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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 12, 2024 20:26:20 GMT
I thought I'd share this story because he really blew me away today.
I have been having health issues. Things that I want to get under control. Weight I need to lose, etc. I stopped smoking two months ago almost. Anyway, I have been dabbling around with more plant based meals. Probably 3-4 dinners a week +most breakfast and lunch have been meat and dairy free. I just did some blood work and some of it has come back better than it was 6 months ago.
Cooking is love for me. And I have spent the past 13 years making delicious comfort food for Jeremy, as well as baking quite a bit. A few weeks ago, I decided that I wanted to commit to 100% plant based eating for 3 months and see if it has any impact on my health. An experiment really. His comment was I'm fine with you doing whatever you choose just don't get mad at me if I don't eat your food. 🤣 Ok fair enough.
My mom hosts dinner for the family every Thursday night. I went to her house on Sunday to do laundry because my machine broke and I'm waiting on the new one to be delivered. I explained all of this to her and she acted as though none of it computed to her. She even said, I don't understand why you just can't have your doctor put you on different meds that work better. I calmly explained that I wanted to try to handle things differently. Then she offered me a meat and cheese based taco salad. 🙄 I declined and left.
I called her today to inquire about some medical tests she was having. She told me that she plans to make a chicken dish with olive oil, butter, heavy cream and parmesan for dinner tomorrow night. I didn't ask. My comment was that Jeremy should like that. She then proceeded to tell me we would be having garlic bread too. I said Chloe loves garlic bread. And then she said, the chicken will be breasts?!?!? I was like Jeremy prefers breasts.
Sigh.
So I told Jeremy that I was planning to make a salad and some potato leek soup. And that I'd be taking it to dinner tomorrow night. And then I asked him if he thought I should take a big enough salad to share. I told him about this whole conversation with my mom. And said she said absolutely nothing about any kind of vegetable. He said take the salad for everyone. Everyone likes salad. I said I didn't want to offend her.
Then he says I don't understand why she can't be supportive. He said she should be supporting you and not getting offended. I told him I was loving that he said that because I kind of feel bad about the fact that I set up expectations for how we do things here and I was pulling the rug out from under him with these changes. I said you stand to lose the most.
And he says...get this...no, I stand to *gain* the most. You taking better care of yourself means more years together. ❤️
And then he said, and you might help me save a few cows too depending on how good what you make tastes. 😉
Seriously. That guy. He's got my back.
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Post by pantsonfire on Jun 12, 2024 20:32:57 GMT
Love love love love love!!
Your dh wants you to be happy and healthy and with him. Girl you got a winner 🏆
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Post by naby64 on Jun 12, 2024 20:36:44 GMT
Awwww, my old cold heart melted just a bit. He is certainly a keeper and definitely has your back. One of the good ones.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 12, 2024 20:45:01 GMT
Love love love love love!! Your dh wants you to be happy and healthy and with him. Girl you got a winner 🏆 Seriously he can be very sweet sometimes. I trust him 100%. |
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Post by Lurkingpea on Jun 12, 2024 20:47:25 GMT
That is really sweet. I am glad you two have each other.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 12, 2024 20:49:22 GMT
He really is a keeper.  |
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Post by Anita on Jun 12, 2024 20:59:54 GMT
Awww, he sounds like the best.  |
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Post by mom on Jun 12, 2024 21:06:50 GMT
 He's a keeper. |
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jun 12, 2024 21:11:31 GMT
What a treasure he is!!
I have great big grin on my face for you!!
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 12, 2024 21:15:43 GMT
Not the first time I've thought this, but you have a good guy there and a great partnership! |
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Post by stormsts on Jun 12, 2024 21:19:03 GMT
What a great guy!
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Post by snyder on Jun 12, 2024 21:31:04 GMT
ITs great that your husband is supprtive.
We have two Vegan/Vegetarians in my family.
My nephew's wife is strict Vegan. They both support each other and it works. She will buy and cook meat for him and he doesn't compalain about what she eats. They have been at it for probably 10+ years, so they got it down. He is kind of a picky eater, but she knows what he likes, so she fixes those types of sides for him and he cooks/grills his own steak, but she will cook the meat if needed if he is late from work.
My brother's wife is vegetarian but for religious reasons, so she doesn't eat anything that has had blood run through it, so no meat, fish, eggs, but does eat cheese.
They too work it out with him fixing his own meats, but she too will fix it if need be. She's an absolutely fabulous cook and he's not a picky eater, so he pretty much eats what she fixes, just adds meat 2-3 times a week.
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Post by seaexplore on Jun 12, 2024 21:31:52 GMT
Love him! You’ve got yourself an amazing life partner! ❤️
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Post by Ryann on Jun 12, 2024 22:40:42 GMT
Very sweet. Sounds like you have each other’s back.
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Post by hutchfan on Jun 12, 2024 23:52:15 GMT
Love this, thank you for sharing!
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 12, 2024 23:57:18 GMT
I'm so glad that Jeremy is supporting you so well in this. I hope your mum can come around, and support you instead instead of undermining your wonderful efforts in taking control of your health without resorting to the 'easy' option of more/different medication.
