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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 19:17:55 GMT
31 Aug 2021 Update: I finally found out more details about the latest death I mentioned earlier. D was fully vaccinated. It took some time before a real obit was published and that has had me concerned that his wife has also been very ill. No way would she have been content with the blurb put out by the funeral home. They didn't even get his name right! The real obit is out now, and right at the top next to his name where it can't be missed, I wish I could say I'm surprised, but I'm not. D was always a pretty easy-going, reasonable man and I didn't think he'd be holding out on getting a vaccine. I'm updating this thread immediately after learning the news. Edit to the Update - I posted the published obituary to FB and immediately got a label about Covid vaccines. I don't care what your beliefs are on censorship, this is obscene. ____________________________________________ I know. I know. I know. I've heard all about it from every side imaginable. Nobody needs to hear it again here, so I'm asking everyone just to be respectful and kept their opinions to themselves for this one, single thread. I'm just tired of losing people, really good people by any standards, to this disease. I've lost people from different political parties and persuasions and I don't want to dishonor any of their memories with opinions, ya get what I'm sayin'? Each loss gets a little harder to process. I know I can't be alone with trying to grieve without setting off this political insanity that I abhor. So, can we just take a moment to grieve together here for those we've lost too soon? Please? Consider me begging y'all here. This post is dedicated specifically to R, A, C & D. May you all rest in peace. The world was a better place with each of you still in it.  |
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Post by MichyM on Aug 25, 2021 19:26:27 GMT
I am sorry for your numerous losses. I feel very fortunate that I have not lost anyone that I'm close due to the pandemic. Practically, I am thankful that (most, if not all of) the people I know all believe in science and abiding by the recommendations made by the CDC and WHO. <Knocks wood>. I hope this marks the end of deaths amongst those you care about. Sending warm thoughts to you...
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Post by wellway on Aug 25, 2021 19:28:24 GMT
Hugs to you, one death is hard to deal with, multiple deaths without the processes that we humans have developed to deal with grief is intolerable. Although not covid deaths, we had funerals to "attend" one was okay but the second the international video link didn't work. I felt so sorry that my Dad felt he had let his sister down but all the relatives were in the same boat.
Hugs to all who had suffered a loss in the last few years.
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Post by garcia5050 on Aug 25, 2021 19:29:34 GMT
I wasn’t super close to my dad (because he’s not chatty), but it feels weird visiting my parents (just my mom now) and he’s not outside doing yard work. And he’s not going to complain that my car isn’t clean enough. Yet I still try to go after the car wash.
As far as super close people, that’s it. But I don’t think it will stay that way.
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Post by elaine on Aug 25, 2021 19:36:21 GMT
I’m sorry for your losses, leftturnonly. May their memories be a blessing. |
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Post by mnmloveli on Aug 25, 2021 19:36:42 GMT
((HUGS)) to all who have lost friends and loved ones to this awful pandemic. Any loss of a human being means that there are friends and family who are hurting and sad. Please know there are people who are thinking of you and hoping you are holding on to your good memories of your time with your loved one who has passed.
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 19:37:05 GMT
he’s not outside doing yard work OMG! Yes! That's what it is to lose a parent. It's the little things that smack you right in the face. I'm so sorry you lost your dad. {{{hugs}}} wellway - so sorry you lost your aunt(?) {{{hugs}}} Again, let's please try to keep our opinions of "why" to ourselves for a moment here. There's more than enough opportunity for you to speak elsewhere. Thank you. |
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wellway
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Post by wellway on Aug 25, 2021 19:43:38 GMT
leftturnonly, it was my uncle, not covid, it was fact that the normal process of supporting his wife was not possible because no one could travel between the two countries and then the video link on the day of the funeral didn't work. There was a feeling of a process unfinished and incomplete.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Aug 25, 2021 19:44:13 GMT
I am so sorry for all your losses leftturnonly. They, their families, and you will be in my prayers. |
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Post by naby64 on Aug 25, 2021 19:50:47 GMT
I went into a real deep funk about 3 weeks, a month ago. I knew 2 people, one closely, that passed from Covid.
