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Post by delila on May 22, 2020 22:06:08 GMT
but this is about so much more than getting rid of your stuff. It's control. He thinks he knows better than you. He thinks he has final say. He thinks he calls the shots. So, he decided that those things shouldn't be kept and he did something about it. Which is fucked up. Then - because he is so powerful- he lies to you to control you so he doesn't have to hear about what he did. I'm sure he thinks he did you a favor. Cause, he knows better. I was married to a guy like this. He was really good at playing dumb. Really good at gaslighting. King of manipulation. It is emotional abuse. 100% We just had this conversation a few days ago how he is in control of everything including me. It has been this way our whole marriage & I have accepted it because I was too young & stupid to do anything about it. I also wanted my family together. Now I’m dealing with another generation of disrespectful people who treat me like I’m nobody. I don’t give a shit about the golf clubs at all, I care that he lied to me & that he took it upon himself to throw them away. He is now saying that he really doesn’t think he did toss them & the are in the garage & I should look. More fing gaslighting I’m afraid. He has realized how upset I am & is trying to backpedal & can’t. Thanks Peas for reassuring me that I was not overreacting. My whole life I’ve been told I’m overreacting, I’m too sensitive, I’m too moody, I’m too something but I’m never just Delila which should be good enough.
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Post by alsomsknit on May 22, 2020 22:12:40 GMT
I get a bit stabby every time I read a thread where people advocate throwing out things that belong to someone’s spouse or children. And I’m going to go as far as including unacceptable underwear. It’ll just never be okay in my mind for me to decide what I should do with someone else’s things. I’m so sorry, delila . I think it depends. My family knows that I toss ratty clothes, socks, and underwear. I fold the the stuff and refuse to have my family walking around looking like hobos. And, I have also tossed some broken stuff of DH’s that he hasn’t laid eyes on in a couple of years. If he asks about them, I will tell him I tossed them because they were broken beyond repair. He has accidentally tossed some some of my stuff. The world kept turning. Plus, I have developed a different attitude toward stuff over the last few years. We aren’t dealing with relationship issues that would make this problematic. Plus, we, the entire family, have worked together to declutter this house, which was a game changer.
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Post by alsomsknit on May 22, 2020 22:16:02 GMT
but this is about so much more than getting rid of your stuff. It's control. He thinks he knows better than you. He thinks he has final say. He thinks he calls the shots. So, he decided that those things shouldn't be kept and he did something about it. Which is fucked up. Then - because he is so powerful- he lies to you to control you so he doesn't have to hear about what he did. I'm sure he thinks he did you a favor. Cause, he knows better. I was married to a guy like this. He was really good at playing dumb. Really good at gaslighting. King of manipulation. It is emotional abuse. 100% We just had this conversation a few days ago how he is in control of everything including me. It has been this way our whole marriage & I have accepted it because I was too young & stupid to do anything about it. I also wanted my family together. Now I’m dealing with another generation of disrespectful people who treat me like I’m nobody. I don’t give a shit about the golf clubs at all, I care that he lied to me & that he took it upon himself to throw them away. He is now saying that he really doesn’t think he did toss them & the are in the garage & I should look. More fing gaslighting I’m afraid. He has realized how upset I am & is trying to backpedal & can’t. Thanks Peas for reassuring me that I was not overreacting. My whole life I’ve been told I’m overreacting, I’m too sensitive, I’m too moody, I’m too something but I’m never just Delila which should be good enough. Again, ((((Hugs))))
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Post by luckyjune on May 22, 2020 22:21:15 GMT
That's two counts of disrespect towards you and that's about two too many.
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Post by peace on May 22, 2020 22:23:58 GMT
but this is about so much more than getting rid of your stuff. It's control. He thinks he knows better than you. He thinks he has final say. He thinks he calls the shots. So, he decided that those things shouldn't be kept and he did something about it. Which is fucked up. Then - because he is so powerful- he lies to you to control you so he doesn't have to hear about what he did. I'm sure he thinks he did you a favor. Cause, he knows better. I was married to a guy like this. He was really good at playing dumb. Really good at gaslighting. King of manipulation. It is emotional abuse. 100% We just had this conversation a few days ago how he is in control of everything including me. It has been this way our whole marriage & I have accepted it because I was too young & stupid to do anything about it. I also wanted my family together. Now I’m dealing with another generation of disrespectful people who treat me like I’m nobody. I don’t give a shit about the golf clubs at all, I care that he lied to me & that he took it upon himself to throw them away. He is now saying that he really doesn’t think he did toss them & the are in the garage & I should look. More fing gaslighting I’m afraid. He has realized how upset I am & is trying to backpedal & can’t. Thanks Peas for reassuring me that I was not overreacting. My whole life I’ve been told I’m overreacting, I’m too sensitive, I’m too moody, I’m too something but I’m never just Delila which should be good enough. While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend.
