angel97701
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Jun 26, 2014 2:04:25 GMT
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Post by angel97701 on May 6, 2024 13:55:53 GMT
So . . . even though I submitted a letter of dismissal the judge is still holding the hearing tomorrow. Prayers and good thoughts. I am so done with stress of dealing with this. He's played the "I'm a fully grown adult card" multiple times. Has sent numerous hostile profanity filled texts. (Yes he is blocked now.) Yet his bank account was overdrawn and to close it I had to pay the fees etc as I was a cosigner. He quit lacrosse the first day (said he was going to be a star, watch for his name in the paper), missed a medical appointment, has no job, is still living off of someone (probably gf but that is supposition), and doing as much nicotine and weed as he wants (another supposition-but highly likely). Only redeeming thing is he is still going to school and most likely will graduate, the gf is only a sophomore and goes to school.
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scrappinmama
Drama Llama
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Jun 26, 2014 12:54:09 GMT
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Post by scrappinmama on May 6, 2024 14:33:39 GMT
This is a hard situation all around. I hope he can get himself on the right path.
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Post by mom on May 6, 2024 19:02:58 GMT
So . . . even though I submitted a letter of dismissal the judge is still holding the hearing tomorrow. Prayers and good thoughts. I am so done with stress of dealing with this. He's played the "I'm a fully grown adult card" multiple times. Has sent numerous hostile profanity filled texts. (Yes he is blocked now.) Yet his bank account was overdrawn and to close it I had to pay the fees etc as I was a cosigner. He quit lacrosse the first day (said he was going to be a star, watch for his name in the paper), missed a medical appointment, has no job, is still living off of someone (probably gf but that is supposition), and doing as much nicotine and weed as he wants (another supposition-but highly likely). Only redeeming thing is he is still going to school and most likely will graduate, the gf is only a sophomore and goes to school. You cannot care more about his life than he is. Easier said that done, I know. But he is most likely going to have to hit HIS rock bottom (whatever that looks like for him), before he realizes he has to step it up. Absolutely nothing he is doing is going to ruin his future forever & is behavior that many (if not most) kids do (overdrawn checking account, skip appts, nicotine). Some kids get better with time and maturity, some have to hit the bottom before they wake up. But you can't worry and stress about it more than he is. |
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Post by Linda on May 7, 2024 2:36:41 GMT
So . . . even though I submitted a letter of dismissal the judge is still holding the hearing tomorrow. Prayers and good thoughts. I am so done with stress of dealing with this. He's played the "I'm a fully grown adult card" multiple times. Has sent numerous hostile profanity filled texts. (Yes he is blocked now.) Yet his bank account was overdrawn and to close it I had to pay the fees etc as I was a cosigner. He quit lacrosse the first day (said he was going to be a star, watch for his name in the paper), missed a medical appointment, has no job, is still living off of someone (probably gf but that is supposition), and doing as much nicotine and weed as he wants (another supposition-but highly likely). Only redeeming thing is he is still going to school and most likely will graduate, the gf is only a sophomore and goes to school. You cannot care more about his life than he is. Easier said that done, I know. But he is most likely going to have to hit HIS rock bottom (whatever that looks like for him), before he realizes he has to step it up. Absolutely nothing he is doing is going to ruin his future forever & is behavior that many (if not most) kids do (overdrawn checking account, skip appts, nicotine). Some kids get better with time and maturity, some have to hit the bottom before they wake up. But you can't worry and stress about it more than he is. (((Hugs))) I think mom has good advise, hard advise, but good. Keep praying for him and try to leave the worrying up to God. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on May 7, 2024 5:12:16 GMT
What mom advises is good advice. Unfortunately there is one issue depending on the age of his girlfriend. He is 18, how old is she? If he has a falling out with her and/or her family will he face charges from their relationship with her underage? |
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angel97701
Pearl Clutcher
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Jun 26, 2014 2:04:25 GMT
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Post by angel97701 on May 8, 2024 1:41:34 GMT
What mom advises is good advice. Unfortunately there is one issue depending on the age of his girlfriend. He is 18, how old is she? If he has a falling out with her and/or her family will he face charges from their relationship with her underage? Yes, this is a possibility as she is only 16. But it was his decision, so we will see what does happen.
The judge did dismiss the case. I was allowed to make a short statement, I told him "We love him but do not agree with his choices, and that we hope that he will reconcile with the family".
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