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Post by katlady on Jun 29, 2023 16:27:55 GMT
I have a friend who likes to repost older photos on IG. Mainly the "one year ago today" photos. I'll call her Carol. It is often a group photo, yet Carol will only tag one person in the photo and "ignore" the others, even though she is still friends with them. One time Carol reposted a photo that had Alice and Betty posing for a selfie. Alice and Betty were the main subjects of the photo. Carol was in the background, looking in a different direction talking with someone else. When Carol reposted that photo, she captioned it "Love this Girl" tagging Alice and ignoring Betty. Carol and Betty are friends. They occasionally do things together. I just thought it was so weird to post that one photo to convey the message how you feel about Alice and ignore Betty. She could have posted a photo that only had her and Alice in it. She does this kind of posting often. I don't know if she is getting in a dig at the others in the photo, just looking for attention, or just unaware of how it looks when she posts like this. If I repost a group photo, I'll tag everyone in the photo.
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Post by librarylady on Jun 29, 2023 16:29:53 GMT
Carol may be unaware of how this is rather rude to anyone else in the photo.
If she is tagging one, she should tag all--that is my opinion on this.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jun 29, 2023 16:34:27 GMT
In general I have a problem with people who post pictures of others on social media without their permission so tagging or not tagging would be the least of my problem with this. I think she is rude to not asking before posting pics of others.
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Post by marysue63 on Jun 29, 2023 16:35:01 GMT
I vote for insensitive. Usually when I share an old post I don't retag anyone as you can see who was tagged the first time.
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Post by myshelly on Jun 29, 2023 16:37:10 GMT
When I post photos I tag the people who I know like to be tagged and don’t tag the people who I know do not like to be tagged.
From the outside it may look weird to others, but in fact it’s because I know my friends better than they do and am respecting their individual preferences 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by MichyM on Jun 29, 2023 16:38:26 GMT
I'll be honest and say that I'm of the mindset of "does anyone really care if they're tagged?" I personally could not care less one way or the other, so this idea of rude or not is entirely foreign to me.
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Post by getting started on Jun 29, 2023 17:01:07 GMT
I was thinking it was rude until myshelley said that she tags those who like to be tagged and does not tag the ones who dislike it. Ha! I don't want to be tagged. So maybe that's the solution? It is possible someone asked the other not to tag them.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jun 29, 2023 17:01:45 GMT
I agree with MichyM - do people really care if they are tagged or not?
I will admit saying “I love this girl” when 2 friends are in the picture is a bit insensitive.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jun 29, 2023 17:02:57 GMT
I think it's fine to not be tagged. Not everyone likes to be tagged in photos or posts.
I don't like to be tagged, and always un-tag myself of there is an option to do so.
Especially if it's one of those "tag everyone who is your friend, is a strong women, etc...", then the poster tags 312 people....and multiple people-leave comments and then notifications emails arrive in my inbox, from people I don't know.....every time someone comments.
I feel the same way about group texts, please don't include me on them.
I don't care if someone comments about someone else in a photo. My self worth and self esteem, is not affected by that kind of stuff.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Jun 29, 2023 17:06:57 GMT
There are settings on FB where you cannot tag someone, or you can tag them but they have to approve it. It is possible she did tag them, but either they didnt approve it or know they have to. My mom is not FB saavy and I could see tons of requests hanging out there like that.
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Post by getting started on Jun 29, 2023 17:13:05 GMT
Ok putting more thought into this it would be better to post a photo of this the one friend. But if using the photo of 2 I agree it would be better to post I really love these girls. but only tag the one who wants to be tagged.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2023 17:15:10 GMT
It's rude if she's purposefully ignoring the others in the picture.
It's ok if she's following a past request of "don't tag me."
It's weird that she picks pictures like that.
We had a family picture taken a few years back. DH's uncle tagged everyone on social media but me. The only other people who did not get tagged did not have an account. I was the only one with an account that was skipped. Up until then, I thought we got along ok. DH called him out on it.
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Post by Rhondito on Jun 29, 2023 17:26:03 GMT
What a strange world we live in these days, isn't it?
