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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 30, 2021 16:52:50 GMT
I won’t date a guy my height because I am almost 5’1” so no go and he has to have money. I married a guy without money and was miserable.
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Post by katlady on Dec 30, 2021 17:14:59 GMT
Being only 5’ tall you would think height wouldn’t matter, but when I was younger it mattered. I went out with a guy who was only 5’2”. We were in college, but I felt like two high schoolers whenever we went out. We looked like kids. If I met him now, the height probably wouldn’t have mattered as much. My SO is 5’10”.
As for money, I like to believe that having a job you love is more important. Early in our marriage, I could tell SO was not happy at his job. I told him to look for a different industry. It was hard for him to make the change because he was taught to find a good job that had security and benefits. The one he had could have been a job for life. But he did look for something else and found a company he loves.
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Post by lisae on Dec 30, 2021 17:44:20 GMT
If I were dating again, it would not be how much money he makes but how he spends it that would matter. I married a very frugal man the last time, the first husband was a spendthrift. Frugality, far more than income, will determine whether there are money arguments and struggles for me.
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Post by zella on Dec 30, 2021 17:45:51 GMT
My first husband was only 5'5" (I'm 5'4"). My DH now is 5'2". I couldn't care less, but I'm in the minority, as you can see from the poll and as studies have shown. I don't care about money per se, I care about intelligence and other character attributes.
Interestingly, when people hear DH is only 5'2", and I'm talking people who know him, they are often shocked. He has a tall personality, apparently, lol!
And let's not forget, as I say, height doesn't matter when you're horizontal!!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2021 17:47:40 GMT
I have dated men of all heights but my personal preference is they be taller than me. I like to snuggle into their clavicle/neck area when hugging and snuggling. DH is 5 inches taller than me.
I can't say money is something important BUT money does pay for stuff. I don't need to guy to be rich. But make enough to live comfortably. Its more about a career and growth and stability than income.
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Post by Lexica on Dec 30, 2021 17:50:10 GMT
I am only 5' 4", so I have never dated a man shorter than I am. I have felt uncomfortable with one guy who was 6'5" because I felt like a little girl next to him. I couldn't just lean over and kiss him if we were both standing, I had to get his attention and have him lean down. We never got to the sex part and I don't think I would have felt comfortable there either.
As far as money, I would appreciate it if he wasn't looking for me to support him. I am self sufficient and he should be also. Not rich, just not looking to live off me.
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Post by melanell on Dec 30, 2021 17:52:11 GMT
None of the above. I'm only 5'5", so I don't often meet men shorter than I am. However, I do know a few men in real life who are my height or shorter and I never thought of them as being less attractive because of it. And there are several actors out there who are my height or less and who are very attractive (imo, of course ). As for wealth---pfft---no, I don't care about that.
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Post by littlemama on Dec 30, 2021 18:14:16 GMT
There are a ton of women who are missing out on great guys because the guys are not "tall enough"
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Dec 30, 2021 18:18:50 GMT
DH just looked over my shoulder and said 'why just men?'
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Post by Merge on Dec 30, 2021 18:22:28 GMT
There are a ton of women who are missing out on great guys because the guys are not "tall enough" And there are tons of men missing out on great women because they don't look like Instagram models. Such is the way of the world. (Not saying that this is your attitude, but I find that often people have no problem with a man saying that he isn't attracted to women with a certain body type or hair length, but do have a problem with women saying they also are more attracted to some types than others.)
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Post by rickmer on Dec 30, 2021 18:23:14 GMT
i also fall into the camp of preferring a taller man than me. although at 5'9, i am perfectly happy with 5'11 or 6'...
that's why, when i was younger (don't jump on me) i thought if women prefer a taller man and she is 5'3, what is wrong with 5'7 or 5'8? this comes from feeling like all the tiny, tiny girls got the 6' and up guys and left fewer for us taller girls. lol!
as for money, meh, i mean you need to have some money (i don't wanna pay your bills dude) but money was an issue in my past relationship and used as a tool to wield power so.... i prefer my current situation where it is level playing field.
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Post by artbabe on Dec 30, 2021 18:24:42 GMT
My ex was shorter by an inch than I am. His height bothered me the first couple of dates but after that it became a nonissue. I think I'd rather have a guy close to my height than one who is a foot taller than me. It just seems awkward. I think I would like someone to have a reasonable income but they don't have to make as much as I do. I have a pretty decent income so it doesn't really matter to me if he has money or not, as long as he has enough disposable income to go to restaurants and do fun things.
