sweetpeasmom
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Apr 26, 2024 20:04:27 GMT
If you have a Windsor in your mall, that is where we got all my dd's homecoming and Jr prom dresses. They always have a good selection. You don't think they would based on what is on display in the front of the store. But the formals are in the back of the store and it's kind of a hidden gem. At least it was for us.
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Post by shescrafty on May 11, 2024 2:20:16 GMT
@breetheflea is there a happy update? I hope she had a great time!
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Post by breetheflea on May 11, 2024 3:25:39 GMT
@breetheflea is there a happy update? I hope she had a great time! I was wondering if/when someone was going to ask about that... Deep breath, putting on my Pea-proof armor. **Asterisk** this was all on her, we (her parents) tried to explain what a prom is, she wasn't hearing any of it. I am trying really hard not to say anything sarcastic or I told you so-ish after the event to her. She went to the prom, stayed the entire three hours, came home, said it was boring, and went to bed. The word prom has not been mentioned since then. As for what she wore, she insisted on wearing an even less prom-appropriate dress than the one I posted on here that the peas said was ugly. I kept that dress in my trunk and didn't take it back to the mall until after the prom just in case she changed her mind because the dress she insisted on wearing was a yellow sundress with tiny flower print on it. When her dad dropped her off at the prom venue he said she might have finally realized it really was formal when she saw everyone else, including her friends, all dressed up... maybe we failed as parents and didn't watch enough 80s teen movies with her or something  |
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Post by jill8909 on May 11, 2024 4:17:52 GMT
i'd help her return it then leave the store. give her time to pick it out completely on her own. and this is it!!
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Post by mikklynn on May 11, 2024 12:46:52 GMT
You were really smart to keep the original dress until after the prom!
I'm sorry she didn't listen to you about it all. Kids! I had one like that. He had to learn everything the hard way. Then he'd say, "How did you know?"
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Post by RosieKat on May 11, 2024 12:50:23 GMT
She went to the prom, stayed the entire three hours, came home, said it was boring, and went to bed. The word prom has not been mentioned since then. FWIW, my kid went to dinner with her friend group, stayed a while, and was so bored she left early and didn't even feel like going to any of the after parties she'd been invited to. I think we as a culture so overhype prom that everyone expects it to be the most wondrous event of their lives! |
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Post by littlemama on May 11, 2024 13:30:17 GMT
I dont understand how anyone gets through high school without knowomg that prom is a formal. Particularly in the age of social media, this doent make sense. Also, none of her friends discussed what they were wearing?
Homecoming varies in formality based on the area of the country- where I live, homecoming is semi-formal- suit and tie for boys, cocktail dresses for girls. Same for Snowcoming if there is one.
To my knowledge, prom is a full formal just about everywhere- tuxes for the boys, evening gowns for the girls. And a change of clothes for the after-party at someone's house.
