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Post by Fidget on Aug 24, 2021 12:17:44 GMT
My parents (now deceased) were about 2 hours away so we would always plan ahead and let them know, we didn't want to drive 2 hours to find no one home! My in laws were in the area so sometimes if we happened to be near by we would drop in, if we wanted to go there specifically, we'd call first to be sure they were home and it was convenient.
Currently - I don't drop in at my kids homes without texting first to be sure they are home and up for company. My kids however, do just drop in without calling, and I'm fine with that - especially if they have a grandchild or two in tow.
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peabay
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Post by peabay on Aug 24, 2021 12:21:36 GMT
Ours are all deceased but we always just called them and said: "hey, we want to come - what dates look good for you?" And, we were also invited - but we never waited for an invitation.
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Post by melanell on Aug 24, 2021 12:23:03 GMT
We basically just call/message to see if the person is home/will be home and if it's an okay time to stop by, but that's about it. With my MIL, we'll often stop in to check on her if we're in the area and we see her vehicle is in the drive/garage, since she lives alone. Sort of like a checking in and visit all in one.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 24, 2021 12:26:45 GMT
Keep in mind, my mom lives ten minutes away and my ILs and dad live about 45 minutes away. So there's not a whole lot of traveling.
We make plans with the ILs. They will text and ask if we are available and then we will plan something at either of our houses. I will also invite them when I feel like it. My dad never invites us over. Like never. And he never appears at my house without an invitation. I see him about 3 or 4 times a year. He just isn't much interested in having any kind of relationship. My mom will give me a text like a half hour before and say she's stopping by. I never know when she is popping in and I just don't care. And I have a standing invitation to her house for dinner on Thursdays and I'm sure she wouldn't care if I just popped by her house whenever I felt like it too. We have a different relationship than the others.
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Post by workingclassdog on Aug 24, 2021 13:25:28 GMT
Yeah I would just call my mom and say 'hey we are interested in visiting on such and such date, does that work for you?' Same would go if my mom wanted to visit us.. which is rare since she is getting older. She is about 10 hours from me
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Aug 24, 2021 14:12:08 GMT
As a kid my father’s parents lived 2 blocks north and his brother’s family lived the next block south. We just went whenever we wanted. If one of the kids were missing my mom & aunt would call each other’s house first. My grandpa came over everyday after school “to make sure we weren’t watching soap operas”😂. Really it was so we would make him dinner. My grandma was the worst cook I’ve ever known besides my husband.
Sadly my kids grew up with only 1 family of cousins in town. No grandparents. I hope to have some of my grandkids n town when I have some. Fortunately the 1st one comes in October. They live 2 miles from us! I always text before I go over.
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Post by huskermom98 on Aug 24, 2021 15:46:42 GMT
We live 3-5 hours away from grandparents. Our visits usually coincide with a holiday so it's not like it would be an unexpected visit. I do check with my stepmother to see if there's room for us to stay because she has more kids that live out of state that would need a place to stay compared to the other two sets of parents.
DH's parents are the only grandparents that travel to see us on a semi-regular basis. They call and ask if a certain weekend works...unfortunately they have gotten into a bad habit of asking less than a week in advance. However, a lot of their visits coincide with our birthdays so we are not usually surprised by the short notice.
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Post by gizzy on Aug 24, 2021 16:53:10 GMT
Our families will make sure the dates work for each other but never wait for an invitation.
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