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Post by lisacharlotte on Apr 19, 2023 18:59:46 GMT
I never lie about my age and I have no problem telling people. I’m less than a month away from 58. When I hit puberty I looked older than my age (height, boobs) and lied to get into clubs, buy alcohol/cigarettes. Once I hit my 30’s I always looked younger. I started looking my age as I approached 50, menopause is hell on your face without help.
I didn’t know my SIL was lying about her age. We were born the same year, but she graduated a year behind me since her birthday is late in the year. She visited for her 55th and I got her a cake with big sparkly 55 candles and posted it on Facebook. She was horrified that I outed her.
My mom used to lie about her age, I remember her being 28 forever. But, she was also in the generation that women lost their currency as they approached 30.
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Post by roundtwo on Apr 19, 2023 20:19:27 GMT
My mother has always been like this, and I'll bet she still lies about it now too. I'm the opposite, I have no issue telling anyone how old I am and getting older has honestly never bothered me (apart from the medical issues that come with it) My mil use to be sensitive about her age but now that she is approaching 100, she is quite happy to tell anyone and everyone how old she is. I have no issues with sharing my age but no one is asking these days - I am just another invisible old lady which suits this introvert just fine, lol. I didn’t need to lie as a teen getting into pubs and age restricted films because I was never asked. Must have looked haggered even then. Same here which was very handy when it came to buying alcohol.
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Post by padresfan619 on Apr 19, 2023 20:22:49 GMT
I don’t lie about my age but I do have to stop and think about the number when someone asks. The past three years have truly done a number in my ability to sense time passing, I honestly feel like 2020 just didn’t exist as a year!
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Post by peabay on Apr 19, 2023 20:27:26 GMT
Nope! I'm 62 and I tell people that. I'd rather they say "wow, you look young for 62," than think "no way is she only 55" in their head. SAME! I'm 58 and people always say I look younger. I really don't, but I do think I have a young energy that makes people think I'm younger. Why lie? I'd be afraid of being found out and looking ridiculous and vain. Plus, I am very, very much in the "be grateful" camp - there are many who aren't given the chance to grow older - including my closest high school friend who will succumb to ovarian cancer at some point in the next few years. It's a privilege to be 58 and it will continue to be so for however many years I live.
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Post by wellway on Apr 19, 2023 20:33:47 GMT
Years ago my aunt discovered that if you are cagey about your age then your sisters will arrange a birthday party, invite all the relatives, display a banner and decorate a cake saying Happy 50th Birthday.
I don't lie about my age, I don't see the point.
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Post by Bobomommy on Apr 19, 2023 20:45:30 GMT
My grandmother sometimes told people she was 5 or so years older than she really was. She said she’d rather them think she looked good for her age.
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Post by maryannscraps on Apr 19, 2023 20:52:26 GMT
I don't care about it. I don't lie about it, although sometimes I forget. My mom is really weird about her age. She said she was 29 for about three decades. When she turned 80 a few years ago, she refused to acknowledge it and asked my sisters and I to not tell anyone her age. I have no idea why. But then my mom is always weird about personal information. She doesn't even want to tell the Dr. office.
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Post by librarylady on Apr 19, 2023 21:10:52 GMT
My sister's MIL was older than her husband. They married in the 1930s so she was most unusual to have a younger husband. She put down all sorts of birthdates on various papers. When she actually died no one was sure exactly what her real birth date was. I can't remember if her children made an effort to ask for a birth certificate from the state where she was born.
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Apr 19, 2023 21:19:07 GMT
Not yet! I work in a GPs' surgery where we have to ask for name, DOB and 1st line of address for identification purposes. Patients have to give that info so we can identify them. You'd be amazed at the number of emails we get from email addresses such as sexyfeet at hotmail dot com asking for all their medication please, wondering why we can't telepathically work out who they are and what they want, out of over 20K+ people. We had a blood pressure record handed in yesterday for a JP. No other Id. We now have to wait for someone to come in and ask whether the doctor has seen their BP results yet. It's usually the ladies of all-too-certain age who get all coy about giving their date of birth. I tell them they can give us their NHS number instead if they wish. Nobody remembers that, so suddenly the DOB is OK after all.
