julie5
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Post by julie5 on Dec 24, 2019 22:55:51 GMT
Husband who hasn’t worked in over 7 days to me just now: what are we eating today? Me: there’s meat and cheese and crackers and fruit. Him: you haven’t cooked a meal in 3 days. Me: maybe if I didn’t have to buy my own Christmas gift, I could plan a holiday meal. Edited. Him: we can’t have a platter for lunch. Me: we can and we are. I’ve been saying for two weeks that I wasn’t making a Christmas dinner. I cooked at thanksgiving and i cooked for 9 hours, and everyone ate in under 10 minutes. It’s just the 4 of us. Seems like a waste of time and money to cook a huge meal. Especially since everyone bitches about any meal I make any day of the week. Hubby is picking up a pizza it’s just the three of us tonight and I’m sick and I just don’t care. I vote takeout or whatever hubby will make. I hear you on the Thanksgiving thing. It takes days of prep and then it’s for what a quick dinner before everyone rushes home again and then you have to still do all the cleanup. I’m too old for this crap lol and we are doing easier meals now. He got over it and microwaved a frozen burrito. Then ate the meat and cheese tray and fruit. And then when I took my kids back to their dads, I got us Arby’s. Next year I’ll probably make a pot of chili or something simple yet satisfying. I burst into ugly crying twice today, a year ago today we were planning my brothers funeral so my hubby cut me some slack. |
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Post by psoccer on Dec 25, 2019 17:31:40 GMT
Last night, Christmas Eve, my husband asked me if I invited his dad for Christmas dinner. Nope, I sure didn't. His dad is nice, very appreciative of the cooking, but he wants to eat by 4 and I am not busting my butt to have dinner ready by then. At Thanksgiving I got an earful from him because dinner was at 5 so no thank you.
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used2scrap
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Post by used2scrap on Dec 25, 2019 17:51:09 GMT
The asshole has the kids last night and today for Christmas and my heart is broken. Yeah sure I could try to suck it up and fake celebrate together like he wants, but then I die inside further and the kids spend the whole time stressing out there will be fighting not to mention I get to do all the work so he can enjoy his holiday. I don’t know how someone can spend 26 years cheating and destroying a family and still feel entitled to hallmark family moments.
I’m glad the kids had a peaceful Christmas.
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smginaz Suzy
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Je suis desole.
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Post by smginaz Suzy on Dec 25, 2019 18:23:20 GMT
Well my drama is that I just logged into facebook and saw a post from my DH's aunt that his Uncle died today. This was posted 5 hours ago and no one called DH's mom (the Uncle's sister). We thought we had a good relationship with the Aunt/Uncle so its somewhat shocking to hear about these things on FB. Same. My dad passed and I was able to tell 5 relatives, asking them all to please keep it off social media so that family could be notified and asshole step-brother cannot help himself (he has a very very estranged relationship with my dad) and blasts it like he is a grieving survivor, so of course it is reposted by another clueless non-related "relative". So his grandson gets to hear the news in a facebook post. There is a reason I did not tell him. But someone in those 5 (really, 3 because the other 2 don't know him), had to spread the news and not respect my one request. I hate people sometimes. |
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Post by Scrapper100 on Dec 25, 2019 18:45:55 GMT
Last night, Christmas Eve, my husband asked me if I invited his dad for Christmas dinner. Nope, I sure didn't. His dad is nice, very appreciative of the cooking, but he wants to eat by 4 and I am not busting my butt to have dinner ready by then. At Thanksgiving I got an earful from him because dinner was at 5 so no thank you. Wow. Does he not like to drive after dark or something? I hate stuff like that and am so over it. I try to accommodate as many as possible but you get cranky about stuff like that for no reason and nope not going to deal with you. I so don’t blame you for not inviting him. Someone going off because they weren’t catered to enough. Nope. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2019 19:52:24 GMT
I love my brother, his new wife and their Bernese dog. We had Christmas with them yesterday and he knew we were just chilling with our kids today.
He called at 9 to ask if we could dog sit his high needs dog. All day. Christmas Day. We have 1 little one inside and two farm dogs outside. Personal choice but we’re not big on having a big dog roaming the house. She’s constantly eating off the counter, needs constant attention. And if we have her outside she roams. We live in the country so we’re worried that she’ll run off. So we’re on edge all day that she’ll run away.
So we finally stuffed all 3 dogs in the garage just so we could get a little peace. Well then she’s constantly scratching (and damaging) on our door because she wants in. She can come in, but as soon as we let her in she wants out. It’d be ok if she was one of those dogs that just chilled but this dog is in constant motion so it’s exhausting.
I love my brother but it was pretty selfish of him to ask us to dog sit just so he doesn’t have to worry about the dog getting into trouble at the inlaws. Next year I’ll say we have plans but it’s our a damper on our already abnormally quiet Christmas.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2019 23:34:07 GMT
Drama:
I call dad last night , he is slurring his words. He puts girlfriend on the phone and she is very quiet.
