breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Apr 18, 2021 4:35:48 GMT
A couple of weeks ago, I texted my mom and sister a map of my DNA results. Long story short, I know for 100% certain I have French DNA but it's taken six years of Family Tree DNA to narrow down their map to show up. So I texted a photo to my mom and sister, see I am part French. They took the ancestry test, which has shown the french stuff the whole time...
So tonight I'm scrolling Facebook, and my aunt has posted a map, and it looks oddly familiar, which makes no sense because why would my aunt have the exact same DNA as me? Even down to the German (which is from my dad).
Yeah, my sister sent the text to my aunt, who posted it on Facebook as her cover photo.
First, I'm annoyed my sister shared my text, without asking.
Second, who puts someone else's DNA test on Facebook? I mean it didn't have my name on it, or percentages, but WTH?
Anyone want an inconsiderate aunt or a sister? They're free but the catch is neither of them have a filter.
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paget
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Post by paget on Apr 18, 2021 4:56:50 GMT
Why would your aunt do that?! That is so weird. I’ll pass on either of them, thanks. I have my hands full over here with my own “quirky” relatives. 😂
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muggins
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Post by muggins on Apr 18, 2021 4:56:55 GMT
Yes, that would really annoy me. I’d be calling my sister to tell the aunt to remove the photo from her FB.
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gizzy
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Post by gizzy on Apr 18, 2021 5:06:29 GMT
Why would your sister share that with her and why would she care enough to post your results? That's weird. I'd be mildly annoyed with my sister for sharing unless I'd told her it was okay.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on Apr 18, 2021 5:32:51 GMT
I have an aunt who is a total dick.
When I was in high school she once told me I would end up flipping burgers because I went to Public school. Her daughter went to private schools.
Her daughter never even went to college and was kicked out of cosmetology school three times. She is now a homeless drugs addict who abandoned her 10 year old daughter.
I have my Masters and will be starting a PhD next year. Damn that public school education.
#karma
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Apr 18, 2021 5:42:43 GMT
Odd behaviour from both of them.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Apr 18, 2021 7:16:50 GMT
That’s weird. I would assume the aunt misunderstood the image and thought that was her DNA results.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 18, 2021 12:56:21 GMT
Maybe the aunt doesn't understand just because you are family does not mean you share the same DNA.
Yes, it would definitely annoy me, but I'd let it go.
Apparently reposting as if it's your own is not unusual. DH's youngest sister copies the CaringBridge posts for DH directly to her FB page. I hate that.
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 18, 2021 13:22:49 GMT
Aunt is a bit odd.
I don't know why it is s problem your sister shared your text. You didn't ask her not to do so.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 18, 2021 13:48:38 GMT
I don't know that this would annoy me. I can see someone passing on your information to another relative - hey auntie breetheflea was right we are part french. And then aunt is clueless and thinks that all the dna is the same, or maybe she just wanted to share that she was part french. If you don't want your dna map on your aunt's page, call her up and say that you don't really want your dna map on facebook. |
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Post by worrywart on Apr 18, 2021 14:00:25 GMT
Yes, I would be annoyed. However, unfortunately you can't assume that other people will respect your privacy - especially where the internet is concerned. Yes, it was your info to share and sister should not have shared it. Also, Aunt should not have posted it (imo, of course!). I would ask aunt to take it down.
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Post by gotranch on Apr 18, 2021 15:15:30 GMT
Yeah, I would be annoyed if I sent something as a "text" and it ended up on Facebook. When I send a text it is meant only for the people I send it. Of course, I can't control where it goes from there - but that is my intent.
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Post by melodyesch on Apr 18, 2021 15:19:25 GMT
I probably wouldn’t be annoyed if it didn’t have my name on it and one of my brothers posted it, as it would be their DNA, too. But for your Aunt to post it is just stupid because that’s not her own and it would annoy me.
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Post by femalebusiness on Apr 18, 2021 15:33:26 GMT
I have had people cut and paste information/biographies that I researched and wrote and put it directly into their public Family Trees as if it is their research. This happened several times before I got smart enough to never share anything more than statistics and dates. They can't screw that up. I had a teacher copy and paste my work! I asked her if she allowed her students to copy other's work.
I never mind sharing info but but for pity sake, put it in your own words. Not quite the same as your aunt but I can relate to being pissed off. I don't hesitate to insist they take it down.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 18, 2021 16:21:15 GMT
My sister forwarding it would not have bothered me, but your aunt posting it is weird. I'm not sure if I am annoyed by that or really just perplexed. I would be tempted to comment on her post, "Hey auntie! Wow, your results look EXACTLY THE SAME as my results that I sent to sister! What are the odds of that?!"
ETA: Is it a map of your actual DNA, or a map of your ancestry results?