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Post by Lexica on Apr 19, 2023 21:50:14 GMT
I tell people the wrong age sometimes but it's usually a year or two older because I forget 😅 This seems to happen to me when I am at a specific age range. It started when I couldn’t remember if I was 37 or 38. Then the same thing happened at 47/48 and 57/58. And then I couldn’t remember if I was 67 or 68 so I actually resorted to subtracting my birth year and I realized I am 69! It is the oddest thing. I’m not sensitive about it, I just have this weird mental glitch at the end of each decade.
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Post by auntiepeas on Apr 19, 2023 22:10:05 GMT
I don't lie about my age (51) but I do have to do the math to work out what it is at any given time and have done for about the past twenty years or so. (Actually, I've started to have to do that for the boys ages too now...)
DH is more than ten years older than me. I feel almost as familiar with his perspective and memories as I do my own so that might contribute to my disconnect with my age.🤔
We kind of average each other out in a good way.
For instance, he is starting to mentally prepare for retirement whereas I hope to have a good decade before I am, so I feel like I'm getting extra time somehow.
And even when DH is retired our routine is still likely to be anchored around work so although that'll delay a full-on retirement lifestyle for him we're optimistic he'll feel like he's on a really long extra holiday.
For the most part l feel like age is just a number. I am sometimes curious how old other people are, so I can understand the same curiosity in return, but there are times when it can feel impolite and too personal to be asked (kind of like being asked my underwear size).🫣
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Post by littlemama on Apr 19, 2023 22:16:01 GMT
Nope. I refused to be shamed by a misogynistic society for my age. Now if I could only become that comfortable about my body...
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Post by gina on Apr 19, 2023 22:18:34 GMT
I love telling people my age because they never believe me. haha Mouths usually fall open when I say I have an almost 20 year old. I quite like it.
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Post by busy on Apr 19, 2023 22:18:54 GMT
I've never lied about my age and never would. I turn 50 in three weeks and whatever. I don't care.
BUT I don't think anyone I work with (beyond, obviously, HR) knows how old I am and I'm fine with that. I'm probably the oldest one in the company, and it's tech, and the staff population skews young like most of the industry. I don't make any effort to obscure my age, but I'm not advertising it, either. I love the folks I work with but the reality is a segment of people would probably think I'm a few years from toddling off to the nursing home if they realized just how old I am lol (FWIW, no one in leadership is like that and I've zero worries about age discrimination here.)
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Post by AllieC on Apr 19, 2023 23:50:33 GMT
I never lie about my age, I'm happy that I've made it to 57. My MIL died when she was 93 but none of the kids knew her actual birth year! It was only when she died that we confirmed it. She was very much a "I don't want people to think I'm old" when she needed a walking aid at around 90 LOL.
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Post by Gennifer on Apr 19, 2023 23:57:15 GMT
No, I have never lied about my age. I also don’t lie about my size or weight.
It’s not a big deal. 🤷🏼♀️
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Post by AussieMeg on Apr 19, 2023 23:59:06 GMT
I've never lied about my age. Well, that's a lie..... My fake ID said I was 18 when I was 16 or 17, so I could get into a pub. But I have never said that I am younger than I am. I have no issue telling people my age. However.... I admit to being a bit sensitive about my age. I am 4.5 years older than DSO. So when I turned 50, he and a lot of his friends were still in their mid 40s, and I felt like an old hag. I certainly didn't want to have a 50th birthday party. It's going to be even worse in four and a bit years when I turn 60.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Apr 20, 2023 0:41:11 GMT
I have never had a problem with my age. My mom passed away at 59. I’m happy to be 61 in June!
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Post by cakediva on Apr 20, 2023 0:49:03 GMT
Nope - I just posted on my business social media on a “meet the designer/behind the scenes” day for my birthday “this is 54” was the caption…..no hiding here!
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Post by mollycoddle on Apr 20, 2023 0:51:52 GMT
Nope. Not ever.
