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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 13, 2024 17:27:09 GMT
Maybe if you stop doing extra work, they WILL lose the money and maybe that will be the kick in the rear end of your incompetent boss(es) to fire your super incompetent coworker.
You CYA'ed by doing YOUR work. Let the chips fall where they may. The OTHERS need to do their jobs.
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Post by KiwiJo on Aug 13, 2024 17:33:46 GMT
Why on earth would you do this? If work does not get done and it’s not your responsibility then ignore it. So he didn't lose money. There's a lot of money involved here. I also work in a capacity where I'm being judged as a unit. Every time something happens, I'm lumped in with this circus. I just want to do a good job. I bolded the above. I work in finance. If she drops the ball on this, there's a lot to lose. That's the position I'm in. May I comment on this, separate to the question you asked in this thread? Your attitude here shows a great deal of maturity, responsibility and integrity, and because you are looking for another job I suggest you give this a lot of thought so you can talk about it in future job interviews. Knowing you have the interests of the company so much at heart would be something a potential employer would be glad to know. But of course you need to be able to discuss it without focussing on your colleague’s and boss’s shortcomings, you need to find a way to let them know this is just the sort of person you are. During interviews people often want specific examples, this situation is one such example I think. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2024 17:56:11 GMT
So he didn't lose money. There's a lot of money involved here. I also work in a capacity where I'm being judged as a unit. Every time something happens, I'm lumped in with this circus. I just want to do a good job. I bolded the above. I work in finance. If she drops the ball on this, there's a lot to lose. That's the position I'm in. May I comment on this, separate to the question you asked in this thread? Your attitude here shows a great deal of maturity, responsibility and integrity, and because you are looking for another job I suggest you give this a lot of thought so you can talk about it in future job interviews. Knowing you have the interests of the company so much at heart would be something a potential employer would be glad to know. But of course you need to be able to discuss it without focussing on your colleague’s and boss’s shortcomings, you need to find a way to let them know this is just the sort of person you are. During interviews people often want specific examples, this situation is one such example I think. Some time ago, my friend, Jenn, suggested that I keep a list of accomplishments/attaboys so I could reference them for performance reviews and before I went in for interviews. I have been doing this and I think it's really a good idea. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 13, 2024 17:58:10 GMT
Maybe if you stop doing extra work, they WILL lose the money and maybe that will be the kick in the rear end of your incompetent boss(es) to fire your super incompetent coworker. This might be true but a lot of innocent people are going to get hurt in order for this to happen. |
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Post by dig-it-al on Aug 13, 2024 17:58:50 GMT
You have come a long way with your counselor. I completely understand your feelings towards how your department looks when things don't get done. I just want to stress that what people may say about your department IS NOT a reflection on you. I've read most of your stories. Those you work with know exactly what is happening and who is dropping the ball. Your current situation would be a good time to start working on the personal perspective. You seem to be thinking through things and reminding yourself that you aren't responsible for doing someone else's work. You also aren't responsible for the department as a whole, that would be your boss. He has failed, not you. You are in a "tough love" situation at work.
I had a job that I had to leave due to no one listening when I was speaking up. When I gave my notice, bosses started bending over backwards. My response was "I told you xyz was a problem. Without resolution I have found another position. You shouldn't be surprised". I also communicated that I no longer trusted anything that they were trying to offer me to get me to stay. That bridge was burned.
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 13, 2024 18:03:12 GMT
How would you handle this email if she was a good employee who generally completed her work on time? At my office an email like that would have been responded to stating you made your updates, then the other person would reply when they’ve done their part.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Aug 13, 2024 18:09:28 GMT
You have done your job. I would respond to the email and leave the rest alone. I can’t believe that nothing has been done snd you are still dealing with this. I can’t believe they haven’t done anything to fix this. I would have thought by now someone would have been fired. I’m glad you are seeing a counselor and it seems to be helping you but that shouldn’t be necessary that’s nothing against you but them. It’s ridiculous that they aren’t doing anything to resolve this. I keep hoping for a post saying you have a new job or that she is gone. I’m assuming this isn’t a government job? I know how hard it is to remove someone sometimes if it’s a government job - been there done that with a crazy boss.
