ashley
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Post by ashley on Feb 16, 2020 17:15:41 GMT
Can you ask for a cot in the room?
I stated paying for my own room when travelling for work. It gave me too much anxiety to deal with sharing a room and bathroom with a stranger. And I have also had to share a bed with a stranger before. It’s manageable, but added a whole layer of stress that I preferred not to deal with.
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Feb 16, 2020 17:17:02 GMT
That’s weird. Most companies/districts don’t make (or even allow) people traveling for work to share rooms because of the potential liability. Honestly I’d go back to your admin and request your own room. No adult should be required to share intimate space with another non-family adult for work. ETA: NO. Do not buy into the “suffer for the kids” mantra. You are an adult professional and deserve to be treated like one. I believe most companies provide separate rooms for their employees. But pretty much every school district I know still books double rooms when their employees attend conferences. It seems to be the norm and I was more surprised to learn years ago that it was NOT the norm for businesses.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2020 17:18:25 GMT
I’d be uncomfortable sharing a room with people I don’t know and sharing a bed would be a no go for me. Can you call the hotel and find out the cost for an extra cot? Maybe the three of you feel the same and would be willing to split the cost for it. On another note, I think the “doubles” they are referring to are “double queens”. Not much better, but at least it’s a bit larger of a bed.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2020 17:18:29 GMT
It's paid, not payed.
Paid refers to money. Payed is a boating term.
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 16, 2020 17:22:02 GMT
Your district is paying 1900ish dollars on a hotel room and you don’t know your roommates and you’re probably goi f to have to share a bed with a stranger??? That’s a lot of money to pay and not have enough individual beds! I would be making some calls tomorrow to get all the deets straight and get this resolved. I would be on the fence about sharing a room with strangers, but sharing a bed with strangers is a big old hell to the no from me.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 17:24:05 GMT
It's paid, not payed. Paid refers to money. Payed is a boating term. Ok. Thanks. I’ll go fix it. #grammarpolice
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katybee
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 17:26:44 GMT
Yeah...I just did a quick Trivago search and rooms are available for much less! The Plaza, FYI, is $750 a night. The penthouse is $32,000 a night.
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Post by Merge on Feb 16, 2020 17:28:27 GMT
That’s weird. Most companies/districts don’t make (or even allow) people traveling for work to share rooms because of the potential liability. Honestly I’d go back to your admin and request your own room. No adult should be required to share intimate space with another non-family adult for work. ETA: NO. Do not buy into the “suffer for the kids” mantra. You are an adult professional and deserve to be treated like one. I believe most companies provide separate rooms for their employees. But pretty much every school district I know still books double rooms when their employees attend conferences. It seems to be the norm and I was more surprised to learn years ago that it was NOT the norm for businesses. This is not the norm in either of the districts I worked for. It’s a huge liability. What if one employee does or says something inappropriate to the other? The district stands to be sued.
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Post by myshelly on Feb 16, 2020 17:29:28 GMT
You’re worried about not spending money on the kids, but whoever made these hotel reservations wasn’t too worried about that. They didn’t try very hard to get a good room rate.
We were in NYC for 10 days for spring break in a room with two queens, a couch, and a view of Central Park and our total was less that $1900.
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Post by katybee on Feb 16, 2020 17:34:51 GMT
You’re worried about not spending money on the kids, but whoever made these hotel reservations wasn’t too worried about that. They didn’t try very hard to get a good room rate. We were in NYC for 10 days for spring break in a room with two queens, a couch, and a view of Central Park and our total was less that $1900. Seriously—I just looked up the specific hotel on Trivago for the exact same days and it is almost HALF as much. This is the TRAVEL department of our district that made this reservation... WTF? I’m going to talk to my principal...
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Post by ~summer~ on Feb 16, 2020 17:36:09 GMT
I’m flabbergasted that people are expected to share a bed (even a room is super surprising). Would men be expected to share? What if you snore horribly? What if you are a lesbian? Does it make any difference? Seems like huge liability
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Post by psoccer on Feb 16, 2020 17:58:00 GMT
I know you say the money is could be "for the kids" but it is possible that your district received a grant and the use of the funds is earmarked for personal development and would not be used for the students. I am a teacher, and we have to share rooms, but not beds. We have had the option of having our own room, by paying the difference, generally there have been a limited amount of rooms. In the past, admin had their own rooms, but I believe they double up now, in our district.
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Post by summer on Feb 16, 2020 18:11:29 GMT
This is why I won’t travel for work. I am not sharing a room with a coworker and no way in hell am I sharing a bed with one! There is no way I would share a room or bed with a complete stranger. It’s absurd they would expect people to be ok with this situation. Luckily conferences are voluntary for my job. I will never go on one. I’m too much of an introvert and highly covet my space and solitude.
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Post by scrapmaven on Feb 16, 2020 18:29:09 GMT
I would be unwilling to share a room let alone a bed w/a complete stranger or really anyone other than my husband. I'd try to upgrade. Don't go if you don't feel comfortable.
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Feb 16, 2020 18:33:03 GMT
I wouldn't even share a double bed with my DH. We have a king sized bed at home and both need a lot of room when we sleep. When I book hotels, if I can't get a king room, we just each take a bed in a double/queen. No way I would be sharing a bed with a stranger. And I wouldn't be too thrilled with sharing a room with someone I didn't even know. I think I would pass on the whole trip.