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Post by mncmom on Apr 20, 2023 0:56:14 GMT
Okay, I'll say it. While I am very happy to still be here, and I've lost several people I love at much earlier ages, I hardly ever tell people my age. My mom always said when asked, "Old enough to know better but still young enough to do it anyway". I don't lie, I just don't tell them.
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Post by monklady123 on Apr 20, 2023 0:59:59 GMT
I don't lie about it but often I forget exactly how old I am. lol... it kind of all blends together after a certain point. haha. I've also never been one to celebrate specific birthdays... like "oh wow, it's my 50th birthday and we're doing xyz to celebrate!!" We just mark the birth day without focusing on age. (of course I'm talking about adults, not when our kids were younger). -- So anyway, I might have to stop and do some math if someone asked me specifically how old I am.
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Post by chaosisapony on Apr 20, 2023 1:07:27 GMT
No, I've never cared about my age or the age of anyone else. It's such an odd thing to be sensitive about.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 20, 2023 2:08:11 GMT
I did when I was 20 and went on a trip with all 21 year olds. . My students ask me all of the time. I give them a math problem with multiple steps to figure it out. I don't lie. Usually people say something nice about my age, so I've never felt bad about saying it. ETA: My mom passed away when she was 58 (I turn 58 next month, so THAT bothers me). I always wondered if I would make it to 58. Her mom died at 63.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Apr 20, 2023 3:24:45 GMT
I am later 50's. Not sensitive about my age at all. If someone asks, I will answer.
Disclaimer: I don't worry what others think of me and how I live my life. I stopped worrying, a long time ago. If someone likes me, wonderful. If someone doesn't like me, then feel free to excuse yourself from my life.
I always think it's ridiculous, when someone won't say their age. Making a fuss about it, brings more attention to it, than just saying it. It's one of those things, that "it is, what it is" and nobody really cares.
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Post by fredfreddy44 on Apr 20, 2023 3:32:19 GMT
No I don't care. I'm 51 and most days I have to remember how old I am.
We went to Cabo SJ this last week and we went boat snorkling and the nice ,young 27 yo lady who guided us said she couldn't believe we were both 51. I thought that was kind, but I remember as youngster never knowing the ages of other generations by looks.
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Post by tanya2 on Apr 20, 2023 3:39:09 GMT
Not since I was 17 and lying to get into the bars LOL Now I don't care who knows how old I am Just don't ask me my weight
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Post by crazy4scraps on Apr 20, 2023 3:53:11 GMT
Nope, because back when I was younger no one would ever believe me when I told the truth! I always looked very young for my age. I was still getting carded at bars when I was in my mid 30’s. Now that I’m in my middle 50’s I look more my actual age because I’ve never dyed my hair and I don’t wear makeup. I honestly don’t care. It’s just a number.
I’m so old that I was legal to drink when I turned 19 early in the year, and then they changed the drinking age to 21 that fall. DH turned 19 later that year so I was legal but didn’t look it and he wasn’t legal but did look it because he had a full beard and looked older than me. So people would card me because I looked like I was 14 and I’d whip out my ID and show them, then they’d ask him. He’d roll his eyes and slowly reach for his wallet saying, “Seriously?” And then they’d say, “No man, you’re good.” And we’d walk right in. 😁
My mom always looked really young for her age too, up until arthritis and Alzheimer’s kicked her butt in her mid 70’s. She always had a youthful attitude and said that her last few kids kept her young (she had me at 40 and my younger brother at 42).
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Post by TXMary on Apr 20, 2023 4:21:57 GMT
I’m 61 and I don’t care who knows it. I haven’t lied about my age since I was trying to get into bars before I was legal. I survived a very aggressive breast cancer to get to this age and I’m grateful to be here. My mom will be 90 in August and she tells everybody.
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 20, 2023 13:02:54 GMT
No - I'm 65 and have no problem admitting that. I'm thankful for every birthday I see, every new day for that matter. I'm also not offended when I'm offered a senior discount. I will say I was a bit put out when I received the local cemetery brochure encouraging me to plan for the "future". I'm the same age with the same attitude. I was a bit put out when my grandson called me elderly!
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