|
Post by myboysnme on Sept 21, 2019 22:16:24 GMT
I would not let myself get so overweight that my health was badly compromised.
Second choice would be not having my first marriage.
|
|
|
Post by Belia on Sept 22, 2019 1:25:21 GMT
I would not have gone into that boy's dorm room one month into my freshman year to fool around... which led to rape... which has led to a pretty dysfunctional sex life for the past 25 years or so. Like, would I feel and be normal if that hadn't happened?
|
|
|
Post by jmad122 on Sept 22, 2019 3:01:20 GMT
I would not have gone into that boy's dorm room one month into my freshman year to fool around... which led to rape... which has led to a pretty dysfunctional sex life for the past 25 years or so. Like, would I feel and be normal if that hadn't happened? I was reading through this thread thinking about what I'd post...as I'm coming out of lurkdom slowly...when I read your post. It stopped me in my tracks. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It happened to someone close to me, too. I really wish we all truly could get a mulligan.
|
|
|
Post by kkrenn on Sept 22, 2019 3:15:28 GMT
I would change the argument I had with DH that led to me being distracted and falling on our sidewalk. If I could change that I wouldn't be ill now, disabled at 47 and pretty much useless to everyone.
|
|
StephDRebel
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,663
Location: Ohio
Jul 5, 2014 1:53:49 GMT
|
Post by StephDRebel on Sept 22, 2019 3:28:38 GMT
I wish I had left an abusive relationship earlier and that I had been more vocal about what was happening.
|
|
|
Post by monicad on Sept 22, 2019 4:23:08 GMT
I really, really hurt a lovely guy when I was in my early 20s. If I could go back in time, I would erase that. I still feel really badly about the way I treated him and wish I'd been more mature and kind. Me too...it’s always been a regret.
|
|
|
Post by kelly316 on Sept 22, 2019 19:53:28 GMT
I would not have gone into that boy's dorm room one month into my freshman year to fool around... which led to rape... which has led to a pretty dysfunctional sex life for the past 25 years or so. Like, would I feel and be normal if that hadn't happened? Of course I did not want to “like” this post. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m so sorry some “boy” thought it was okay to impact your life forever. If there’s a way to get past something like that, I sure hope you find it!
|
|
|
Post by kernriver on Sept 22, 2019 21:03:25 GMT
I would have managed my extreme anxiety better during my second pregnancy.
|
|
|
Post by M~ on Sept 22, 2019 23:18:01 GMT
Wish that I would have followed my passion for languages and become an interpreter/translator. That’s my real passion. My GM didn’t want me to go,away for college or choose that as a career. Being a lawyer was my 4th career choice.
|
|
|
Post by M~ on Sept 22, 2019 23:18:22 GMT
Wish that I would have followed my passion for languages and become an interpreter/translator. That’s my real passion. My GM didn’t want me to go,away for college or choose that as a career. Being a lawyer was my 4th career choice.
|
|
MaryMary
Pearl Clutcher
Lazy
Posts: 2,975
Jun 25, 2014 21:56:13 GMT
|
Post by MaryMary on Sept 23, 2019 0:14:08 GMT
The marriage for sure. Yes, I wouldn’t have my kids, but they deserved better. We all deserved better.
|
|
|
Post by brenda89 on Sept 23, 2019 21:08:24 GMT
I wish I would have gotten divorced 12 years ago, instead of last year. DD is 16 and I wouldn't want to not have her. But my ex is an alcoholic who won't admit it. And I wish I'd made better financial decisions. I love to shop.
|
|
|
Post by MichyM on Sept 23, 2019 21:12:04 GMT
Not wearing my seatbelt 30 years ago because I didn't want to wrinkle my blouse. The accident I was in that day changed my life profoundly. No second chances.
|
|
lbrock44
Junior Member
Posts: 73
Jun 29, 2014 2:56:24 GMT
|
Post by lbrock44 on Sept 23, 2019 22:13:50 GMT
Two things: I would have taken better care of myself/weight gain, and I would have bought a house much sooner.