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Feb 16, 2020 18:39:08 GMT
Honestly, I think this would rise to the level of a Title 9 or discrimination complaint. Call HR and find out what you can do about this. This is creating an “inhospitable” or “hostile” work environment by requiring you to share a bed with someone.
Note: Title 9 generally applies to students, and you are an extra employee, and I’m not sure this falls under the statute. But it should be prohibited under anti-sexual harassment laws or policies, so please check with HR.
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Post by tduby1 on Feb 16, 2020 18:45:05 GMT
Here’s the deal—I know we are a public institution and that if we use money for another room, that’s less money the kids will get. I just wonder if when my superintendent goes on a work trip, he has to share a bed? Of course he doesn’t. Nor should you. It is an unreasonable expectation.
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Post by snyder on Feb 16, 2020 18:52:44 GMT
Who made the reservation? I would be getting with that person and have them fix it. I can not think of a company that would require people to sleep with each other, especially strangers. As others said, sorry to much for my comfort zone and would bow out.
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Post by seaexplore on Feb 16, 2020 18:54:40 GMT
Here’s the deal—I know we are a public institution and that if we use money for another room, that’s less money the kids will get. I just wonder if when my superintendent goes on a work trip, he has to share a bed? Probably with his SO. As a fellow teacher three teachers/2 beds is absolutely NOT ok. I would question it with the district if you haven’t already. When the union sends people to conferences we always do one person per bed unless otherwise requested. Ie... spouses both going, one paid for the full room, etc.
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Post by julie5 on Feb 16, 2020 18:56:45 GMT
Not to mention 3 adult women that will all be getting ready at the same time sharing one bathroom. Gross/funny story-on my daughters last band thing there was 5 girls in a double room. She was worried about shower rotation at bedtime and they said she could have it and 2 of them would bathe in the morning before rehearsals. They were there two full days and nights and those two girl never did bathe! My daughter was happy for bathroom time but a little grossed out by it!
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Post by snyder on Feb 16, 2020 18:58:10 GMT
Here’s the deal—I know we are a public institution and that if we use money for another room, that’s less money the kids will get. I just wonder if when my superintendent goes on a work trip, he has to share a bed? There are budgets and your travel money budget will not be transferred to the benefit of the kids. I worked for local government and a budget transfer required an acto fo congress to transfer. They just send someone else to a conference because that budget still has money remaining, so I wouldn't worry about that part for the sake of your sanity of sleeping with a stranger.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 16, 2020 19:08:45 GMT
LOL if I couldn’t get things changed so I’d at least have my own bed, I’d be packing a twin sized Aerobed in my luggage! I wouldn’t have a problem sharing a room, which I’ve done lots of times, but I wouldn’t want to sleep in the same bed with someone I totally didn’t know.
FWIW, it’s not only educators that are subjected to sharing rooms for work trips, or women for that matter. My niece’s DH is a manager of an automotive repair place who has to go on work training trips sometimes and he routinely gets put in a double room (two beds) with another guy.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 16, 2020 19:09:19 GMT
I would be calling in sick that day. Unbelievable! No man, ever, would be asked to do this.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 16, 2020 19:22:35 GMT
Women excusing unprofessional bullshit like this is the reason it continues. You're not doing it for the children. The money for this type of stuff is separate from money going for student education. No way would I be okay with this, nor would I NOT push back.
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Post by MichyM on Feb 16, 2020 19:40:56 GMT
I'm circling back to this because it's been on my mind since my earlier post. I don't know what else to add, this is just all sorts of wrong. And I don't care WHO you work for. It would be one thing if you and a buddy wanted and agreed to share a room for fun. But to be EXPECTED to share a room and/or bed with a stranger is just too much. I don't care HOW much I wanted to go to a work conference (and I've been on several), I would simply pass. Boom. Done.
If you really want to go, and would consider paying for your own room, let us know what area of the city you want to be in, we can probably find something priced a LOT better.
Just a FYI, I typically stay with my son when I visit (done AirBnB a couple of times recently as well), but my upcoming trip I'm staying at the CitizenM midtown for under $200 per night. Food for thought.
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Post by scrapngranny on Feb 16, 2020 19:53:50 GMT
Could you ask for a roll away bed. At least you won’t have to share a bed. I don’t like to even share a room with someone.
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Post by scrappinmama on Feb 16, 2020 19:58:13 GMT
I wouldn't share a hotel room with someone I don't know very well, let alone a bed. I would pay for my own room.
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Post by busy on Feb 16, 2020 19:58:19 GMT
Please don’t set the precedent that if they have completely unprofessional expectations about accommodations - like sharing beds - that staff will just pay for their own accommodations. You’ll be doing every teacher in your district a disservice.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Feb 16, 2020 20:07:27 GMT
I’m flabbergasted that people are expected to share a bed (even a room is super surprising). Would men be expected to share? What if you snore horribly? What if you are a lesbian? Does it make any difference? Seems like huge liability WTF? So what if anyone is a lesbian? ?
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Feb 16, 2020 20:09:38 GMT
How many nights are you there? $1900 at a Hampton Inn is ridiculous.
I’ve shared a room with women I didn’t know well back in my non-profit days, but there’s no way I would do that now. And I did know these women and we somewhat got to choose who we roomed with. I can’t imagine sharing with a stranger.
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