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 19:50:57 GMT
leftturnonly , it was my uncle, not covid, it was fact that the normal process of supporting his wife was not possible because no one could travel between the two countries and then the video link on the day of the funeral didn't work. There was a feeling of a process unfinished and incomplete. You know, the pandemic made things so much harder and that counts here on this thread. This is only a place to tell the world that we really miss someone that passed during this most difficult time. I began this thread because a family member late last night posted about the passing of a mutual friend and I couldn't find anything about it anywhere. Her post was garbled and she mentioned his daughter, and I spent a good deal of time scrambling to see if she was OK or if she too had passed. Not wanting to pass on bad info about someone's death, I had nowhere to go and no one to talk to. So, yeah. This is intended as just our own private memorials in acknowledgement that they will be missed. |
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Post by janeinbama on Aug 25, 2021 19:53:15 GMT
We have been directly impacted in December-March, prior to vaccines being available to all. My DH's cousin, 2 co-workers lost their husbands and I lost a co-worker. And it could have been me, as DH and I had the virus in early November, as did our DD and her friend. We all recovered, although DH spent 4 days in hospital and came home with oxygen for a couple of days. We are vaccinated, but I was surprised at how long it took my other co-workers to get vaccinated.
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Post by MichyM on Aug 25, 2021 19:57:43 GMT
he’s not outside doing yard work OMG! Yes! That's what it is to lose a parent. It's the little things that smack you right in the face. I'm so sorry you lost your dad. {{{hugs}}} wellway - so sorry you lost your aunt(?) {{{hugs}}} Again, let's please try to keep our opinions of "why" to ourselves for a moment here. There's more than enough opportunity for you to speak elsewhere.Thank you. I'm sorry if you found part of what I posted (which is not political as was requested) bothersome. Again, sending warm thoughts.... |
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Post by Merge on Aug 25, 2021 20:00:27 GMT
I’m very sorry. Every loss to this disease is tragic.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Aug 25, 2021 20:02:00 GMT
It's definitely a collective trauma. Memory Eternal.
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Post by craftykitten on Aug 25, 2021 20:03:14 GMT
I’m so sorry, for everyone’s losses. The incomplete grieving, not being able to comfort each other, is almost unbearable. Much love xx
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 20:10:19 GMT
I went into a real deep funk about 3 weeks, a month ago. I knew 2 people, one closely, that passed from Covid. One was fully vaxxed and I am not sure of the other. I became so angry. Lord help me if any of my family members pass from this. {{{Hugs}}} Grieving is never easy, but it's just so much more complicated now. What we don't always realize is that we can be deeply affected by the deaths of people who are not what we would normally define as being close to us. I think I cried hardest at the funeral of an acquaintance than I ever did at any family or closer friends. I just had the worst time getting my emotions under control! I've buried a husband. I've buried parents. I've buried grandparents. I've buried in-laws. I've buried close cousins and friends... and I cried harder for an acquaintance. I don't miss her more. My life wasn't impacted directly more. But the times that we shared were now over. Those specific memories, maybe because there are fewer and more specific memories, just hit me harder. It was true then, and it's true now. Look how much a loss on this board means. Most of us are not actually close friends, and even if we are, the majority of that is limited to being online. Anyway... getting off my soapbox now. I just want a quiet little thread where anyone can mention someone that they've lost recently (for whatever reason) and miss with dignity. |
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 20:12:41 GMT
It's definitely a collective trauma. I’m so sorry, for everyone’s losses. The incomplete grieving, not being able to comfort each other, is almost unbearable. YES! Exactly. Thank you both. |
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Post by jlynnbarth on Aug 25, 2021 20:14:29 GMT
I'm sorry for everyone's losses. It's so very very hard.
We lost my Father in law in Jan and we were not allowed in with him when he passed. Only one person was allowed in and we gave that time to his 78 year old sister who we knew needed to say her goodbyes, as she lost her husband of 50 years a couple years before and her strongest relationship since then was with her brother. It still doesn't seem real to us. We had not been able to physically see him since March 2020 when the shut downs began. With his dementia, window visits at the home were not recommended, as he thought we were strangers. He only remembered his sister, so she would visit him at his window. Because he was cremated, we never got to "see" him, so it just feels like there is no real closure even though we had a small family ceremony in April for him. It's a very odd feeling.