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Post by Linda on Jun 13, 2024 0:44:47 GMT
I'm so glad that he is supporting you and I'm sorry that your mum isn't there yet. Hopefully she'll come around
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 13, 2024 0:59:54 GMT
snyder thanks for sharing those stories. I'm glad to see mixed diet couples living happily. Jeremy is pretty easy going. I knew he wouldn't complain. I just need to make sure I do prioritize him periodically whether that means a batch of cookies or a pan of macaroni and cheese.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 13, 2024 1:02:50 GMT
I'm so glad that Jeremy is supporting you so well in this. I hope your mum can come around, and support you instead instead of undermining your wonderful efforts in taking control of your health without resorting to the 'easy' option of more/different medication. I don't want to think any option really is an easy one. I have certain health issues that make weight loss a challenge. And then I take some mental health meds where weight gain is also a side effect. It's going to be hard for me no matter how I do it. Truthfully I do better at nearly anything by pretending I'm a social scientist and just "curious" about the outcome of something. 🤣 Hopefully that is enough to keep me going. |
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Post by Scrapper100 on Jun 13, 2024 1:17:38 GMT
You already knew this but he is a keeper. I love how supportive he is. I’m sorry your mom doesn’t get it. Good for you to try and improve your health with a healthier diet and congratulations on seeing better numbers.
My aunt is a vegetarian and has a very carnivorous husband snd they have been married more than 50 years. I think he just recently has been cutting back on burgers not completely but some.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jun 13, 2024 1:26:38 GMT
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Post by pantsonfire on Jun 13, 2024 1:57:26 GMT
jeremysgirl I wasnt sure where to tag this and post the video but this salad made me think of you and me! I am going to give this a try next week but have either roasted cauliflower or raw. Not big on mushy soggy cauliflower.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 13, 2024 2:49:09 GMT
pantsonfire. That looks delicious except I would never ever use frozen cauliflower. I hate frozen vegetables. I think they’re gross lol so I would chop up fresh cauliflower and probably barely steam it so that it was still crunchy. I might have to try this.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 13, 2024 3:28:23 GMT
You know that I'm a major Jeremy fan. He loves you so much and he is really supportive. You chose really well and so did he.
As for your mom, I hope that she'll come around and be more supportive of your efforts to be healthy. You're making some really good changes and I hope that some of it will rub off on your family.
I'm really in awe of you and this is just one more reason why. You are a rock star.
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Post by snyder on Jun 13, 2024 3:31:01 GMT
snyder thanks for sharing those stories. I'm glad to see mixed diet couples living happily. Jeremy is pretty easy going. I knew he wouldn't complain. I just need to make sure I do prioritize him periodically whether that means a batch of cookies or a pan of macaroni and cheese. You are welcome.
I just wanted to add that my family kind of at first rolled eyes on the niece-in-law as she went from "regular" eating to very strict vegan. But our family are all supportive to her dietary wishes. When we have family gatherings, the host always checks with the caterer to inquire of the ingredients in the food dishes they are ordering and if they don't think there is enough vegan items, they will add extra veggies to the menu. They will also check with her to see if she needs anything else. Many times she will bring items she wants to eat.
When my brother was living, we always made sure he had foods that he could eat that were diabetic friendly.
Kind of like with niece-in-law, she says she feels so much better, so if eating a "regular" diet makes her feel ill, then we need to respect that and help out when we gather together for a meal.
With sister in law, she ate the way she did for religous reasons before brother married her, so there was not an abrupt change of diet for the family to get use to and we definitely needed to respect her religious views. The first time we went to visit them, I thought I would starve the 3 days we were there,(they live about 35 miles from nearest town in the mountain boonies, so no running out for a quick fast food run) but she cooked some really fantastic meals.
Hopefully your family will come around too and just think of your diet as "normal" and include items you can eat when invited for a meal.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 13, 2024 10:50:11 GMT
That’s the way marriage ideally works. Someone who has your back and makes you a better version of yourself. It’s wonderful that you and Jeremy have that.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 13, 2024 11:29:45 GMT
That looks gorgeous pantsonfire. I might try it this week. I have a recipe for lentil burgers that looked so good. Jeremy would be totally up for a regular burger. We could have a nice meal with this. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 13, 2024 11:35:25 GMT
snyder just curious because I am trying to figure out why my mom has such a problem with this. But why did you all roll your eyes when she went vegan? I watched the documentary Vegucated. It was interesting. One of the people who she did the experiment with was a young adult who lived at home with her parents. And she got really upset saying that she probably wouldn't stay a vegan because her family, her friends made it so difficult for her. That is in addition to the fact that they often picked restaurants too where there weren't vegan friendly options to eat. Now I know that everyone is not going to share my mindset and I certainly don't expect them to. Like tonight, I'm happy to bring my own food. I'm happy to bring my own food anywhere. But why would people be bothered by this? Or why would people not be as supportive as they could be?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jun 13, 2024 11:57:45 GMT
You know that I'm a major Jeremy fan. He loves you so much and he is really supportive. You chose really well and so did he. I'm a big Jeremy fan too. LOL! No but really, I had a crappy marriage the first time around. Like super crappy. I picked so much better this time some days I can't even believe it. I watch my middle-aged friends trying to date and I know I got lucky. |
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Post by TankTop on Jun 13, 2024 12:24:03 GMT
Wow! Such a supportive husband! ❤️
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