PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jul 7, 2020 18:47:00 GMT
Did they quickly change your old room? If so, did you feel sad not having your old room at “home” anymore?
If they did not change your room, was it weird having a your childhood room untouched?
I moved out at the same time my mother moved, so this was never a thing for me. Wondering how others felt in this scenario.
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Post by scrappintoee on Jul 7, 2020 18:50:10 GMT
My Mom was a raging alcoholic and could not handle that I was trying to be independent and self-sufficient (I was 21....time to move out !!!), and bitterly said if it didn't work out, I was NOT welcome back home. Thanks, Mom!
I always longed for a room that was kept as it was after the kids moved out---like the ones you see in TV shows and movies !!!!
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Post by workingclassdog on Jul 7, 2020 18:50:49 GMT
I don't remember really. I think they basically left it alone for awhile. I left a cedar chest full of stuff because I moved out of state with 2 girls, so no room for it. I think they used it for a guest room. When my DD moved out I quickly made her room my craft room and her stuff she left there all stored in her closet (she went into the Navy, but got a medical discharge) then I had to give her room back. lol
It didn't bother me about my room or her.
Edited to add.. I did keep the bed so there was always a place any of the kids could use if need be. Right now son just got out of the Air Force after seven years, so he is 'squatting' haha with us until his new job settles down and the house he is plan on renting with some friends is going to be available. So he is sharing my craft room.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 7, 2020 18:52:06 GMT
I moved out of my room and I believe my mom changed it into a laundry room. When I moved back home, I moved into my brother's room. He is 3 years older so he wasn't coming home anymore.
I stayed the night here and there for years. Probably until I was 25 and pregnant
ETA I don't remember it bothering me.
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Post by ntsf on Jul 7, 2020 18:57:41 GMT
my parents left my room basically alone.. but there was just furniture in there.. no posters, or my stuff.. so it just was another plain bedroom. I think our exchange student lived there for a while.
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Post by deekaye on Jul 7, 2020 18:57:54 GMT
I moved out two years after high school (lived at home while going to community college first) and the MINUTE I moved out, my mom converted my room to her sewing/craft room. As an adult, I can see that is was an okay thing to do but as a kid (20 year old), I hated coming home for holidays and having to sleep on the couch. It made me sad not to have my own room any more AND it made me sad that I felt this was her way of telling me that I didn't live there any more. I kept our girl's bedrooms the same when they moved out for college. I wanted them to have a safe place to come back to. They've been on their own for ten years and seven years respectively and I just (two years ago) turned one of the rooms in to an office and redecorated the other for a nice guest room. The girls teased me that it was about time!  |
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Post by greendragonlady on Jul 7, 2020 19:01:35 GMT
My room was changed into a spare bedroom, but not immediately. When my daughter moved out the first time, I changed her room into a craft room. Then we moved, and she moved back in. When she moved out the second time we turned it into a lounge type room, with a couch that pulls into a bed.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 7, 2020 19:04:20 GMT
I took most of my bedroom furniture with me and pretty much all of my stuff. Not too long after that her twin sister sold her house and moved into my old room. I went back for one month right before I got married because DH to be and I were buying a house and we had nowhere to go between when our apartment lease was up and our closing. He went back to his family home and I went to mine.
It wasn’t the house I grew up in since we moved the summer after I graduated HS and I didn’t have a lot of memories there. I only lived there for about a year and a half.
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Post by silverlining on Jul 7, 2020 19:09:30 GMT
My dh was the only member of his family who played their piano. He went to the opposite coast for college, and went to the Music building sometimes to play. When he went home for the summer, he found the piano had been sold. He still remembers how he felt that his parents had not said anything about that decision in any of their phone conversations or letters. He understood why they did it, but didn't like that it was a bad surprise when he got home.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 7, 2020 19:11:45 GMT
It stayed my room for a while - though with minimal clutter then eventually just became a guest room.
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Post by bianca42 on Jul 7, 2020 19:13:38 GMT
My room stayed the same...but became a storage dumping zone on top of my old crap. I bet there is still a box of barbies under the bed.
