J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Jun 19, 2022 23:05:40 GMT
scrapmaven I'm never in the dinner threads so I didn't see any of that but I can't imagine you ever being unkind. But it would be ok if you were, once in a while. 🥰 Hugs. Agree 100% I’ve read but never posted in the dinner thread. It does seem like one of the nicest recurring threads here. It should remain like that. There are other threads and ways to share information that might be upsetting to someone, especially when repeatedly asked. I respect how how you handled it  |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 19, 2022 23:09:27 GMT
Thank you J u l e e. I truly appreciate your support. |
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Post by mollycoddle on Jun 19, 2022 23:40:22 GMT
I'll tackle this one, because my post was probably the trigger for her to delete. We had a few really nice people leave the thread and some the board, because she was posting very graphic photos w/graphic detail, but more than that she was being mean. She brought drama to an otherwise, really fun and supportive thread and there were many hurt feelings. It was becoming all about her and anyone who tried to get her to ease up or stop posting graphic stuff was met w/anger. Peas were pm'ing me as well as others letting us know that they were done. She came back to apologize yesterday and I explained the issues to her. I own my words. She got angry all over, again and deleted her account. I let her know that if she wanted to post photos/videos or detailed info to put it in a spoiler. She was angry and left for now. Though I feel for her and wish her family the best of everything, I had suggested on more than one occasion that she needed professional support. No matter what I suggested or posted it was met w/resistance and clear frustration. As many of you know I am a very ill pea and even I try to keep the dinner thread a safe place to post and engage. Sure I reach out for support when I'm facing something medically scary, but I don't post detailed info. The two times that I have it was due to questions from others and I put it in a spoiler. We have other peas who have very ill children and don't get breaks and they don't take it out on anyone here and they also don't derail threads. I was afraid of upsetting some of you by telling my truth, but I stand by it and it's bothered me for a long time. I was so ready to use the block feature; however, as the dinner thread weekday leader I didn't think that was right.
So, there it is. Again, I wish that family well and hope that they are offered something to ease their lives. My heart goes out to any mama who deals w/sick children. I am not a mean girl and truly wish her the best. May their lives be enriched in the future and may she find the help and solace that she deserves. A medical psychologist is a must. I’m sorry that she left, but I am sure that your post to her expressed the feelings of many Peas. |
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 20, 2022 17:03:33 GMT
I'll tackle this one, because my post was probably the trigger for her to delete. We had a few really nice people leave the thread and some the board, because she was posting very graphic photos w/graphic detail, but more than that she was being mean. She brought drama to an otherwise, really fun and supportive thread and there were many hurt feelings. It was becoming all about her and anyone who tried to get her to ease up or stop posting graphic stuff was met w/anger. Peas were pm'ing me as well as others letting us know that they were done. She came back to apologize yesterday and I explained the issues to her. I own my words. She got angry all over, again and deleted her account. I let her know that if she wanted to post photos/videos or detailed info to put it in a spoiler. She was angry and left for now. Though I feel for her and wish her family the best of everything, I had suggested on more than one occasion that she needed professional support. No matter what I suggested or posted it was met w/resistance and clear frustration. As many of you know I am a very ill pea and even I try to keep the dinner thread a safe place to post and engage. Sure I reach out for support when I'm facing something medically scary, but I don't post detailed info. The two times that I have it was due to questions from others and I put it in a spoiler. We have other peas who have very ill children and don't get breaks and they don't take it out on anyone here and they also don't derail threads. I was afraid of upsetting some of you by telling my truth, but I stand by it and it's bothered me for a long time. I was so ready to use the block feature; however, as the dinner thread weekday leader I didn't think that was right.