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Post by pantsonfire on Aug 13, 2024 18:22:46 GMT
Maybe if you stop doing extra work, they WILL lose the money and maybe that will be the kick in the rear end of your incompetent boss(es) to fire your super incompetent coworker. This might be true but a lot of innocent people are going to get hurt in order for this to happen. And that is why your bosses need to do their job. It is obvious no one else really gives a damn what happens and honestly they are taking advantage of you because they all know you will step in. That is not fair for anyone. If a lot of money is at stake then everyone needs to be on the ball and communicate and do the work. |
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Post by dawnnikol on Aug 13, 2024 18:42:36 GMT
I'm extra salty, so I'd reply back to the person requesting the information with the work I've completed and REMOVE COWORKER from the e-mail. I'd leave the boss off, too, unless they asked.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 13, 2024 19:00:55 GMT
This thread is like a giant game of "telephone." People are repeating what they think they understand instead of what the facts are as presented by the OP.
My take? If you got an email asking for a reply (regardless of who it was from), the professional response is to reply and to do so promptly.
Because of all the "issues" at play here, I'd keep it succinct and only answer the question(s) asked.
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Post by bethany102399 on Aug 13, 2024 19:20:54 GMT
I think because he reached out in an email to inquire, I feel like one of us should respond in some way. In that case respond with only what you have submitted and let the rest of the chips fall where they may. He allowed this to go on with her for far too long and if he's having a hard time with the new way them's tough titties. ETA: Just saw that it wasn't your boss who sent the message. In that case I would respond but only with your own information. She's a grown up, let her be one and don't try to remind her. This. All of this. I have completed X. I tend to then say please let me know if you have any questions, but that opens the door for has Y done Z and you don't want that. I'd say I have completed X and posted it at this time. Thank you Sincerely, Jeremysgirl. |
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Post by sabrinae on Aug 13, 2024 20:10:01 GMT
Why on earth would you do this? If work does not get done and it’s not your responsibility then ignore it. So he didn't lose money. There's a lot of money involved here. I also work in a capacity where I'm being judged as a unit. Every time something happens, I'm lumped in with this circus. I just want to do a good job. I bolded the above. I work in finance. If she drops the ball on this, there's a lot to lose. That's the position I'm in. At this point that is your coworkers and bosses responsibility not yours. Maybe it’s going to take losing a lot of money for them to actually deal with the issue. So far it hasn’t been a priority to deal with because you’ve blunted all the repercussions |
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 13, 2024 20:18:42 GMT
I replied I would send it now. If it was a project I did completely by myself, I would follow up if they had questions. Since I was responsible for parts I would also respond that those were complete and that the rest of the information was being provided by coworker so she could better answer for those. But I typically follow up when submitting anything, especially when I feel that I have submitted everything that I was responsible for and was removing myself. 😄
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Post by silverlining on Aug 13, 2024 23:46:08 GMT
I would Reply All promptly and let them know the status of all the things you are responsible for. I wouldn't add or subtract any names from the email.