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Post by delila on May 22, 2020 22:27:27 GMT
We just had this conversation a few days ago how he is in control of everything including me. It has been this way our whole marriage & I have accepted it because I was too young & stupid to do anything about it. I also wanted my family together. Now I’m dealing with another generation of disrespectful people who treat me like I’m nobody. I don’t give a shit about the golf clubs at all, I care that he lied to me & that he took it upon himself to throw them away. He is now saying that he really doesn’t think he did toss them & the are in the garage & I should look. More fing gaslighting I’m afraid. He has realized how upset I am & is trying to backpedal & can’t. Thanks Peas for reassuring me that I was not overreacting. My whole life I’ve been told I’m overreacting, I’m too sensitive, I’m too moody, I’m too something but I’m never just Delila which should be good enough. While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend. WOW....thanks so very much. That actually made me cry. I do deserve better but I just can’t seem to get there. He has made me feel like I won’t have anything without him. Nobody would want me, I’m broken, used. Yes I am somewhat broken but broken doesn’t mean useless.
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Post by busy on May 22, 2020 22:30:49 GMT
And I’m going to go as far as including unacceptable underwear. lololololol DH 100% relies on the underwear and sock fairy to dispose of the holey ones and magically deposit new ones in his dresser.
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Post by Really Red on May 22, 2020 22:32:12 GMT
You are NOT overreacting. I cannot say that strongly or enough. Please, please PLEASE know that you are worthy and that you have found someone who enjoys preying upon you. You need to do what you can to get out of this relationship. There are all kinds of forms of abuse. This one is just so horrendous because it is so insidious. Half the time you don't even know it's happening.
I just beg of you. PM me and I will help. You are worthy!! You need to get away.
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Post by alsomsknit on May 22, 2020 22:32:57 GMT
While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend. WOW....thanks so very much. That actually made me cry. I do deserve better but I just can’t seem to get there. He has made me feel like I won’t have anything without him. Nobody would want me, I’m broken, used. Yes I am somewhat broken but broken doesn’t mean useless. Have you ever heard about how the Japanese repair broken pottery using gold? Can’t remember the name of it at the moment. However, it is beautiful. It is ok ok to be broken. Many of us are. Work on you. Repair yourself by finding your worth. You can do this! ETA: Kintsugi is the name.
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Post by delila on May 22, 2020 22:49:19 GMT
My niece told me one day that I was like a broken crayon; I might be broken but I’m still useful! That made me cry.
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Post by peace on May 22, 2020 22:51:52 GMT
While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend. WOW....thanks so very much. That actually made me cry. I do deserve better but I just can’t seem to get there. He has made me feel like I won’t have anything without him. Nobody would want me, I’m broken, used. Yes I am somewhat broken but broken doesn’t mean useless. That is what they do. That is how they keep you. I do not - for one moment- disregard or minimize what you are going through. Know that. But the psychological warfare that he has practiced his entire life- is extremely difficult to combat when you are in the trenches. Look at his family dynamics. You do see it. And it is SO HArD to Be YOU. So hard. You - I am guessing- are kind, thoughtful and a peacemaker. That's why he picked you. You have a light - It is strong and he needs it. Seriously, PM me ANYtiME. I was gobsmacked when I got out. You cannot see clearly when everyday is an exercise in survival. Rely on your people. Whoever you truly trust and knows you- confide in them. They will help you. I promise. Love, hugs and all that jazz
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Post by marimoose on May 22, 2020 23:24:22 GMT
I experienced something like this with my husband 30+ years ago and to be honest, to this day I have never forgiven. JUst before we married, as I was moving my things in to our place we were going to be living he decided to go through my personal items and I didn't know it at first but discovered that he and tossed all my pictures and cards, little momentos that were from old boyfriends and friends. These were still items I cherished as part of my past. This was not for his to decide and he also denied it for awhile. When he finally owned up to it he tried to blame me, saying I no longer needed anything from the past and should have done it myself. He had an ex-wife and 2 children and I certainly was not tossing out them or things related to them, nor could I have if I were feeling threatened. Such a childish, selfish move. What your husband did was WRONG! I do not know what the items were or if they were/are replaceable but the trust will be harder to attain. I am so sorry, I truly understand. I am mad for you at him.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on May 23, 2020 0:34:45 GMT
While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend. Very sound advice.
