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Post by imkat on Apr 3, 2020 21:08:09 GMT
My mom just died. We are working through the arrangements. She is being cremated without a funeral for the time being.
How do people typically post obituaries? We wrote a somewhat lengthy version to capture her spirit. The newspaper wants $2000 to post it to their website for just a few days. It does not look like we can post directly through Legacy.com
Thanks for any help you can provide.
**** UPDATED ****
I wanted to thank everyone who sent their condolences. I really appreciate it.
I wanted to let everyone know what we did in case it helps someone in the future. We were not working through a full service funeral home, since my mom was cremated. We will have a service later in the summer when we are able at her church, and they put a death notice in the weekly bulletin (if anyone sees that now). We also did a full obituary and unlimited photos via Tributes.com for $50. It would have been just $20 with only one photo. After talking it through with my dad, he decided not to do an obituary of any size in the local paper because we just weren't sure who would actually read it. I hope this helps someone in the future.
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Post by yivit on Apr 3, 2020 21:09:59 GMT
Try the funeral home you are working through for the cremation. They usually have a site that they post to (be it their own site or into legacy). I've never incurred a charge when doing it that way.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by used2scrap on Apr 3, 2020 21:10:49 GMT
I’m sorry. The funeral home has always helped do this in my experiences.
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Post by lisae on Apr 3, 2020 21:11:39 GMT
Just wanted to extend my sympathies. It is particularly sad to not be able to say your goodbyes right now. I can't help with your question and can only be flabbergasted by that amount of money for an obit. I can see why you are looking at other options.
I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Apr 3, 2020 21:13:31 GMT
If you're using a funeral home or crematorium, they often provide an online forum for the obituary to be placed. Did your mom have a place of worship? Community/volunteer groups or other affiliations for organizations that she was involved in? Those may also be worth exploring.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by librarylady on Apr 3, 2020 21:14:33 GMT
Try the funeral home you are working through for the cremation. They usually have a site that they post to (be it their own site or into legacy). I've never incurred a charge when doing it that way. I'm so sorry for your loss. ^^^^
This has been my experience. The funeral home should help you with the obituary--perhaps help you shorten it, which cuts down on the cost.
When my mother died, we gave the funeral home a list of newspapers in which we wanted the death to be listed. That was also during the time when newspapers were the main location for obituaries. (1999)
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Post by tanya2 on Apr 3, 2020 21:14:33 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Apr 3, 2020 21:17:13 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. When my mom passed away 4 years ago, she was cremated as well. I took care of the obituary notices in two different newspapers, writing it out myself and attaching a photo. Each newspaper had their own guidelines and cost for submission. When my father passed, it was a regular burial and the funeral home handled the obituary. It was included with the burial services they provided.
Not sure where you are located, or which newspaper, but $2,000 seems excessive. I spent less than $200 total for submissions to those two newspapers. Check with the funeral home handling the details and see what options they offer.
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Post by mimima on Apr 3, 2020 21:19:51 GMT
I'm so sorry. Memory Eternal.
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Post by psoccer on Apr 3, 2020 21:21:20 GMT
When my parents passed away, they both had lengthy obituaries. I believe that they were both close to 500 dollars, or more. It was several years ago. We were lucky to be in the position to pay it, but it really was an awful feeling because we just felt gouged, but, like you, we wanted our parents spirit to be reflected. I am so sorry that your are going through this.
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Post by scrapngranny on Apr 3, 2020 21:21:37 GMT
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mom.
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Post by kate on Apr 3, 2020 21:22:23 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss, especially during these already-trying times.
Could you write a shorter one for the paper that tells the reader to go to legacy.com (or whatever site is used by your funeral home)?
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Post by koontz on Apr 3, 2020 21:23:14 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by Linda on Apr 3, 2020 21:30:47 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Different newspapers have different pricing - so if there are other newspaper options in your area, check around. Some do a flat rate, some by the column inch. You might need a shorter one for the newspaper and share the longer one elsewhere
The funeral home may post the obituary on their website.
You could post on FB or a neighbourhood page, a church newsletter/bulletin, her college may have a publication that it would be appropriate for or her professional organisation?
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Post by purplebee on Apr 3, 2020 21:37:47 GMT
Sorry for your loss, second the suggestion to check with the funeral home.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Apr 3, 2020 21:40:17 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by compeateropeator on Apr 3, 2020 21:41:35 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss.
I just went through this in October for my best friend. We published a very short obituary in the paper with pertinent information and included a link to the complete obituary on the funeral home/crematorium’s site . They allowed us ( as do most I believe) to post an obituary of any length and we could add more than one picture. It cost me about 250.00 I think. People could leave condolences on either the newspaper obit or on the one posted on the crematorium’s site.
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Post by lucyg on Apr 3, 2020 21:44:31 GMT
I’m sorry for your loss. This is such a difficult time.
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Post by stingfan on Apr 3, 2020 21:44:58 GMT
The newspaper price was outrageous when I tried to have one printed for my bil. So we just skipped it. We posted on FB and the funeral home site. FB and social media really got the word out better than any newspaper could have, IMHO.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Apr 3, 2020 21:45:48 GMT
I don't know the answer to your question, but wanted to express my condolences. I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by calgaryscrapper on Apr 3, 2020 21:51:13 GMT
When family members of ours passed away we did the obituary through the funeral home. They indicated they got a discount versus us putting it in ourselves. What I am seeing right now is a smaller obituary with more information online at the funeral home’s website. I think we paid just over 500 dollars for the last one. It might cost more on the weekend.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2020 21:58:43 GMT
Obituaries are expensive. Post just the facts you want.
You don’t have to list every grandchild, Niece/ nephew, cousin. Friend....
Mary smith passed March 30, she was 80.
Join us at website ( ?)for rememberances.
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Post by librarylady on Apr 3, 2020 22:16:30 GMT
Your funeral home will probably suggest this--but I echo the recommendation for putting a very short obit in the paper and link it to the funeral home site (which will use Legacy or something similar).
When my mother died, we had the range of "free is she lives in the community" to $500 for a 3 line obit...and then a fee per line after that.
Get the guidance of the funeral home.
Again, my condolences to you and your family.
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Post by laurasw on Apr 3, 2020 22:23:39 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss :-(
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Post by snyder on Apr 3, 2020 22:24:06 GMT
Sorry about the loss of your mom. Praying for you to have strength to navigate the days ahead and may her memories always make your heart smile. In regards to the obit, most all newspapers now charge a horrendous amount for obits. Even if the funeral home does it, the price is passed on as a charge to the cost of the funeral services you utilize. I would see if the funeral home as a website they will publish her obit. I know our local paper is around $200 for a fairly simple obit for 1 day. {{{hugs}}}
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Post by Skellinton on Apr 3, 2020 22:29:01 GMT
I am sorry for your loss.
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Post by theshyone on Apr 4, 2020 0:36:39 GMT
I’m so sorr6 for your loss. I faced this same decision two years ago when my sister passed. We just used the funeral home obit.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 4, 2020 0:40:40 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by destined2bmom on Apr 4, 2020 0:53:28 GMT
I am so very sorry for the loss of your mother. Please accept my deepest sympathies.
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Post by tiffanyr on Apr 4, 2020 1:10:31 GMT
My uncle passed March 17. We did a graveside burial and will do a memorial service after the restrictions are lifted. The funeral home posted his obituary on their website. We debated about posting in the paper but they wanted over $800 for it. We just shared the funeral home obit on Facebook.
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