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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 30, 2021 21:52:07 GMT
I voted "taller is generally more attractive", but at five foot two and a half inches (can't forget that half inch!), pretty much every guy is taller than me! My ex (DD's dad) is 6'4", and DSO is 6'1". I feel a bit ashamed and shallow to say that I wouldn't consider dating a guy who was my height or shorter. And my preference is over 5'10". Which is kinda cheeky for a short arse like me!
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Post by gar on Dec 30, 2021 22:01:43 GMT
I voted "taller is generally more attractive", but at five foot two and a half inches (can't forget that half inch!), pretty much every guy is taller than me! My ex (DD's dad) is 6'4", and DSO is 6'1". I feel a bit ashamed and shallow to say that I wouldn't consider dating a guy who was my height or shorter. And my preference is over 5'10". Which is kinda cheeky for a short arse like me! Cheeky but honest, nothing wrong with that
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Post by supersoda on Dec 30, 2021 22:27:12 GMT
My DH is 5’8”—taller than me unless I’m in heels (he calls me artificially tall!). It doesn’t bother me in the least. Height has never been a factor for me. Money is more nuanced. I grew up working class and was turned off by guys who had everything handed to them and were living off Daddy’s money (I got married very young—while still in college—so I’m thinking waaay back to my dating days.) I guess I would say work ethic, financial responsibility, and a career are more important than income. Besides, the best advice I ever got was from my great-grandmother, who was a flapper in the 20’s: “Never depend on a man for money.” Curious what great grandma did in the 20s to earn her own money. You know, I don’t know and it’s a question I should have asked before how. I do know that she was a single mom. She didn’t talk about my grandma’s dad but ancestry research has revealed that they were probably never married. I suspect it was waitressing or similar but maybe it was something more tawdry! I know her second husband was a cook. She was awesome and my oldest daughter was named for her. She also watched my grandma struggle as a single mom working as a nurses aid and then my own mother who worked retail. I think her advice came from watching generations of women taking care of themselves and their children. She was so proud I was college. I was a freshman when she died and visiting her in the hospital she told everyone who came in the room that I was her great-granddaughter who was in college.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 30, 2021 22:59:27 GMT
At this point in my life, I have an employment and income minimum. Before, it was have a job that wasn't retail or food service (crappy pay and hours).
I've never found guys under 5'6" to be attractive.
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Post by grate on Dec 30, 2021 23:00:50 GMT
Because I am 5'9 and a thicker build, not so much over weight but "big boned", and was self conscience about it, shorter/smaller than me was a deal breaker. I did not even consider it. money was not a concern, I think I should have paid more attention to that
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Post by summer on Dec 31, 2021 0:20:02 GMT
I’ve dated short men, I’ve dated tall men. I prefer tall, my boyfriend is 6’2”. I wouldn’t rule a man out based on his height. Although if they have a complex about their height and it is an big part of their personality to compensate for it that could be a turn off. I don’t have a money requirement either. As long as they can support themselves. I will say the relationship I was most unhappy in was with a wealthy man.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Dec 31, 2021 0:32:03 GMT
My rule on height was taller than me. I am 5’6”.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 31, 2021 0:56:57 GMT
I don't have a preference for either. I have to say that I'm 5'3". My first husband was 4 inches taller. And Jeremy is a foot taller. I always feel like my ex and I looked "right" together. And Jeremy and I love each other certainly but when we take a pictures standing next to each other, I think we look a little odd. I dunno. But you fall in love with who you fall in love with.
Jeremy lost his job two weeks before we were set to move in together. I moved in with him anyway. He was a great house husband for 6 months before he was back to work.
My ex worked 6 days a week and half the time put in 12 hour days. I wasn't interested in having that again, if I could help it. So money wasn't my concern as I can take care of myself but being married to a workaholic was a big, fat no for me. I'd rather have less money and more time.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Dec 31, 2021 1:16:30 GMT
I voted income just because it was the closest thing, otherwise I would have not voted, which will really screw up the percentages
like many others here, most of whom have an EX, my real issue is financial sense. NSDX was a business owner, and managed to have money for anything HE cared about, but I was left scrambling just to keep the kids fed and the power on.
my first fiancé was very good looking and charming, ( think Leo DiCaprio ). But he was short. That never bothered me at all. It was his character that made me break up with him.
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Post by twinsmomfla99 on Dec 31, 2021 2:55:00 GMT
I married a guy 2 inches shorter than me (he’s 5’2”), and at the time we got married, I made about $15k more than he did. I have neither a height or income deal-breaker.
ETA: Before DH, my shortest serious boyfriend was 5’10”, and the tallest was 6’4”.[br
But I did date shorter guys—I just wasn’t in serious relationships with them.
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Post by Zee on Dec 31, 2021 3:42:26 GMT
My DH is 5’8”—taller than me unless I’m in heels (he calls me artificially tall!). It doesn’t bother me in the least. Height has never been a factor for me. Money is more nuanced. I grew up working class and was turned off by guys who had everything handed to them and were living off Daddy’s money (I got married very young—while still in college—so I’m thinking waaay back to my dating days.) I guess I would say work ethic, financial responsibility, and a career are more important than income. Besides, the best advice I ever got was from my great-grandmother, who was a flapper in the 20’s: “Never depend on a man for money.” Curious what great grandma did in the 20s to earn her own money. Can't speak for that grandma, but my great grandma in the 1920s was a professional violinist who played in concerts and art silent movie houses (that was before talking pictures). My other "working woman" great grandma owned a bar, but I'm not sure what she did during Prohibition. I know her husband died of the Spanish flu and she had to give up her children for adoption. She had other children and another husband after that. I guess the other two ggmas didn't work, I'm not really sure.
