Husband vent regarding travel *add yours

So, other than booking the sites, what does he do to help prepare for the weekend?

Or better yet ... don't go.

Let him know without you once so he can do all the work. This only works if you don't lift a finger to help him though. He has to understand what it takes.

Also if he decides not to work Friday can’t he help you quickly get everything done so you can hit the road earlier?

Also - I would really encourage you to get out and bike ride and hike on your own and leave him behind.

I totally understand your frustration and I would be annoyed too. However, since he does this every time...going forward, I would make sure everything was ready by Thursday night, so when he pulls that again, you'll be ready too. Of course, you know, if you are ready by Thursday night...then he will work all day Friday - MEN!!

Your relationship is very unhealthy, you already know that though.

It sounds like he likes the idea of camping, but he really isn't into it. That sucks for you.

I would have a come to jesus meeting on the whole idea of camping..sounds like he loves the idea, and not the work. I would have checklists.. what has to be done before you go and what has to happen at campsite.. and have him commit to his list of chores.. like proper set up of camper. cooking some of the meals. whatever.

doesn't sound like fun for anyone. I love camping. but I am willing to do the work to make my vision happen.. not someone else's.. who doesn't do the work.

I am about to throttle my husband too.  We have been planning a New England trip for over a year (we were supposed to go last October but Covid).  We are going with my sister and her husband and leaving this Sunday.  Around April he decides he isn't going. Fine, I am still going without you and we re-arrange the schedule, make reservations, etc.. last week he decides, yep he wants to go.  Again we re-arrange change plans, etc.  Am I pissed, yep.  Now he wants to change the way we are going, where we are going, what time we are leaving, etc.  HELL NO buddy, you're with us now, you no longer have a say in this!  Did he try on any of the new jeans that I bought him this week?  Nope.  And he wasn't packed a thing.  I will throw in what I think he needs and if the jeans don't fit or he doesn't like the clothes that is just tooooo bad.  I am done with wishy washy.

Here’s what I did to make packing my camper for a camping trip so much easier.
 
I put some older kitchen items in the camper and they stay there. Pots, pans, baking sheet and cooking utensils. Paper plates are in a large ziploc bag. Plastic utensils in bag. If I use one of the pots, pans, etc. I wash it since it sat in a cabinet. I had an older crock pot and added it to the cooking stash when I bought a new one. 

Linens are stripped from the beds when we come home, washed, and put back on the beds. 

I bought 10 pair of underwear, a couple pair of pajamas, flip flops, and slippers that are my camping stash. When I get home they are washed with the bed linens and returned to the camper.

I keep non-perishables in the pantry - canned goods, oil, flour, sugar, salt, pepper, etc. Just put in airtight containers to avoid bugs, mice, or humidity. 

In the bathroom I have a supply of body wash, bar soap, deodorant, hair spray, etc. When my blush, eye shadow, etc  gets low I put that in the camper and so I have makeup in case we decide to go out one night  

I also have thinner towels for the camper since they dry quicker between uses. We use our towels two or three times before changing. When returning, they go in the wash and right back to the camper.

By having these things already in the unit, I only have to pack what I plan to wear and the food that isn’t already packed. I can be ready to leave in 30 minutes. 

I hope your weekend gets A LOT better. I think in your place I might boycott camping for a while. Hang in there.