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Post by Rhondito on Oct 31, 2020 15:49:55 GMT
What an amazing story! But that video of your mother-in-law... she's the sweetest thing!
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Post by auntkelly on Oct 31, 2020 15:57:49 GMT
I’m glad you and your BIL made it home safely. That was quite a trip!
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Post by dillydally on Oct 31, 2020 16:10:39 GMT
Wow, what a story. I teared up and will watch the video later as I'm sure that will totally get my heartstrings. You are surely a blessing to your family.
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Post by MichyM on Oct 31, 2020 16:21:50 GMT
What an ordeal. I’m so glad that I’m the end everything worked out and that you both are happy and safely ensconced back at home. You family must be so thankful and proud of everything you managed to overcome. HUGS
On a separate note, I was supposed to spend the first 3 months of 2021 in Morocco. I’ve visited twice, this was to be sort of pre-cursor to “is this really the place I’m meant to be/can I make it work?” Especially if “you know who” manages to pull out a win. So heartbroken not to be able to come for a couple more winters. And i worry about all the artisans who rely on visitors to support them. I miss all the kind, compassionate, and interesting people and the beauty of the country.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 31, 2020 16:39:02 GMT
Thank you for sharing with us. So very glad you and your BIL arrived safely. You have given your MIL the greatest gift. Thank you.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 16:58:23 GMT
You are amazing. What a gift you are to your ILs. 🥰
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Post by ddly on Oct 31, 2020 17:13:31 GMT
Oh my, what a story! I’m just wiping away my tears. I need to take a few minutes before I watch your video.
You are very strong for having made it through that. I’m so sorry you were treated that way.
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Post by snyder on Oct 31, 2020 17:25:46 GMT
Wow! First, so glad you were able to get you and yourself home safely, but you need to be writer. Very well articulated story. {{{Hugs}}}
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Post by lizacreates on Oct 31, 2020 17:54:30 GMT
I don’t think I’ll ever forget this story. It’s a testament to your selflessness and deep caring. allipeas, my sincerest admiration to you for your courage and endurance. |
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Post by catck on Oct 31, 2020 17:58:31 GMT
Wow, my stomach was churning just reading about the journey home. As a Brit living in the US with a green card I too have had problems with the airport officials. Funnily enough only when I travel alone but not with DH who is an American. So happy you got through all the trials and made it safely home. Happy tears were shed at the end of your post.
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Post by jayfab on Oct 31, 2020 18:09:39 GMT
Oh my goodness. You have had an ordeal. Glad you and your bil are safe and home.
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Post by DEX on Oct 31, 2020 18:12:49 GMT
A daughter-in-law sacrifice and a mother’s love. I hope your family appreciates how fearless you are. You are amazing.
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Post by purplebee on Oct 31, 2020 18:19:03 GMT
You are one brave, strong woman! Bless you for you kind and generous heart. So glad your saga had a happy ending.
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Post by koontz on Oct 31, 2020 18:21:04 GMT
Wow, what a story! You are pretty amazing.
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Post by muggins on Oct 31, 2020 18:39:45 GMT
Wow!! You are incredible and strong.
What a wonderful gift you have given to your family. I’m sure he’ll improve with his mother looking after him:)
Your story made me cry.
The bureaucracy you faced in the USA is totally ridiculous. As a Brit going back and forth from Japan to the US I have encountered many power hungry, rude jackasses at the airports even as a middle aged white woman with all the correct visas and paperwork.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 19:22:30 GMT
First and foremost, thank you ALL for your kind words. The truth is that I am very uncomfortable with so much admiration. I am pretty sure that so many of you peas would do what you needed to do to help someone in need whether it is a family member or not. I like to believe that for most of us, we follow our better angels. He needed my help and I was the one with the ability to help.
My husband most of all has told me more than once that he can never repay me for what I did for him and his family. He doesn't need to. I am so very fortunate that his family are really good people. Loud! LOL But they have always treated me as one of their own from day one. To see them all sit together at a table and finally be reunited as a whole...that's all I need.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 19:24:19 GMT
Oh My! I'm sitting here with tears pouring down my face. Your story is beautiful! I felt every emotion as you went from set back to set back. YOU are the only person for that journey, you are smart, thoughtful, full of empathy, and driven to get done what needs to be done! I am so happy for all of you that you were all able to be reunited. Your video was amazing! I'm just so happy for your Mother-in-law. I can't imagine what she was going through all those months. Thank you for sharing this story with us! I imagine writing it was difficult but healing at the same time. I just hope you know, that I think you are simply incredible! For so many reasons! Sending you and your family lots of love!!  All of this right back at you! We have a special pea relationship, you know, and you are so very amazing yourself. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 19:32:00 GMT
I cannot believe I forgot to add in just how the word got to us about my BIL. That story itself is quite amazing.
