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Post by freecharlie on Apr 24, 2021 3:11:15 GMT
We wanted to find out with ods, but he just showed us his butt in the ultrasound. We didn't want to with yds, but I think the ultrasound lady said he and I knew from then. Dh didn't hear her and thought i was imagining it, so there was a bit of doubt in my mind.
Did you find out before your child was born?
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Post by Linda on Apr 24, 2021 3:14:00 GMT
wasn't an option for my oldest - only u/s was at 13 weeks (boy)
my middle - they weren't sure, they thought girl maybe but weren't willing to commit (she was)
my youngest - we wanted to know because middle was SURE it was a baby sister and we wanted to be able to prepare her if it wasn't (it was)
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Post by elaine on Apr 24, 2021 3:14:46 GMT
Yes. I had an amniocentesis with each pregnancy because of my age, so we knew with 100% certainty.
I would never have thought of doing the gender-reveal hoopla that seems to be the rage this past decade, however. I don’t understand the need, just being happy that one is having a baby, regardless of the gender, seems enough to me. But, I’m old.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2021 3:18:20 GMT
With dd, no.
With ds, yes. I had U/S weekly due to how high risk the pregnancy was.
With ds, I told family. To me it was important to have that connect and say his name while pregnant because it was so touch and go.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 24, 2021 3:18:43 GMT
Yes, with both kids. I am a planner. Plus it had the added bonus of us only needing to argue about discuss boy or girl names, not both.
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Post by paigepea on Apr 24, 2021 3:20:20 GMT
We had 3D u/S with dd#1 and because she had a bad heart rate I had weekly u/s. Later in my pregnancy, like even up to 38 weeks, you could see this baby looked just like dh. We were convinced we were having a boy. I have a dd who takes after Dh’s side of the family. When she came out and the dr said girl we were beyond shocked. Dh looked at me and said ‘does that mean she’ll get her period in grade 5?’ (Like me) 🤪
We were surprised both times.
ETA - she had a true knot in the cord (didn’t show on u/s) which is why her heart rate was poor
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Post by cmpeter on Apr 24, 2021 3:20:22 GMT
Yes, for both and they were correct each time.
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Post by finaledition on Apr 24, 2021 3:22:31 GMT
1st- No, we wanted to be surprised 2nd-yes, but only a couple months before she was born because they could not tell at the previous ultrasound miscarriage baby- we wanted to wait, but I saw at a routine exam XY written in the corner of my chart so I did know. 3rd-yes, had prenatal testing at 10 weeks so knew early on. I enjoyed not knowing and had we not had a devastating loss prior, I would have been willing to be surprised, but I felt I needed to begin bonding with him.
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Post by bc2ca on Apr 24, 2021 3:29:29 GMT
No, it wasn't an option for us as part of our regular prenatal care.
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Post by padresfan619 on Apr 24, 2021 3:30:43 GMT
No with my newborn son, and it was a ton of fun. My mom was really annoyed with us until the last few weeks, then it became fun trying to guess based on all the old wives tales. If we have another I’d like to find out next time but keep it between my husband and I until the birth.
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Post by Jili on Apr 24, 2021 3:38:33 GMT
Yes. I had an amniocentesis with each pregnancy because of my age, so we knew with 100% certainty. I would never have thought of doing the gender-reveal hoopla that seems to be the rage this past decade, however. I don’t understand the need, just being happy that one is having a baby, regardless of the gender, seems enough to me. But, I’m old. We did not find out ahead of time with either and I would do that again. But like Elaine, I’m not into the gender-reveal thing. It kind of makes me roll my eyes, quite honestly. If I had found out ahead of time, I would have just told people and called it done.
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Post by seaexplore on Apr 24, 2021 3:43:37 GMT
I found out my first at the anatomy scan, so like 20 weeks. I had a feeling it was a girl but wasn’t sure.
I found out my second at 9 weeks via blood test since I was having a boy.
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Post by paget on Apr 24, 2021 3:46:14 GMT
Yes, I wanted to know for all three and they were confident each time - girls.
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Post by janeliz on Apr 24, 2021 3:53:36 GMT
We didn’t before my oldest daughter’s birth. I had to have an amniocentesis during my second pregnancy, though, so we found out with her.
