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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 22, 2021 12:20:26 GMT
This year, it just doesn't to me.
I feel like even Christmas traditions, like decorating cookies, are more like a pencilled in chore.
And I don't want to feel that way!
I'm frustrated that once again due to the pandemic, most of the holiday events are cancelled.
I just want to feel some holiday magic *pouts*
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Post by ellemkay on Dec 22, 2021 12:25:25 GMT
Nope. Normally my house is fully decorated by mid-November at the latest because I enjoy seeing all the stuff out for more than just a week or two. This year? Hahaha I still have bins of stuff in my living room and dining room that never got put out and I just can't be bothered to care. I didn't even start shopping for DH's gifts until this week. I'm so behind my usual schedule. I'm blaming it on being 30 weeks pregnant and I'm exhausted and focused more on getting things ready for the impending arrival of my first child. Everything feels like a chore these days, even breathing. lol
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 22, 2021 12:35:32 GMT
I bet a big part of your feelings relate to the recent loss of your mom. I can't imagine you've even had time to think with four kids to care for and then, boom, the holidays are here. I hope you find a quiet moment or two to sit in the glow of your Christmas tree and just relax. Giant hugs, dear LavenderLayoutLady |
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Post by maryland on Dec 22, 2021 13:15:20 GMT
Not it doesn't feel like the holidays at all.
Our dog has multiple health issues and having my kids home to help is wonderful. It's all about our sweet dog right now, not the holidays. And our weather has been beautiful, so that makes it feel more like Oct. than Dec. I wore shorts to run errands last week! We have no decorations up, just Christmas dog toys! I can't deal with any more "stuff" in the house right now, so we are enjoying a less themed holiday this year.
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Post by Mel on Dec 22, 2021 13:58:36 GMT
This year, it just doesn't to me. I feel like even Christmas traditions, like decorating cookies, are more like a pencilled in chore. And I don't want to feel that way! I'm frustrated that once again due to the pandemic, most of the holiday events are cancelled. I just want to feel some holiday magic *pouts* YES!!! This is totally how I feel!! We are getting together with the family, and we're all vaxxed & have been as careful as our individual lives will allow us to be. Our family is smallish(13 total). I just totally feel like I'm going through the motions... I'm not sure why or how to pull out of it. |
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Post by Monica* on Dec 22, 2021 14:39:22 GMT
At the risk of sounding like the Church Lady, what has helped me is going to Mass, especially on Christmas Eve. If you're not religious, or if attending an in-person service isn't practical, just finding a quiet spot on Christmas Eve where you can be alone with your thoughts and have some quiet spiritual time (even if it's five or ten minutes) really is helpful. Meditation, reflection, and quiet thanks to God for all that we do have really does put everything into perspective.
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Post by Tearisci on Dec 22, 2021 14:42:23 GMT
Yeah I'm just not into it really this year. I had a bit of a spark at the beginning but our Christmas will be celebrated mostly on Jan 1st. I haven't wrapped a present or made cookies. Just can't get into it.
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Post by MissBianca on Dec 22, 2021 15:05:02 GMT
I thought it was just me because we are still trying to pack and move 6 months later (lllllooooonnngggg story) but just about everyone I’ve talked to feels the same. I’m usually on my game but here it is Wednesday and I don’t have everything. Plus we had planned to do experiences like hockey games and Broadway shows but a lot of shows are canceling and hockey is on hold until at least after Christmas so there went our big gifts for the kids.
Hell my tree isn’t even decorated, it has about a dozen ornaments on it. And frankly I don’t even really care of it gets decorated.
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Post by essiejean on Dec 22, 2021 15:30:57 GMT
At the risk of sounding like the Church Lady, what has helped me is going to Mass, especially on Christmas Eve. If you're not religious, or if attending an in-person service isn't practical, just finding a quiet spot on Christmas Eve where you can be alone with your thoughts and have some quiet spiritual time (even if it's five or ten minutes) really is helpful. Meditation, reflection, and quiet thanks to God for all that we do have really does put everything into perspective.  |
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Dec 22, 2021 15:33:38 GMT
It doesn’t for me b/c I can’t decorate, in the middle of the remodel from hell, and I spent 10 days in the hospital. I have been missing DH and my Dad. I’m just blah this year. Sorry, I’m super whiny today.
