|
|
Post by Prenticekid on May 3, 2024 16:44:19 GMT
If you want the serious side of the subject, skip this response. This is just for fun.
My SIL shared that her DH had a schedule - she called it yes, no, maybe, no. So, if the first night is Monday, yes, then Tuesday is nope, Wednesday was up in the air, Thursday, nope. It was his schedule, and she couldn't make him bend on "no" nights, or if "maybe" night turned out to be a "no." She literally would be ready to go on maybe night, but if it turned out to be a nope, then she was left disappointed. Ready to go meaning that she would be all primped, pretty and in sexy lingerie...just awaiting...
When they were young marrieds, she used to try to seduce him on "no" nights and "maybe" nights, but she gave up trying after awhile. She took it all in stride, and just considered it one of her husband's quirks.
|
|
|
|
Post by jemali on May 3, 2024 17:47:54 GMT
I wouldn’t call it a “ schedule”, more like a “pattern”.
|
|
|
|
Post by Merge on May 3, 2024 18:19:54 GMT
As was said above, we have long had more of a pattern than a schedule, based on the realities of raising kids in a not-too-large house. Since becoming empty-nesters, the pattern has ... expanded.  |
|
|
|
Post by scrapmaven on May 3, 2024 20:39:15 GMT
I had a coworker who had a husband who kept a calendar in the bedroom. He kept red heart stickers next to it and she was expected to put three heart stickers on the calendar per week. He held her to that schedule. He said she got to pick the nights and he got to pick how often. I had another coworker who said they always went grocery shopping Thursdays. After they came home they were in the mood. And then on Friday, Saturday and Sunday because it was the weekend. But never on Tuesdays.  Couples should do what works for them. I'm horrified by the stickers but then again I knew a woman whose spouse was very controlling and abusive and he demanded sex from her every single day no matter how she was feeling or if she was sick or any other thing. I can't imagine letting someone tell me how often I would be having sex, regardless if I'm choosing the dates and times. I would never allow someone else to dictate how often they get to use my body. Gross. That's biggest turn-off I've ever heard. I see both of those things as abusive. I'm not a child and I don't need stickers for being a good girl! Setting a schedule works well for some people. Others want to be spontaneous. Do what works for you, but only if you BOTH are comfortable and willing, not because you feel guilt or are afraid to say "no". |
|
|
|
Post by waffles on May 4, 2024 18:38:41 GMT
I have severe rheumatoid arthritis and having a schedule helps us a lot.
Monday - errands
Tuesday- sex
Wednesday - date day (getting to see/do things around our area.)
Thursday - sex
Friday - errands
Saturday or Sunday - sex
We get sidetracked occasionally but usually get it evened out
during the weekend
|
|
used2scrap
Drama Llama
Posts: 6,097 
|
Post by used2scrap on May 7, 2024 5:09:00 GMT
No but I tried telling ex let’s do it any time you want…5 days into 3x a day and yeah I was just out. He seemed pretty good with scheduled sex with his multiple affair partners so I’ll just assume it was my lack of skills and stamina that were the problem. 😬🙄🤷♀️
|
|
|
|
Post by wordyphotogbabe on May 7, 2024 21:04:34 GMT
It's not a schedule, per se, but more like setting a goal and then keeping it in mind throughout the week. We have my children half the time + other after-work obligations + my DH's multiple medical conditions that can affect his ability and libido so we try to take advantage of any chance when we have some free time and we both feel good even if one of us is not necessarily in the mood. As long as neither of us is decidedly OUT of the mood, we will give it a shot. We have an average number/amount that we try to get to so how much we push ourselves to take advantage of the chance is partially based on whether we've already been together that week and how busy the rest of our week is. Physical intimacy is something important to us and something each of us thinks about on a daily basis so it's really an ongoing fluid conversation vs. a cut-and-dry fill-in-the-blank very uns*xy appointment.
If my children were younger and/or we had them all the time, I would absolutely set time aside during the week for intimacy just as I would for anything else important to me.
|
|