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Post by Bridget in MD on May 11, 2024 15:25:35 GMT
@breetheflea is there a happy update? I hope she had a great time! I was wondering if/when someone was going to ask about that... Deep breath, putting on my Pea-proof armor. **Asterisk** this was all on her, we (her parents) tried to explain what a prom is, she wasn't hearing any of it. I am trying really hard not to say anything sarcastic or I told you so-ish after the event to her. She went to the prom, stayed the entire three hours, came home, said it was boring, and went to bed. The word prom has not been mentioned since then. As for what she wore, she insisted on wearing an even less prom-appropriate dress than the one I posted on here that the peas said was ugly. I kept that dress in my trunk and didn't take it back to the mall until after the prom just in case she changed her mind because the dress she insisted on wearing was a yellow sundress with tiny flower print on it. When her dad dropped her off at the prom venue he said she might have finally realized it really was formal when she saw everyone else, including her friends, all dressed up... maybe we failed as parents and didn't watch enough 80s teen movies with her or something You know, if she wore what she was comfortable with and stayed the whole 3 hours I call that a win for both of you. You tried, she did what she wanted, and learned. FWIW I spent money on a tux rental, party bus ride, flowers, plus the ticket to prom itself, and he stayed for a whopping 1.5 hrs (of the 3 hr event). I think the pictures before hand and the gathering afterwards is what they wanted, prom was just an excuse! LOL. |
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on May 11, 2024 17:10:30 GMT
@breetheflea is there a happy update? I hope she had a great time! I was wondering if/when someone was going to ask about that... Deep breath, putting on my Pea-proof armor. **Asterisk** this was all on her, we (her parents) tried to explain what a prom is, she wasn't hearing any of it. I am trying really hard not to say anything sarcastic or I told you so-ish after the event to her. She went to the prom, stayed the entire three hours, came home, said it was boring, and went to bed. The word prom has not been mentioned since then. As for what she wore, she insisted on wearing an even less prom-appropriate dress than the one I posted on here that the peas said was ugly. I kept that dress in my trunk and didn't take it back to the mall until after the prom just in case she changed her mind because the dress she insisted on wearing was a yellow sundress with tiny flower print on it. When her dad dropped her off at the prom venue he said she might have finally realized it really was formal when she saw everyone else, including her friends, all dressed up... maybe we failed as parents and didn't watch enough 80s teen movies with her or something I think you did fine. In the end, you bought her a dress that she chose and wanted to wear. As far as her not fully understanding what prom fully entails.....nothing you said, nothing you did, no prom related movies....would have informed her >> because teenagers *think* they know everything and Parents know nothing.  Sometimes, Parents just have to let tweens, teenagers and young adults learn their own life lessons. In general, this current life lesson was relatively harmless and hopefully becomes a learning experience for her(that some events and occasions are "dress up, not down"). Years from now, she look back and laugh....and think or say >>why the hell did I wear THAT dress to the Prom.  |
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Post by ellen on May 12, 2024 18:43:29 GMT
She had to have known what other people were wearing and this just wasn’t a big deal to her. If she would have been completely uncomfortable with her dress decision, she wouldn’t have stayed three hours. My kid got a Covid restriction prom her senior year. Her junior prom was cancelled. Fortunately she was my daughter who cared less about these types of things.
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Post by lily on May 13, 2024 20:33:01 GMT
It makes me sad that so many have commented their kids got bored at Prom after like 2 hours! I still remember the couple Proms and Homecoming's I went to and we went from like 6 to 12....it included dinner back then....but still we didn't want it to end!! Such wonderful FUN memories with friends.
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Post by Lexica on May 13, 2024 21:20:06 GMT
In the end, you bought her a dress that she chose and wanted to wear. As far as her not fully understanding what prom fully entails.....nothing you said, nothing you did, no prom related movies....would have informed her >> because teenagers *think* they know everything and Parents know nothing. Sometimes, Parents just have to let tweens, teenagers and young adults learn their own life lessons. In general, this current life lesson was relatively harmless and hopefully becomes a learning experience for her(that some events and occasions are "dress up, not down"). Years from now, she look back and laugh....and think or say >>why the hell did I wear THAT dress to the Prom. I went to my prom ages and ages ago. In my memory of my dress, it was a pretty and feminine, a pale pink, full-length dress with a slightly shimmery sheer layer over a solid layer. It had a 12-inch ruffle at the bottom of the skirt, long sleeves with a little ruffle at the wrist, and a small ruffle around the neck. There was a tie around the waist that was tied with a bow in the back. All very early 70s. But when I looked at photos of that dress many many years later, I realized that the dress had a V neckline that was SUPER low. And I was a heck of a lot more chesty than I remember being at that age. Did I have a push up bra on? Or am I just so used to my - shall I say lower breasts these days that I forgot when they were so perky? I am shocked that my parents let me walk out the door in that dress. I mean, it wasn’t necessarily porno looking, but it was certainly unlike anything I remember being allowed to wear back then. Why did I wear that neckline to prom? |
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