|
|
|
Post by kelly316 on Sept 24, 2019 1:26:11 GMT
Not wearing my seatbelt 30 years ago because I didn't want to wrinkle my blouse. The accident I was in that day changed my life profoundly. No second chances. In your defense, hardly anyone wore a seatbelt 30 years ago!
|
|
|
Post by kelly316 on Sept 24, 2019 1:26:49 GMT
I wish I would have gotten divorced 12 years ago, instead of last year. DD is 16 and I wouldn't want to not have her. But my ex is an alcoholic who won't admit it. And I wish I'd made better financial decisions. I love to shop. Does she still have to spend time with him?
|
|
|
Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 24, 2019 1:52:01 GMT
I do wish I had kept up my Arabic. I had the best basis to become fluent and it just disappeared from lack of use.
|
|
|
Post by brenda89 on Sept 24, 2019 15:29:34 GMT
I wish I would have gotten divorced 12 years ago, instead of last year. DD is 16 and I wouldn't want to not have her. But my ex is an alcoholic who won't admit it. And I wish I'd made better financial decisions. I love to shop. Does she still have to spend time with him? Yes. Not much though. We live in the same town. And he may not be a true alcoholic, but when we were together he was drunk at least 3 nights a week (sometimes more than 3). He does have a job, so that's a plus. And the divorce process was not bad at all for us. We worked it out together and used no attorneys. I'm sure I could have gotten more, but I'm ok with where I'm at. And I'm MUCH happier now.
|
|
|
Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Sept 24, 2019 22:35:33 GMT
I should have pushed harder In high school for a relationship with my best friend. He always said if we dated and broke up he didn’t know if we would be able to stay friends because of how much we knew about each other. I lost contact with him for 22 years after he graduated and just got back in contact this spring. From day one it’s been like we were never apart for those 22 years. It’s more and more obvious each time we talk or get together just how alike we are. I will always wonder what if we had taken that chance.... Can you explore it now? I've been married for eight years now to my high school boyfriend after almost twenty-eight years of no contact. In this thread of regretted decisions, that's one of the best decisions I've ever made.
|
|
|
Post by peasapie on Sept 24, 2019 22:46:45 GMT
I really, really hurt a lovely guy when I was in my early 20s. If I could go back in time, I would erase that. I still feel really badly about the way I treated him and wish I'd been more mature and kind. Me too...it’s always been a regret. This makes me want to tell my story. I did a similar thing - hurt a guy badly when I was 18 and he was 20. And then I married the wrong guy, had kids, felt stuck. Now my kids are grown and that guy reached out to me after many years — and I answered. We both left our respective bad marriages and are together. No moral to this story; just wanted to say that sometimes love and maturity gets a second chance.
|
|
|
Post by kelly316 on Sept 25, 2019 11:20:25 GMT
Does she still have to spend time with him? Yes. Not much though. We live in the same town. And he may not be a true alcoholic, but when we were together he was drunk at least 3 nights a week (sometimes more than 3). He does have a job, so that's a plus. And the divorce process was not bad at all for us. We worked it out together and used no attorneys. I'm sure I could have gotten more, but I'm ok with where I'm at. And I'm MUCH happier now. So good to hear you are happier! Plus it gives me hope!
|
|
|
Post by FuzzyMutt on Sept 25, 2019 15:43:02 GMT
I do wish I had kept up my Arabic. I had the best basis to become fluent and it just disappeared from lack of use. Same with me, for Korean. Also, I would have taken more "not touristy" pictures of my time there, as well as kept a journal. I remember so little of that year and a half. It was such a (fantastic) blur. I wish I had spent more of my money while there exploring rather than partying.
|
|
|
Post by FuzzyMutt on Sept 25, 2019 15:48:47 GMT
I wish I would have gotten divorced 12 years ago, instead of last year. DD is 16 and I wouldn't want to not have her. But my ex is an alcoholic who won't admit it. And I wish I'd made better financial decisions. I love to shop. I wish I would have gotten divorced 16 years ago rather than 11. We all have to stop that clock somewhere I wish I wouldn't have worried what other people thought if I divorced him. I wish I would have come to my senses that it doesn't matter who was right or who was wrong. I wish I would have realized much much earlier there was nothing he could do to stop the relationship between my daughter and I, and that I should have pushed for the correct level of child support, as he was full of hot air that he would fight for custody. He's such a greedy soul, he'd have never given up his freedom and his career to actually parent our son. I wish my head wasn't so much in a cloud of just being happy to be rid of him that I was willing to do whatever to get done with it. Don't let the last 16 years cloud you. Do what's right for you and your daughter, even if it's "only" 2 years left that she's a minor.
