scrapngranny
Pearl Clutcher
Only slightly senile
Posts: 4,821
Jun 25, 2014 23:21:30 GMT
|
Post by scrapngranny on Apr 23, 2020 2:52:38 GMT
I would feel comfortable getting together now with my DD now. She and her family have been completely quarantined like DH and I. I would be more cautious. He and his wife are both essential workers, so the risk is a little higher. His wife is a RN, but in management, not worth with patients, but at the hospital. I have seen DS, but in our front yard at a 6 foot distance.
I miss them all.
|
|
sueg
Prolific Pea
Posts: 8,409
Location: Munich
Apr 12, 2016 12:51:01 GMT
|
Post by sueg on Apr 23, 2020 5:48:39 GMT
I'm in Europe, all my family is in Australia. We won't see each other again until long-distance travels opens up. I'm not expecting that to be before Christmas 2021. I have an elderly, high-risk dad and a 13 month old granddaughter - it's not easy knowing that.
|
|
|
Post by miominmio on Apr 23, 2020 6:26:21 GMT
I see my niece at least once every week. (She’s an instructor, and gives DD show jumping lessons). I see my mom every week as well. We’re going to celebrate DD’s birthday in May with family like we always do (with the exception of MIL, who is in a nursing home and is very frail, oh, and not BIL either, but that is because he has finally burnt the last bridge). I should probably add that the rate of new cases has been declining for a month here, and that school is starting up on Monday (or perhaps «starting to start up» is more accurate, since it is only year 1-4 that will start first).
|
|
|
Post by littlemama on Apr 23, 2020 12:31:21 GMT
intentionally breathed directly in my face (while she had a cold) the day after my medication infusion that lessens my immune system You're on a med that lessens your immune system and she did that intentionally, when she had a COLD? Does she have some horrible grudge against you? What did you say? Since it was your MIL, did your DH say anything to her? So, she was standing behind me while I was sitting on the couch and I said, I can feel you breathing on me, can you please move (nicely). She then breathed really hard on me. And, yes, I ended up with the worst cold I've ever had. It was during a family birthday party, so I didn't say much, but DH called her once I got sick and explained to her again why that was not amusing and that it would never happen again. She has been much better about it since then, but it still sticks in my craw.
In her "defense", she is one of those people who gets a cold and thinks it is a "sinus infection" and runs to the doctor for unnecessary antibiotics.
|
|
|
Post by sasha on Apr 23, 2020 12:38:56 GMT
i had a dream the other night that it was Thanksgiving and I said to my boyfriend, "I guess we won't be having Thanksgiving."
It's so hard. I am close with my brother, his wife, niece/nephew and all of their significant others. We've had 2 birthdays since quarantine and no family parties like we always have. And my mom, who lives close to me, is 80 and had quad bypass last June. At one point she said, "You can come over, we just have to keep our distance." But my God if I came over, was a carrier, didn't know it, she got it and died, I would never be able to forgive myself. I probably won't feel comfortable being in her presence until this is pretty much done!
|
|
paigepea
Drama Llama
Enter your message here...
Posts: 5,609
Location: BC, Canada
Jun 26, 2014 4:28:55 GMT
|
Post by paigepea on Apr 23, 2020 12:42:51 GMT
I worry about anyone in my immediate family being asymptomatic around my parents. The girls and I haven’t been close to anyone since Mar 15 but we go for walks, had a personal appt at school to pick up items. Dh is the one doing the shopping and he goes to work and showers / washes clothes upon getting home. When we drop groceries for my parents we talk on the drive way with us in the car and them away on the walkway. My dad’s 80th is May 12 and I’m going to decide if I can take a cake to their yard and have us be together from a distance. We aren’t going into their house anytime soon.
|
|
artbabe
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 3,348
Jun 26, 2014 1:59:10 GMT
|
Post by artbabe on Apr 23, 2020 12:45:43 GMT
I miss my nephews horribly. It is killing me.
I see my dad every day. We both live alone and the only place we go is to the grocery store, so I feel comfortable with that.
My sister only goes to the grocery store, too. My nephews go back and forth between my sister's house and my brother-in-law's house (a story in itself). He works for Fed Ex. There is the problem. If it weren't for him I would be comfortable seeing the kids now. But I'm afraid he will get it at his job and give it to the kids and the kids give it to me and I give it to my dad. Dad is 80, in good health, but I sure as heck am not going to do anything that will kill him.
|
|
|
Post by cakediva on Apr 23, 2020 12:59:10 GMT
DS works in a grocery store. So he is more exposed than the rest of the family.
My mom is on her own, 75 and as she says "healthy, so why should I shop during senior hour" ugh. But I'm not ready to expose her to DS regularly.
My oldest we saw yesterday, briefly. We dropped a care package off for her and her girlfriend. They are being super serious about it, haven't left their apartment for weeks, other than to check on the girlfriend's horse that she boards at a barn nearby.
