nice to humanize the coaches, and help parents understand that they have demands beyond the game.

MY best friends dh is a coach for wrestling and girls softball. She attends a lot of the home games. Not the out of town games, and she goes to chaperone when they go to tournaments away. She has a life too, and that's a lot of time to give to that sport. Wrestling during the winter is pretty much every tues and saturday, and softball in spring is every tues and thursday and tournaments every other wkend. Eps if your kids are not in it, which they weren't.

I can tell you about my experience as a sponsor of an activity. I am a co-director for our HS theatre program, so I put in a ton of hours on our productions. My husband supports me by taking photos on our big tech/dress rehearsal day because he's a fantastic photographer and our yearbook photo company sucks. He usually doesn't come to the actual productions because he saw most of the show at a tech/dress. I don't expect him to be there, but he will show up sometimes if it's a show he's interested in seeing or if his parents/our nieces come to the show. To be honest, I'm working during our shows so I don't have time to chat. I'm making sure my kids have what they need, connecting with parents, running the house, etc.

I would say if you have time and want to go and support, feel free, but you're under no obligation.

My husband is a HS Varsity coach but works about 45 minutes from home. We have a 4 yr old, 2 yr old and one on the way. I go to maybe two games per season, more if they miraculously happen to play close to home. Otherwise it's way too much work for myself. I know he wishes we came to more games but until the kids are older I'm not keeping them out late at night, feeding them concessions for dinner and trying to wrangle them from running on the court to Daddy. It's extremely exhausting and makes for very late nights.

DH coaches swimming and lacrosse for the high school at which he teaches. I have been to one lacrosse game in 3 years and no swim matches, up I have been to all the banquets at his request. I don’t know the parents or the students, so there’s no reason for me to go to a game or meet, sit by myself and read or knit. I can do that at home in more comfort.

My sister in law is married to our high school basketball coach. Not only does she never miss ahome game, she hosts them in her home every home game to eat, she travels to away games, she travels to tournaments. She is like their second mother. We are a very small town. Sports unite the community and I even attend many games and I have no kids on the court but I go because it's the place to be LOL. Some games I just dropped off my kids and picked them back up.

I am. “Mrs Coach’s Wife”! 😂 (my much loved nickname from a few varsity runners several seasons ago). My husband coaches middle school and varsity XC, and varsity track.

I go to some of the XC meets. I like to go to the ones that are in towns with restaurants that I or our kids want to eat at. Or if there are fun breweries to check out.

The only time I attend track meets are if I am helping to transport the team (super tiny private school with one bus to be shared between several sports team/season). Track meets are just too long for me to attend regularly, as we have 4 kids with their own activities going on.

We (me and the kids) do attend the banquets, and I help plan them. We used to host the banquets at our home outside, but we had to stop when the last banquet was over 70 people. And it rained at the beginning of the banquet and everyone had to be moved inside. Our house is not big enough for that.

From a parent's POV: it depends on what kind of spectator you are

DS plays basketball, so that's where my POV is from. We living a 'everyone knows everyone' town. The head varsity coach is married with two kids under 2. His wife/girls come to some of the home games, I don't think they stay for the whole game but I think it's nice that they come when they can to cheer the team on. Ds and another kid played on an AAU team this spring and the coach/wife/kids traveled 2hrs to watch them play, I thought that was very nice and certainly not necessary.

On the flip side, the JV coach is younger, engaged/no kids. The JV assistant coach is his dad. The fiance and mom (wife to asst. coach) come to every game. They are so loud and obnoxious, though it cracks me up because they'll scream "call the foul, please"....always please. Oh, I should add that the asst coach is a pastor too. I wish they'd stay home occasionally

My husband coaches softball at a private school.
I do attend most home games, but my daughter is also on his JV team so I’m mostly there to watch her. 😏
I don’t travel to out of town games very often.

I don’t love sitting in the stands with parents when he’s coaching. Unless it’s a season that goes perfectly, there will inevitably some grumbling happening among certain parents and it can feel a little awkward to be in the middle of that.

My husband was the athletic trainer for all sports and attended all home games and all football games. I went to a game if I hadn't seen him for a few days. In my opinion, the wives and girlfriends of the football coaches were the most fun!

I would go occasionally, probably not to every game. There are other ways to show support.

Dh umpires Little League. I enjoy watching him, but do not go to every game.