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Post by mollycoddle on Nov 9, 2022 22:17:44 GMT
It really sounds like your hard work has paid off, and you are in a good place. I’m happy for you.
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Post by peasapie on Nov 9, 2022 22:25:09 GMT
Congratulations for making this progress in understanding yourself and in taking this next step on your life's journey. So happy to read your post.
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Post by librarylady on Nov 9, 2022 22:31:29 GMT
Sending you wishes for the best life ever.
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scrappyesq
Pearl Clutcher
You have always been a part of the heist. You're only mad now because you don't like your cut.
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 9, 2022 22:58:33 GMT
He started making excuses and saying that this is how he is and I have to deal with it. As he was talking I got up, opened the front door and led him out. Enough.
I should have added that during this final get the f*ck out of my apartment he alluded to the fact that he had a girlfriend. He didn't say it directly but he mentioned he wanted someone who understood an accepted him as he is and he found her. Literally as I'm standing there, door open pointing to the hallway. I don't know if it was an intentional final dig, but for the first few days all I wondered is what does she have that I don't. Then it occurred to me she has this broken man. Not to be mean but she can keep him.
If there is anyone reading this going through a similar situation and you don't want to share please PM me. This is not easy or pleasant. Sometimes it's pure agony and you don't think you'll ever feel better. But you can do it, I don't have all the answers but I can listen.
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Post by hop2 on Nov 9, 2022 23:03:06 GMT
I’m happy that you are happy! That is great news! I am so sorry you had to endure do much to get there. Congratulations on doing the work you needed to do & on becoming the best version of you you can be. Your journey is inspiring!
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Post by putabuttononit on Nov 9, 2022 23:08:01 GMT
You’re an inspiration for many, I’d imagine. I held my breath as you showed him the door. Here’s one more Pea in your corner, cheering you on!
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Post by mom on Nov 9, 2022 23:32:37 GMT
You did the hard work, and are becoming who you are supposed to be. I know it's hard to be divorced but you are so much stronger now! I am really proud of you
On another note, I've missed you here!
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Montannie
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Post by Montannie on Nov 9, 2022 23:37:01 GMT
You sound happy, and I'm glad for you. Congratulations on taking hold of your life and making hard choices.
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scrappyesq
Pearl Clutcher
You have always been a part of the heist. You're only mad now because you don't like your cut.
Posts: 4,060
Jun 26, 2014 19:29:07 GMT
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Post by scrappyesq on Nov 10, 2022 0:46:14 GMT
On another note, I've missed you here! Thank you mom. I've missed you too!!
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Post by MZF on Nov 10, 2022 1:19:20 GMT
Sounds like you've made the best decision for you. Best wishes for much happiness and success in your career.
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on Nov 10, 2022 1:27:44 GMT
Good for you for coming so far and not settling!
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Post by silverlining on Nov 10, 2022 1:28:43 GMT
You've done something incredibly difficult and amazing. I admire anyone who does the hard work to move beyond a horrible childhood or bad marriage (or both!) and make a new life for themself.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2022 1:35:37 GMT
Congrats! Just reading your OP is so uplifting and I love the sound of confidence and hope you have with your decision to move past him!
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msliz
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The Procrastinator
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Post by msliz on Nov 10, 2022 1:40:12 GMT
Sending happy healthy vibes. I love that you know you deserve more from this life, and that you're opening yourself to the opportunities.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Nov 10, 2022 1:56:13 GMT
That is definitely a lot to deal with but how great that you have done the work to be happier and healthier. It sounds like you were ready in your own time and I love that you can laugh and feel yourself.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2022 2:18:37 GMT
You’re amazing…best wishes to you in your new life. I’m no hater of marriage, but how wonderful it feels to have a new life and to have worked through so much of what burdened you for so long
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Post by quietgirl on Nov 10, 2022 2:28:17 GMT
Congratulations to you, you have been on a hard but very worthwhile journey. I wish you all the best you deserve it.
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Post by SallyPA on Nov 10, 2022 2:36:10 GMT
That IS big news. Proud of you for making the change when you realized that it wasn’t working for you and never would. Proud of you!
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 10, 2022 10:17:02 GMT
Your strength shines!
I love hearing the happier you.
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J u l e e
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Post by J u l e e on Nov 10, 2022 12:10:32 GMT
Cheering you on, sister! I’m so glad you’re here and that you shared this with us. Enjoy your new life!
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Post by baslp on Nov 10, 2022 12:39:53 GMT
Good luck on your new journey
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lisaknits
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Post by lisaknits on Nov 10, 2022 13:14:25 GMT
What a long journey you've been on and kudos for doing the hard work to shape a happier, healthier life! You are inspiring!
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Post by cat2007 on Nov 10, 2022 13:20:11 GMT
Congratulations!
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Post by gramasue on Nov 10, 2022 13:30:30 GMT
Enjoy your new freedom! Sounds like you are discovering what a fabulous person you are! Choose happy!
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Post by auntkelly on Nov 10, 2022 13:52:06 GMT
I’m glad you are doing well! It takes courage to confront your past and find a healthy way to move forward. I wish you much happiness in the future.
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casii
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Post by casii on Nov 10, 2022 13:54:08 GMT
Congratulations! Here's to a life with joy, fullness and peace of mind. You did the right thing.
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oh yvonne
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Post by oh yvonne on Nov 10, 2022 14:15:43 GMT
What an incredible journey you've been on! I wish you all the best in this new chapter in your life. The world is yours...go eat it up!
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Post by CardBoxer on Nov 10, 2022 14:17:45 GMT
Besides agreeing with what others have said, I’m struck by your expressive, powerful writing. I hope that someday you write a book, or if not, a nice long article. The Washington Post has a section called, “Inspired Life,” and I imagined it there, but there are many places where it would fit and inspire others.
You did such hard work, look at you now.
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Nanner
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Post by Nanner on Nov 10, 2022 14:24:39 GMT
What a great post to read this morning.
Congratulations! Enjoy your new life!!!!
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teddyw
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Post by teddyw on Nov 10, 2022 14:29:52 GMT
So happy for you. You deserve nothing but the best.
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