My middle one is homeless as of April 30th, and is job hunting this way (she's currently 3 hours away). She's moving in here on Sunday - yay! She has been working from home, as has her boyfriend, and only hitting the grocery store once a week/every other week. So we're not worried about it. But it can't be helped. She has nowhere else to move to.
|
|
|
Post by peachiceteas on Apr 23, 2020 13:01:49 GMT
As soon as official advice gives the OK, we'll see our families.
|
|
|
Post by peano on Apr 23, 2020 13:18:37 GMT
I have to fly to visit my father who just turned 84 yesterday so it's going to be a long time. One of my biggest anxieties is that we won't see each other again.
|
|
keithurbanlovinpea
Pearl Clutcher
Flowing with the go...
Posts: 4,301
Jun 29, 2014 3:29:30 GMT
|
Post by keithurbanlovinpea on Apr 23, 2020 13:20:44 GMT
I am willing to see family whenever they are comfortable seeing us. DH is working outside of the home so he's our point of infection if it happens. We see his brother on occasion, plus my kids (which I realize also connects us to their dad, his wife and his stepson). DH's parents will probably be a no-go for awhile. They are not high risk but in their 70s, so it will be up to them when they are comfortable.
|
|
|
Post by gar on Apr 23, 2020 13:45:17 GMT
As soon as official advice gives the OK, we'll see our families. I think that's about where I am. And when trips for things other than food and exercise aren't called 'unnecessary'.
|
|
|
Post by gar on Apr 23, 2020 13:46:00 GMT
One of my biggest anxieties is that we won't see each other again. I'm sure you will ((hugs))
|
|
|
Post by peano on Apr 23, 2020 13:58:55 GMT
One of my biggest anxieties is that we won't see each other again. I'm sure you will ((hugs)) Thank you Gar. I'm not having a good day and that meant a lot.
|
|
|
Post by peachiceteas on Apr 23, 2020 14:42:26 GMT
As soon as official advice gives the OK, we'll see our families. I think that's about where I am. And when trips for things other than food and exercise aren't called 'unnecessary'. I feel quite grateful that we are united as a nation, and that the government advice applies to all of us - regardless of what country or county you live in the UK.
|
|
|
Post by peachiceteas on Apr 23, 2020 14:53:35 GMT
Scrap that @gar - I realised that statement isn't actually true - particularly with the news today that the Scottish Government are going it alone and potentially lifting lockdown early.
This is why I stay out of politics!
|
|
luvnlifelady
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,428
Jun 26, 2014 2:34:35 GMT
|
Post by luvnlifelady on Apr 23, 2020 15:29:57 GMT
Not sure. I had planned to go see my adult kids in CA in March but had to cancel that. My son gets asthma pretty badly if he gets sick and therefore has barely left the house in 5 weeks. I would love to see them but will wait until things are open so we have someplace to go together and by then, my son might feel more comfortable also. Their dad (who they live with) still goes to the office some and sees his gf (who has friends over) but I would still hold back on any visits so as not to risk getting him sick. I am returning to work at Panera next week so that obviously heightens my risk so that's another reason to not to travel to see them yet.
|
|
|
Post by gar on Apr 23, 2020 15:50:50 GMT
Scrap that @gar - I realised that statement isn't actually true - particularly with the news today that the Scottish Government are going it alone and potentially lifting lockdown early. This is why I stay out of politics! Are they? I saw she was talking about how it might be done but I didn't catch that they're doing it on their own timetable. It wouldn't surprise me though - she's all about Scotland being independent in any way, shape or form.
|
|
freebird
Drama Llama
'cause I'm free as a bird now
Posts: 6,927
Jun 25, 2014 20:06:48 GMT
|
Post by freebird on Apr 23, 2020 16:27:34 GMT
Now.
I see my sons and their wives.
|
|
|
Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 23, 2020 16:42:11 GMT
If I had healthy family members close, now. Unfortunately my family is a plane ride away and not in great health. I'm really hoping we can see my parents this summer.
|
|
|
Post by 950nancy on Apr 23, 2020 16:43:56 GMT
Our state is slowly opening back up starting on Monday. They are giving some previously closed businesses the go ahead to do curbside delivery at first (4 days). They have been asked to prepare for 50% of capacity. Stores will then be allowed to open to the public on that Friday. In that same speech, the governor was pretty darn clear that we need to stay away from grandparents. He said we still need to protect them so they are around for their next birthday. If stores are opening back up, it would seem even more important to stay away from the elderly and other compromised people.
|
|
|
Post by mellowyellow on Apr 23, 2020 16:47:31 GMT
We've seen our daughter and then DH is flying out of state to help DS move home from the Navy. I'm concerned about him flying but trying to reason with him is futile. We have all been pretty much quarantined. My mother lives out of state and my dad is currently quarantined in his retirement community so we will see him as soon as it's safe.
