Belle
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Post by Belle on Apr 22, 2020 21:41:37 GMT
Just wondering when it will be okay to get together with family and how we will know it is okay? Will the governors give us the green light?
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Post by myshelly on Apr 22, 2020 21:42:52 GMT
We already are 🤷🏻‍♀️ so clearly I feel comfortable with it.
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snyder
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Post by snyder on Apr 22, 2020 21:54:26 GMT
I would think it would depend on what I know about the family member. If I know they are out there running around to crowded areas often, I would stay clear of them, but like my mom, I've been in the home with only 2 grocery pick ups and one run to meet a person for some paper work, so I feel I'm pretty safe as it has been almost 2 weeks since the last grocery run. Mom mom as gone nowhere, so I would feel comfortable going to see her.
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Post by epeanymous on Apr 22, 2020 21:54:27 GMT
I don't want to kill my elderly parents, particularly my elderly-battling-cancer father.
I am keeping an eye on recommendations. I trust our governor, and I am pretty reconciled to the fact that there may end up being a much longer stay-at-home order for elderly people (and medically at-risk people) than for non-elderly people.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2020 22:01:48 GMT
My DH runs a construction company with 100 employees. He comes home & lives in the house with me. I assume if he has been exposed, I am too. I have 4 grandkids ages 5 & under. I had been providing daycare to 2 of them until their mom went to work at home. My son works with my DH so he is exposed to whatever my DH is. I assume that when my DIL’s company goes back to the office, I’ll have those 2 full time.
My other 2 grandkids.. mama is a NICU nurse. I go by there house on Sundays, deliver baked goodies & little fun things. We wave as they stand on the porch & I stand on the curb. We do air hugs & blow kisses.
I can’t tell you how much my heart hurts that I can’t see my sweethearts.
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Post by dewryce on Apr 22, 2020 22:07:25 GMT
I would think it would depend on what I know about the family member. If I know they are out there running around to crowded areas often, I would stay clear of them, but like my mom, I've been in the home with only 2 grocery pick ups and one run to meet a person for some paper work, so I feel I'm pretty safe as it has been almost 2 weeks since the last grocery run. Mom mom as gone nowhere, so I would feel comfortable going to see her. This is where we are. My entire side of the family that I am close with is high risk, as are we. And DH works in a nursing home so it’ll be a while. DH’s side mostly isn’t high risk, and I know they won’t follow the guidelines as strictly as we do, nor will they be as cautious as we will when the guidelines are relaxed. Which is fine, but it does mean we won’t go visit them for a while. As far as when we are “allowed?” I live in Texas so, you know, probably tomorrow.
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Post by mayceesgranny on Apr 22, 2020 22:15:08 GMT
Idk when is going to be safe. Half of the adults in my family are fortunate to work at home and the other half is still going to work. So we have those exposure concerns, plus DH and are in the higher risk groups ( diabetics).
We were so excited because each of my 3 kids were having a baby this year and we couldn't wait to introduce them to each other and have a "cousin crew".
I have 2 new granddaughters ( 1 is 3 months old and another 1 week old) and a grandson that is due on June 15. I was able to spend some time with the 3 month old before the stay at home order, and I had a brief meet up with the 1 week old. Its killing this grandma to miss out on baby snuggles!
The rest of the family has not met the newest baby and I have no idea when will all be together again. Normally my children, their spouses, and their children all end up at my house about once a month for either a holiday or a birthday celebration. We are missing each other greatly.
Snapchat and facetime help, but don't make up for the physical connection. I hope and pray for a cure or a vaccine so we can feel comfortable having everyone together again.
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tracylynn
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Post by tracylynn on Apr 22, 2020 22:24:32 GMT
I have asthma, so am high risk. My parents are 64 and 65.
We actually had plans for them to come over for a couple of days next week. We've both been staying as safe as possible, only going out for essentials, doing curbside when we can, etc.
I had some reservations, but not enough to tell them they shouldn't come, because it's been awhile since I saw them and I wanted them to come. Well, yesterday we found out my Grandpa and wife, who live in an assisted living home, both tested positive as of Saturday. The good thing is, neither has any symptoms. The bad thing is, no one can talk to him because he's messed up their phone (cordless) and no one at the home can figure it out and visitors have been banned for a month. I think my Dad must have been having some reservations as well, because after this news (it's his Dad) he decided it wasn't worth it and he didn't want to put me at risk by coming and being in my home.
There's part of me somewhat relieved, and another part that sat down and had a good cry over it to be honest.
They live about a 5.5 hr drive from me and we actually are going to drive and meet half way. They have stuff for me, and vice versa. So, we're going to meet, exchange, social distance and be on our way.
