The demise of a marriage *edited with new pics*

On my other thread, someone seemed shocked that my stbx leaves his medals out where I can see them. I was going to post these pics on that thread, but I thought it deserved its own.


Me saying how many medals this man has collected does no justice to actually seeing them. Here they are in all their glory, which is why he can leave new ones in plain sight. Oh, and by the way, this is what was once our bedroom!! (Now HIS bedroom!) He started hanging them up there probably 12 years ago. Maybe more. In 2017, we redecorated, new carpet, paint, etc, and I asked him to please make himself a man cave in our finished basement and hang them down there. He refused, saying he likes to look at them when he lays in bed at night and watches television. These are just the ones in the bedroom—he has run out of room and has started new hooks and shelves in his office. Which is where I found the Kenya ones yesterday.



The pics also show all the other memorabilia he has collected over the years, like glasses, mugs, hats, etc. He has saved it all. For some of the more “special” races, he displays the medals, race bibs, etc. in shadow boxes.

Our marriage hasn’t been great for a very long time. And these photos show why. Every time I go in that room (I have to in order to get my clothes from the closet), all I think is THIS is what destroyed my marriage. When he started traveling every single weekend, collecting these f*ing medals that are soooo important to him, that is what started the downfall. In the beginning when he started traveling all the time, I was annoyed. I questioned him about the money he must be spending, and he always said how cheaply he traveled, he shared hotel rooms with people, they took turns sleeping on the floor, sometimes he slept in bathtubs. Yep, he said that. Yeah, right.

After a few years of him being gone every weekend, I started being annoyed when he was home. I knew years ago our marriage sucked, but it took me finding out about his “friend” and then discovering how much money he was really spending for me to actually do something and finally file for divorce.


So, these photos, my friends, depict the demise of my 40-year relationship with my stbx. I cannot wait until I live in a new place where I do not have to look at this shit ever again.


I hope he is happy and that destroying our family was worth his precious medals.


*EDITED 8/12*
I am adding some pics. Earlier, it was pointed out that in some of the ones I posted before that you could see his name so I deleted them all. He has a bunch of shadow boxes that have race bibs and memorabilia from some of his more special races, and I didn't realize that his name was visible if you zoom in. So, here is a very small sample of all the medals he has collected over the years. They literally cover every wall of the bedroom, some from floor to ceiling. Sorry for confusing those who wondered where the pics are. I have been so careful to be discreet and not give any identifying information in what I have shared here about the divorce and STBX, and I'm irritated with myself for being so careless.