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Post by julie5 on Dec 22, 2021 15:35:54 GMT
We’re chugging along trying to make the most of it. My middle dd is home from college but has to split time with us and her dad. We didn’t want her coming from his house where they had several Covid cases in it to our house so we took her first. Her birthday is January 3. We’re taking her to her dads december 25. So we are cramming everything into a very few short days.
I decided tonight I’ll surprise her with a birthday cake and her gifts. Her due date wasn’t until January 30. And I’m celebrating her birthday before Xmas. 🙄 but I blame Covid. And her dad.
My fil is slipping fast with his Alzheimer’s amd I can’t help but wonder if this will be his last Xmas with us. Part of me hopes not for my husbands sake, but the other part of me sees the pain in his eyes as he knows he’s not ok (fil). He’s so sad.
We have no social circle whatsoever. I see all these people here and on Instagram hosting parties with their cheese boards and drinks and ugly sweaters and it makes my heart hurt that we have no one. We try so hard to be happy with what we have, and I’m a terrible friend but I often think of an alternate universe where I have friends and family to take my kids to and we laugh and stay up late making memories.
But my family are super shitty people and I’m better off alone so.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 22, 2021 16:15:14 GMT
It’s been really weird for me this year too. I don’t want to say it doesn’t feel like Christmas because that isn’t it exactly.
The whole YEAR has been weird, and in spite of being Pandemic Year 2.0 it has gone by crazy fast. DH has been insanely busy with work, and if he wouldn’t have blocked out the time he did last spring and summer he wouldn’t have had any time off at all this year. I do his bookkeeping, so when he’s busy, I’m busy. Plus I was kind of pushed/pulled into starting a new small business a little over a year ago, so I’ve been doubly busy with that too.
And to layer on even more fun, my kid was doing 100% virtual school all last school year so she was doing 5th grade from home with me until the beginning of June. Then all the stress of her going back in person still during a pandemic, with virtually everyone in her grade not vaccinated and to a whole new school building to boot, etc. it’s just already been a lot. Thankfully we have all stayed healthy which is a huge thing.
So I guess I’m not really surprised that the whole holiday season from Halloween on has been weird too. Like everything all year has been sneaking up on me, and then BOOM, there it is and now it’s one more thing I have on my plate that I have to juggle. It really didn’t help that I messed up my hand three weeks ago either which has made everything I need or want to do harder or impossible.
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Post by Linda on Dec 22, 2021 16:28:29 GMT
((((Hugs))))
Struggling here also - combination of struggling in general coupled with cramming an awful lot of stuff into the past week (we FINALLY moved the rest of our furniture AND finished unpacking AND finished the Christmas shopping AND deep cleaned in preparation for DS coming home AND DH has a colonoscopy today AND I'm baking...) and the feeling that balls are getting dropped. PLus DD21 moves out on the 28th so we've been packing her up and Christmas is all tied in with her move....
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2021 17:26:29 GMT
LavenderLayoutLady Hugs to you. I'm also sure that the loss of your mom is affecting this time of year. I'm in the same boat. The fact that DD and I even put Christmas decorations up is HUGE, but some days I'm just sitting in the same spot, mulling over how much I miss DH. Some days I get SOME things done... No expectations. This year is very different for so many people. xo
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Post by Ryann on Dec 22, 2021 17:35:30 GMT
Yes, but only because my spouse is a delivery driver for UPS and gets home past 10pm every night. 'Tis the season!
I haven't decorated this year (or last year, for that matter) but have received so many lovely cards from the 2peas christmas card exchange. I'm so very thankful to be participating this year, as it's lifted my spirits for sure!
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Post by MichyM on Dec 22, 2021 17:56:09 GMT
Yes, but only because my spouse is a delivery driver for UPS and gets home past 10pm every night. 'Tis the season! I haven't decorated this year (or last year, for that matter) but have received so many lovely cards from the 2peas christmas card exchange. I'm so very thankful to be participating this year, as it's lifted my spirits for sure! Ugh! Tell him thank you from me! Will he at least have Christmas Day off work?!? |
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Post by Ryann on Dec 22, 2021 18:05:45 GMT
Yes, but only because my spouse is a delivery driver for UPS and gets home past 10pm every night. 'Tis the season! I haven't decorated this year (or last year, for that matter) but have received so many lovely cards from the 2peas christmas card exchange. I'm so very thankful to be participating this year, as it's lifted my spirits for sure! Ugh! Tell him thank you from me! Will he at least have Christmas Day off work?!? (It's actually "she") - thank you!  She will have Christmas day off - she refuses to work weekends! That just means they really load her truck up during the week - no need to "save" hours for weekend work. |
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Post by MichyM on Dec 22, 2021 18:45:42 GMT
Ugh! Tell him thank you from me! Will he at least have Christmas Day off work?!? (It's actually "she") - thank you! She will have Christmas day off - she refuses to work weekends! That just means they really load her truck up during the week - no need to "save" hours for weekend work. Oops, sorry for making an assumption <blush>. And good for her for setting boundaries. Working retail during the holidays was bad enough, I can't imagine how physically exhausting it must be to drive in traffic all day long and haul boxes to doorsteps and in and out of businesses. Enjoy your upcoming weekend together! |
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Post by myboysnme on Dec 22, 2021 22:04:44 GMT
Yes it does, but as it does every year it flies by with little time to enjoy it.