I normally would go over to their house on Memorial Day weekend, but I'll skip that this year. I have a 2 week vacation planned for July where I was just going to go hang out with them at their house (they have a pool and are retired!). That is still on the books. I plan on being there. That will mark 10-11 weeks from now.
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Post by muggins on Apr 22, 2020 22:27:52 GMT
My daughter, sister, parents, and in laws are all in the U.K. we won’t be seeing anyone until it’s safe to fly.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2020 22:32:17 GMT
I would like to do a family dinner for mother's day but that is going to largely depend on how my mom is feeling. Getting a cancer treatment plan has been extremely slow right now. They're only moving forward because of her symptoms.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Apr 22, 2020 22:39:14 GMT
I am not sure when I will feel comfortable getting together with my family. My parents have health issues--my dad has heart disease and diabetes. My mom has rheumatoid arthritis and takes an immune suppressing drug. My sister's husband is medically fragile due to a massive stroke he had two years ago this month.
So I just don't know.
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Post by christine58 on Apr 22, 2020 22:45:26 GMT
Well my family threw caution to the wind a little over a week ago when my nephews first born baby died shortly after birth. There was no way in hell I was not going to hug him or his wife or my brother or my sister-in-law. We had a very small funeral and I hugged his other grandma. I think sometimes you just have to say screw it. I’ve been very cautious up to this point as they have also.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 22, 2020 22:47:17 GMT
We already are 🤷🏻‍♀️ so clearly I feel comfortable with it. Me too.
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psiluvu
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Post by psiluvu on Apr 22, 2020 22:48:13 GMT
My mother is in a long term care home 3 hours from me. I last saw her on February 28 and I think it will be many more months before I can actually touch/hug her again. I am hoping to do a window visit with her in Mid May when I am comfortable I can make the 6 hour drive and be able to find a washroom to use on the way. My brothers wife works in long term care so they are being very careful about who they see so it will probably be a while before I see himm too. My dh's family is a 4 hour plane ride away so we usually only see them every couple of years anyways.
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Post by peabay on Apr 22, 2020 22:56:57 GMT
I'm taking guidance from officials and watching the numbers myself. I don't know when it will be but I'm not comfortable yet.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 22, 2020 23:15:58 GMT
Depends on the family member. My mom, who has been quarantining for about a week longer than we have, will be soon. MIL who once intentionally breathed directly in my face (while she had a cold) the day after my medication infusion that lessens my immune system, not for a long while.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Apr 22, 2020 23:21:33 GMT
I drove to my one sisters house and she came to her window near her driveway and we talked for a while—she stayed inside sitting at the window and me in my car in the driveway. It was awesome!
My other sibling has stopped her to pick up masks a few times.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2020 23:30:23 GMT
It depends.
I told dad if he goes to the casinos, lick the fucking machines. We won’t go near him and he better stay away from the duchess.
We will go see the duchess. She never leaves her house.
Son comes to see us already.
Daughter is in dc and works with 3/4 y/os. They have parents who travel a lot. I am not sure when we will see hear.
The rest of the family, oh shit no. My side are dumb fuck rednecks, his side are dumb fuck trumpdites. Both sides believe this won’t kill them.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 22, 2020 23:41:39 GMT
I don't want to kill my elderly parents, particularly my elderly-battling-cancer father. I am keeping an eye on recommendations. I trust our governor, and I am pretty reconciled to the fact that there may end up being a much longer stay-at-home order for elderly people (and medically at-risk people) than for non-elderly people. I watched a lot of the press conference today and I am in awe so how he handles himself in general with the press asking the same things over and over and over again. And I appreciate that he’s become much less shy about bringing to light the shortfalls and shortcomings of our country’s leader. He was also very (unnecessarily) generous when talking about Franklin Co, and the Sheriff In Snohomish Co. in answer to the OP. My son lives on the opposite coast so I can’t really use him as an example, cuz it’s clear we won’t be seeing each other for a very long time. As far as getting together with close friends I’d say in a month for things such as a walk in a group of 4 or less. Maybe a group of 4-6 for a picnic at a park (where we all bring our own food and own blanket to sit on), And maybe something like have a friend or 2 over for drinks on my (private) terrace. These would be friends who also have been also self quarantining stringently and who are not working face to face with others. Beyond that, only time will tell.
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Post by jennifercw on Apr 22, 2020 23:55:24 GMT
We have been over to my parents house several times in the past couple of weeks.
Neither of them has left their home in over 5 weeks. (gosh it feels like SOOOO much longer than that) My husband was the last one to leave our home and that was a grocery store/costco run on March 21. Once EVERYONE in my family had quarantined two weeks (not individually, but as a family unit) we had a serious conversation with my parents and they really wanted us to come over. Being so isolated has been mentally tough on them - especially my mom.
