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Post by Karene on Apr 24, 2021 11:22:42 GMT
I never had an ultrasound with the first. With the second, I did have a few ultrasounds because I was bleeding early, (and had a miscarriage just before) but not only did they not ask me if I wanted to know, they never let me see the ultrasound picture! But I didn't want to know ahead of time anyway.
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Post by huskermom98 on Apr 24, 2021 11:44:07 GMT
We didn't want to know with our first. I was sure I was having a girl & almost shouted "no its not!" when the OB announced it was a boy. We did find out with our second because I wanted to know if we could reuse everything or not. So we knew we were having a boy and the only surprise at the delivery was when the OB said "its a boy!...and he's urinating..."
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 24, 2021 11:45:32 GMT
Yes, I knew with each pregnancy. I was high risk for all of them and had monthly and then weekly scans. There had been a rash of incorrect determinations and the sonographers were told not to tell the genders. But when we had the scans of the hearts, it was some pretty high tech equipment. So I was pretty confident that they were right. The high risk centers always asked if we wanted to know and then would say, “he looks good” or “she’s waving”. I also have videos of some of the u/s.
We had so many people supporting us after years of infertility that I just shared it all. It was enough of a surprise that were were pregnant and I hate keeping secrets.
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Post by stittsygirl on Apr 24, 2021 12:23:04 GMT
For two we did and for the other two we didn’t.
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Post by muggins on Apr 24, 2021 12:31:06 GMT
Yes, I wanted to know with both of mine. I like to be organised:)
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Post by purplebee on Apr 24, 2021 12:31:53 GMT
Yes. For our one and only, we learned we were having a boy after amniocentesis, which was done because of my age. We did want to know.
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Post by gramasue on Apr 24, 2021 12:35:40 GMT
No. My youngest was born in 1977. I don't remember that it was even an option to find out.
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Post by cakediva on Apr 24, 2021 12:45:12 GMT
We found out with DS.
After 2 girls, I decided we needed to know ahead of time for the 3rd for two reasons:
1) DH may have needed time to deal with a third girl LOL 2) I had MAYBE 2-3 outfits that were generic enough for a boy to wear, so I needed time to prepare.
But this was 20 years ago, no fancy reveal parties.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Apr 24, 2021 12:48:14 GMT
I didn’t want to know the first time. And didn’t.
The second time, I desperately wanted to know. And did. By then, my motivation was much more pragmatic.
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Post by Patter on Apr 24, 2021 12:55:31 GMT
We tried but they never could tell. I had many ultrasounds but they were so squished in there that they could never tell. I am only 5 feet "tall." They thought maybe two girls and a boy but we knew in our hearts whatever it was they would be identical. We were right.
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Post by maryland on Apr 24, 2021 13:03:56 GMT
No, I wanted to wait until the kids were born. I thought it would be so fun not knowing during pregnancy. We also didn't discuss names until we got to the hospital! I had a list, and I would give it to my husband to help pick a name. I love keeping things a surprise as long as possible for me!
I thought each would be a boy and I was wrong! We have three girls!
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Post by Merge on Apr 24, 2021 13:10:29 GMT
Yes, we found out both times. They were named and well-dressed before they came out.
Gender reveal parties were not a thing back then. We just called the grandparents to tell them, and let the adorable outfits and toys roll in.
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Post by Neisey on Apr 24, 2021 13:10:48 GMT
No, we wanted to be surprised both times... girls both times.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 24, 2021 13:11:43 GMT
We wanted to be surprised. However, girls are rare in DH’s family, so we were already expecting it to be a boy. We weren’t disappointed.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 24, 2021 14:05:18 GMT
We tried to find out with a separate ultrasound six weeks before he was born since prior to that, no technician could tell us . The dr. said if I came back in four weeks, they could tell me. Uh, I only had 6 weeks to go, I was going to find our shorty. I think the machines are much better now at seeing all the bits and pieces. I knew the first one was a boy in our regulatory scheduled ultrasound.
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 24, 2021 14:12:21 GMT
Absolutely! If anyone knew something about my child that I didn't know then I had to know it too. I also feel that the child is whatever sex it is from very early on, and knowing at delivery held no enticement for me. My babies had their names and identifying ultrasounds by 20 weeks and 16 weeks.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 24, 2021 14:21:05 GMT
I too am a planner and wanted to know so I wouldn’t have to waste time exchanging clothing and stuff that we wouldn’t use. Plus, I really, really, REAALLLLY hate the color yellow and almost all the gender neutral clothing is either yellow, green or white, ugh. So anything in those colors was automatically going back anyway, LOL.
It was also nice only having to fight with DH over names for one gender instead of both.