Five years ago, they moved out of the house into a different house...but they still own the old one, so my room is still there.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 7, 2020 19:17:52 GMT
I said in the other thread they changed my room almost immediately after I left. It didn’t make me sad. I was pretty annoyed they got rid of my twin bed and finally got a queen sized bed after years of claiming it wouldn’t fit.
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Post by busy on Jul 7, 2020 19:19:27 GMT
Did they quickly change your old room? If so, did you feel sad not having your old room at “home” anymore? If they did not change your room, was it weird having a your childhood room untouched? I moved out at the same time my mother moved, so this was never a thing for me. Wondering how others felt in this scenario. They moved when I was a junior in college, and while I had a room at their house through college, it was more of a second guest room than "my" room. It had the furniture that had been in my room for the past few years, and it's where I stayed when I was at home, but I never really thought of it as my room. It evolved into my mom's office at some point... not exactly sure how long after I was on my own, but I don't think long. Fine with me. I think keeping it as my room would have made me feel like they thought I was going to fail and need to move back home. |
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Post by gale w on Jul 7, 2020 19:27:31 GMT
I moved 2000 miles away so I don't know how long it took, but eventually my dad made my old room into his man cave.  Eventually my mom kicked him out of the master bedroom because he snored so amazingly loud (seriously, the neighbor could probably hear it and I'm not even exaggerating) so he put a twin bed in his little room. |
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Post by Zee on Jul 7, 2020 19:27:53 GMT
I think she kept it the same though I took all the posters and stuff with me. They sold it a few years after that.
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Post by psoccer on Jul 7, 2020 19:59:05 GMT
My parents moved to another house after I was through college. They had a room set up for me in their new house. It had my furniture, which was white, and they had saved things that they thought I would like to pass onto my children. It was used as a guest room since it had a full bed, but my mom always referred to it as my room, even when I had kids, she would tell them to go my your mom's room.
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Post by iteach3rdgrade on Jul 7, 2020 20:01:43 GMT
I basically took my childhood things since I was living in apartments in college. The spare room became the one I used when I went home for some reason. I think it had a better bed.
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Post by iluvpink on Jul 7, 2020 20:03:35 GMT
No. At least they couldn't have much as I shared a tiny room with my sister who was still at home. I suppose they might have taken my bed out so she had more room but from what I can remember, I think it stayed for when she had friends over.
ETA I do have plans for dd's room when she moves out in a few years. She's 20 and living at home still. But she not only has her room, but our spare bedroom is currently her guinea pig/hamster room. She has two of each and the damn guinea pigs have a giant guinea pig run/cage on the floor. I don't know how she thinks she will find an apartment for these critters, but they won't be staying here. Her room will become my scrapbook room/library and the guinea pig room will be a guest room. Or vice versa. Who knows exactly.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 7, 2020 20:05:21 GMT
Yes and yes. My room was redone within a couple of weeks and it made me both sad and uncomfortable coming home for a while after that.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 7, 2020 20:10:21 GMT
The rooms at my parent's house were continuously evolving, so we never really had ownership of a space.
I started sharing with one sister in one room, moved with her to another, then moved to my own room upstairs for a few years, then back down to the biggest room. My brother was yo-yoing in and out so if he was home, I shared the big room with a different sister, if he was out she would move back into the little room.
Five of us were in and out in different configurations during the college years. You took the best bedroom available when you moved back. The furniture, bedding, curtains and most art work stayed with the room. We took our clothing, stereos, etc. Things that you wanted to keep might be boxed and left in a closet but dad never hesitated to clean out things he didn't think we needed/wanted any more.
After a few years, one room was turned into my mom's sewing & knitting room (she had a huge knitting machine), one became a laundry drying/folding area and two were set up as guest rooms.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2020 20:20:11 GMT
I was 1 of 6 kids, so when I moved out and got married at age 23, some siblings were still living at home. Eventually my mom re-decorated all of the spare bedrooms and I didn't care at all. I packed up all of my things when I moved out, so I wasn't offended that she changed the rooms.
Now if you ask my DD32, she still talks about missing "home" and her room. Actually I miss it too. I lost it due to a very vindictive ex.
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Post by peaname on Jul 7, 2020 20:22:50 GMT
My room was turned into a computer room immediately after I moved into my freshman dorm room! They did buy a futon so I could come home for breaks but it was clear I was considered grown and flown.
