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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2021 16:30:31 GMT
Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays to everyone! I hope that whomever is having a tough holiday due to the loss of a loved one, you'll find your strength. Thank you, jenjie, for always preparing me and sending me thoughtful msgs. This is the first day that I'm finding it REALLY hard to stop crying, out of the blue (like jenjie said could happen). My husband's absence seems to be HUGE on this day. While I am blessed to have family and friends check on me, it's so darned quiet and empty here today. My head is pounding from crying....... (I have to stop looking on social media and seeing a semblance of normalcy because it's making me cry more! I'm happy for everyone but can't stop thinking about last year's Christmas, or even 1 month ago.....).
Wishing you all a good day!! xo
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2021 16:33:32 GMT
Merry Christmas @bergdorfblonde. Sending you a virtual hug and hoping the day gets a bit easier.
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Post by twistedscissors on Dec 25, 2021 16:34:55 GMT
Sending hugs!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2021 16:38:52 GMT
Merry Christmas @bergdorfblonde . Sending you a virtual hug and hoping the day gets a bit easier. Thank you! I thought I had a grip on it all. DD & I even went out for a holiday drink (no alcohol) before we went food shopping the other night. We did pretty well, but today it's hitting me hard. I hope it gets easier too. I'm cooking a pot roast dinner and DD is helping. That's my goal for the day.......
Hope your day is a good one. xo
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Post by belgravia on Dec 25, 2021 16:42:28 GMT
Merry Christmas and big hugs to you. I hope you are able to find a little bit of enjoyment today.
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Post by tentoes on Dec 25, 2021 16:46:40 GMT
Praying for you. The first Christmas without your loved one is pretty sad. I just passed the three-year mark right after Thanksgiving, and I still have those meltdowns at times. ((HUGS)) Be kind to yourself, and try to do something "just for you."
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 25, 2021 16:46:40 GMT
Sending hugs from Colorado.
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Post by peace on Dec 25, 2021 16:49:40 GMT
be kind to yourself
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 25, 2021 16:54:07 GMT
Merry Christmas, @bergdorfblonde. For today, be easy on yourself and allow your feelings to be there. Can you get into a good movie, perhaps? I'm sorry that you're experiencing such a sad holiday. ((((HUGS)))).
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Post by snoopy on Dec 25, 2021 16:54:40 GMT
Thinking of you and sending virtual hugs to you and your DD.
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Post by MZF on Dec 25, 2021 16:55:35 GMT
Sending you a hug from me.
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Post by lisae on Dec 25, 2021 16:57:22 GMT
{{hugs}} Be kind to yourself. You are entitled to whatever you are feeling. Know that you are strong and easier days are ahead.
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Post by KelleeM on Dec 25, 2021 17:05:25 GMT
Merry Christmas!
It’s hard. I handled the first and second without my husband far better than I am this one. It’s okay to cry. Sending love, hugs and so much understanding.
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Post by wallyagain on Dec 25, 2021 17:19:03 GMT
Big, big hugs to you.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Dec 25, 2021 17:30:06 GMT
Sending 🤗
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Post by Baseballmom23 on Dec 25, 2021 17:32:50 GMT
Merry Christmas (((hugs))) When I lost my father, it hit me at different times. Things that he never got to experience or teach my boys. Be gentle with yourself. You are going through a lot. Anyone who has gone through a loss will truly understand.
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Post by MissBianca on Dec 25, 2021 17:35:14 GMT
Sending lots of love and light your way today. And to the kids.
I’m sorry today is hard for you.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Dec 25, 2021 17:41:15 GMT
Sending love and light ❤️💚 and strength.
I found it best to keep busy if possible. (Big hugs)
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Post by katybee on Dec 25, 2021 17:49:46 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss! The first Christmas after my mom died I was a blubbering mess. It’s hard! But it does get better. Eventually, you will be able to spend the day laughing and reminiscing and it will bring you joy, not sorrow. Be gentle with yourself today!
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Post by katybee on Dec 25, 2021 17:49:56 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss! The first Christmas after my mom died I was a blubbering mess. It’s hard! But it does get better. Eventually, you will be able to spend the day laughing and reminiscing and it will bring you joy, not sorrow. Be gentle with yourself today!
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Post by floridagirl on Dec 25, 2021 18:05:40 GMT
Merry Christmas. I hope it gets easier for you  |
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Post by Scrapper100 on Dec 25, 2021 18:08:52 GMT
Sending hugs.
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Post by christine58 on Dec 25, 2021 18:09:01 GMT
I’m so sorry for your loss! The first Christmas after my mom died I was a blubbering mess. It’s hard! But it does get better. Eventually, you will be able to spend the day laughing and reminiscing and it will bring you joy, not sorrow. Be gentle with yourself today! This is our second year without my dad. Harder than last year if I am being honest. I think it's because he was in the hospital until Christmas morning...then went back a week later and never came home. I am sadder this year than last. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Dec 25, 2021 18:13:13 GMT
@bergdorfblonde it really does get better. My DS has been gone since 2010. When DIL and his boys called today it hit hard.
You can do this, one step at a time....
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Post by lurker on Dec 25, 2021 18:15:21 GMT
Thinking of you and your family.
