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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 30, 2020 19:44:20 GMT
My dd plans on getting married in Oct of 2022. We are just starting the planning, etc. She wants a northwoods fairy type setting. I saw this video on tiktok and sent it to her and she liked the idea, but like the planner talking about it I'm sort of second guessing it now. What would you guys think of this? I think the Ps have a lot of thoughts/experience with things, so just wanted to run it by you guys. And what other wedding favors/ideas have you guys seen that are cool?
https://www.tiktok.com/@eventcentermanager/video/6866071799533227270
And to put down the KarenPs, yes, it's her wedding. she is planning it, I am helping her, and we are helping pay for it. But of course it's her wedding, and she'll have full control.
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Post by chaosisapony on Aug 30, 2020 19:52:46 GMT
I agree with the lady in the video that more often than not favors get left behind. Either it's not clear that the guests are supposed to take them home or people forget or they just have no interest in the item. So I do like the sign, it's cute and makes it clear you're to keep the glass. However, for me, I would not take the glass. I wouldn't have any use for a glass that doesn't match anything. It would hang around in my kitchen until I do a Goodwill run. It's also not something sentimental to the wedding or couple so I wouldn't keep it anyway like I might if it was say, etched with the couple's name.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Aug 30, 2020 19:59:03 GMT
I am so OVER the wedding favor thing. They get left behind, or people take too many and leave some at the table without anything. It's just one more thing for the bride/bride's family to pay for.
That said, the one favor that I didn't see left behind is a wrapped cookie commemorating the event. The other thing that perhaps takes the place of favors is a photo booth, guests can take home pictures of themselves holding silly mustaches or wearing fluffy hats.
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Post by Jennifer C on Aug 30, 2020 19:59:04 GMT
I have a favor similar to the vintage glasses. A friend had beer glasses, the curved ones, that she bought from Walmart. They were sturdy, not dollar tree thin. They then put chocolate kisses and wrapped peppermint candies. She put tulle over and tied a bow.
I still use the 4 glasses that we came home with.
I would definitely use the vintage glasses she showed.
Jennifer
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Post by teddyw on Aug 30, 2020 20:05:55 GMT
I like the idea behind it but I wouldn’t take it home even if there was a sign directing me to.
Maybe an edible favor? I’ve been to weddings with a candy bar. You fill the bag provided with candies that match the color scheme.
Also the cutout cookies with the couples’ names & date.
Congratulations to your dd.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 30, 2020 20:14:15 GMT
I really like the cookie idea too! I will mention that one to her.
I guess I liked the vintage glass one because she is very much in to recycling and sustainability, and it goes with her theme. I guess I didn't worry too much about the not matching glasses? I have about 3 different styles of wine glasses/goblets. Nothing matches in my house except for my formal dishes, and I use them about 1x a yr. ha.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 30, 2020 20:15:26 GMT
Most weddings I have been to lately do not have favors. I think they are a huge waste of money.
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Post by ~summer~ on Aug 30, 2020 20:19:13 GMT
I would do chocolate as the favor. I do think the glass is a cute idea but I think the majority of people wouldn’t like it.
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Post by krcrafts on Aug 30, 2020 20:27:14 GMT
I made heart shaped cookie sandwiches rolled in wedding colored sprinkles on the edges and out of 100 favors, there were 2 left. They went over well. I think edible ones are a good way to go if you have favors.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Aug 30, 2020 20:38:28 GMT
I'd probably be reluctant to take home a glass favor of any kind because (1) odds are good I traveled to the wedding-- maybe not via plane, but possibly a couple hours of road trip, so I'm spending the night), and (2) I don't have anything for safely packing individual glasses to bring home.
The best "favor" I've ever gotten at a wedding was a luggage tag that the bride and groom had used as place cards/seat assignments. The couple has three kids now, and that tag is still attached to one of my travel bags. (If I ever get to travel again!)
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Post by leeny on Aug 30, 2020 20:43:08 GMT
At DD's wedding last year we gave out tins of Altoid Mints with tags I made that said "mint to be A & J." We even had dgs go around to make sure everyone got one. More than half were left behind. I'd use the money on something else.
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Post by Cupcake on Aug 30, 2020 20:49:25 GMT
It’s very sweet but I agree, they will be left behind. If they want to spend the money on something for guests, take the money they would have spent on favors and make a donation to a favorite charity. You can put up a up a sign at the reception saying “In lieu of favors, a donation has been made in honor of our guests to xxx charity.” My brother did this at his wedding, and I loved the idea.
Best of luck with the planning!
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Aug 30, 2020 20:49:33 GMT
Our wedding favor in 1998 was 2 pieces of See's candy in a tiny box with the name and date on it. Everyone loved them and either ate them there or took them home. I did not see many leftover at the end of the night.
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Post by oliquig on Aug 30, 2020 20:52:25 GMT
There are only two types of favors I like.
1. Food
2. Donation
Other than that, I either don’t take it or toss it when I get home.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 30, 2020 20:52:33 GMT
I'd skip the favors. As mentioned they are not used/taken 99% of the time.
I have two lovely photo frames from the wedding of my nephew. The date is on the back. The problem: the size fits no known photo.