So, there it is. Again, I wish that family well and hope that they are offered something to ease their lives. My heart goes out to any mama who deals w/sick children. I am not a mean girl and truly wish her the best. May their lives be enriched in the future and may she find the help and solace that she deserves. A medical psychologist is a must. you are an absolute angel on our board and I'm glad you spoke up, I felt the exact same way. Someone on this board went really out of their way to help her get the formula she so desperately needed and was successful. She barely even acknowledged her kind support here and it pissed me off. |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 17:36:11 GMT
I'll tackle this one, because my post was probably the trigger for her to delete. We had a few really nice people leave the thread and some the board, because she was posting very graphic photos w/graphic detail, but more than that she was being mean. She brought drama to an otherwise, really fun and supportive thread and there were many hurt feelings. It was becoming all about her and anyone who tried to get her to ease up or stop posting graphic stuff was met w/anger. Peas were pm'ing me as well as others letting us know that they were done. She came back to apologize yesterday and I explained the issues to her. I own my words. She got angry all over, again and deleted her account. I let her know that if she wanted to post photos/videos or detailed info to put it in a spoiler. She was angry and left for now. Though I feel for her and wish her family the best of everything, I had suggested on more than one occasion that she needed professional support. No matter what I suggested or posted it was met w/resistance and clear frustration. As many of you know I am a very ill pea and even I try to keep the dinner thread a safe place to post and engage. Sure I reach out for support when I'm facing something medically scary, but I don't post detailed info. The two times that I have it was due to questions from others and I put it in a spoiler. We have other peas who have very ill children and don't get breaks and they don't take it out on anyone here and they also don't derail threads. I was afraid of upsetting some of you by telling my truth, but I stand by it and it's bothered me for a long time. I was so ready to use the block feature; however, as the dinner thread weekday leader I didn't think that was right.
So, there it is. Again, I wish that family well and hope that they are offered something to ease their lives. My heart goes out to any mama who deals w/sick children. I am not a mean girl and truly wish her the best. May their lives be enriched in the future and may she find the help and solace that she deserves. A medical psychologist is a must. you are an absolute angel on our board and I'm glad you spoke up, I felt the exact same way. Someone on this board went really out of their way to help her get the formula she so desperately needed and was successful. She barely even acknowledged her kind support here and it pissed me off. To be clear, you're saying that a PEA helped Sunnycamom get formula, and then you're saying/implying what exactly about that? |
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 20, 2022 17:37:49 GMT
Not sure what's not clear. Someone on this board would be a Pea.
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 17:39:17 GMT
Not sure what's not clear. Someone on this board would be a Pea. I'm reading your PP as an implication about that transaction. And if you're suggesting/implying something, I'd like to know what it is  |
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 20, 2022 17:58:17 GMT
Not sure what's not clear. Someone on this board would be a Pea. I'm reading your PP as an implication about that transaction. And if you're suggesting/implying something, I'd like to know what it is  pm'd you and now I bumped the thread.  malibou went above and beyond to help her. |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 18:10:43 GMT
I'm reading your PP as an implication about that transaction. And if you're suggesting/implying something, I'd like to know what it is pm'd you and now I bumped the thread.  malibou went above and beyond to help her. Thanks, I appreciate it. I sent a reply with one more question |
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Jun 20, 2022 19:54:35 GMT
you are an absolute angel on our board and I'm glad you spoke up, I felt the exact same way. Someone on this board went really out of their way to help her get the formula she so desperately needed and was successful. She barely even acknowledged her kind support here and it pissed me off. How do you know she barely acknowledged the help she got? Did malibou tell you that? The woman was literally fighting for her kids life but hey, let's make sure YOU feel good about what she did or didn't do in your timeframe, right. Your sanctimonious bullshit gets old. |
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 20, 2022 19:55:22 GMT
you are an absolute angel on our board and I'm glad you spoke up, I felt the exact same way. Someone on this board went really out of their way to help her get the formula she so desperately needed and was successful. She barely even acknowledged her kind support here and it pissed me off. How do you know she barely acknowledged the help she got? Did malibou tell you that? The woman was literally fighting for her kids life but hey, let's make sure YOU feel good about what she did or didn't do in your timeframe, right. Your sanctimonious bullshit gets old. fuck you |
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Jun 20, 2022 19:57:25 GMT
How do you know she barely acknowledged the help she got? Did malibou tell you that? The woman was literally fighting for her kids life but hey, let's make sure YOU feel good about what she did or didn't do in your timeframe, right. Your sanctimonious bullshit gets old. fuck you Guess I was right, it was all about YOU. Thanks for the validation. |
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 20, 2022 20:05:50 GMT
I read the dinner threads occasionally but must have missed this. Were the pictures in regard to her special needs kids or something different. Too bad she felt the need to delete. I know a lot of Peas tried to give her support during her struggles with formula.