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Post by mom on Aug 13, 2024 23:59:02 GMT
So he didn't lose money. There's a lot of money involved here. I also work in a capacity where I'm being judged as a unit. Every time something happens, I'm lumped in with this circus. I just want to do a good job. I bolded the above. I work in finance. If she drops the ball on this, there's a lot to lose. That's the position I'm in. At this point that is your coworkers and bosses responsibility not yours. Maybe it’s going to take losing a lot of money for them to actually deal with the issue. So far it hasn’t been a priority to deal with because you’ve blunted all the repercussions 10000%. jeremysgirl I hope I can word this to where it makes sense. If I were with you face to face, I would use an example that I know we both would identify with -- having loved ones who struggle with addictions. So here is my attempt to put that example into words: Just like when we have loved ones with addictions, we can unintentionally enable them because we don't want them to have to really feel the rock bottom of their decisions. But we are not responsible for their bad decisions and we are not responsible for preventing or cleaning up their consequences from their bad decisions. You did your job, and it's on your company to be responsible for the choices and whatever those consequences are. Do your job and let the chips fall where they may. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 14, 2024 0:42:50 GMT
At this point that is your coworkers and bosses responsibility not yours. Maybe it’s going to take losing a lot of money for them to actually deal with the issue. So far it hasn’t been a priority to deal with because you’ve blunted all the repercussions 10000%. jeremysgirl I hope I can word this to where it makes sense. If I were with you face to face, I would use an example that I know we both would identify with -- having loved ones who struggle with addictions. So here is my attempt to put that example into words: Just like when we have loved ones with addictions, we can unintentionally enable them because we don't want them to have to really feel the rock bottom of their decisions. But we are not responsible for their bad decisions and we are not responsible for preventing or cleaning up their consequences from their bad decisions. You did your job, and it's on your company to be responsible for the choices and whatever those consequences are. Do your job and let the chips fall where they may. I have been lurking around not wanting to follow up or reply to a damn thing after the day I had. But this. This really put it in perspective for me. It spoke to me in a way I understand. I kept thinking that there is just so much on the line here. It seems so wrong for me to just keep my mouth shut and go on about my business. But I'll say, it's working with Chloe. I miss her. I really do. But I miss sober her. And she's not there right now. So I keep my distance. And right now, I'll tell you that personally, I'm thriving. I have accepted I cannot help that situation. So I do me and I'm getting better. More stable. Stronger. Calmer. I decided today that instead of sending an email to the reviewers which could be embarrassing that I would instead bring it up at our unit meeting today. It was me, her, our boss, and the assistant director. We showed the email on the screen and I said that I hadn't heard from anyone in regard to it and I was concerned because we had a deadline tomorrow. I stated exactly what I did in response to the email and that the remainder were for her offices. And then she looked at me and said, you're working on all of it though? You got this? And I said no. I said I did this X, Y, and Z. And that I was not responsible for the rest but I wanted to ensure they had seen this email so we could respond as a team. My bosses jaw was on the floor. He said to me, this is due tomorrow? And I said yes. And that's all he said. Not send me the email. Not if you need my help, let me know. Nothing. I felt good that I was able to say no. That's so very unusual for me. I felt like my boss should have offered to help. I felt like I did the right thing. But then Jeremy...that guy...I swear he's the best guy ever...too sweet really...was like, I think you should have offered to help. Sounds like your boss was disappointed and that's why he didn't respond. And I was then unsure again. So I needed to take a break before I came back and responded. I need to sleep now. Tomorrow is a new day. I swear I hate the drama. I just want to always do the right thing. I want to be fair. I want to be a good human. I know I don't always do the right thing. But my intentions are good. |
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Post by Linda on Aug 14, 2024 0:52:18 GMT
I decided today that instead of sending an email to the reviewers which could be embarrassing that I would instead bring it up at our unit meeting today. It was me, her, our boss, and the assistant director. We showed the email on the screen and I said that I hadn't heard from anyone in regard to it and I was concerned because we had a deadline tomorrow. I stated exactly what I did in response to the email and that the remainder were for her offices. And then she looked at me and said, you're working on all of it though? You got this? And I said no. I said I did this X, Y, and Z. And that I was not responsible for the rest but I wanted to ensure they had seen this email so we could respond as a team. My bosses jaw was on the floor. He said to me, this is due tomorrow? And I said yes. And that's all he said. Not send me the email. Not if you need my help, let me know. Nothing. I think you handled that very well. Well done |
