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Post by Mel on Jul 30, 2020 13:40:05 GMT
I'm in the "freeze them" camp. I used to cook twice a month. Always on a Sunday (of course, you make whatever work for you). I'd build a menu, grocery list, have the recipes I might be using all printed and ready. I would literally cook for 2 weeks worth of meals and freeze them. Then, each night all I had to do was add a side, or cook the noodles or rice or whatever to add to the "main" meal ingredients. You can freeze pasta & rice, we just preferred it made "fresh" because it didn't get mushy in the reheat.
My menu was pretty loose too... I would make 12 main courses. 2 of 6 different ones. I kept a list of what I had in the freezer and just choose one. I didn't assign a specific day or whatever for each one. Hope that made sense? Usually we had 2-3 that we didn't use because we'd get take out or eat on the run. So by the end of the month, I generally had a week's worth of meals still in there and could take a Sunday off. LOL
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Post by Mel on Jul 30, 2020 13:32:11 GMT
Funny... I was just thinking about the make-up thing on the way into work today. My Dh's daughter's make up is odd. She wears a lot of foundation that's about three shades too light. It's odd... I'm with all of you... fake lashes, drawn on brows, it's distracting!
ETA: Dh's ex ONLY wears liner... no lipstick... now THAT'S distracting!!
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Post by Mel on Jul 28, 2020 23:35:13 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Mel on Jul 28, 2020 16:06:34 GMT
I'm MelD on WWF
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Post by Mel on Jul 28, 2020 15:32:53 GMT
I have branched out and shopped at a few online SB stores that I hadn't before( Scrap Your Trip being one of them). I've shopped a lot more for my DD than anyone. She is 14, clothes, shoes, gadgets... LOL
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Post by Mel on Jul 28, 2020 14:51:09 GMT
No poop eating here either... but he will chew the leg off of an action figure in .3 seconds!! LOL Our last dog was a chewer too but he was a Jack Russell so he was little. Buster is a bigger dog and he is what they consider a "Super" chewer (I tend to agree because that guy can CHEW!). He is a sweet guy though. He loves all of us, and anyone who will pay him some attention becomes an instant friend (but he does bark at strangers and the occasional delivery person). My 14 y/o DD is his "person" though. The rest of us are just there to serve him. LOL
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Post by Mel on Jul 27, 2020 20:59:12 GMT
I do the same thing... sit on my hands... I don't even bother to post about politics or Covid...
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Post by Mel on Jul 27, 2020 13:51:30 GMT
Some of those are really cool! I'm a tattoo looker but NO way I could do it!! LOL My DD has one behind her ear of musical notes.
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Post by Mel on Jul 27, 2020 12:54:50 GMT
I'm so sorry!
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Post by Mel on Jul 27, 2020 12:53:50 GMT
Hugs!! You are SO right!
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Post by Mel on Jul 26, 2020 19:35:03 GMT
By the way, Mary... I could have written your post too! Hugs!
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Post by Mel on Jul 26, 2020 19:33:42 GMT
Mel, can I ask you how you KNEW it for a long time? I am certainly not being judgy, I just have someone in my life that I have often wondered about and was curious to the signs? Hmmm... I think the one big thing was our sex life was always really difficult for me. It was more a "chore". I know that sounds really strange, but that's the only word I can come up with. He always said it was because of his diabetes (ok, I know it could have been a health issue but I always felt like it was me... guess not! ) I found some things on the computer that he claimed must have just been pop ups, he had no idea how they got there (I didn't know any better at the time but did a little research, nope... not pop ups). He has never been real "manly" for lack of a better word, but totally over compensates in some situations. Sports for example, he is NOT into sports but he tries to act like he is... Baseball, football, racing... he tries to play too and it's not a good thing! I know some men just aren't "sporty" but it's just different. I can't explain it. He is always the odd man out when it comes to going out with the "guys" for a beer, etc. He tries way too hard to fit in. And, in case anyone thinks that the occasional stereotype of gay men being good at design/color coordination is a myth... it's really not. He can decorate a room better than anyone I know! LOL Just thought I'd add that to end on a lighter note.
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Post by Mel on Jul 26, 2020 18:41:01 GMT
Good for you for standing up for what you feel. Sometimes I have to bite my tongue with my Mom too, so I get it. Hugs on the "anniversary" today...
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Post by Mel on Jul 25, 2020 23:41:35 GMT
Yes, the kids all know. None of them really care one way or the other. It will open up a little dialog though because now if they ask I can talk to them about things. My oldest DD(23) has made comments in the past that I let slide by because I didn't think it was my place to say anything. I've never lied to her just never validated her if she made an off handed remark(looking for an answer maybe?). He has spoken to his brother so pretty much all of the important people know. I told my mom, she knew long ago too though, we are close. No judgment of course. They have always had a good relationship and I've always been ok with that too.
Our family has always been a little dysfunctional. LOL
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Post by Mel on Jul 25, 2020 18:12:41 GMT
I have no where else that I can "talk" about this. I can't post it on FB or talk to friends about it because it's not my story to tell. If I am asked about it specifically by mutual friends, I will but I won't be the one to bring it up.
I want to preface though by saying that I am happy. I have a wonderful man in my life, my kids are all healthy (relatively speaking), etc. I thought I had dealt with this years ago but a whole new chapter is beginning and I'm grieving all over again. That is the only word I can come up with to describe how I'm feeling. And before anyone preaches about how difficult it will be for him, and what he will be going through now that it's been said, I KNOW. I get that... but this is, selfishly, about my side of things.
My ex-husband is gay. There. I said it. I've known it for a long time (although, I always thought maybe he was "bi" but that's another story). He came to me last night and actually said the words.