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 20:09:49 GMT
So, I said this in PM to yvonne and I'll ask it here: malibou, IIRC sunnycamom posted a heartfelt thank you to all the peas that helped with the email writing campaign to politicians in CA. This was like a week or ten days ago. I'll try and find it and if I do I'll post it here. Did you miss it? Was it not enough of a thank you in your opinion? Now that this Pandora's Box has been opened, it would be helpful and would provide clarity for us to hear what happened or did not happen in regards to the emails you sent from your point of view. To be clear, it is extremely rare that I check the dinner thread, so I have absolutely no comments or thoughts about anything that did or did not go down there. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 20, 2022 20:10:26 GMT
Thank you for your lovely words, oh yvonne. You are such a nice person and fun, too. I'm sorry that you were attacked on this thread. |
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 20, 2022 20:12:54 GMT
Thank you for your lovely words, oh yvonne . You are such a nice person and fun, too. I'm sorry that you were attacked on this thread. thanks, and I'm sure malibou is gonna come kick my a@@ for saying anything at all cause she's a sweetheart like that and I'm sure doesn't want to be dragged into this drama. Sorry M xo |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 20:14:54 GMT
Since I commented on the thread, it was quick to find: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/131489/update-epic-proportionsHere's the relevant excerpt: I want to thank each pea who emailed on my son's behalf. You have no idea how thankful I am that you took the time out of your day to do that for us. You don't personally know either of us but to reach out and try to help means to world to me. I have fought for over 16 years to keep him happy and thriving and alive. |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 20:20:32 GMT
Thank you for your lovely words, oh yvonne . You are such a nice person and fun, too. I'm sorry that you were attacked on this thread.  thanks, and I'm sure malibou is gonna come kick my a@@ for saying anything at all cause she's a sweetheart like that and I'm sure doesn't want to be dragged into this drama. Sorry M xo To be honest, you're the one who dragged her into it with your (IMO) inflammatory posts <----- said in the nicest way, truly. |
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Jun 20, 2022 20:21:46 GMT
thanks, and I'm sure malibou is gonna come kick my a@@ for saying anything at all cause she's a sweetheart like that and I'm sure doesn't want to be dragged into this drama. Sorry M xo To be honest, you're the one who dragged her into it with your (IMO) inflammatory posts <----- said in the nicest way, truly. I feel like I'm the twilight zone here with you. How was I not clear that I'm at fault for bringing it up? I was referring to myself. |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 20:22:49 GMT
To be honest, you're the one who dragged her into it with your (IMO) inflammatory posts <----- said in the nicest way, truly. I feel like I'm the twilight zone here with you. How was I not clear that I'm at fault for bringing it up? I was referring to myself. Alrighty then  |
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Jun 20, 2022 20:30:49 GMT
Since I commented on the thread, it was quick to find: 2peasrefugees.boards.net/thread/131489/update-epic-proportionsHere's the relevant excerpt: I want to thank each pea who emailed on my son's behalf. You have no idea how thankful I am that you took the time out of your day to do that for us. You don't personally know either of us but to reach out and try to help means to world to me. I have fought for over 16 years to keep him happy and thriving and alive. Yeah that's definitely an example of "barely even acknowledged her kind support" if I ever saw one.   Unreal! |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 20, 2022 20:42:21 GMT
I am going to back up oh yvonne. Honestly, that was a rare showing of gratitude. Normally, that does not happen. I feel responsible for saying this, because I'm the one who gave the explanation about the hairflip. |
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 20:53:33 GMT
I am going to back up oh yvonne . Honestly, that was a rare showing of gratitude. Normally, that does not happen. I feel responsible for saying this, because I'm the one who gave the explanation about the hairflip. I just don't get this thing at all. So to me it looks like you and Yvonne are upset/worked up/use whatever words are the right ones because in the two of your opinions, Sunnycamom (while simultaneously living the life of a mom who may well not be able to feed her special needs child VERY SOON) did not thank the peas (and these peas are not even the two of you but other peas) who sent emails on her son's behalf well/often enough? And this has been brought up today exactly why? Sunnycamom is no longer here to share her side. And Malibou's name has been brought into this by no fault of her own. To be 100% clear. Malibou was not the only one working behind the scene's on Sunnycamom's son's behalf. And again, to be clear, I have zero idea what went down on the dinner threads. |
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Jun 20, 2022 21:00:11 GMT
I am going to back up oh yvonne . Honestly, that was a rare showing of gratitude. Normally, that does not happen. I feel responsible for saying this, because I'm the one who gave the explanation about the hairflip. So what if it was rare. It was a pretty heartfelt sincere thank you. I rarely read the dinner thread and am not going to go back and read any but frankly, your post to sunnycamom on the 6/18 thread was an unnecessary throat punch. You all knew she was spiraling and instead of letting it go, you went in for the kill. Hope you feel good about yourself and your post. I seem to recall you being pretty needy with all your medical issues and many peas were very kind to you. Maybe pay it forward next time. |
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Jun 20, 2022 21:04:17 GMT
Is there a link to this thread?
