katybee
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:14:53 GMT
UPDATE: i don’t know what happened, because I’m a chicken and never complained, but I got an updated hotel confirmation today. Now I feel guilty. Which is STUPID for all the reasons you all mentioned. So I’m gonna get over it. OP: I’m going to a conference in NYC in April—payed—I meant PAID—for by my district. I got my hotel confirmation , and I think there’s a good chance I’ll have to share a double bed with a complete stranger. Don’t get me wrong—I’m SUPER grateful to be going and I’ll suck it up and do whatever I have to do. I was expecting to share a room, and certainly was not expecting the Plaza. But I’m not a graceful sleeper. When I wake up in the morning, my covers are destroyed. I toss and turn—a LOT. I’ve never met my roommates, and probably won’t before we board the plane. Awkward! I guess we can see if they have a rollaway bed... (I know there’s 3 of us and 2 beds, so someone’s gonna get their own bed...but I am certainly not going to insist it be me). Oh well...entitled mini rant over...
ETA: removed photo because name was still visible.
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 16, 2020 16:16:24 GMT
Can you call the hotel? That would make me so uncomfortable, I probably would not go.
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Post by julie5 on Feb 16, 2020 16:17:49 GMT
Yeah that’s way beyond my comfort zone. My daughter has had to share a bed with strangers for state level band functions and that weirds me out.
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Post by moodyblue on Feb 16, 2020 16:19:38 GMT
Looks like just what you are thinking. What does the upgrade get you? I’ve been known to pay extra myself to get a club room (access to the lounge with drinks and snacks, etc), so I’d consider that if appropriate. Sharing a double bed would not be happening for me, not even if it were a queen or king. I’d have to have a rollaway or something.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:20:54 GMT
Not to mention 3 adult women that will all be getting ready at the same time sharing one bathroom.
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katybee
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:22:06 GMT
Looks like just what you are thinking. What does the upgrade get you? I’ve been known to pay extra myself to get a club room (access to the lounge with drinks and snacks, etc), so I’d consider that if appropriate. Sharing a double bed would not be happening for me, not even if it were a queen or king. I’d have to have a rollaway or something. Higher floor or late checkout.
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Post by moodyblue on Feb 16, 2020 16:28:24 GMT
Looks like just what you are thinking. What does the upgrade get you? I’ve been known to pay extra myself to get a club room (access to the lounge with drinks and snacks, etc), so I’d consider that if appropriate. Sharing a double bed would not be happening for me, not even if it were a queen or king. I’d have to have a rollaway or something. Higher floor or late checkout. Well, that’s no help! I’m surprised at the double beds. Most hotels I’ve stayed at have at least two queen beds in a double room. Regardless, I wouldn’t be sharing and don’t think it’s appropriate to think adults should have to share a bed with someone under these circumstances.
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Post by jubejubes on Feb 16, 2020 16:28:30 GMT
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Feb 16, 2020 16:31:35 GMT
I would be paying for my own room or not going. Absolutely would not be sharing a room, much less a bed, with a total stranger! If that isn't an option, then I would contact the hotel ASAP and request a rollaway bed. Hotels don't have that many of them usually and you want to be high up on the request list.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:32:53 GMT
Here’s the deal—I know we are a public institution and that if we use money for another room, that’s less money the kids will get. I just wonder if when my superintendent goes on a work trip, he has to share a bed?
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Post by Merge on Feb 16, 2020 16:34:48 GMT
That’s weird. Most companies/districts don’t make (or even allow) people traveling for work to share rooms because of the potential liability.
Honestly I’d go back to your admin and request your own room. No adult should be required to share intimate space with another non-family adult for work.
ETA: NO. Do not buy into the “suffer for the kids” mantra. You are an adult professional and deserve to be treated like one.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:35:22 GMT
I would be paying for my own room or not going. Absolutely would not be sharing a room, much less a bed, with a total stranger! If that isn't an option, then I would contact the hotel ASAP and request a rollaway bed. Hotels don't have that many of them usually and you want to be high up on the request list. Unfortunately, the total cost for the room, including taxes, is $1902.79. I’m not going to pay that for a work trip.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Feb 16, 2020 16:38:55 GMT
Oh no way at all would I be sharing a bed with strangers let alone a room.
I’d ask if there was a pull out couch.
Also, I’d ask at your company if this is normal.
Lastly, what if the roommates are male?
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Post by christinec68 on Feb 16, 2020 16:47:27 GMT
That’s a hard no for me. There are other hotels that cost less than the plaza where attendees won’t have to share a bed.
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Post by christine58 on Feb 16, 2020 16:48:32 GMT
Here’s the deal—I know we are a public institution and that if we use money for another room, that’s less money the kids will get. I just wonder if when my superintendent goes on a work trip, he has to share a bed? Offer to pay the difference and get your own room
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2020 16:50:39 GMT
So you don't actually know who these two strangers are that are going to share a room with you? How do you know they are going to be women?
It says 3 adults on the booking - who is responsible to make sure that these 3 adults are actually the same gender. I'm damn sure I wouldn't want to arrive there to share my bed with anyone and least of all with a man that wasn't my husband. Who's to know that they've just booked a number of rooms to cover xyz number of adults with no details of who is who.
