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Post by gillyp on Nov 1, 2021 9:51:24 GMT
I’m sorry. Estrangement does not negate your feelings of grief, both at his passing and those lost years. Sadly some people don’t want to or are unable to parent in a way children deserve. Wishing you easy navigation of what must be a turmoil of emotions.
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 1, 2021 9:59:05 GMT
I’m sorry.
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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 1, 2021 10:00:50 GMT
I’m sorry, Jenny. I hope that you find peace as you process this loss.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 10:04:43 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss!
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Post by mikklynn on Nov 1, 2021 11:02:31 GMT
I am so sorry. I am glad you are taking the time to process the complex feelings you have. Hugs.
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Post by Basket1lady on Nov 1, 2021 11:09:11 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s normal to mourn the loss of the relationship, or what never was. I hope that you find peace.
Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and all the souls of the faithful departed Rest In Peace.
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Post by GamGam on Nov 1, 2021 11:22:36 GMT
I am sorry about your loss. May you be comforted as you work through this time.
You are an artist with a camera.
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Post by peasapie on Nov 1, 2021 11:29:05 GMT
What a beautifully written, thoughtful and heartfelt post. And photo.
it’s hard to love an unlovable person, but you’ve come about as close as I’ve ever seen to honoring his life.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Nov 1, 2021 11:40:49 GMT
You shared this in such I way that I really ‘feel’ all the complicated emotions you have.
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Post by teddyw on Nov 1, 2021 11:50:25 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by scrappert on Nov 1, 2021 12:40:23 GMT
I am sorry of your loss. My thoughts of comfort to you.
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Post by workingclassdog on Nov 1, 2021 12:52:29 GMT
I'm so sorry.. I am to estranged from my father (so is my sister). I have no idea what I will feel like. He will die alone as far as I know. Thanks for posting, I appreciate it from your point of view.
Again, I'm sorry.
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Post by MadamG2U on Nov 1, 2021 12:55:46 GMT
Sorry for your loss
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 13:16:41 GMT
I am sorry.
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Post by mnmloveli on Nov 1, 2021 13:23:03 GMT
I’m praying for peace and tranquility for you in the coming days.
Rest In Peace, Dad.
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Post by librarylady on Nov 1, 2021 13:31:46 GMT
I am sorry for the loss of your father so many years ago, and now the second loss and so much to deal with emotionally.
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Post by hutchfan on Nov 1, 2021 13:35:09 GMT
Sending you hugs.
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Post by bbkeef on Nov 1, 2021 13:37:33 GMT
I understand your heartache. I was estranged from my father too, yet had to do all of his funeral arrangements. I wish you peace and comfort and time to process and heal.
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Post by hmp on Nov 1, 2021 14:46:54 GMT
Jenny, I’m so sorry you are in this position. I admire your grace & elegance in explaining your family situation. My brother & sister are in similar positions over the death of our mother. Her memorial service is next Saturday. I have no words of advice other than just do the best you can under the circumstances and please be gentle with yourself. Unfortunately there’s no way to go around the situation, you can only go thru it. Your photo evokes all the complicated emotions of the situation and the prospect of peace. Sending you love & hugs and hoping you find your peace soon.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Nov 1, 2021 14:48:53 GMT
Condolences, even though you had already lost him. What a beautiful picture. I hope you and your mum got comfort from each other.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 14:49:37 GMT
Thank you for kind thoughts. I suspect this will take more time to process than I expected. So many emotions ftom the past have bubbled up that I really wasn’t expecting.
I am very thankful to still have the peace in the fact that I didn’t try reaching out in more recent years. I would not want regret on top of everything I’m feeling now.
In reading your replies there are several I would like to comment on. I’m at work…and already dabbing eyes. I really can’t reply now but will later. Really hoping to get in a walk up Sawnee Mountain after work so it may be closer to bed time. (Gotta hustle to get that done with it getting dark earlier and we haven’t even had time change yet)
Thank you all
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Post by peano on Nov 1, 2021 14:53:28 GMT
I’m sorry about your father, and the complicated grief on top of it.
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Post by cme37 on Nov 1, 2021 15:40:08 GMT
So sorry for your loss.
My brother and I are estranged from our father. I have often wondered if we will even be told when he passes.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:17:49 GMT
Thinking of you.💜 I've been there and it's a weird place to be. How long ago? I almost wonder if dealing with the complexities of estrangement is more difficult than a solid relationship |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:19:06 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss. I hope he had a peaceful end. My dad passed away 2 years ago and I still haven't been able to process it because our relationship had become so strained. I’m sorry you’re still struggling with it after so long. I hope you find peace |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:20:14 GMT
I am so sorry. I'm sure this will bring all sorts of emotions for you. I wish you didn't have to go through that.  So very true. I’ve got emotions and having recollection of things I haven’t thought about since I was a little kid |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:24:24 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s normal to mourn the loss of the relationship, or what never was. I hope that you find peace. Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and all the souls of the faithful departed Rest In Peace. That was beautiful, thank you |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:27:26 GMT
I understand your heartache. I was estranged from my father too, yet had to do all of his funeral arrangements. I wish you peace and comfort and time to process and heal. I cannot even imagine how painful that was. Multiple times today, I googled in search of an obituary. Not really sure why I feel the need to see it. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:30:50 GMT
Jenny, I’m so sorry you are in this position. I admire your grace & elegance in explaining your family situation. My brother & sister are in similar positions over the death of our mother. Her memorial service is next Saturday. I have no words of advice other than just do the best you can under the circumstances and please be gentle with yourself. Unfortunately there’s no way to go around the situation, you can only go thru it. Your photo evokes all the complicated emotions of the situation and the prospect of peace. Sending you love & hugs and hoping you find your peace soon. There will be a memorial service in FL. I didn’t even consider even thinking about going. I could not do that to his wife. I hope he has found peace. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2021 23:33:52 GMT
So sorry for your loss. My brother and I are estranged from our father. I have often wondered if we will even be told when he passes. I used to wonder if I’d ever find out. His wife called my sister. You see about 10 yrs ago she ran into him while she was working. She actually walked out and sat in her car…thinking about driving away. But she went back in. They talk once-twice a year. |
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