Never mind- I found it.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 20, 2022 21:15:10 GMT
For me, it went much deeper than gratitude and I knew that when I posted some people would agree w/me and others would think I was being mean. There is a much longer history and some very nice people left the thread and some the board, as I mentioned earlier. It was never my intention to kick someone while they were down. I had very clear reasons for saying what I did. The only thing that truly matters, is the well being of her children. I've always made that very clear. Nothing is more important than those children and she knows that I want the best for them.
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Post by bossymom on Jun 20, 2022 21:24:29 GMT
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Post by MichyM on Jun 20, 2022 21:36:53 GMT
For me, it went much deeper than gratitude and I knew that when I posted some people would agree w/me and others would think I was being mean. There is a much longer history and some very nice people left the thread and some the board, as I mentioned earlier. It was never my intention to kick someone while they were down. I had very clear reasons for saying what I did. The only thing that truly matters, is the well being of her children. I've always made that very clear. Nothing is more important than those children and she knows that I want the best for them. Ok, so here again, besides Yvonne's implications, you also continue to make implications. And the person who you're talking about isn't here to share her side. So, prey tell, who left? And you know that they left because they were driven off the board by something that Sunnycamom posted? I am no saying that it's not so, and I don't believe you'd make it up, but if you're going to imply these things, it's unfair if you don't back them up. And bossymom. Yes, beating a dead horse. Note, no one tagged you in this thread (not even me in this reply to you) and you don't need to read it if you don't want to  Frankly, I think it's terrible the way that Sunnycamom left. And much as y'all would like to make her into some sort of villian, I'm not sure that it's warranted. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 20, 2022 21:41:29 GMT
I'm not going to out anyone who left, nor will I share their story. Yes, I was pm'd and I do know who and why. We clearly disagree on this issue and I'm OK agreeing to disagree.
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Post by Zee on Jun 20, 2022 21:49:03 GMT
I am going to back up oh yvonne . Honestly, that was a rare showing of gratitude. Normally, that does not happen. I feel responsible for saying this, because I'm the one who gave the explanation about the hairflip. So what if it was rare. It was a pretty heartfelt sincere thank you. I rarely read the dinner thread and am not going to go back and read any but frankly, your post to sunnycamom on the 6/18 thread was an unnecessary throat punch. You all knew she was spiraling and instead of letting it go, you went in for the kill. Hope you feel good about yourself and your post. I seem to recall you being pretty needy with all your medical issues and many peas were very kind to you. Maybe pay it forward next time. I've never seen her be needy and she pays it forward all the time. Why the need to hit so low? It's not like she's in the habit of attacking anyone, ever. I'm not taking "sides" but scrapmaven has always been a positive light here. She's one of those people that if you don't like her, there's something wrong with YOU, not HER. And if sunnycamom is reading this, I hope she is getting the emotional support she needs in her private life. |
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thanks, and I'm sure malibou is gonna come kick my a@@ for saying anything at all cause she's a sweetheart like that and I'm sure doesn't want to be dragged into this drama. Sorry M xo 
Unreal!