Still I am sitting here looking at my beautiful tree waiting for a friend to come and exchange gifts. Son is here from Calif until the 26th. Visited family the past 2 days.
I'm trying hard to enjoy it all. But it sure goes fast.
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Post by mom on Dec 22, 2021 23:17:22 GMT
It doesn't feel like Christmas here. Its almost 70 (normally we are cold and have a possibility of a white Christmas). I have so much to do but just can't bring myself to do it. We are doing our big Christmas on Christmas Eve so I need to get started.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Dec 22, 2021 23:21:14 GMT
I was feeling the holidays for a few days but I’m back to feeling just blah. I can’t believe this Saturday is Christmas this month has flown by.
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Post by disneypal on Dec 23, 2021 4:01:48 GMT
No, it doesn’t but it hasn’t felt like Christmas to me since 2010, my dad died the next Christmas season and Christmas just hasn’t felt like Christmas since then.
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Post by dewryce on Dec 23, 2021 5:16:13 GMT
I’m sorry you’re not able to enjoy them this year! For us it’s the opposite. We have more time together so we’ve been taking our time decorating and we’re able to get up all but one of our trees, so we have 4.5 set up. And we had so much fun setting up our village! We got our Christmas PJs out in early November, bought some egg nog, put on “The Polar Express” and had a wrapping party. Started the season off right with us  It’s also been super relaxing because we had all of our shopping and gifts wrapped for DH’s family early November so we could send them home with them when we met up between our towns. My side is small so we were almost done with them at that time as well. We’ve always enjoyed certain Christmas shows and social activities, and I’ll really miss the nutcracker with my mom, but the extra time to relax at home has been a good exchange for us. Now, it’ll be 82 degrees on Christmas Day, that does not make me feel in the spirit! |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 25, 2021 1:37:28 GMT
Nope.
No snow here.
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Post by teacherlisa on Dec 25, 2021 2:06:58 GMT
No. Lots of people I know are feeling this way also…it just is blah/whatever.
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Post by wallyagain on Dec 25, 2021 16:27:31 GMT
Nope, still waiting for it to feel like Christmas. I had a good cry this morning, as here we are again, not having our kids here. This year is worse than last year.
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Post by msladibug on Dec 25, 2021 16:29:53 GMT
I’m sorry for all of those struggling with Christmas this year. I’m feeling the same as a lot of you, just feel like there’s no joy.
I am greatful that we are all healthy, but I think this pandemic is sucking the spirit out of a lot of us.
When I have been talking to people, even those that are celebrating ( I did not ) are struggling too…our lives have all been upset with this pandemic. But……………..I wish you all a peaceful day and a happier New Year.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2021 16:36:29 GMT
Nope, still waiting for it to feel like Christmas. I had a good cry this morning, as here we are again, not having our kids here. This year is worse than last year. I'm so sorry. Hugs to you!! |
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 25, 2021 16:39:30 GMT
Yesterday felt like Christmas eve (with the exception of the weather)
This morning is weird. Yds is still asleep, ods should be on his way soon (he would have stayed the night but stbx is in his old room), stbx is at work and I just found our he either bought plane tickets or charged a hotel room for his hww.
When the boys get up it will be Christmas. A different kind of Christmas, but still Christmas
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Post by anniefb on Dec 25, 2021 19:05:38 GMT
It definitely hasn't set the same to me this year. Lots of events cancelled, we've been lockdown for several months and things definitely do not feel normal. Christmas 2021 is definitely harder than last year.
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She will have Christmas day off - she refuses to work weekends! That just means they really load her truck up during the week - no need to "save" hours for weekend work.