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Post by seaexplore on Dec 25, 2021 18:27:16 GMT
So much love to you. Snuggle your kitty and find a good distracting movie for you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2021 18:28:20 GMT
Merry Christmas! It’s hard. I handled the first and second without my husband far better than I am this one. It’s okay to cry. Sending love, hugs and so much understanding. I'm so sorry. I understand now. I hope that it won't be an entire day of tears for you!
DD and I have been handling things pretty well. We've been remembering funny, loving, inspirational things about Gary. I've been getting the Estate work done daily, which is a bit sad, but minimal tears....... We even went for a holiday drink (non-alcohol) before food shopping 2 nights ago and it was all good.......... Yesterday was fine. Happy memories... This morning it just all HIT me and I can't stop crying. My head is pounding now. I'm sitting here in DH's shirt and robe. This is pitiful and I want to snap out of it and feel better. DD is off to her room again. She sees that I'm not okay.......... Ughhhhhhh. It's all a lot.
I hope that our tears do stop just to keep ourselves okay. Huge hugs to you!!
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 25, 2021 18:39:32 GMT
Hugs to all of you missing your loved ones.
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Post by bklyngal62 on Dec 25, 2021 18:39:44 GMT
Sending hugs your way.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2021 19:03:17 GMT
seaexplore He was SUCH a lovie last night. We stayed in my bedroom until 11 am.... He even got under the covers with me. Too cute. Things seemed okay until I got up. A church delivered a Christmas dinner (I didn't ask for it!) and I think that set me off--HUGE reminder that I'm here, alone......... I don't normally cry THIS much. I don't cry too much at all..... It's not even about Christmas! I'll shower and pull myself together. Thanks. I'll snuggle my kitty later and watch him play his videogames! Merry Christmas to you. I hope it's a good one. xo lurker Thank you! DD33 is feeling my sadness. Her dad decided to text vs speak to her on the phone and it pushed her to the sad side too. She's in her room trying to sleep it off. revirdsuba99 Thank you and hugs to you. Tough times.... I usually tear up a bit and move on. Today is the FIRST time I've cried this much since I sat by his side all night before he passed. I thought I cried ALL of the tears I had.. Guess not! christine58 I'm so sorry. Hugs to you. Seems to be a hard-hitting year this year!!!!!!! I honestly don't cry for more than a minute. I don't get so inundated with sadness, but today is different and I don't even think it's about Christmas. We ALL should think about why it's hitting us this hard this year....... Maybe we keep it pent up and just carry on and for some reason it's coming out today??? I don't know, but I hope you'll be okay too!! Scrapper100 Thank you sweetie! Merry Christmas. floridagirl Thank you. Merry Christmas to you too. katybee Thank you! That's how I've been for a month now. DD and I remember him with love, laughter and everything in a sweet way (even the very hard times). I don't know what it was that just began the endless crying, but it's making my head pound and it's got to stop...... Hugs to you! MDscrapaholic Thanks. Might be a good idea. I'll get off of here, shower and begin to cook my pot roast..... I have laundry to do, etc...... Gotta work on this migraine now too, but that's good advice. I need to limit my online time--it makes me too emotional for now! MissBianca Thanks. DD is 33 but she has bipolar and is emotionally about 11 years old. Her dad kinda dissed her today and it sent her over the edge. She's in her room, trying to nap it off. Just a tough day. I'm sure if I pull it together, she'll feel better too...... Merry Christmas to you. Baseballmom23 I'm sorry. You're right. My mind is just going a mile a minute, thinking about our beautiful past, how we met, etc...... and it's all too much today. Thinking about how today would normally go and it's a mistake! I don't normally break down like this but I guess it's all part of the process. Honestly, I've lost VERY close family members (my dad, my close grandparents, etc...) and I didn't have this much pain and sorrow. Strangely, the only time I did was when I lost my beloved special kitty 2 years ago out of the blue. I couldn't stop crying when he passed....... I thought it was odd, but he was THAT special. With DH, I've been able to focus on what I have to get done and think of him with love and happiness and gratitude. TODAY it's just hitting me in the gut. I'm sure it'll pass........ Merry Christmas. papercrafteradvocate Thank you! Merry Christmas. wallyagain Thank you. Hugs to you too! @meelleek Hugs to you too! I guess this is the year that we're all letting it out. I'm so sorry. xoxo lisae Thank you. I've been pretty strong for the past month (and the years before that while I cared for him). I've been able to cry for a tiny bit and get back to normal; not today........ Stops me in my tracks because it sets off my migraines. I'm sure it'll stop at some point and I'll try to take care of myself and DD and get through it all. xo AgnesDeux Thank you! snoopy Thank you so much. scrapmaven Thanks. I just have to pull it together, shower, do laundry and make a pot roast...... Not expecting much, but I wanted to try to cook a normal dinner for today... freecharlie Thank you. Hugs back to you. Hope today isn't too rough. xo peace Thank you. I'll try! tentoes Hugs to you. I guess there's no rhyme or reason when the tears will flow. The "just for me" will be a glass of eggnog later on. xo belgravia Thank you. We usually find some unexpected sign each day; some joy. Today is a rough one, but I'm sure I'll work through it soon enough. twistedscissors Thank you! seasidemermaid Thank you. Me too--now I need this migraine to stop. xo
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