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Post by tanya2 on Dec 31, 2021 4:59:08 GMT
I'm 5'9" and yes I do prefer taller guys. But dh is the same height as me so it's clearly not a deal breaker
I definitely have an income dealbreaker though. A guy doesn't have to be wealthy, but he does need to be steadily employed and have a certain degree of ambition. No lazy guys for me (aside from the occasional lazy weekend). I also prefer a guy who is frugal (not cheap) and knows how to manage money. I'm not interested in living pay to pay and constantly struggling. I don't expect gifts or shopping trips or eating out all the time or stuff like that, but I do like to travel regularly & live a comfortable lifestyle. And don't follow me around the house turning off the lights behind me or turning the heat down until I freeze because it's too expensive.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2021 5:20:22 GMT
I find the judgment against those of us who did have height preferences or deal breakers to be a little odd. Unless you can say you could on principle be attracted to any member of the opposite sex regardless of his appearance, and you have no features you find more or less desirable than others, then you’re being hypocritical. For some of us, that preferred physical trait is height, or a height difference. That’s no different than preferring a body type, or hair color/style, eye color, etc. I don’t believe that anyone finds every arrangement of features to be physically attractive.
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Post by chances on Dec 31, 2021 6:00:16 GMT
I find the judgment against those of us who did have height preferences or deal breakers to be a little odd. Unless you can say you could on principle be attracted to any member of the opposite sex regardless of his appearance, and you have no features you find more or less desirable than others, than you’re being hypocritical. For some of us, that preferred physical trait is height, or a height difference. That’s no different than preferring a body type, or hair color/style, eye color, etc. I don’t believe that anyone finds every arrangement of features to be physically attractive. I could have missed it, but I don’t really see much judgement about height requirements. In fact, many posters called *themselves* judgmental names or linked the preference to norms of femininity.
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Post by dewryce on Dec 31, 2021 8:13:45 GMT
I am typically more attracted to tall men, DH is 6’5”, and is the reason for that preference as I didn’t like it before I met him. My stepdad is 6’4”, and I’ve been with DH for 28 years now, so to me they don’t “seem” tall until they are around that height. But it’s not a deal breaker, money never was either. It’s an interesting question, as we got married so young and I truly never gave it consideration at that point either. Of course, my entire life I’ve always been more drawn to men with dark brown or black hair and it used to be dark eyes as well. And pale complexions, not tanned. DH is dirty blond, blue grey eyes, with a ruddy complexion
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Post by gar on Dec 31, 2021 9:01:04 GMT
I find the judgment against those of us who did have height preferences or deal breakers to be a little odd. Unless you can say you could on principle be attracted to any member of the opposite sex regardless of his appearance, and you have no features you find more or less desirable than others, than you’re being hypocritical. For some of us, that preferred physical trait is height, or a height difference. That’s no different than preferring a body type, or hair color/style, eye color, etc. I don’t believe that anyone finds every arrangement of features to be physically attractive. I could have missed it, but I don’t really see much judgement about height requirements. In fact, many posters called *themselves* judgmental names or linked the preference to norms of femininity. Someone said that those who ruled out shorter men were 'missing out on some great guys'. Perhaps that's what @missjen meant.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 31, 2021 11:51:10 GMT
I have dated short men (both of which turned out to be incredible lovers!) and tall men. Men with money and men without. It is the character and the humor that do it for me. The other stuff, I could care less.
DH had no money and was going to graduate school when I met him. It was his gorgeous dark looks and his sense of humor....oh and his accent...that reeled me in. NOW he has money, but again....it's not what drew me to him.
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Post by TankTop on Dec 31, 2021 12:11:11 GMT
None of these were seal breakers for me when single, but the older I get the more I am attracted to taller men. For some reason they make me feel safe.
Dd 22 dates boys who resemble Danny Tanner from original Full House series. 🤣
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Post by jewelie121 on Dec 31, 2021 14:10:26 GMT
Height doesn’t matter to me at all, but I’m just over 5’ tall, so it would be hard to find someone shorter than I am. 😂 DH is 5’7”, so while not tall, even in heels, he’s taller than I am. DS1 is about 5’7” also, while DS2 is 5’6”. DS2 has always dated taller girls. I think his current GF is his height.
Financially, my DH doesn’t work. But, he takes great care of the house/family and for “us” it works. I make enough that he doesn’t have to work, although he’ll probably get a part time job this year since both boys are in college and only the dog needs to be taken care of right now.
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Post by tealpaperowl on Jan 1, 2022 2:36:38 GMT
Height is not a deal breaker for me - my hubby is 5'8"
Rich is sometimes pretentious. When I was dating it mattered that the guy had a decent job, worked, responsible and had goals.
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Post by Linda on Jan 1, 2022 5:20:23 GMT
Curious what great grandma did in the 20s to earn her own money. You know, I don’t know and it’s a question I should have asked before how. I do know that she was a single mom. She didn’t talk about my grandma’s dad but ancestry research has revealed that they were probably never married. I suspect it was waitressing or similar but maybe it was something more tawdry! I know her second husband was a cook. She was awesome and my oldest daughter was named for her. She also watched my grandma struggle as a single mom working as a nurses aid and then my own mother who worked retail. I think her advice came from watching generations of women taking care of themselves and their children. She was so proud I was college. I was a freshman when she died and visiting her in the hospital she told everyone who came in the room that I was her great-granddaughter who was in college. good for her. My grandma (b.1903) was also a very independent woman back then - she worked as a hairdresser in the 20s and 30s and actually bought a house as a single woman in the early 30s - she had a hard time doing that without a father or husband to sign for her.
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