My husband thinks that they have carbon monoxide poisoning. I text her son. He calls them. Dad calls me and I get hung out to dry. They are fine, but mom is pissed at dad and that’s why she is quiet. Dad is acting like a whipped puppy. But it is getting to the point that We don’t know if he is faking the slurring or not.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 26, 2019 1:23:25 GMT
Not stress or drama, exactly. More like disappointment. I didn't rate a Christmas card from anyone that I sent out to this year. I only send to family, so it's not like an acquaintance forgot me.
I never expect gifts (and i don't get them), but i always look forward to a few cards. This year, nothing.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 26, 2019 3:46:17 GMT
The biggest upset for the season was that the short dog pulled the tablecloth on the dining room table over just enough so that she could eat the candy that was at the front of the gingerbread house. M only worry was that there might by xylitol in the candy. Other than that, everyone played well together and today has been pretty relaxing.
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Post by swimchick1984 on Dec 26, 2019 4:05:14 GMT
Vent. I worked four days in a row I am tired and pissy today.
I got my husband a nice gift something her wanted but didn’t want to spend the money on himself. I got work clothes, in colors I already have. Because what is more exciting then scrubs for your Christmas present.
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Post by Prenticekid on Dec 26, 2019 4:40:05 GMT
Ouch.  I agree, that would really hurt my feelings. Do you guys normally have a pretty good relationship? If so, I would say she just blurted without thinking-not that that helps your feelings. I think this is kind of common in older people, like my grandma never wanted gifts because she could not give back at the same level. Normally, I'd say we do have a pretty good relationship, but things have been tense since they decided to sell the house. I usually go to my parents' house on Fridays after work and Saturday evenings unless I have something else going on; however, I haven't felt much like going out there the past couple of months. Her mood swings over this whole thing just don't make it a fun, welcoming environment to be in. When I go out there this weekend, I think I might say something to her, as gently as possible, about how much what she said hurt my feelings. |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 26, 2019 13:27:32 GMT
Well my drama is that I just logged into facebook and saw a post from my DH's aunt that his Uncle died today. This was posted 5 hours ago and no one called DH's mom (the Uncle's sister). We thought we had a good relationship with the Aunt/Uncle so its somewhat shocking to hear about these things on FB. Same. My dad passed and I was able to tell 5 relatives, asking them all to please keep it off social media so that family could be notified and asshole step-brother cannot help himself (he has a very very estranged relationship with my dad) and blasts it like he is a grieving survivor, so of course it is reposted by another clueless non-related "relative". So his grandson gets to hear the news in a facebook post. There is a reason I did not tell him. But someone in those 5 (really, 3 because the other 2 don't know him), had to spread the news and not respect my one request. I hate people sometimes. I am so sorry. |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 26, 2019 13:32:17 GMT
Not stress or drama, exactly. More like disappointment. I didn't rate a Christmas card from anyone that I sent out to this year. I only send to family, so it's not like an acquaintance forgot me. I never expect gifts (and i don't get them), but i always look forward to a few cards. This year, nothing. That stinks. I know we receive fewer cards every year. |
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Post by houstonsandy on Dec 26, 2019 16:17:55 GMT
My mom and brother were going to come to my house Christmas morning before we all went on to my aunt's house for lunch. I got up and made a batch of popovers to have when they got here and we would exchange our gifts. Thirty minutes before they were to arrive he calls and says they are just going straight to aunt's house instead. Uhhhhh....what? DD called them back to ask why they were going to go there 2 1/2 hours early instead of coming here to have our family Christmas morning as originally planned. He said they wanted to have time to visit before lunch. Whatever....
So DD and I went ahead and had our popovers and continued getting ready to go to aunt's house later.
Ding Dong.
Brother and mom just showed up.....smh....
OK..so we gave them their gifts to open but ours were all packed in their car so they would be handed out at aunt's house later.
So we all go to aunt's house and have lunch, do the family gift exchanging....
DD gets her gift from my mom.
Now mind you...when asked what we wanted/needed we had told her just to give us money. She knows I am struggling after the divorce to cover all the bills and expenses and I just had to use all of my savings that I had to pay a back tax IRS bill from 2017 when my idiot ex-husband did our taxes wrong.
DD gets to order her college senior ring in January and wanted money to put towards her ring....which was going to be around $500.00.
DD gets.....a very nice pearl necklace and earring set. VERY NICE set....$4500.00 nice! (Mom told me the price so I can insure it).
DD likes it and was appreciative, but really? Later she asked me why mom didn't wait and give that to her next year for graduation? All she wanted right now was her class ring and it would have been a LOT cheaper! lol...smh... So now this necklace will sit at my house until she finishes school because she is afraid to take it back to college with her and she has to figure out how to scrape the ring money together.
Oh....and I got $100.00.
My mom is not some little old lady living on social security. She has a VERY substantial Fidelity account and three farms.
I know a gift is a gift and not something that is "owed" to you...but seriously? It felt like a slap in the face actually.
We spent well over that in gifts for her....sigh...oh well....it was the "thought" that counts. Just not so sure I like the "thought" behind that.
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I agree, that would really hurt my feelings. 