We take our temperatures before going over and wash our hands well immediately upon entering their house. No hugs/kisses. They are in overall good health. We are being cautious - but we are all aware that there is still a tiny risk. Both households have groceries delivered, both households bring in the mail, they have workers rebuilding their back deck...
At some point my husband is going to have to leave the house again for work. And possibly my daughter. Once that happens the visits will stop until/unless we can all four isolate/quarantine again for another 14 days.
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Post by Tammiem2pnc1 on Apr 23, 2020 0:04:08 GMT
I'm not sure when I will feel safe. My dad isn't in great health. He has congestive heart failure is is dementia and I don't think I could live with myself if I made him sick somehow. I'm also very high risk and we've been isolated in our home as much as possible. DH goes to the grocery store once every 2 weeks and I have to go for my infusions every 2 weeks. I'm sure my sister will be the first one to visit my dad, she is taking it seriously, but I think she will be more easily convinced that it is safe before I will. She is a daddy's girl and can't stand not seeing him all this time. I talk to him on the phone a few times a week and right now that is enough for me. I'd rather just have that than not have him at all.
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Post by huskermom98 on Apr 23, 2020 1:09:46 GMT
When my parents feel comfortable with it, we'll get together.
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MaryMary
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Post by MaryMary on Apr 23, 2020 1:12:44 GMT
I have no idea, but I know I am not there yet. Not even close.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Apr 23, 2020 1:30:51 GMT
Well I'm always uncomfortable around DH's relatives!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 23, 2020 1:42:22 GMT
The thing is any one of us could have it and not know it and spread it to others who have health conditions. DH is in an essential business and has been working pretty much every day he would normally work. He’s been somewhat slower than usual with the virus around because most people don’t want anyone coming in if they can help it, so they are only making appointments for things that are absolutely necessary. He’s also been making the occasional Costco runs for our family. I’ve been out to Target twice since early March and will need to go again at some point soon because Costco doesn’t sell everything we need. I don’t see most of my family much anyway under normal circumstances so I’m not in a hurry to see them now. When I made some masks for my brothers I put them outside and one did a porch pickup, same with some wall vinyl I cut for a friend. Turns out my one brother who has COPD has been going DAILY to pick up the free food the school district has been passing out for students because his former SO’s high school aged grandkid has been staying with him attending school in that district. The same kid has been sneaking out at night to hang out with his buddies to play soccer and ride bikes. I’m not feeling a strong desire to hang out with him as a result. Now my sister and BIL who live in TN is another story. They were in town recently because his mom had come home from the hospital and then passed away. She did come in the house but basically didn’t come close to any of us or stay very long. They want to come up here for two weeks this summer and they normally stay with us when they visit which we love. I’m not sure if they are coming or not until it gets closer. On the one hand, their area is pretty rampant with Covid infections/deaths, much more so than what we have here. Her DS works retail and has already missed two weeks of work because a coworker had Covid, DDIL works from home for now but they have a toddler that my sister helps them take care of sometimes so they’re not totally quarantined. It will suck if they can’t come, but it would suck more if they did and inadvertently brought that funk along with them, or if they came here and got it from one of us.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 23, 2020 1:43:24 GMT
Well I'm always uncomfortable around DH's relatives! Ha ha! All of us are, including DH! It’s a good excuse NOT to see my DH’s family, LOL.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Apr 23, 2020 1:59:51 GMT
Honestly, we are all self-isolating and working from home or retired and not going out so I would feel comfortable seeing my parents and my brother's family now. We aren't but if restrictions loosen, we will probably see them in the next month or two. Time will tell I suppose. My parents have a pool so come summer, I think they will be stuck with us a bit
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Post by jackietex on Apr 23, 2020 2:08:52 GMT
I'm not currently seeing local family, though that's pretty par for the course. If we all get to Michigan in July, I don't see a way that I'll be able to avoid them.
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Post by scrappintoee on Apr 23, 2020 2:11:02 GMT
intentionally breathed directly in my face (while she had a cold) the day after my medication infusion that lessens my immune system You're on a med that lessens your immune system and she did that intentionally, when she had a COLD? Does she have some horrible grudge against you? What did you say? Since it was your MIL, did your DH say anything to her?
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hannahruth
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Post by hannahruth on Apr 23, 2020 2:16:28 GMT
Well my family threw caution to the wind a little over a week ago when my nephews first born baby died shortly after birth. There was no way in hell I was not going to hug him or his wife or my brother or my sister-in-law. We had a very small funeral and I hugged his other grandma. I think sometimes you just have to say screw it. I’ve been very cautious up to this point as they have also. I'm so sorry to Harare of your family's loss. Like you I would have done the same thing. Sometimes rules just have to be bent a little.
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