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Post by librarylady on Apr 18, 2021 16:23:33 GMT
Your brother's DNA would be similar but not exactly the same.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 18, 2021 16:29:09 GMT
I probably wouldn’t be annoyed if it didn’t have my name on it and one of my brothers posted it, as it would be their DNA, too. But for your Aunt to post it is just stupid because that’s not her own and it would annoy me. Except that it's not. My sister and I did the 23andMe, so we can see each other's results. We share just over 55% of our DNA, and as a result, our ancestry breakdowns are different. She has more western European and I have more eastern European. (And somewhere, I got a trace amount of Cypriot DNA that she does not have.) |
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Apr 18, 2021 17:11:04 GMT
Could your aunt possibly be your sister?
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smcast
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Post by smcast on Apr 18, 2021 17:16:13 GMT
I'd think it was weird but that would be about it. I'd wonder how their conversation went. Do you feel comfortable messaging her and asking why she posted your results?
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Post by maryland on Apr 18, 2021 17:33:11 GMT
Why would someone post someone else's DNA info on facebook? I could understand if she wanted to post her own to show what parts of the world her relatives came from. But I would have no interest in posting someone else.
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Post by maryland on Apr 18, 2021 17:35:26 GMT
I probably wouldn’t be annoyed if it didn’t have my name on it and one of my brothers posted it, as it would be their DNA, too. But for your Aunt to post it is just stupid because that’s not her own and it would annoy me. Except that it's not. My sister and I did the 23andMe, so we can see each other's results. We share just over 55% of our DNA, and as a result, our ancestry breakdowns are different. She has more western European and I have more eastern European. (And somewhere, I got a trace amount of Cypriot DNA that she does not have.) That's so interesting! Do you have the same biological parents or do you share one parent in common? I assumed my brother and I would have the same results of how much German, English, and more that we are. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2021 17:46:24 GMT
Whatever the content of the message/photo, I'd be annoyed at my sister and my aunt. I'd tell sister that unless I explicitly say It's okay to share, do NOT forward anything I send her. That's common courtesy. And I'd ask aunt to take it down.
Your DNA is your medical history. Your family history. It's YOURS and no one but you should feel entitled to sharing it with anyone, let alone posting it on Facebook, a site with a dubious relationship with privacy.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Apr 18, 2021 17:52:02 GMT
Except that it's not. My sister and I did the 23andMe, so we can see each other's results. We share just over 55% of our DNA, and as a result, our ancestry breakdowns are different. She has more western European and I have more eastern European. (And somewhere, I got a trace amount of Cypriot DNA that she does not have.) That's so interesting! Do you have the same biological parents or do you share one parent in common? I assumed my brother and I would have the same results of how much German, English, and more that we are. Same parents. It actually is pretty interesting, and it makes sense once you stop to think about how many bajillion ways DNA can divide and recombine, then multiply that out over generations. I'm glad I don't have to do the math.  |
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Post by melodyesch on Apr 18, 2021 18:00:48 GMT
I probably wouldn’t be annoyed if it didn’t have my name on it and one of my brothers posted it, as it would be their DNA, too. But for your Aunt to post it is just stupid because that’s not her own and it would annoy me. Except that it's not. My sister and I did the 23andMe, so we can see each other's results. We share just over 55% of our DNA, and as a result, our ancestry breakdowns are different. She has more western European and I have more eastern European. (And somewhere, I got a trace amount of Cypriot DNA that she does not have.) Wow. I absolutely did not know that!!! I assumed the breakdowns would be exactly the same. That’s very interesting. |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Apr 18, 2021 18:06:05 GMT
Except that it's not. My sister and I did the 23andMe, so we can see each other's results. We share just over 55% of our DNA, and as a result, our ancestry breakdowns are different. She has more western European and I have more eastern European. (And somewhere, I got a trace amount of Cypriot DNA that she does not have.) That's so interesting! Do you have the same biological parents or do you share one parent in common? I assumed my brother and I would have the same results of how much German, English, and more that we are. Definitely not. Think about it - each parent is only passing on half of their DNA to you, so you may get different pieces. Think about families you know where parents have different ethnicity and just how varied their offspring can be - you'd never actually guess that my brother and I were siblings - our coloring is so incredibly different. |
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Apr 18, 2021 18:24:24 GMT
Thanks for the responses. It's reassuring to know I'm not overreacting. I probably won't say anything (the photo didn't have my name or anything, the way I cropped it before I texted cut out any personal info) it's literally a map of Europe with colored blobs all over it. It's definitely my photo, taken with my phone, of a screenshot on my computer screen. The French DNA is not a surprise to anyone, we knew about it before DNA tests existed as my aunt's grandparents (my great-grandparents) were 100% French. The point of the text was that it was finally on my dna map... and not showing up as Norwegian anymore. I am definitely hesitant to share anything (even in a text) with certain family members though... I don't want to know what else they've reshared and posted all over the internet  |
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Post by lisae on Apr 18, 2021 20:31:43 GMT
While she should not have done that, you should not send an electronic copy of something personal to someone else unless you absolutely have to. Always assume that anything on a computer screen or phone screen can be sent to someone or posted publically.
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