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Post by tanya2 on Apr 24, 2021 3:58:29 GMT
no for both - we wanted to be surprised
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Post by Anita on Apr 24, 2021 4:00:20 GMT
Yes for both. I like information. Not a fan of surprises.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Apr 24, 2021 4:02:25 GMT
We *thought* we wanted a girl. My Ob/Gyn asked if we wanted to know and we said yes ~ told us it was a girl. We were so excited, then a few minutes later he said *oops, if it's a girl she has some strange plumbing!* It took us less than a minute to get excited about having a boy. Our reveal to DH's family was giving his dad a pair of blue baby booties for his birthday. He was clueless until his wife told him he was going to be a grandpa again.
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Post by psoccer on Apr 24, 2021 4:05:02 GMT
With my first I didn't want to know but my gut told me I was having a boy. My mom wanted to buy girl clothes, just in case, but I told her to wait. I had a boy. I did find out with my other two, and I did get a girl, which made my mom very happy. I looked the same in all my pregnancies. One huge tummy that stuck out, and you could hardly tell I was pregnant from the back. I did look good pregnant and I wish I had taken more photos when I was pregnant.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Apr 24, 2021 4:19:16 GMT
Ultrasound wasn’t available for me unless I had a problem. It was not routine back then. Yes. I’m old LOL
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Post by quinlove on Apr 24, 2021 4:34:18 GMT
Ultrasound wasn’t available for me unless I had a problem. It was not routine back then. Yes. I’m old LOL Same with me. My husband was not even allowed in delivery.
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Post by FrozenPea on Apr 24, 2021 4:37:28 GMT
Yes with all 3 kids - girl, girl, boy. All were correct!
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Post by sueg on Apr 24, 2021 5:20:54 GMT
I am another 'oldie' who really didn't have the option. With my first, my only US was at 13 weeks, as I was measuring big and my doctor suspected twins - only one baby, but he did end up being on the large side. With my second, I had one US at about 13 - 14 weeks, to date the pregnancy - my period hadn't come back since the first baby yet. I had a second scan done at 34 weeks, as this was also a big baby, and the doctor wanted to check pelvis vs baby head measurements. He did warn me at that point, that depending on position, it was possible that the gender would be revealed. DS had other ideas, and kept his legs tightly crossed the whole time. Both times I was convinced I was having a boy, and both times I was right.
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Apr 24, 2021 5:46:24 GMT
The first one we did when we lived in the US, however for the second one that wasn’t an option. In India, it’s illegal to check for the sex of the unborn child so we couldn’t.
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Post by Nink on Apr 24, 2021 5:50:23 GMT
I only had one, and no. That really wasn’t a thing back then. I had two u/s during my pregnancy. First because I was measuring big and they thought I was having twins. Nope just one. Second one because the doctor thought the first u/s had to be wrong and I must be having twins. He said sometimes they lay on top of each other and it can be missed. Still only one in there. He was 10lbs 2oz and 23” long, so that explained it. Lol
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Post by snugglebutter on Apr 24, 2021 6:11:31 GMT
Loss mentioned - With my first, we tried to find out but couldn't get a good view. They said "probably" a boy but it was so uncertain that we didn't tell most people. As some of you know, I lost the baby near my due date - a girl. I so wish we could have had those months ahead of time knowing the joy that we were having a daughter without the grief mixed in with it. I knew right away that if we had more children I definitely wanted to find out ahead of the birth. I thankfully had very clear ultrasounds with our other children and with the youngest I had a blood test and found out even earlier.
I do kind of roll my eyes at the way some people (IRL, not on this thread) are with their opinions on the subject. You can have an opinion about what is best for your pregnancies, but that doesn't mean it is the best for everyone.
(And a side note - I personally thought that not knowing and having every random acquaintance and stranger guessing the sex really really annoying. I don't know if that was an introvert thing or what)
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Post by magellen on Apr 24, 2021 6:21:46 GMT
Only for one because because of high risk potential.
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Post by malibou on Apr 24, 2021 7:28:34 GMT
I was old when I had ds, so they did an amnio. But I knew he was a boy, and so did everyone else. 😀 There was not a single person who guessed I was having a girl. There was even a little girl that came up to me the day before my amnio to tell me I was carrying the oldest boy ever! Her mother was so embarrassed, and the girl was so insistent. Everyone comments on what an old soul he is.
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Post by gar on Apr 24, 2021 7:50:00 GMT
No, wanted the surprise at the birth, both times.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 24, 2021 8:00:32 GMT
No, neither of us wanted to know. I wanted the surprise at the end. To me and that isn't judging anyone else that want to know, it would be like opening your Christmas presents months before Christmas.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Apr 24, 2021 8:15:41 GMT
My 4 children were born from 1979-1985, and we had no health insurance. Ultrasounds were expensive. So all 4 were surprises.
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