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Post by peasapie on Jul 7, 2020 20:25:15 GMT
They painted my yellow bedroom white, gave away my canopy bed and white furniture, and turned it Into a sitting room with bookshelves and leather couches.
Just wish they’d waited til I moved out to do that. (Jk).
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Post by Linda on Jul 7, 2020 20:36:59 GMT
it was kind of complicated actually. My parents closed on a new house a week after I left for my freshman year of college - I didnt' see the house until I came home for Thanksgiving. I did have a room but it wasn't my 'childhood' room and I wasn't attached to it. I stayed there at Christmas and summers and moved out completely at 21 after having my son.
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Post by baylorgrad on Jul 7, 2020 20:52:31 GMT
When I started my first job after college, my job was 2.5 hours away from my parents. I would go there on my days off and stay the night, so they kept my old room as it had been. When I took my second job, which was 20 minutes away, I took the furniture out of that room. They turned it into a combination TV-computer room. Didn't bother me.
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Post by boymama on Jul 7, 2020 20:54:57 GMT
My parents never changed anything in my childhood bedroom. My mom even called to get permission to open the door to my room so my cat could sleep on my bed because she kept howling at the door. I’m 36 and my old room still looks like a teenager lives there. I’m an only child, though, and the house is pretty big, so they never really needed to use my room for anything.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 7, 2020 20:55:02 GMT
We had two kids in each bedroom, so no, they didn’t change it. My sister just got her own room for a while.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 7, 2020 20:57:02 GMT
Before the end of my first semester at college, my parents took custody of two of their grandkids. My bedroom became their room. At Christmas break, I slept on the couch and was never home full time again. I had zero issue with it - they were doing what they needed to do, and I was more than ready to move on. I found internships and jobs for summers. I always came home for a few days for the holidays and they always found room for me.
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Post by huskermom98 on Jul 7, 2020 21:03:27 GMT
My mom remarried and moved into his house when I was a couple of months into my freshman year of college so I lost my house and my room. However, I had at least 6 different rooms over 3 different houses from the time I was born and moved into the dorms so it wasn't the worst thing. And honestly, I felt more at home in my Mom's house during my college years (and beyond) than my Dad's house...and I lived in that house from age 4-12.
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Post by scrappinwithoutpeas on Jul 7, 2020 21:34:37 GMT
At some point while I was in college, my parents moved my younger sister into my old room, which was fine with me since she had a very tiny room and mine was bigger. They changed it a little bit to make room for some of her stuff - can't remember the details exactly, but I think they got rid of some of the larger furniture. I had a really cool desk that I loved, but it was HUGE and I wouldn't have been able to keep it/move it anywhere else anyway. They also swapped my old twin bed for a set of bunk beds so my sister and I could share the room during the summers and breaks when I was home from school. I think they left some of her clothes, books, and other things in her old room where there was more actual storage space (wall cabinets, dresser, & bookshelves) but less floor space for furniture. It didn't make me sad because I loved sharing with my "lil sis" :-). What DID make me sad was when my parents divorced while I was in college and I didn't get much say in what went where once they split households.
In our house now, each kid moved into the next oldest one's room once they moved out. So youngest kid (currently living at home while attending college & who knows what will happen for fall semester) is DS who has "the blue bedroom" that middle DD painted when she inherited it after oldest DD moved out. DD1 and DD2 shared the room for a while during oldest DD's college years. I turned the smaller bedroom that DS vacated into my scrapbook/craft room and home office. The other "extra bedroom" (formerly guest room plus DH's home office) was turned back into a bedroom for middle DD when she moved back home after college (unplanned, but hey - whatever - we're happy to have her). DH currently has his office set up in the basement, and middle DD's stuff is all over the place while she waits it out before she is able to move across the country. Her move was planned for June , but obviously had to be delayed due to the pandemic. I think my kids have been very happily flexible due to ongoing room changes throughout their growing-up years. We always involved them in any decisions, and let them redecorate as they wanted whenever they moved rooms. While DS did not choose to repaint (it was still pretty fresh-looking and he likes blue), he did get some new furniture, bed, curtains, etc.
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