pancakes
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Post by pancakes on Aug 19, 2022 22:48:00 GMT
My FIL is going to have an in-patient heart surgery done and will be in the hospital for several nights afterward.
We are going to road trip to see him during that time. But my parents have asked me if they should send flowers.
He isn’t a flowers kind of guy, but regardless — is it customary to send anything for something like this?
And: What would one set of in-laws send to the other? (Totally friendly but don’t talk regularly)
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Post by Linda on Aug 19, 2022 22:51:14 GMT
flowers or fruit is traditional for hospital visits but I think not done so much nowadays (more my grandparents generation).
My mum would send a thinking of you card to my MIL when she was hospitalised
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CeeScraps
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Post by CeeScraps on Aug 19, 2022 23:09:53 GMT
What about a card with a message that dinner once he is home will be delivered?
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Post by paigepea on Aug 19, 2022 23:20:10 GMT
When my mom was in hospital for a week she requested no flowers. She had some send flowers when she got home. She most appreciated cards, phone calls and visits when possible.
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Post by katlady on Aug 19, 2022 23:21:27 GMT
I would deliver the flowers to the house, if he is only going to be there for a few days. Having to transport flowers home can be difficult, especially if they are in a vase.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 19, 2022 23:23:29 GMT
I give balloon bouquets.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Aug 19, 2022 23:27:09 GMT
No flowers for a few nights.
Card and/or phone call yes..
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 19, 2022 23:55:06 GMT
My Dad has had a few hospital stays in recent years. One for a heart surgery that had him in for more than a week. No flowers. Generally the friends and relatives end up sending things when he has gone home, edible arrangements or something along that line.
Sometimes i'll pick him up a book or magazine if I see something he'd be interested in...in case he's feeling well enough to read.
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Post by littlemama on Aug 20, 2022 0:21:36 GMT
Hospital rooms are so small that there isnt really room for flowers and they are a pain to transport home
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Post by smcast on Aug 20, 2022 1:13:54 GMT
I think flowers brighten up the room and are a point of conversation. We always buy my dad green and yellow arrangements to represent John Deere since he was a farmer. Balloons are nice too. People usually get more than enough food in the hospital and usually aren't very hungry when recuperating.
Eta: depending on length of stay, they may die before you have to transport home. They can always be left a nurse's station to be admired when he leaves too.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 20, 2022 1:32:44 GMT
Check with the nurses first. He may end up going to surgical ICU or cardiac ICU and many of those units allow for no flowers or balloons. (This was for me and family members in those units)
I would wait until he is home.
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Post by cecilia on Aug 20, 2022 2:12:18 GMT
What about a card with a message that dinner once he is home will be delivered? This. I had cards sent to my house during my hospital stays. My Mom's volunteer group would ask her for updates. 1 person in mine would text me for updates then update the group. When I was a teen, people sent gift baskets. I have never liked flowers. |
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Post by hennybutton on Aug 20, 2022 3:40:13 GMT
Eta: depending on length of stay, they may die before you have to transport home. They can always be left a nurse's station to be admired when he leaves too. You do mean the flowers, right? |
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Aug 20, 2022 5:57:38 GMT
Except be aware that I think most hospitals these days require no latex balloons, only mylar. |
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Post by smcast on Aug 20, 2022 7:34:38 GMT
Eta: depending on length of stay, they may die before you have to transport home. They can always be left a nurse's station to be admired when he leaves too. You do mean the flowers, right? Yes. |
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 20, 2022 11:03:18 GMT
British hospitals don't allow flowers any more. I would prepare a small care pack "from the ILs". Something like a book of crossword puzzles/pencil/eraser, a magazine in some subject he's interested in, sweet and salty snacks, because you don't always fancy even the best hospital food after a procedure. Sherbet lemons are good because they provide a little energy, freshen the mouth and the lemon can stimulate the appetite.
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Post by lisae on Aug 20, 2022 11:53:36 GMT
Flowers in a hospital room just get in the way. Often you have to move them to a location like the window sill that the patient may not even really see them. And if they are still pretty when he leaves, they will have to juggle the flowers along with everything else that needs to go home.
After he is back home, send flowers there.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 20, 2022 11:57:10 GMT
British hospitals don't allow flowers any more. I would prepare a small care pack "from the ILs". Something like a book of crossword puzzles/pencil/eraser, a magazine in some subject he's interested in, sweet and salty snacks, because you don't always fancy even the best hospital food after a procedure. Sherbet lemons are good because they provide a little energy, freshen the mouth and the lemon can stimulate the appetite. That is a fantastic idea. |
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Post by scrapngranny on Aug 20, 2022 16:00:35 GMT
I have seen less and less flowers in the hospital these days. It’s kind of a thing of the past. They are allowed in ICU. Sending a card would probably be plenty.
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