My dh lost a co-worker a couple weeks ago and went to his service on Sunday.
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 20:21:58 GMT
jlynnbarth - {{{Hugs}}} That's hardly sufficient, but I just don't have words. None of us are prepared to deal with this.
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Post by gar on Aug 25, 2021 20:38:50 GMT
I'm sorry for your losses. My Mum had Alzheimers and was admitted to hospital during the first lockdown here in the UK, then had to be moved to a care home and never left. The Alzheimers was the cause of death but Covid coloured her final months - I saw her twice between the March, and October when she died. She went downhill so fast because we couldn't visit and keep her memories alive. Her funeral was...incredibly hard...hardly any mourners allowed, no hugs or comforting each other...incomplete grieving is exactly right craftykitten. |
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Post by valincal on Aug 25, 2021 20:42:08 GMT
I’m so sorry for your losses. I haven’t had anyone close to me die from Covid, thank goodness, but I am heartbroken over the numbers of people this disease has taken around the world. Big hugs to you.
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Post by peasquared on Aug 25, 2021 20:44:01 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. My DH lost three friends from different parts of the country, before vaccines were available. It's just awful!
I have friends that were hospitalized last year, but thankfully recovered. Although, they still suffer from long-covid, I'm grateful they are still with us.
My heart goes out to all of you that have lost someone.
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Post by paget on Aug 25, 2021 20:46:30 GMT
I lost my middle daughter (she was 23) in February 2020 right before the pandemic started. Grieving and processing through the pandemic has made an already difficult time feel surreal. Gentle hugs to everyone missing someone from any kind of loss.
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Post by freecharlie on Aug 25, 2021 20:47:37 GMT
I miss my dear friend very much.
I am terrified of the delta variant and it going after friends and family moving forward
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 20:52:44 GMT
gar -- {{{Hugs}}} Nearly the exact same thing happened with my cousin's MIL. My cousin's husband would stop in to see his mom every night, where he'd sing to her and make sure she ate, had clean clothes, etc. And then this evil hit. She died of a broken heart, without ever being able to see or be with loved ones. This was in NY and I don't think they were allowed to have a funeral. So much grief to try to process. It's no wonder we're all half-crazed!
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 25, 2021 20:56:46 GMT
I lost my middle daughter (she was 23) in February 2020 right before the pandemic started. Grieving and processing through the pandemic has made an already difficult time feel surreal. Damn. Just... damn. Big, gentle, {{{bearhugs}}} I miss my dear friend very much. {{{Hugs}}} |
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 25, 2021 21:04:18 GMT
I am very sorry for your losses. May they RIP.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 25, 2021 21:10:36 GMT
I lost my middle daughter (she was 23) in February 2020 right before the pandemic started. Grieving and processing through the pandemic has made an already difficult time feel surreal. Gentle hugs to everyone missing someone from any kind of loss. Paget I had no idea. I'm so sorry for your loss. And everyone's loss. Big giant hugs coming in for everyone. I lost my cousin early days of the pandemic. And I watch two good friends lose their mothers. Since vaccines, I've known one person who died from covid. She was not vaxxed. My BFF lost her grandmother during during to old age. Her grandmother was like her mom to her. I am terribly upset I couldn't be there for her at the funeral or otherwise due to our lockdown. However one silver lining is that she was unemployed during the lockdown. So she got to spend her grandmother's last months caring for her. I'm sorry for all of you. For all of us. Too many have died. Too many are going to continue to die. It's all very sad. |
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Post by peasapie on Aug 25, 2021 21:19:16 GMT
Last year a friend (older guy) committed suicide during lockdown. He was having trouble breathing and couldn’t get in to see a dr due to covid restrictions. He was lonely and depressed and did the unthinkable. Then my friend’s mom died of covid in a the wave of nursing home deaths. Things quieted down for a while until last month. My lifelong closest friend contracted covid (has lupus, was vaccinated) and nearly died. She survived but remains weak and coughing.
I’m so sorry for your losses, and for those of others on this thread. I feel helpless.
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