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Post by mom on Aug 14, 2024 1:01:09 GMT
10000%. jeremysgirl I hope I can word this to where it makes sense. If I were with you face to face, I would use an example that I know we both would identify with -- having loved ones who struggle with addictions. So here is my attempt to put that example into words: Just like when we have loved ones with addictions, we can unintentionally enable them because we don't want them to have to really feel the rock bottom of their decisions. But we are not responsible for their bad decisions and we are not responsible for preventing or cleaning up their consequences from their bad decisions. You did your job, and it's on your company to be responsible for the choices and whatever those consequences are. Do your job and let the chips fall where they may. I have been lurking around not wanting to follow up or reply to a damn thing after the day I had. But this. This really put it in perspective for me. It spoke to me in a way I understand. I kept thinking that there is just so much on the line here. It seems so wrong for me to just keep my mouth shut and go on about my business. But I'll say, it's working with Chloe. I miss her. I really do. But I miss sober her. And she's not there right now. So I keep my distance. And right now, I'll tell you that personally, I'm thriving. I have accepted I cannot help that situation. So I do me and I'm getting better. More stable. Stronger. Calmer. I decided today that instead of sending an email to the reviewers which could be embarrassing that I would instead bring it up at our unit meeting today. It was me, her, our boss, and the assistant director. We showed the email on the screen and I said that I hadn't heard from anyone in regard to it and I was concerned because we had a deadline tomorrow. I stated exactly what I did in response to the email and that the remainder were for her offices. And then she looked at me and said, you're working on all of it though? You got this? And I said no. I said I did this X, Y, and Z. And that I was not responsible for the rest but I wanted to ensure they had seen this email so we could respond as a team. My bosses jaw was on the floor. He said to me, this is due tomorrow? And I said yes. And that's all he said. Not send me the email. Not if you need my help, let me know. Nothing. I felt good that I was able to say no. That's so very unusual for me. I felt like my boss should have offered to help. I felt like I did the right thing. But then Jeremy...that guy...I swear he's the best guy ever...too sweet really...was like, I think you should have offered to help. Sounds like your boss was disappointed and that's why he didn't respond. And I was then unsure again. So I needed to take a break before I came back and responded. I need to sleep now. Tomorrow is a new day. I swear I hate the drama. I just want to always do the right thing. I want to be fair. I want to be a good human. I know I don't always do the right thing. But my intentions are good. He probably was disappointed. But thats not on you. Just like our addicts can get mad when we don't save them from their consequences, your boss if probably upset you aren't saving him from the consequences. You did your job and if I know you, you did it well. You are not responsible for carrying the whole company. It is not your job to save the entire department or the entire company. Big hugs friend. |
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Post by chaosisapony on Aug 14, 2024 1:07:52 GMT
If your boss is disappointed then he should do his job and get rid of the employee that refuses to work. If people lose money that is not your responsibility. None of this is your responsibility.
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Post by AussieMeg on Aug 14, 2024 2:52:28 GMT
My take? If you got an email asking for a reply (regardless of who it was from), the professional response is to reply and to do so promptly. Absolutely! You need to reply to the email asking for an update ASAP. At this point in time, they have no idea who has and has not done what they're supposed to have done. So all they can see is that nobody has bothered to get back to them with an update! That's unprofessional, regardless of who has done their part and who has not. Now, the next question is what to say in the reply... ETA: And now that I have read the rest of the thread:  But then Jeremy...that guy...I swear he's the best guy ever...too sweet really...was like, I think you should have offered to help. Sounds like your boss was disappointed and that's why he didn't respond. And I was then unsure again. So I needed to take a break before I came back and responded. Nah, fuck 'em! They've made this rod for their own backs. Your useless boss should have fixed this months and months ago, and your useless co-worker needs to be shown up for the lazy incompetent twit that she is. |
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Post by lg on Aug 14, 2024 4:33:29 GMT
You have a job
You did your job
You get paid based on doing your job and your job alone
You handled the situation perfectly
You only need to feel guilt if you dropped the ball
You only need to go the extra mile if you stuffed up
You did neither of those things
As professional courtesy (and as I’ve been the person at the other company waiting on a response that never comes) I would send a reply to the email from the external party detailing what I had completed. And then I would sleep well at night knowing in all good conscience I did my job and I will get paid for doing my job.