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Post by rickmer on May 23, 2020 0:44:49 GMT
he had no right. and then lied about it. shame on him. you have every.right.to.be.PISSED.
he doesn't get to decide that.... ask him if he would want you to take the same liberties with his stuff.
i am sorry, that totally sucks.
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Post by rickmer on May 23, 2020 0:48:05 GMT
also.... i was gaslighted in my marriage for YEARS. we have been split for 2.5 yrs but just in my own place since last august. the *peace* i feel is immense.
i am an articulate person who listens well - somehow it was ONLY and ALWAYS with THIS ONE PERSON that somehow i misunderstood everything.
therapy was incredibly empowering for me. some of (what i felt were) my worst qualities were things that my therapist was able to explain to me were actual coping mechanisms for what i was dealing with.
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Post by MaryMary on May 23, 2020 0:50:11 GMT
I also strongly recommend therapy just for yourself. You have lived for years with someone that has made you doubt what you know is true. You have been invalidated and belittled until you no longer believe in your own abilities. A therapist will help you see things as they really are. My therapist changed my life.
You are strong enough to face this and are worthy of happiness.
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Post by kiera on May 23, 2020 0:51:39 GMT
He's been gaslighting and lying to you for years?? Girl, throw the whole husband away. You deserve happiness.
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Post by delila on May 23, 2020 1:15:12 GMT
I have been in & out of therapy for years & years. I obviously need to be in therapy forever & be more committed to that & not to this fuck stick.
I was just yelled at because I asked if he knew how long ago he might have tossed the clubs & he told me that he was sick of my shit & why am I just now asking about these damn clubs that are 30 years old. They are not 30 years old & I have every fing right to ask about them. He is telling me to look in the garage, they must be there. I feel sicker & sicker. Just like I did when I caught him in his 8+ year affair. I just feel like I’ve been punched in the gut. & I do realize it’s only golf clubs., it’s the fact that he doesn’t care about my stuff or respect me.
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Post by MissBianca on May 23, 2020 1:20:51 GMT
While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend. WOW....thanks so very much. That actually made me cry. I do deserve better but I just can’t seem to get there. He has made me feel like I won’t have anything without him. Nobody would want me, I’m broken, used. Yes I am somewhat broken but broken doesn’t mean useless. Something my friend Tony once said, “broken crayons still color”
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Post by librarylady on May 23, 2020 1:34:01 GMT
I would need some serious marriage counseling if my DH did that. Sorry it happened to you. Lying about it for 3 years, is just over the top. I have no words for how angry that would make me. It would be/or very close to being a deal breaker for me (as in marriage breaker).
This is TOTALLY disrespectful to you....totally...... You two need to see an outside counselor.
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Post by librarylady on May 23, 2020 1:36:01 GMT
but this is about so much more than getting rid of your stuff. It's control. He thinks he knows better than you. He thinks he has final say. He thinks he calls the shots. So, he decided that those things shouldn't be kept and he did something about it. Which is fucked up. Then - because he is so powerful- he lies to you to control you so he doesn't have to hear about what he did. I'm sure he thinks he did you a favor. Cause, he knows better. I was married to a guy like this. He was really good at playing dumb. Really good at gaslighting. King of manipulation. It is emotional abuse. 100%
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Post by scrapngranny on May 23, 2020 1:52:08 GMT
I will validate you. Somewhere things that were important to me came up missing. The person involved has never owned it, but he is the only one who could have gotten rid of them. My best guess is that he put them somewhere and they became water damaged. In order to not have to own that, he just got rid of the stuff. I have no proof of any of this. I don’t believe it was done on purpose. I’ve gotten over it through the years.
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Post by roberta on May 23, 2020 2:00:12 GMT
You deserve better. From what you are saying he has been disrespecting and lying to you for a long time. You know this because you have described it.
Definition of trust: Knowledge based on experience.
You can trust that he will lie to you when it is convenient for him. You can trust that he will do whatever he wants to do even if it violates your relationship.
My first marriage was emotionally abusive in many of the ways yours is, (and in some different ways). One thing my pastor told me was that it was right of me to expect honesty and to trust my spouse in the beginning. After repeated dishonest actions it was no longer appropriate for me to trust him. Therapy really helped me. Yes it has been a lot of therapy because I was very broken. I believe that brokenness is part of the human condition. There are no perfect people however it is our choice who we associate with and how hard we work to heal and make ourselves better.