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Post by chaosisapony on Feb 16, 2020 16:52:44 GMT
Hard pass for me. There is no way adults should be expected to share a bed on a work trip. That's totally unacceptable. If a roll away bed wasn't available and work wouldn't pay for another room I would opt out of the trip.
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Post by busy on Feb 16, 2020 16:53:34 GMT
Who booked the room?
Also, don’t be a martyr and “super grateful” to be going on a work trip, especially one that has a ridiculous setup like this. Do not pay extra out of your own pocket to be treated like a professional. I’d consider sharing a room with a person I know if we both CHOSE to do so. No way in hell should anyone be expected to share a room, and certainly not a bed, with someone they don’t know.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Feb 16, 2020 16:53:58 GMT
Why are you staying at The Plaza? That has to be one of the least affordable accommodations in NYC.
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Post by nlwilkins on Feb 16, 2020 16:54:29 GMT
Double beds are just not large enough to share with someone you are not intimate with. Check and see what the policy is for men - used to have to go on trip once a year for vocational homemaking. Three of us ladies were required to share a room. We were NOT strangers and we had king size beds for two to share. Then after years of this we discovered that the men who went on vocational training ALWAYS got individual rooms. It was like a slap in the face.
Sharing a double bed with a stranger is not a good idea. Three women getting ready to all go to the same meetings in the morning is not a good idea.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:56:40 GMT
That’s a hard no for me. There are other hotels that cost less than the plaza where attendees won’t have to share a bed. Oh no! We’re not actually staying at the Plaza. We’re at a Hampton Inn. I was joking about the Plaza.
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Post by elaine on Feb 16, 2020 16:56:47 GMT
I’d be fine sharing a room with 1 other person. It is a hard NO to sharing a bed with someone I’m not related to. That would be my line in the sand.
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Post by MichyM on Feb 16, 2020 16:56:51 GMT
I’ll be honest. I think it’s presumptuous to assume that people who don’t know each other are expected to share the same hotel room, let alone the same bed. No matter who your employer is. I’d be willing to bet that they don’t expect two men who don’t know each other will share a double bed.
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Post by Merge on Feb 16, 2020 16:57:15 GMT
Honestly, if they’re not willing to give each person her own room, I’d decline to attend. Between my introvert social anxiety and the general squeamishness of sharing a bed and bathroom with strangers, this would quickly cross into the realm of not worth it.
I’m still surprised that any district is willing to accept the liability of housing unrelated strangers together in 2020. That’s a big no no most places.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 16:57:47 GMT
Why are you staying at The Plaza? That has to be one of the least affordable accommodations in NYC. We’re not! It’s a Hampton Inn. I was just saying that I wasn’t expecting the Plaza!
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Post by christinec68 on Feb 16, 2020 16:58:21 GMT
That’s a hard no for me. There are other hotels that cost less than the plaza where attendees won’t have to share a bed. Oh no! We’re not actually staying at the Plaza. We’re at a Hampton Inn. I was joking about the Plaza. Oh ok...lol.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 17:03:45 GMT
So you don't actually know who these two strangers are that are going to share a room with you? How do you know they are going to be women? It says 3 adults on the booking - who is responsible to make sure that these 3 adults are actually the same gender. I'm damn sure I wouldn't want to arrive there to share my bed with anyone and least of all with a man that wasn't my husband. Who's to know that they've just booked a number of rooms to cover xyz number of adults with no details of who is who. I know their names. They are teachers at another school in the district. I internet stalked them. Good news is that THEY know each other. So maybe they’ll be more comfortable in the same bed. I could always act obnoxious and fart and pick my nose and tell them I like to spoon....
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Post by pilcas on Feb 16, 2020 17:06:35 GMT
Double beds are just not large enough to share with someone you are not intimate with. Check and see what the policy is for men - used to have to go on trip once a year for vocational homemaking. Three of us ladies were required to share a room. We were NOT strangers and we had king size beds for two to share. Then after years of this we discovered that the men who went on vocational training ALWAYS got individual rooms. It was like a slap in the face. Sharing a double bed with a stranger is not a good idea. Three women getting ready to all go to the same meetings in the morning is not a good idea. Wow! Talk about a double standard.
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Post by 950nancy on Feb 16, 2020 17:11:33 GMT
That’s weird. Most companies/districts don’t make (or even allow) people traveling for work to share rooms because of the potential liability. Honestly I’d go back to your admin and request your own room. No adult should be required to share intimate space with another non-family adult for work. ETA: NO. Do not buy into the “suffer for the kids” mantra. You are an adult professional and deserve to be treated like one. When I travel for a nonprofit, I always get my own hotel room. There is just something about educators that people think is okay to treat differently than many other professions. Ugh.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Feb 16, 2020 17:15:10 GMT
I would be paying for my own room or not going. Absolutely would not be sharing a room, much less a bed, with a total stranger! If that isn't an option, then I would contact the hotel ASAP and request a rollaway bed. Hotels don't have that many of them usually and you want to be high up on the request list. Unfortunately, the total cost for the room, including taxes, is $1902.79. I’m not going to pay that for a work trip. That price sounds ridiculous, even for NYC. Got to Google maps, type in hotels & the dates you will be at the conference. Then see what prices are being charged by the hotels in that area. Surely there is something close by that is much more affordable.
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