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Post by Merge on Dec 30, 2021 18:28:12 GMT
i also fall into the camp of preferring a taller man than me. although at 5'9, i am perfectly happy with 5'11 or 6'... that's why, when i was younger (don't jump on me) i thought if women prefer a taller man and she is 5'3, what is wrong with 5'7 or 5'8? this comes from feeling like all the tiny, tiny girls got the 6' and up guys and left fewer for us taller girls. lol! as for money, meh, i mean you need to have some money (i don't wanna pay your bills dude) but money was an issue in my past relationship and used as a tool to wield power so.... i prefer my current situation where it is level playing field. Ha. I took crap from a few taller women when I got engaged to DH. I'm 5'4" - he's 6'5". Oh well! The heart wants what it wants. Now our daughter got his genes and is 6 feet tall, and she has no problem dating a shorter man. That's not a physical preference thing for her.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Dec 30, 2021 18:34:50 GMT
I'm 5'10 so truthfully, I do like taller men. I have dated men shorter than me, and DH is my height so it certainly is no dealbreaker. Like @missjen said, it is more perceptions of femininity that are still pretty hardwired into me. Being a large women, you can be very reminded that you don't fit societal ideals. As much as I try to accept myself, and mostly do, there is still an underlying insecurity there. A guy who is 6'5 makes me temporarily forget about it :shrug: I guess that is a bit shallow, but here we are
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Post by gar on Dec 30, 2021 18:40:30 GMT
There are a ton of women who are missing out on great guys because the guys are not "tall enough" Well, you could say that about all sorts of physical characteristics. If you aren't drawn to that look then you're just not.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 30, 2021 18:53:12 GMT
I’m 5’9” and feel more feminine with a taller man. That’s just shallow stuff I worried about in my early 20’s. The reality is, I have found homely men very attractive based on personality. Physical attractiveness and wealth won’t cover for a bad personality in my book.
I found DH attractive the first day I saw him. We are the same height, but he has a small build, whereas I have a large build (even when I was thin). He may not be able to pick me up and carry me, but I don’t feel physically unprotected or that he’s boyish. Financially he was attractive because he had his shit together. Some of that was due to our age difference (he’s 7 years older). He has been an amazing provider for our family and we like each other after 31 years of marriage, even though we’re now old and gray.
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Post by shessoaverage on Dec 30, 2021 18:57:32 GMT
I have never noticed men’s heights, unless at the far ends of the range. I’m 5’6”, so not tiny, but I just don’t notice. My next-door cubicle neighbor at work started talking about being a “short man” and it stunned me because I had never thought of him that way.
Regarding money, not a huge deal. Of course it’s easier if you have enough to live and not get collection notices, but if the man is on the same wavelength about not squandering money and being able to pay the bills, I’m okay. I’m kind of a low-maintenance person, I guess. If I feel I need more money, I’ll earn it myself.
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Post by voltagain on Dec 30, 2021 19:14:02 GMT
On the thread about Prince William allegedly cheating there was mention of women always being drawn to men with status and money (no matter how they look or act). I have read and heard sooooo many men bitch and complain about how women won’t give a short guy a chance and only want to date men with money. I know these are separate issues but I hear them paired together so much. Many of the most angry comments are from incels on the internet but I have definitely heard slightly milder versions in person. I dated a super attractive guy who was 5’5 and he would occasionally complain about how short men never get attention. I look at him like the fool he is bc I am *literally* on a date with him. What am I ? Chopped liver?😂 Height and money (and status) do not make a man more attractive to me. My straight women friends almost all feel the way (with some exceptions for guys who are much shorter than them). All of them have their own money and don’t care about his. They routinely date men with significantly less money. Yet, these guys whine too! Anyway, the previous comments made me wonder if some women believe this as well. Does money make a man more or less attractive? Does height? For me, it doesn’t mean anything either way. Thanks for weighing in! Dealbreaker just means there is a height or income that you would refuse to date. I did not say always. I said most. There are always exceptions to any observations.
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Post by busy on Dec 30, 2021 19:17:43 GMT
There are a ton of women who are missing out on great guys because the guys are not "tall enough" ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I'm just attracted to taller guys. Always have been. I wouldn't NOT date someone because of their height, but I don't think a shorter guy ever even asked me out, so it all works out? Your (general you) definition of a great person isn't necessarily the same as a great match *for me.*
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Post by littlemama on Dec 30, 2021 19:24:22 GMT
There are a ton of women who are missing out on great guys because the guys are not "tall enough" And there are tons of men missing out on great women because they don't look like Instagram models. Such is the way of the world. (Not saying that this is your attitude, but I find that often people have no problem with a man saying that he isn't attracted to women with a certain body type or hair length, but do have a problem with women saying they also are more attracted to some types than others.) Oh, no, I agree that men have opinions about appearance that are just as bad, if not worse. I was specifically responding to the OP
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Post by papersilly on Dec 30, 2021 19:37:31 GMT
i have a height thing and my sister has a weight thing. but we both agree they have to be gainfully employed.
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Post by moodyblue on Dec 30, 2021 19:38:09 GMT
I am 5’8.5” and had only dated guys well over 6’ tall until I met my husband. He was about my height, but I think he shrank a little bit over the years. I thought height mattered - but it really didn’t.