|
|
|
Post by padresfan619 on Apr 23, 2020 16:51:02 GMT
I’m still working very part time where I’m exposed to different people so unfortunately it will be a long time until I feel comfortable being around family. I just can’t chance it.
|
|
|
Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 23, 2020 16:51:09 GMT
Our state is slowly opening back up starting on Monday. They are giving some previously closed businesses the go ahead to do curbside delivery at first (4 days). They have been asked to prepare for 50% of capacity. Stores will then be allowed to open to the public on that Friday. In that same speech, the governor was pretty darn clear that we need to stay away from grandparents. He said we still need to protect them so they are around for their next birthday. If stores are opening back up, it would seem even more important to stay away from the elderly and other compromised people. I think the move will continue to be what can we do to protect the most vulnerable. The statistics are very, very clear that age and underlying health issues make an exponential difference on not only mortality by hospital rates.
|
|
|
Post by mrssmith on Apr 23, 2020 19:21:58 GMT
I've seen my mom at the front of my house. In terms of a sit down in person gathering, I don't see it happening until June at the earliest. And then maybe only my mom & stepdad, not them plus cousins plus siblings, etc.
|
|
|
Post by birukitty on Apr 23, 2020 19:55:47 GMT
I don't think I'll feel comfortable seeing my parents (both of who are 80 years old) or my sister (who has several health issues and is immune compromised) for a very long time. It won't be when officials like our governor say it's safe even though I like the governor we have now-I just don't trust the authorities at this point. So much regarding this issue is unknown. It's just not worth it to me to endanger my family and pass the virus to them. If 60% of the sailors on that Navy ship that were tested had the virus but showed no symptoms that says to me that anyone of us could have it, be carrying it and walking around symptom free. It's just not worth it to me although I miss my family terribly.
But, I got to see my Dad yesterday all by chance. I had to go to the locally owned pharmacy in town that I use to pick up a prescription yesterday (my first day out since this whole thing started) and as I'm waiting outside the door (they do curbside pickup) I'm looking around, and sitting on a little wall behind me is an older gentleman also waiting and I realize in a second it's my father. I felt joy fill my body and I said, "Dad! I've missed you so much." Honestly it's felt like 6 months instead of just the 2 since I'd been over at my parent's house. Sorry, forgot to mention that they live 15 minutes away from me in the same town.
We stood outside of the pharmacy for 20 minutes (it was really cold) 6 feet apart with our masks on getting caught up and just happy to be together again. I know we can set up meetings like this in the future but given the situation we both don't feel it's safe. Better to be safe than sorry.
|
|
|
Post by travelsoul on Apr 23, 2020 20:48:19 GMT
This weekend is supposed to be super hot in Southern California. My mom is warming up her pool and said we can come swimming. I told her that I am not ready yet. I am working from home but my husband is in construction and out and about every day. So although I’d love to see my mom... I think it’s safer to stay away for now.
|
|
|
Post by shevy on Apr 23, 2020 20:59:49 GMT
Honestly I don't think it will be until late summer. My Mom is still recovering from stomach cancer and is so freaked out that she hasn't left her house since she was in the hospital for the regular flu in February. My Dad is diabetic and won't leave the house either. Both of them have said that they won't go back into public for several months. My sister and her family live close also, but it may be early summer before we see them either.
|
|
craftykitten
Pearl Clutcher
Posts: 4,304
Jun 26, 2014 7:39:32 GMT
|
Post by craftykitten on Apr 23, 2020 21:18:14 GMT
Scrap that @gar - I realised that statement isn't actually true - particularly with the news today that the Scottish Government are going it alone and potentially lifting lockdown early. This is why I stay out of politics! Are they? I saw she was talking about how it might be done but I didn't catch that they're doing it on their own timetable. It wouldn't surprise me though - she's all about Scotland being independent in any way, shape or form. There has been talk of the county I live in being used as a test centre for some kind of early release from lockdown with contact tracing/testing. I think the theory is that as we are an island it should be easier to monitor the population. I have zero faith in their ability to carry out anything correctly and am resigned to staying in personal lockdown longer than official restrictions.
|
|
AmeliaBloomer
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,842
Location: USA
Jun 26, 2014 5:01:45 GMT
|
Post by AmeliaBloomer on Apr 23, 2020 23:03:10 GMT
Like most of the rest of our family, we are treating our household as a “closed circle.”
Today, our governor (Illinois) extended our Shelter at Home ‘til May 31. For now. At the briefing, somebody asked about opening up family circles and both the governor and his go-to doc recommended against it.
Both of my kids live 2000 miles away in California. I’m grappling with the dawning realization that I probably won’t see them until 2021. Makes me very sad.
|
|