While BIL was in the hospital, an attorney for the hospital set out to find family or someone that could be responsible for him. He reached out to some of the mosques in the area. He told them that there was a Middle Eastern guy in the hospital that they were trying to locate family for and did anyone know him. At one of the mosques, there happened to be a Palestinian guy. He did not know my BIL, but was concerned enough about the situation that he contacted a Palestinian guy in Raleigh to see if he knew him. This guy did not BUT he knew how to get in touch with the Civil Authority in Gaza. My husband's last name is a familiar last name that comes from a certain village in the south of Gaza near the Rafah border, so the CA knew where to narrow the search. Somehow, they were able to locate someone that knew our family. This guy knew one of the brothers here in Morocco and knew how to get in touch with him. This guy called my husband's brother on July 4th and that is how we found out where he was!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 19:44:56 GMT
Many of you have asked how he is doing. We have been very fortunate that he has transitioned well. The people taking care of him felt like he would do reasonably well once he got situated in a place. That has pretty much been the case.
There is absolutely no services or treatment for people with brain injuries or even Alzheimer's here. Elderly are just absorbed into the family and while there are some mental hospitals here, it's not some place you really want to end up.
BIL is really high-functioning. He is not a wanderer (but we do keep doors/gates locked for his safety) and can pretty much take care of his hygiene needs. We have been able to hire a lady that stays with them as DH's mom needs help with her diabetic meds and she cooks for them as well.
The family have all pitched in to stop by and take him on daily walks which he really enjoys. They are still getting used to how difficult it is for him to maintain a conversation. I mean I guess it is pretty hard for Arabs to just sit and be quiet in general. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!
His mother is having a hard time to adjusting how slow he eats and how quiet he is. I think she is mourning the son she knew. I think it will just take time for her to accept it.
I just have to remind everyone that they don't have to always occupy him in conversation. If he leaves the room because there is too many people or if he suddenly wants to go back home from being out somewhere, it is ok. Don't take it personal and just let him be.
Everyone is really just thankful to finally have him home!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 19:50:09 GMT
What an ordeal. I’m so glad that I’m the end everything worked out and that you both are happy and safely ensconced back at home. You family must be so thankful and proud of everything you managed to overcome. HUGS On a separate note, I was supposed to spend the first 3 months of 2021 in Morocco. I’ve visited twice, this was to be sort of pre-cursor to “is this really the place I’m meant to be/can I make it work?” Especially if “you know who” manages to pull out a win. So heartbroken not to be able to come for a couple more winters. And i worry about all the artisans who rely on visitors to support them. I miss all the kind, compassionate, and interesting people and the beauty of the country. , it has been extremely hard on the artisans here...the daily workers as well. The severe lockdown really hurt soooo many businesses. The Covid numbers keep climbing here and there have been threats of another lockdown. I highly doubt that will happen because I just don't think this country could survive that. It is going to be a long road to recovery for so many here and so many in third world countries. We have been so fortunate that we have several schools that have kept us afloat but it has been extremely difficult and we have lost A LOT of money ourselves. We just have to work together to support each other on the road back to recovery. When you do get ready to travel back here, message me. If I remember correctly, I think you were going to Marrakesh, no? I have some friends there that can help if you need anything. I am always open for a Pea meet up too! |
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Post by kate on Oct 31, 2020 19:58:58 GMT
Wow, what a story! DS looked over my shoulder andsaid, "That's a long one; is it worth it?"
Yes, yes, and yes.
Blessings to you and your family - and G, and the guy at the hospital who took enough care to get your family found. So many angels among the villains (looking at you, TSA workers and Travelocity!)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 31, 2020 21:25:59 GMT
Absolutely kate....sooooo many angels. It really wasn't just me that brought BIL home. It was the person that called 911, G and just so many other people. That was the reason I really took the video is to share with those people that helped. Their shared in this and I wanted to be able to share the moment with them as well. |
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 31, 2020 23:09:22 GMT
What a wonderful tale of a mother's love and a family's commitment. The gift you gave to your mother-in-law is priceless. Thank you for letting us share a bit in the experience.
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Post by Peamac on Nov 1, 2020 0:13:01 GMT
Thanks so much for the update, allipeas! I bookmarked the thread so I could find it easier and look for info on how your brother's doing. |
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Post by PEAcan pie on Nov 1, 2020 0:16:18 GMT
Thanks for sharing your story. The Video made me cry too.
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Post by kikitwo on Nov 1, 2020 0:54:15 GMT
Thanks for posting this. I’m glad it all worked out as well as it did.
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Post by PLurker on Nov 1, 2020 2:12:41 GMT
Damn.
I was just whining (to myself) that I injured my foot/heal, it hurts like hell and it makes moving all that more exhausting.
Never mind. I'm good.
Thank you for being who you are and doing what you did.
What a wonderful/awful story.
Hugs to you and yours.
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Post by Judie in Oz on Nov 1, 2020 4:37:10 GMT
You could see the relief on your MIL's face. What a great gift you have given the family.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 1, 2020 5:33:45 GMT
Wow. You gave an amazing account of quite an incredible story.
I'm so glad in the end your mission was successful, and your BIL is home.
But my gosh, I'm so angry that you were treated so terribly at the airport. There is no excuse for that.
You are a wonderful woman (and a great story teller).
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Post by gar on Nov 1, 2020 9:40:47 GMT
That is one amazing tale! What an incredible story... you have given your MIL her little boy back and that was so precious.What you and all those involved did, was truly incredible.
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All of this right back at you! We have a special pea relationship, you know, and you are so very amazing yourself.