I had said smoking was a deal breaker - until I decided to give him a chance and not reject him just because of that. He quit smoking before we got married, his choice, no nagging from me, and never smoked another cigarette after that.
We made about the same amount of money when we met (in our early 40s), but I ended up making more for quite a few years. We had some tight times financially, but we got through those together. What mattered was our priorities and preferences for spending that money, not how much we had.
Now, as a widow, retired with a good pension and financial security, I would be turned off by financial irresponsibility and if we had vast differences in our financial style. Those matter more than how much money a guy has. But dating or being involved with someone would be different than marrying or living with anyone now. I don’t know that I would choose to marry someone who couldn’t live comfortably in retirement, but being "rich" isn’t required.
Turns out that intelligence, sense of humor and character are much more important to me than height or money. My husband was very smart, was always interested in many things, and could make me laugh more than anyone else ever had. Those were the things that were attractive to me.
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Post by leannec on Dec 30, 2021 19:39:17 GMT
I am single now (at age 54) and my requirements are: * a job * a vehicle * a house or apartment You wouldn't believe how many dudes contact me that don't meet these simple things I am only 5'1" so there are few men shorter than me ... I will admit that I am attracted to taller men ... my ex is 6'3" ... my preference is at least 6 feet I would hope that the person I'm with has a decent income but I don't judge ... I make good money as a teacher and can take care of myself ...
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Post by chances on Dec 30, 2021 19:48:03 GMT
On the thread about Prince William allegedly cheating there was mention of women always being drawn to men with status and money (no matter how they look or act). I have read and heard sooooo many men bitch and complain about how women won’t give a short guy a chance and only want to date men with money. I know these are separate issues but I hear them paired together so much. Many of the most angry comments are from incels on the internet but I have definitely heard slightly milder versions in person. I dated a super attractive guy who was 5’5 and he would occasionally complain about how short men never get attention. I look at him like the fool he is bc I am *literally* on a date with him. What am I ? Chopped liver?😂 Height and money (and status) do not make a man more attractive to me. My straight women friends almost all feel the way (with some exceptions for guys who are much shorter than them). All of them have their own money and don’t care about his. They routinely date men with significantly less money. Yet, these guys whine too! Anyway, the previous comments made me wonder if some women believe this as well. Does money make a man more or less attractive? Does height? For me, it doesn’t mean anything either way. Thanks for weighing in! Dealbreaker just means there is a height or income that you would refuse to date. I did not say always. I said most. There are always exceptions to any observations. It was actually another poster’s comment which sparked the question. But I noticed some ppl seemed to hold the assumption which is what why I phrased the question in the way I did.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Dec 30, 2021 20:33:43 GMT
There is a difference between saying, “I find tall, wealthy men attractive” and “I won’t date/marry a man who isn’t tall and/or wealthy”. That’s how I read the poll. I selected “tall men are attractive,” I did not select the option that made those preferences a dealbreaker.
This is why I don’t think I could ever do online dating. The entire premise is built on physical attractiveness or meeting very narrowly defined requirements. It’s like job requirements in an ad that eliminate most every realistically qualified applicant.
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Post by peabay on Dec 30, 2021 20:49:25 GMT
Height isn't an issue for me, so it wouldn't be a deal breaker. One of our really good friends is only about 5'4" - maybe 5'5"? And he's a terrific husband, father and human being. Any woman would be lucky to have him in her life.
Money? I wouldn't want a guy who couldn't support himself or know the value of a day's work. He doesn't have to be rich but he can't be lazy.
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Post by nightnurse on Dec 30, 2021 21:01:00 GMT
I’m 5’2 so I’ve never dated anyone shorter than me, not by design but just because I was never asked out by anyone shorter than me. My husband is 5’6. He hasn’t worked in almost a year. He was laid off when COVID started and realized when he was called back how much he hated his job. I convinced him to quit. He keeps talking about getting another job but I love having him home. He makes me coffee in bed every morning, does all the grocery shopping and keeping up with appointments and stuff. He’s relaxed and happy and we abs our evenings and weekends together without the anger and stress he was dealing with when he worked.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Dec 30, 2021 21:03:12 GMT
My preference is tall and with money. Not that I wouldn’t consider a man that didn’t have one or both. But if I could make him to order? Tall and with money.
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 30, 2021 21:09:51 GMT
I do find taller men generally more attractive, but I have met some very good looking guys around my height too (I'm 5'3"). I don't care how much money a man has, I care about his attitude around it and he must be employed.
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Post by peasapie on Dec 30, 2021 21:22:48 GMT
My criteria isn't about height or money. I like a guy who is trustworthy, has a good sense of humor, and can reach inside and carry on a deeper conversation.
I will admit I probably wouldn't want to be with a guy who is penniless, but having a lot of money isn't necessary.
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