It is too large or too small for any photos around here. I'd have to find the just right image can cut them out to put in frame.
(The frames are ceramic, heart shaped with flowers around the space for the image.)
I am a real utilitarian person and it makes me cringe that they paid $$ for these frames that are worthless to me.
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 30, 2020 20:52:51 GMT
We had cookies for our favors too, people still mention them over 20 years later. We got them from a really good bakery, and they were delicious! Just a really good sugar cookie shaped like a bat with a tag I made. It matched our theme and was personalized to us, it would be very easy for your daughter to do something similar. Maybe. Tree trunk with their initials “carved” into it? Like this... |
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Post by peano on Aug 30, 2020 20:53:10 GMT
Consumables. I don’t keep the glasses I get from wineries and I wouldn’t keep these.
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Post by Peamac on Aug 30, 2020 20:53:10 GMT
We made peppermint bark for DD#1's wedding favors and everyone loved them. Several guests ate them before even leaving the reception. The peppermint bark was just wrapped in a clear plastic bag (from Joann's I think) and tied with a ribbon.
I think DD#2's favors were little mesh bags with Hershey kisses and mints in them. Also well-liked by the guests.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 30, 2020 21:07:39 GMT
I’ve actually only been to a handful of weddings with favors, almost all of them mix CDs back when that was a thing. Also, of that handful, a few couples divorced, so what am I supposed to do with those favors?
I usually have a tiny cocktail purse with me so appreciate not having to carry anything.
I don’t expect or particularly want a wedding favor.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 30, 2020 21:15:48 GMT
Something consumable, either candy or a cookie. I’m at the stage of life where I have enough oddball stuff in my house that I have to figure out what to do with as it is, so I wouldn’t be bringing home a favor that I don’t need or wouldn’t use.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 30, 2020 21:16:06 GMT
Congratulations to your DD!
I’m voting for consumables. Since your DD is young, her crowd may like the idea of a favor. It wasn’t a thing in Minnesota when I got married, but it could be now, especially with Pinterest.
But I do love the idea of unmatched glasses/china. If you have a way of picking it up cheaply, I say go for it. You can use it for your other DD when it comes time, a big anniversary party for yourself, other cousins’ weddings, etc. Or you could sell them off in one big lot on FB or Craigslist. Just know that you can rent tableware, from glasses to plates, to flatware. I’d price that before going any further. Since it’s being used time and again, I feel like you would achieve the same goal.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2020 21:25:51 GMT
I like the idea, but would have no use for one mismatched glass. What about small clay pots or jars with a small plant? Bonus is that you can use them as part of the table decor.
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Post by jubejubes on Aug 30, 2020 21:26:23 GMT
I have helped with many weddings and favours seem to take a lot of time & energy and so many people leave them behind, unless it is a consumable, like a cookie or smaller chocolates. Woman have small clutch bags & guys don't want to carry anything home.
Do a donation or a small, very delicious consumable.
Save your time & money for more important things to do with the wedding.
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Post by leeny on Aug 30, 2020 21:36:39 GMT
I thought of something else. More than 25 years ago my sister's wedding favors were a silver coated plastic spoon with two Hershey kisses tied in some see through lace and a tag that said "a spoonful of kisses from the new Mr. and Mrs."
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Post by caangel on Aug 30, 2020 21:37:51 GMT
My friend did a wonderful interactive donation favor. They gave each guest 2-3 small rocks and a note to explain. They choose 3-4 different charity organizations and and guest could use their rocks to vote by placing them in a labeled vessel. They used what they would have spent on favors and donated according to the proportions of the votes.
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Post by christinec68 on Aug 30, 2020 21:51:13 GMT
I think it’s a neat idea but I would be one to leave the glass. We have plenty and I’m not looking to bring more things into the house.
Congrats to your daughter and have fun with the plannin!
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 30, 2020 21:55:59 GMT
We had cookies for our favors too, people still mention them over 20 years later. We got them from a really good bakery, and they were delicious! Just a really good sugar cookie shaped like a bat with a tag I made. It matched our theme and was personalized to us, it would be very easy for your daughter to do something similar. Maybe. Tree trunk with their initials “carved” into it? Those are adorable!! |
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 30, 2020 21:59:54 GMT
The wedding is going to be pretty small and most likely in a small venue. Wedding and reception all in one. I agree with the food ideas!
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Post by iowgirl on Aug 30, 2020 22:01:47 GMT
I love getting a sweet treat, but I have no desire for a glass or anything like that.
Cookies, chocolates, mints, snacks - those are good and fun. So many clever ideas on Pinterest for them.
The glasses might be cute to use at the wedding, but it is not anything I would want.
I went to a wedding were we all ate off mismatched china. It really fit the theme of the wedding and was super fun, but it all stayed behind and the mother of the bride didn't have a hard time reselling it - but had it priced to move!
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Post by JustKim on Aug 30, 2020 22:07:58 GMT
Congrats! We had cookies and big glass jars filled with a variety of things, scoop and a paper bag with wedding info on it. They were able to fill a bag if they wanted to and take it. Jars had caramel corn, peppermint candy, starburst, and wrapped dove chocolate in the shape of a heart. They were things they would eat afterward so the leftovers were no biggie.
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