I strongly recommend therapy and whatever you can do to love yourself more. Remind yourself of your position qualities every day.
I just want to add that once a divorce was inevitable in my situation he chose the low ugly road. I am at peace with myself because I chose the high road. It has given me comfort and helped me love myself that I decided how I would handle myself and was able to stick to that (well....about 99% of the time!).
My heart hurts for your pain and I wish you well.
ETA: typo - not position, it should be positive
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 23, 2020 2:14:31 GMT
Justified. I’d be pissed! If he threw the stuff away *and lied about it* that would make me way madder than throwing the stuff out and just owning it. Especially if it was stuff he KNEW I had been tearing the house up looking for.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 23, 2020 2:38:27 GMT
While you didn't ask- I would HIGHLY recommend therapy. Alone. I wanted us to go together and he said no way. So I went- and what do you know? He couldn't stand that he wasn't included and ended up joining. My therapist told me eventually that I would have to walk on eggshells for the rest of my life or get my ducks in a row. That changed my life. I wasn't crazy. Some people are just manipulative. Most of those don't know.think/admit that they are. They don't know the difference. It's just the way they have always been. YOU deserve better. YOU ARE AMAZING. Do not let anyone dull your shine. Glow on, girlfriend. WOW....thanks so very much. That actually made me cry. I do deserve better but I just can’t seem to get there. He has made me feel like I won’t have anything without him. Nobody would want me, I’m broken, used. Yes I am somewhat broken but broken doesn’t mean useless. You are NONE of those things! You DO deserve better. Even though you have gone to a counselor before, you should try again. Don’t do it for anyone but YOU this time though because you matter. You do. Also, since you’ve been married for a long time my guess is that you would be entitled to way more than you think if you did kick him to the curb. I think I would see if there was an attorney I could get a free consult with and find out for sure what I would be entitled to before just assuming I’d end up with nothing. These loser guys are great at making you think that, when in truth they would probably end up losing their own ass in the divorce. That’s why they try to convince you that you will be the one losing it all, so they themselves don’t have to take the hit. And one other thing. I’d be going out and buying myself a freaking BRAND NEW set of golf clubs, and I’d let him pay for them. And then I’d be taking myself out at least once a week every week after that to use them. BY MYSELF!
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Post by delila on May 23, 2020 3:37:29 GMT
WOW....thanks so very much. That actually made me cry. I do deserve better but I just can’t seem to get there. He has made me feel like I won’t have anything without him. Nobody would want me, I’m broken, used. Yes I am somewhat broken but broken doesn’t mean useless. You are NONE of those things! You DO deserve better. Even though you have gone to a counselor before, you should try again. Don’t do it for anyone but YOU this time though because you matter. You do. Also, since you’ve been married for a long time my guess is that you would be entitled to way more than you think if you did kick him to the curb. I think I would see if there was an attorney I could get a free consult with and find out for sure what I would be entitled to before just assuming I’d end up with nothing. These loser guys are great at making you think that, when in truth they would probably end up losing their own ass in the divorce. That’s why they try to convince you that you will be the one losing it all, so they themselves don’t have to take the hit. And one other thing. I’d be going out and buying myself a freaking BRAND NEW set of golf clubs, and I’d let him lay for them. And then I’d be taking myself out at least once a week every week after that to use them. BY MYSELF! I live in a state that loves alimony! I have been married for 34 years this Sunday. He has told me for a long time that without him I would live under a bridge, with a loser biker dude, have 6 kids with 6 dads & be a junkie. This is the same guy that told me that he’s forgotten more than I’ll ever know!!!! What a fing tool. I told him I would get a big chunk of his salary & he told me he would make it up in 6 months. I reminded him that with my health condition he will be paying more than the average amount. I’ve had a lawyer on retainer for 15+ years just ready for my call. I have had a few minor seizures today just because of all this golf club shit. Since I am a collector of all things Hello Kitty I think I will purchase a set of Hello Kitty golf clubs! That will tweak him a bit because they are expensive & because he thinks my love of Hello Kitty is stupid....like his love of the Dallas Cowboys isn’t??!!!
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Post by dewryce on May 23, 2020 9:24:49 GMT
You can bury him in my back yard. We have no links to each other, trash your computer and no one will ever know.
To throw them away is bad enough, but to lie to you? I would be pea livid, that is so so disrespectful. I’m very sorry he did that.
