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Post by zookeeper on Jul 9, 2021 3:27:46 GMT
I have had best friends in my life. However, until I met my second husband, I never knew that feeling of "my husband is my best friend". The lucky ones get that experience from their first husbands/wives/partners. Some of us get there in our second or third husbands/wives/partners.
I know that I am so grateful that my husband is my very best friend. He rocks my world in all of the very best ways. (hubba hubba!) I also know that it is he and I against the world. I did NOT have this with my first husband. He never stood up for me.... not once.
It is so awesome to have someone in your corner.
So....do you consider your spouse to be your best friend?
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Post by sawwhet on Jul 9, 2021 3:29:20 GMT
Yes! for the past 30 years.
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Post by ntsf on Jul 9, 2021 3:30:10 GMT
no cause he is more than a friend.
but we have been together 37 yrs.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 9, 2021 3:30:29 GMT
No. I don't really have a best friend. My husband is my partner in life.
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Post by samantha25 on Jul 9, 2021 3:31:13 GMT
No
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 9, 2021 3:31:38 GMT
I do. When I am struggling with how I feel about something or the best way to react, I have learned his advice is usually spot on.
He always looks out for me, but I don’t always realize it until later.
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Post by busy on Jul 9, 2021 3:33:27 GMT
DH and I have a great relationship but he is not my best friend and I don’t want him to be. I’ve known my best friend since we were 10 and she is like my sister. The role she fulfills in my life is not one that my husband could fulfill. It is an entirely different kind of relationship. Plus, no matter how much I love my husband, I don’t want him to be my only source of emotional support. It’s healthier for me this way.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jul 9, 2021 3:42:09 GMT
No.
My dad is definitely my mom’s best friend though.
My cousin has been my best friend for the past 35 years.
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Post by zookeeper on Jul 9, 2021 3:51:25 GMT
I’ve known my best friend since we were 10 and she is like my sister. The role she fulfills in my life is not one that my husband could fulfill. It is an entirely different kind of relationship. Plus, no matter how much I love my husband, I don’t want him to be my only source of emotional support. It’s healthier for me this way I can appreciate this in ways that only you would understand. My SIL who I loved like a sister passed away in 2010 and it nearly broke me. Forgive the pun, but we were two peas in a pod. Ironically, it was her passing that made me realize that life is too short. I filed for divorce and took the leap. It was actually one of the friendliest divorces in history as we both felt the same. We filed in March and were divorced by July with no attorney actually involved. We agreed on terms including custody and filed for $300. I know this is extremely rare but this is how we did it. My ex is now happily to his best friend and I am married to mine. |
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Post by Zee on Jul 9, 2021 3:57:26 GMT
He doesn't take the place of my girl friends, but yes he's my best friend. We weren't always in this place but we really enjoy each other's company and have been really happy that he can work from home now.
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Post by Anita on Jul 9, 2021 4:04:14 GMT
No.
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Post by paget on Jul 9, 2021 4:06:17 GMT
Nope. I have a beat friend that I met a while before meeting him.  We have a great relationship but I consider the best friend role different. He’s my husband and is great at that role! (Most of the time lol). |
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Post by nlwilkins on Jul 9, 2021 4:13:42 GMT
He is more than a friend. After 51 years of marriage we are different sides to the same coin. We do not exactly think alike, but have a lot of the same value systems and the same moral compass. Best friends are not as close, but are good to have. But, right not we do not have any best friends, just good friends.
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Post by inkedup on Jul 9, 2021 4:18:06 GMT
I love my husband. We are great friends, but he is not my best friend, nor am I his. We have each other's backs, and we have a great life together.
My best friend and I have known one another since we were 8 (we're 44 now). We are girlfriends. We gab about our lives, our kids, and our husbands. We talk about the weirdness of this stage in life and explore mysteries like "why is my hair migrating from my head to my chin?" and "Did you see your 8th grade boyfriend's Facebook profile and aren't you glad you didn't marry him?"
I adore my husband and this works for us.
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Post by anaterra on Jul 9, 2021 4:20:56 GMT
I love him more then life... but no he is not my best friend... like busy my bff has been in my life since jr high... we have a different kinda friendship from the one i have with dh... but i do choose him every day... he is my partner.. |
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Post by zookeeper on Jul 9, 2021 4:25:08 GMT
I really love the variety of responses here!
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Post by FurryP on Jul 9, 2021 4:27:06 GMT
No.
