TXMary
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And so many nights I just dream of the ocean. God, I wish I was sailin' again.
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Jun 26, 2014 17:25:06 GMT
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Post by TXMary on Jul 9, 2021 17:46:31 GMT
No. He's a wonderful husband and I love him very much. We've been married for almost 35 years and been together for 37 years. We have a great marriage. But he's not my best friend. My best friend was my sister but she died in February of 2020 and I don't really have a local best friend anymore. I do have one friend that I would say is my best friend right now and we chat on messenger every day, often multiple times a day, and I can tell her anything. But she's in Oklahoma and I'm in Texas so we don't see each other much. We are meeting her and her husband in San Diego next month and I'm so excited. I really miss having someone to have lunch with or go to the movies with. I miss my sister. I am so sorry..BIG HUGS to you....I know how you feel, I would be lost without my sister XOXOXO Thank you. And give your sister a big hug too.
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Post by Ryann on Jul 9, 2021 19:00:35 GMT
DH is my best friend, definitely. There are things he knows that I would not share with my two closest friends, the ones I call BFFs.
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on Jul 9, 2021 20:32:54 GMT
my ex was not my best friend. if i was freaking out or needed support, i had my girlfriends for that.
i actually would keep things from him because his reactions were (in hindsight) often a bit selfish (as in "yah, but what does this mean to *me*?). problems i solved with help from others in my life.
when i had good news, i was careful how i presented it to him - he could sometimes ask questions that seemed to often just rain on my parade or again, correlate what it meant to him.
i tried to explain to him why i dealt with stuff myself. he didn't get it. or change anything. so yah.
now i have been dating someone for almost 2 years, known him about 3.5 yrs. he is my best friend. when i am upset, it's him i want to lean on. when i am ecstatic, it's him i want to share it with. don't know what the future holds, but the bar has been set *way* higher for what i would ever expect in a relationship.
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anniebeth24
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Jun 26, 2014 14:12:17 GMT
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Post by anniebeth24 on Jul 9, 2021 21:10:40 GMT
Yes, he's the one person I can absolutely be myself with and thoroughly enjoy doing nothing with.
Grammar peas - please forgive the above.
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Post by Lindarina on Jul 9, 2021 21:21:52 GMT
Yes, he is. But I have others I consider best friends as well.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 10, 2021 2:46:14 GMT
We’ve been married for 10 years now after reigniting our high school sweethearts relationship at age 48. He’s the yin to my yang. We are polar opposites in some ways, but definitely each other’s “person” none the less. I’ve been able to be my authentic self more with him than anyone else ever in my life. I happily spend as much time with him as I can and miss him lot when we’re apart. Is that a best friend? Maybe.
I also have my college roommate who is the closest thing to a sister I’ll ever have. It’s a completely different relationship than that with my husband, but fills other needs that are just as important. I can easily label that a ‘best friend’ relationship.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 10, 2021 3:18:11 GMT
I’ve moved all my life so don’t have friendships that started in childhood. I do not have a sister. I’ve had best friends at different times, but those relationships eventually fell off when I moved. My DH is my best friend. We’ve been together for 31 years, it’s a longest relationship I’ve had with anyone in my life including family. He knows me better than anyone. I’d rather spend time with him over anyone else I know. I have girlfriends and a SIL that I do girl stuff with, but they don’t know me like DH.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 10, 2021 10:44:39 GMT
Yes! Every single day!
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Post by littlemama on Jul 10, 2021 13:44:26 GMT
No, he is so much more than that. He is my life partner and has been my other (usually better) half for 36 years (married 32 of those). I also have a best friend who fills a different role and who is also irreplaceable to me. My DH also has a best friend (probably a couple of them) and I think it’s a good thing that we have these other people to fulfill various emotional needs. I don’t think it’s healthy for a couple to only have each other to rely on. It is interesting that you equate "best friend" with "only friend". My dh is my best friend, but I also have a female best friend as well as other friends to rely on.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 10, 2021 14:00:50 GMT
No, he is so much more than that. He is my life partner and has been my other (usually better) half for 36 years (married 32 of those). I also have a best friend who fills a different role and who is also irreplaceable to me. My DH also has a best friend (probably a couple of them) and I think it’s a good thing that we have these other people to fulfill various emotional needs. I don’t think it’s healthy for a couple to only have each other to rely on. It is interesting that you equate "best friend" with "only friend". My dh is my best friend, but I also have a female best friend as well as other friends to rely on. No, I really don’t equate best friend with only friend. But I at the moment I do truly only have one best girl friend, one “hide the body” friend that I can count on no matter what other than my DH. I have other friends that I do stuff with and talk to, but they are more casual relationships. I have known people though who have truly only had their spouse as their one and only friend and source of emotional support and I think being that person (or the person they are relying on for so much) would be very hard.
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janeliz
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Jun 26, 2014 14:35:07 GMT
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Post by janeliz on Jul 10, 2021 14:27:46 GMT
No.
I mean, we’re friendly. Lol. But I don’t consider him my best friend. He’s my husband. That’s just different to me.
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Post by pynke on Jul 10, 2021 19:28:17 GMT
Yes, and he says the same about me.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 10, 2021 21:44:26 GMT
My best friend is my oldest son. I can talk to him about anything and he to me. My husband is not my best friend because he has very little to say and he doesn't get me. He accepts me which is great. But not able to be my confidant and support person.
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pridemom
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Jul 12, 2014 21:58:10 GMT
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Post by pridemom on Jul 10, 2021 22:18:54 GMT
He is more than a friend. After 51 years of marriage we are different sides to the same coin. We do not exactly think alike, but have a lot of the same value systems and the same moral compass. Best friends are not as close, but are good to have. But, right not we do not have any best friends, just good friends. I love this and it describes my DH and me. We’ve been together 30 years. We have always lived far from family and we had to rely on each other. We have survived so many difficult times and it’s built an amazing trust between us.
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zookeeper
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Post by zookeeper on Jul 11, 2021 0:13:47 GMT
I absolutely love that there are so many different answers here. No one answer will describe every relationship. For me, dh is absolutely my best friend. He knows me better than any other person on this earth. I know that he will always have my back.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 11, 2021 0:16:58 GMT
No, but he is and has always been the one I can count on no matter what.
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amom23
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Jun 27, 2014 12:39:18 GMT
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Post by amom23 on Jul 11, 2021 0:46:44 GMT
My DH and my sister are my 2 closest people in life.
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Post by Jamie on Jul 11, 2021 3:16:43 GMT
Nope. Up until this past year I would say my cousin was. But since she started dating this new guy her new family is him and his kids. We live 3 hrs apart so when we want to do something we need to plan ahead. Now it’s always oh I need to ask mike. She’ll be 40 this year and I’m happy she finally found someone that treats her right, but it’s like she’s lost all sense of herself and making her own decisions.
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Post by needmysanity on Jul 11, 2021 15:07:09 GMT
No and I'm sure he would say the same about me.
However since we moved to a whole new state, we have grown closer and I think that friendship part of our relationship has been rediscovered. I really am enjoying this.
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Post by snoopy on Jul 11, 2021 15:12:22 GMT
Yes! We have been together 25 years, married for almost 19. I am a very reserved, introverted person, and DH is one of the few people who really “knows” me. He’s the only one who I am truly myself around.
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