|
|
|
Post by lisacharlotte on Sept 25, 2019 15:53:41 GMT
I do wish I had kept up my Arabic. I had the best basis to become fluent and it just disappeared from lack of use. Same with me, for Korean. Also, I would have taken more "not touristy" pictures of my time there, as well as kept a journal. I remember so little of that year and a half. It was such a (fantastic) blur. I wish I had spent more of my money while there exploring rather than partying. The folly of youth. I spent two years living in England and traveled much less than I should have. Work had something to do with that, but also being young and not realizing I would miss things after I left. Also, not enough pictures.
|
|
|
Post by kelly316 on Sept 26, 2019 1:16:46 GMT
I should have pushed harder In high school for a relationship with my best friend. He always said if we dated and broke up he didn’t know if we would be able to stay friends because of how much we knew about each other. I lost contact with him for 22 years after he graduated and just got back in contact this spring. From day one it’s been like we were never apart for those 22 years. It’s more and more obvious each time we talk or get together just how alike we are. I will always wonder what if we had taken that chance.... Can you explore it now? I've been married for eight years now to my high school boyfriend after almost twenty-eight years of no contact. In this thread of regretted decisions, that's one of the best decisions I've ever made. Wow, I love this so much! No wonder you look so happy floating on that raft.
|
|
|
Post by annabella on Sept 26, 2019 3:17:41 GMT
I wish I did a semester abroad in Europe in college. I had travelled so much before college and during the summers of college I didn’t see a need to do a semester abroad and didn’t want to miss out on my social life. After a trip to London last month I think shit it sure would have been nice to live here for four months.
|
|
|
Post by kelly316 on Sept 28, 2019 3:42:08 GMT
Me too...it’s always been a regret. This makes me want to tell my story. I did a similar thing - hurt a guy badly when I was 18 and he was 20. And then I married the wrong guy, had kids, felt stuck. Now my kids are grown and that guy reached out to me after many years — and I answered. We both left our respective bad marriages and are together. No moral to this story; just wanted to say that sometimes love and maturity gets a second chance. I love this too! I think the moral is never give up hope!!!
|
|
|
Post by scrappintoee on Oct 5, 2019 22:11:22 GMT
Believing the guy I was dating was a good person I've had to forgive myself mannyyyy times----remembering I was 18 and too young to know better !!!
|
|
PLurker
Prolific Pea
Posts: 9,739
Location: Behind the Cheddar Curtain
Jun 28, 2014 3:48:49 GMT
|
Post by PLurker on Oct 5, 2019 22:42:38 GMT
Does she still have to spend time with him? Yes. Not much though. We live in the same town. And he may not be a true alcoholic, but when we were together he was drunk at least 3 nights a week (sometimes more than 3). He does have a job, so that's a plus. And the divorce process was not bad at all for us. We worked it out together and used no attorneys. I'm sure I could have gotten more, but I'm ok with where I'm at. And I'm MUCH happier now. I don't know what you mean by "true alcoholic" but getting drunk that much fits the bill in my book. My XDH was a functioning alcoholic, too. I think that clouds things and may have made me hang on way longer than I should have. If I could talk to my younger self, I'd tell her to get your ducks in a row and plan your out asap as soon as DS was born. They deserved better especially after what they shared after. (Verbal bs) Good luck to you and your kids. You are doing what's best.
|
|
|
Post by lucyg on Oct 5, 2019 22:56:21 GMT
Why is this thread labeled Politics?
I wish I had never started smoking at age 17. It took me till age 50 to quit, and has affected (badly, of course) so many areas of my life. Plus I still miss smoking, to this day. =sigh=
|
|