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Post by peace on May 23, 2020 14:11:34 GMT
You are NONE of those things! You DO deserve better. Even though you have gone to a counselor before, you should try again. Don’t do it for anyone but YOU this time though because you matter. You do. Also, since you’ve been married for a long time my guess is that you would be entitled to way more than you think if you did kick him to the curb. I think I would see if there was an attorney I could get a free consult with and find out for sure what I would be entitled to before just assuming I’d end up with nothing. These loser guys are great at making you think that, when in truth they would probably end up losing their own ass in the divorce. That’s why they try to convince you that you will be the one losing it all, so they themselves don’t have to take the hit. And one other thing. I’d be going out and buying myself a freaking BRAND NEW set of golf clubs, and I’d let him lay for them. And then I’d be taking myself out at least once a week every week after that to use them. BY MYSELF! I live in a state that loves alimony! I have been married for 34 years this Sunday. He has told me for a long time that without him I would live under a bridge, with a loser biker dude, have 6 kids with 6 dads & be a junkie. This is the same guy that told me that he’s forgotten more than I’ll ever know!!!! What a fing tool. I told him I would get a big chunk of his salary & he told me he would make it up in 6 months. I reminded him that with my health condition he will be paying more than the average amount. I’ve had a lawyer on retainer for 15+ years just ready for my call. I have had a few minor seizures today just because of all this golf club shit. Since I am a collector of all things Hello Kitty I think I will purchase a set of Hello Kitty golf clubs! That will tweak him a bit because they are expensive & because he thinks my love of Hello Kitty is stupid....like his love of the Dallas Cowboys isn’t??!!! My ex used to say I would live in some shitty apartment with a blue collar guy with nothing to my name- I guess he forgot my dad was blue collar - BTW- I think your health conditions will vastly improve once you decide to be done. Stress is powerful.
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Post by tincin on May 23, 2020 14:26:21 GMT
I have been in & out of therapy for years & years. I obviously need to be in therapy forever & be more committed to that & not to this fuck stick. I was just yelled at because I asked if he knew how long ago he might have tossed the clubs & he told me that he was sick of my shit & why am I just now asking about these damn clubs that are 30 years old. They are not 30 years old & I have every fing right to ask about them. He is telling me to look in the garage, they must be there. I feel sicker & sicker. Just like I did when I caught him in his 8+ year affair. I just feel like I’ve been punched in the gut. & I do realize it’s only golf clubs., it’s the fact that he doesn’t care about my stuff or respect me. I’ve been divorced 14 years. I would rather be alone than to deal with this piece of work. Your stressful situation is not helping your epilepsy. You know this. You really should consider returning to therapy to discover why you are willing to stay in this relationship. You do deserve so much better.
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Post by mich5481 on May 23, 2020 14:37:24 GMT
You are NONE of those things! You DO deserve better. Even though you have gone to a counselor before, you should try again. Don’t do it for anyone but YOU this time though because you matter. You do. Also, since you’ve been married for a long time my guess is that you would be entitled to way more than you think if you did kick him to the curb. I think I would see if there was an attorney I could get a free consult with and find out for sure what I would be entitled to before just assuming I’d end up with nothing. These loser guys are great at making you think that, when in truth they would probably end up losing their own ass in the divorce. That’s why they try to convince you that you will be the one losing it all, so they themselves don’t have to take the hit. And one other thing. I’d be going out and buying myself a freaking BRAND NEW set of golf clubs, and I’d let him lay for them. And then I’d be taking myself out at least once a week every week after that to use them. BY MYSELF! I live in a state that loves alimony! I have been married for 34 years this Sunday. He has told me for a long time that without him I would live under a bridge, with a loser biker dude, have 6 kids with 6 dads & be a junkie. This is the same guy that told me that he’s forgotten more than I’ll ever know!!!! What a fing tool. I told him I would get a big chunk of his salary & he told me he would make it up in 6 months. I reminded him that with my health condition he will be paying more than the average amount. I’ve had a lawyer on retainer for 15+ years just ready for my call. I have had a few minor seizures today just because of all this golf club shit. Since I am a collector of all things Hello Kitty I think I will purchase a set of Hello Kitty golf clubs! That will tweak him a bit because they are expensive & because he thinks my love of Hello Kitty is stupid....like his love of the Dallas Cowboys isn’t??!!! You've had the lawyer on retainer for 15+ years AND your husband had an 8+ year affair? What are you still doing there?? Get out!
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