Ugh dd lost her first classmate

Oh how awful and sad, for his family and your DD and friends.

Such sad news for your daughter and you to hear. 

I am so sorry you're having to go through this.  Each of my sons lost a classmate to suicide.  It's heartbreaking.  

I am so sorry for your daughter, her classmates and his family. Losing a peer is really a formative experience.

I’m so sorry to hear that 😢

I am so incredibly sorry. I have had to navigate this both as a teenager and as a parent of teenagers, and it is so hard. For me, when I was a teen dealing with a friend who had died by suicide, the most helpful thing to hear was that he had really felt like that was his best choice, and that that was not true, and that it was not his fault that he felt like that was true, and that the most important thing is to tell other people when that lie grips you.

Thing of his family, your daughter, and everyone in his community.

Heartbreaking. Hugs to you and your daughter.

Oh, no. So incredibly tragic.

That’s just so incredibly sad.

I'm so sorry. My DH lost his oldest and youngest brothers to suicide, so we are too familiar with the helplessness and pain you are all feeling. There really isn't anything you can say or do other than just be available to listen, to help your DD. With DH oldest brother, DH grieved before he became angry, with his youngest he was angry before he grieved. I held both feelings at once, with both of them. My ILs didn't get past their anger to grieve either of them, for years. There is no right, wrong or normal way to process suicide. PM me if there is anything I can do to support you, answer questions..or anything... {HUGS}

I'm so sorry for your DD and this young man and his family.

Editing because I included a quote that I didn't mean to include, and because my response sounded harsh, which I do not mean for it to be.

First, I am sending my sympathy and prayers to everyone impacted by this young man's passing. Just heartbreaking.

My answer to the "why" question may sound cold to anyone who has never experienced depression for themselves or supported a loved one through it, but unfortunately, it's truthful.  The answer is because depression is a dark and devastating illness that defies logic and so often goes diagnosed in young people due to fear, lack of information and stigma. 

As a friend's counselor recently told her, when difficult things happen, it's often better not to wrestle with the "whys" that may remain unanswered; instead, she said, we can ask ourselves, "What will I do next?"  Perhaps your DD and her friends  can honor his memory by rallying behind an effort to shine a light on young adult depression to keep others from walking this same sad path.  

It is so sad and horrid. We have had 5 teen suicides in our village this year and the whole community has been shaken.

It is tough to talk about and leaves people with questions that they cannot answer and lots of "if I had just" done, seen, been I could of prevented this. Also people also feel uncomfortable talking about it because people can still be judgy when talking about mental health difficulties.

In our house we reached out with positive stories and memories about the children in letters and cards and sent them for when the family were ready to read them. We went to the memorials. We also sat and allowed my daughter and her friends space to talk about their friendships, how their deaths made them feel, the questions and what ifs they had, and offered support sessions with a bereavement service to talk to along with all the helplines and text lines. There is no easy way through it, and my heart breaks for each of the parents that experience this. As a bystander I find it incomprehensible and heartbreaking, for family I cannot imagine.

Hugs to you all.