We have been divorced almost 5 years & have 4 kids(25, 23, 14(although he has Down syndrome, and he is developmentally around 6/7, and non verbal), & almost 14). We have remained friends, and he and my SO even get along pretty well. He comes to holiday dinners, we did Birthdays together for the kids (they are all old enough now that we don't really have "parties" anymore lol). Our marriage was never a great, happy, happy, fun-filled adventure. I am the one that left, I couldn't be miserable anymore, and even if it meant being "alone" the rest of my life, at least I could do things and be happy. When I met my SO, he came in with his eyes open, he knew the level of crazy that my life was, and he was willing to accept it because he fell in love with me, and all of that came with me. LOL
I have gone through several emotions... sad, angry, hurt... I know I didn't "turn" him gay(although, I also know that there are people who will think that! LOL). I feel like our life/marriage was just a front because he was in denial. I am angry because I spent so many years unhappy & trying to make things work.
I think the word of the day for me is "raw". I know it'll all be ok, and I also know that there will be other emotions. My SO & I have talked about it and talked to my youngest DD (she is almost 14) and she knows that we are here to talk to if she needs it (well, they all know that but she lives with us). She has a very close relationship with SO (we've been together almost 5 years). Her relationship with her Dad has always been a little different because he was never the cookie cutter "Dad". It's not like SO is trying to take his place, it's just a different kind of relationship.
Anyway... I guess I just needed to get it off my chest. As my friend Mary always says, "Forward with hope".
If you made it this far, THANK YOU!!
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Post by Mel on Jul 20, 2020 20:05:20 GMT
I'm in Iowa too. My DD goes to a small school in SE, IA. They are starting cheerleading practices tonight(well, I think tonight is just info meeting). Parents had to sign a form releasing the school, sponsor, district, etc, etc from blame if their child comes in contact with Covid-19 & another part that says that we haven't had any symptoms, testing, results pending or positive test.
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Post by Mel on Jul 20, 2020 12:59:15 GMT
PS... I can't believe that it's 'only' $799000!
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Post by Mel on Jul 20, 2020 12:58:02 GMT
Does anyone remember that show that was on like 20ish years ago "The Mole"?? I SWEAR this is the house that was in that show!! LOL
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Post by Mel on Jul 13, 2020 20:35:07 GMT
Studies are showing that yes, you can have it twice and often times the second time is worse. There's just not enough information available to say that once you get it, yo'ure good. This. And not just studies...there are people who are getting it a second time. Given how information about the virus is still in its early stages, I don't blame them for wanting to be rehoused. Besides...it sounds like there are other students who would be interested in living with you, so I don't really see it as a problem. Unless you've tested negative, you might still have the virus, even if your symptoms have decreased. True... Ugh... Covid just needs to LEAVE!
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Post by Mel on Jul 13, 2020 18:18:26 GMT
If anything I feel SAFER around recovered people! At least you know that they don't have the virus (anymore)!! If there are others willing to take the places, I'd go ahead and make that arrangement.
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Post by Mel on Jul 10, 2020 15:11:52 GMT
I cross-stitch, make wreaths, scrapbook, make cards, knit, & crochet. I go through spurts of which one I work on. LOL I like to do puzzles, Sudoku, and read.
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Post by Mel on Jul 7, 2020 16:57:45 GMT
I know nothing about the trust part.
The state basically decides the amounts of the child support & if there is any spousal support or not. I didn't ask for Spousal support but the child support is based on a % of his income. My SO's ex asked for spousal support because she had "given up" so much to be a stay at home mom to their daughter. The daughter was 20 at the time of the divorce and hadn't lived at home in about 3 years. The judge basically laughed at her and said she was a healthy 38 year old woman who needed to grow up and get a job. That was 5 years ago. Ex-wife did get 1/2 of his 401K which was a pretty significant amount of money that she blew through in about 6 months.
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Post by Mel on Jul 6, 2020 19:49:16 GMT
I have ColorStreet on mine at the moment. I have had them naked for a while but was feeling like I needed something so I used a set that I had in my stash from last summer. They are red and sparkly... I can't think of the name of the set! LOL
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Post by Mel on Jul 6, 2020 19:15:54 GMT
I will admit, I didn't watch it, just posted it for Michy!
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Post by Mel on Jul 6, 2020 19:14:49 GMT
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Post by Mel on Jul 6, 2020 18:59:56 GMT
My oldest DD is a Musical Theater Major in college and she has been listening to the soundtrack since it came out. I knew there was NO way we could see it on stage because of $$ & time constraints (getting us in the same place at the same time when it was near enough to see it on stage). We watched it together on Friday. I'm glad I got to watch it with her. Not sure I would have made it through by myself. I wish I had thought to turn on the CC. Maybe I'll watch it again with it on. Anyway, I'm happy to have had the experience of watching it, and with my DD but it was hard for me to follow because of some of the music.
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Post by Mel on Jun 30, 2020 12:55:20 GMT
I didn't read the article but my 14 y/o DD just sent off two letters to two ladies in a care facility in SC.
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Post by Mel on Jun 29, 2020 20:39:33 GMT
ALL of the above!! Wow... brought back some memories!
Here's a few of mine... Name brand anything! From food to shoes! LOL Jordache jeans...the little individual pudding snacks (when I was a kid they were in cans not plastic)...Nike...Hamburger Helper...Memorex cassettes...
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Post by Mel on Jun 29, 2020 19:51:43 GMT
The Summer House by James Patterson It reminded me of an episode of NCIS. LOL I enjoyed it. 5/5
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Post by Mel on Jun 29, 2020 16:29:47 GMT
Saying some prayers!
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