I have a husband
I have a very good friend
I have a best friend, my sister
Each one fulfills a different need. My sister can never replace my good friend because we are very different. But she is still my best friend.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 9, 2021 4:41:43 GMT
Absolutely he is. He is the smartest man I ever met and he has never ever let me down. We have each other's backs. I have and have had good girlfriends over the years but from almost the first day that I met him my husband has been my best friend.
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Post by Sanibel on Jul 9, 2021 4:58:57 GMT
Absolutely! He is the only person on this entire earth I want to be with every single day. I love my grandchildren (born In our hearts) and would love to see them more often, but my husband is my everyday best everything! 🥰🥰
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 9, 2021 5:27:03 GMT
No, he is so much more than that. He is my life partner and has been my other (usually better) half for 36 years (married 32 of those). I also have a best friend who fills a different role and who is also irreplaceable to me. My DH also has a best friend (probably a couple of them) and I think it’s a good thing that we have these other people to fulfill various emotional needs. I don’t think it’s healthy for a couple to only have each other to rely on.
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Post by msliz on Jul 9, 2021 5:32:05 GMT
no cause he is more than a friend. but we have been together 37 yrs. Us too. In October it will be 37 years, married for 28. We argue about stupid things, but we support each other too. More than friends. |
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Post by Gennifer on Jul 9, 2021 7:04:33 GMT
Yes. In addition, it’s the easiest relationship in my life, because it’s the only one that is absolutely, 100%, true. I filter various things for my kids, my coworkers, my parents, my siblings... but not with my husband.
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Post by gar on Jul 9, 2021 7:48:23 GMT
He is the other half of me...we met at school 45 years ago...I have no concept of my world without him in it  But I am lucky enough to have other best friends too and what each relationship gives me, is different |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 9, 2021 8:22:57 GMT
Interesting responses. I thought for sure that almost everyone would gush about how yes their husband is their best friend and I would be the only one to say no hahaha!  My best friend is the girl I have known since we were 6 years old, so friends for 47 years. We've been together through the innocence of childhood, the turbulent teenage years, all the ups and downs, deaths, births, marriages and divorces of our 20s, 30s, 40s and 50s. and she knows pretty much everything about me. I was good friends with DSO well before we got together, and I would choose to spend time with him over anyone else (most of the time  ). He's my life partner, not my best friend. |
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 9, 2021 8:59:29 GMT
Yes, he is my best friend and I am his. I’m sure they is partially due to the fact that we move every few years and constantly lose and meet new people.
We’ve known each other since 1981, started dating in 1985, and got married in 1990. We grew into adulthood together and have been married 31 years as of last week. We spend most of our free time together and like many of the same things.
I do have a best friend, but she lives in Albuquerque and we haven’t seen each other in 9 years. I’m looking forward to seeing her when we return to the States!
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 9, 2021 9:04:25 GMT
I'm trying to think of how you define this.
I have a best friend. And there are some things I don't tell her. Yet there isn't anything I wouldn't tell my husband. If I had to choose one of them to walk out of my life. It would be her. I appreciate both of them in my life. But I absolutely feel closer to my husband. So I would say he is my best friend.
Anyway, when I look at it from all angles, I enjoy her company immensely but I absolutely prefer him.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 9, 2021 10:09:58 GMT
He is the other half of me...we met at school 45 years ago...I have no concept of my world without him in it But I am lucky enough to have other best friends too and what each relationship gives me, is different That's a lovely way to put it! |
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Post by playingcinderella on Jul 9, 2021 10:19:35 GMT
Yes, but he was my best friend before we became a couple. We met at 10 years old, became friends at 12 and by high school we were best friends. We got married when I was days away from 19. We will be married 19 years in December and he is still my very best friend.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Jul 9, 2021 11:07:48 GMT
No, haha, my best friend would get SO JEALOUS!  My friend relationships are totally different than my married relationship. |
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Post by karenlou on Jul 9, 2021 11:39:29 GMT
I would have to say No, We met and got married in our 40's so best friend relationships had been established since Jr high school (1968) We have had each other's back through marriage, divorce, death of parents....etc.
Also as we have grown and matured I have to consider my sister a best friend also.
My husband is my partner, we have a relationship unique to the the BF relationship. I don't know what I would do without him❤️❤️
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We have a great relationship but I consider the best friend role different. He’s my husband and is great at that role! (Most of the time lol). 
). He's my life partner, not my best friend.