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Post by leannec on Apr 24, 2021 14:33:52 GMT
I don't like surprises! We found out dd#1 was a girl through ultrasound and that dd#2 was a girl through amnio ( I was over 35) ... so glad we had time to name them and buy cute girl clothes! They are now 22 and almost 18
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Post by mimima on Apr 24, 2021 14:37:53 GMT
I loved knowing with oldest Ds, but then youngest Ds was shy so we didn't know. The whole gender reveal party is odd.
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Post by littlemama on Apr 24, 2021 14:47:58 GMT
Yes, but we didnt tell people until our shower.
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Post by garcia5050 on Apr 24, 2021 14:58:36 GMT
I wanted to find out but DH didn’t. So we didn’t for either of our babies. We had a boy, then a girl, so the good thing was that we got all gender neutral gifts at the first shower and used it all for the second baby.
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Post by Zee on Apr 24, 2021 15:04:18 GMT
We had 3D u/S with dd#1 and because she had a bad heart rate I had weekly u/s. Later in my pregnancy, like even up to 38 weeks, you could see this baby looked just like dh. We were convinced we were having a boy. I have a dd who takes after Dh’s side of the family. When she came out and the dr said girl we were beyond shocked. Dh looked at me and said ‘does that mean she’ll get her period in grade 5?’ (Like me) 🤪 We were surprised both times. ETA - she had a true knot in the cord (didn’t show on u/s) which is why her heart rate was poor Wait. His first response was about her future period? What? Why? I'm literally lol'ing BTW, I was born looking just like my dad. Our baby pictures are almost identical. I grew up a bit more girly though. Can't imagine my dad asked my mom about my period.
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Post by bunnyhug on Apr 24, 2021 15:09:10 GMT
We found out for all three, but didn’t tell anyone else.
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Post by paigepea on Apr 24, 2021 15:35:33 GMT
We had 3D u/S with dd#1 and because she had a bad heart rate I had weekly u/s. Later in my pregnancy, like even up to 38 weeks, you could see this baby looked just like dh. We were convinced we were having a boy. I have a dd who takes after Dh’s side of the family. When she came out and the dr said girl we were beyond shocked. Dh looked at me and said ‘does that mean she’ll get her period in grade 5?’ (Like me) 🤪 We were surprised both times. ETA - she had a true knot in the cord (didn’t show on u/s) which is why her heart rate was poor Wait. His first response was about her future period? What? Why? I'm literally lol'ing BTW, I was born looking just like my dad. Our baby pictures are almost identical. I grew up a bit more girly though. Can't imagine my dad asked my mom about my period. Ha! Yes it was a stress for him. I should say he is a pedi so attends deliveries / c-sections all day longs and holds newborns regularly. While it was exciting to be our child he wasn’t mesmerized by the tiny fingers / toes, etc. It was a stressful delivery. It was a shock when she came out. And I’ve never forgotten his first comment 😂.
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Post by refugeepea on Apr 24, 2021 15:36:32 GMT
Yes, no, and yes. I wanted to find out on all three, but child two would not cooperate on the ultrasound. This was when only one was done unless the OB needed to do more for medical reasons.
I did not feel different either way. I was surprised at the doctor's office or I was surprised in the delivery room. I preferred to know sooner.
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Post by julie5 on Apr 24, 2021 15:38:03 GMT
First one we didn’t want to know but my mom did so she bribed us to do it. Baby did not cooperate. We kept the bribe.
Second one we wanted to, baby didn’t cooperate. We had a “Chandler’s a girl!!!” Moment in the operating room.
Third one we wanted to find out and we did and we’re absolutely floored to have a 3rd daughter. I spent the rest of my pregnancy sure it would still be a boy lol.
14 years later that one that I assigned girl to came out a transgender boy so in the end , I got my son. <3
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Post by ntsf on Apr 24, 2021 15:54:16 GMT
I was in hong kong with my first kid.. no ultrasounds. and we were paying out of pocket..insurance did not cover births. with my second pregnancy, I was high risk cause I had twins.. but no one offered to tell me and I didn't want to know. got a boy first, and fraternal girls the second.
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Post by tampascrapper on Apr 24, 2021 18:29:20 GMT
At first I wasn’t going to because I was sure it was a boy. Since my husband’s grandfather wasn’t doing well we decided to find out. That way we would be able to tell him the baby’s middle name was his if it was a boy and if it was a girl, the middle name would’ve been his wife’s (my husband’s grandmother)
Baby decided to come early instead. I was right. It was a boy ❤️
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Post by cmhs on Apr 24, 2021 19:04:38 GMT
I found out for the first one and the last one. Middle child was a surprise.
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Post by peabay on Apr 24, 2021 19:06:43 GMT
Surprised all 4 times. That was right for us. I totally understand why people find out early - and it’s surprise for them too. Just a little earlier than mine!
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