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Post by katlady on Jun 29, 2023 17:28:00 GMT
In the original post, Alice tagged Betty (and Carol), and Betty "liked" the photo. So Betty did not have any issues with being tagged. I guess it just bugs me that Carol will repost photos like this, and use it to single out one person in the photo.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jun 29, 2023 17:33:33 GMT
I'll be honest and say that I'm of the mindset of "does anyone really care if they're tagged?" I personally could not care less one way or the other, so this idea of rude or not is entirely foreign to me. I happen to agree with this. It doesn't bother me one way or the other. |
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Post by 950nancy on Jun 29, 2023 17:36:00 GMT
I don't care about the tagging part. People may have expressed thoughts about tagging, but I love THIS girl seems like it could be a dig.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2023 18:27:27 GMT
I'd say weird and slightly insensitive. Carol sounds clueless about kind etiquette or possibly spiteful. I can think of a few people I know that do stuff like this and it happens often enough, it's not an oversight when they do it. And depending which person, I pretty much know who's clueless and who's spiteful.
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Post by disneypal on Jun 29, 2023 18:30:37 GMT
Based on what you said, it is pretty obvious and it bothers you so I am sure it bothers others. I wouldn't say it is rude, but yes, a bit insensitive and odd.
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Post by longtimenopea on Jun 29, 2023 20:03:46 GMT
I wonder if it’s a setting. I have my FB set to where it won’t show I was tagged until I approve it, and mostly I never approve it so it looks like I don’t get tagged.
If it’s not that, I’m going to go with weird and maybe insensitive and potentially pretty passive aggressive.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 29, 2023 20:10:38 GMT
I don’t like being tagged in photos (or even having others post photos of me without tagging) so it wouldn’t bother me one bit.
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Post by peabay on Jun 29, 2023 20:11:58 GMT
I vote weird.
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Post by caangel on Jun 29, 2023 20:34:53 GMT
Re tagging I assume people who don't want to be tagged have adjusted their settings to prevent or approve tagging before it is posted to their account (I did mine).
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Post by papersilly on Jun 29, 2023 20:52:22 GMT
tag everyone or tag no one. and always ask for permission to post.
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Post by Laurie on Jun 29, 2023 20:54:32 GMT
The tagging vs not tagging doesn't bother me as that could be for numerous reasons. I also don't like being tagged so I have my setting as that I have to approve the tag first. However, saying love this girl as singular rather than love these girls seems rude to me.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 29, 2023 23:15:57 GMT
Carol sounds a bit clueless, and if I were Betty my feelings would be hurt that she'd tagged Alice with "Love this girl" and ignored me. In general I have a problem with people who post pictures of others on social media without their permission so tagging or not tagging would be the least of my problem with this. I think she is rude to not asking before posting pics of others. I have set my privacy settings so that I have to review any post that I'm tagged in, and if I am happy for it to then appear on my timeline, I can release it. But of course that doesn't prevent people from posting un-tagged photos of me without my permission. (Not that I've ever felt the need to give my permission, but you never know!) I once posted some photos of me, my SIL, and some friends at a gig. SIL messaged me to say "Ugh, why did you post that awful photo of me?" I was very surprised at her reaction, because I loved the photo, she looked so joyful in it, like she was having the time of her life. Nevertheless I deleted it immediately. |
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Post by mymindseyedpea on Jun 30, 2023 5:04:54 GMT
I would personally feel insulted if I was Betty.
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Post by tryingtobewise on Jun 30, 2023 6:03:41 GMT
I feel like I have my settings done where I can’t be tagged in other peoples posts. I don’t want to be tagged, shared, etc. Maybe that’s what is going on?
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jun 30, 2023 7:05:25 GMT
I don't think we know enough about this. Maybe Carol knows that Alice is going through a hard patch and is cheering her up. Maybe it's an anniversary of something for Alice which Carol is remembering. She could have meant to post it to Alice's page and posted it on her own by mistake. Maybe Betty doesn't want to be tagged or has switched that setting off or to be approved by her.
As for tagging everyone in a post and missing someone, that wouldn't even be a blip on my radar. It's easy to miss someone off accidentally.
Not everyone is tech savvy, or spends a lot of time on Fb to know all the gazillions of functions and possibilities. I suppose I don't care enough about social media to get upset by that kind of thing.
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Post by peasapie on Jun 30, 2023 9:46:39 GMT
I’m wondering why you care. This would be a non-event for me.
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Post by Linda on Jun 30, 2023 12:43:44 GMT
There are settings on FB where you cannot tag someone, or you can tag them but they have to approve it. It is possible she did tag them, but either they didnt approve it or know they have to. My mom is not FB saavy and I could see tons of requests hanging out there like that. yes - I have mine set to where it can be tagged but unless I approve it, the tag doesn't appear. And I rarely approve tags |
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