Guardianship of vulnerable adult? Any one have tips?

We've not officially fired the original attorney, and no one else has returned my calls or are available. My attorney uncle in another state said I can still file a complaint with the appropriate organization after the fact and most likely receive compensation.

It may be delayed if the Court Observer can not locate him. We are not sure where he is staying and won't reveal to adults at school nor to our family. I hold all the pertinent records so the Court Observer will also need to contact me. Have not heard from her yet.

No other attorney would return my call in the area. WE are stuck with "Ms mistake". At least she won't be charging us more . . . and if she does a complaint will go in.

Talked to DS18 today, he's finally figured out that he needs his passport card, social security card, and birth certificate. He's not getting the birth certificate because it can never be replaced. One copy from Russia translated and that's it. Hence the passport even though we've not traveled with him internationally except to bring him home 14 years ago.

Used it as leverage so he will see the "Court Visitor" which is necessary for the case to move forward. Once I have confirmation that he has done so, I said I would give it to him.

He also just figured it out that he needs it to get his driver's permit. Not sure he will be able to pass, as his reading level is just around 4th grade. We didn't encourage driving after his first failed attempt at the permit test back in Oregon. If he is in a rage, or due to his slow processing speed we do not believe he will be a safe driver.

I am reaching an emotional point of "let's get this over with and move on". But I am super sad I will miss all the fun events that occur at the end of Senior Year. The truly sad thing is that he is being totally manipulated by his girlfriend. I wonder when she will get tired of her power trip and when her parents will kick him out of their home? (We assume that is where he is, although he will not verify his location.)

I put out calls for different attorneys and not one returned my call. We have to stick with the inept attorney who is not even up up-to-date on current MN laws! So infuriating.

She works the oddest hours and sent me many texts yesterday. DH and I have decided that tough love is the best. DS18 has been served through his court-appointed attorney. He will be contesting. Our attorney wants us to go for limited guardianship in several areas.

To be totally honest she did not make a good case for either of the areas we would even consider. Medical and ability to deal with governmental agencies. If I kept medical guardianship in this area we cannot guarantee he will go to appointments, or that he would take his medication, or that he could sell it for $$$ so he can buy marijuana. I don't have to talk to him, but can communicate with his medical professionals, make appointments, etc. If things continue to go badly I have to remain in this position for 6 years UNLESS I find someone else to take his guardianship. Obviously that won't happen.

As for aiding in governmental affairs it is mostly communicating with the SS about his disability qualification, which he was fighting anyway. However those around him (girlfriend and family) will quickly realize it means a monthly stipend, and the attorney even stated that many vulnerable adults in this area are taken advantage of financially and there is no way to protect that income from someone the "he might believe is his friend/girlfriend" etc. No guarantee that it will not be used for drugs. SUCH a mess!

You got the main gist, and we do not want to enable him to continue with his negative behavior or give anyone a chance to abuse him financially if he were to get SSI.