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Post by mommaho on Aug 14, 2024 8:55:24 GMT
I think I'd respond to the agency stating which ones you were responsible for and that they had been completed at 2:45pm or whatever. Nothing about her, the rest, etc. And I'd cc your supervisor. This feels like it's probably the best response so far. Just take her off the reply/response to the reviewers altogether and add him. Exactly what I was going to say - then let the chips fall where they may. |
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Post by mollycoddle on Aug 14, 2024 9:04:00 GMT
I don't think I'd send it at all. Would you normally send an email just to say "I did my job?" You did it and your boss should know what needs to be done and she should as well. Wow, this is all kinds of fucked up. Sheesh. I think because he reached out in an email to inquire, I feel like one of us should respond in some way. Since he asked, I would respond. ETA: I read the rest of the thread. Sounds like you handled it well. Your boss needs to stop relying on you to do ALL of the work. |
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Post by peppermintpatty on Aug 14, 2024 11:47:27 GMT
I'm sure you realize this but every time you do her job, you are helping your company to NOT get rid of her. They are probably trying to build a case to fire her but when her work gets done, either by her or by you, it makes her look good.
I have been following your story but it's time you let things go.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Aug 14, 2024 11:48:43 GMT
Maybe if you stop doing extra work, they WILL lose the money and maybe that will be the kick in the rear end of your incompetent boss(es) to fire your super incompetent coworker. This might be true but a lot of innocent people are going to get hurt in order for this to happen. This is NOT your responsibility. If you want it to be, then you need to demand that they make you her supervisor. |
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Post by peabay on Aug 14, 2024 12:02:48 GMT
10000%. jeremysgirl I hope I can word this to where it makes sense. If I were with you face to face, I would use an example that I know we both would identify with -- having loved ones who struggle with addictions. So here is my attempt to put that example into words: Just like when we have loved ones with addictions, we can unintentionally enable them because we don't want them to have to really feel the rock bottom of their decisions. But we are not responsible for their bad decisions and we are not responsible for preventing or cleaning up their consequences from their bad decisions. You did your job, and it's on your company to be responsible for the choices and whatever those consequences are. Do your job and let the chips fall where they may. I have been lurking around not wanting to follow up or reply to a damn thing after the day I had. But this. This really put it in perspective for me. It spoke to me in a way I understand. I kept thinking that there is just so much on the line here. It seems so wrong for me to just keep my mouth shut and go on about my business. But I'll say, it's working with Chloe. I miss her. I really do. But I miss sober her. And she's not there right now. So I keep my distance. And right now, I'll tell you that personally, I'm thriving. I have accepted I cannot help that situation. So I do me and I'm getting better. More stable. Stronger. Calmer. I decided today that instead of sending an email to the reviewers which could be embarrassing that I would instead bring it up at our unit meeting today. It was me, her, our boss, and the assistant director. We showed the email on the screen and I said that I hadn't heard from anyone in regard to it and I was concerned because we had a deadline tomorrow. I stated exactly what I did in response to the email and that the remainder were for her offices. And then she looked at me and said, you're working on all of it though? You got this? And I said no. I said I did this X, Y, and Z. And that I was not responsible for the rest but I wanted to ensure they had seen this email so we could respond as a team. My bosses jaw was on the floor. He said to me, this is due tomorrow? And I said yes. And that's all he said. Not send me the email. Not if you need my help, let me know. Nothing. I felt good that I was able to say no. That's so very unusual for me. I felt like my boss should have offered to help. I felt like I did the right thing. But then Jeremy...that guy...I swear he's the best guy ever...too sweet really...was like, I think you should have offered to help. Sounds like your boss was disappointed and that's why he didn't respond. And I was then unsure again. So I needed to take a break before I came back and responded. I need to sleep now. Tomorrow is a new day. I swear I hate the drama. I just want to always do the right thing. I want to be fair. I want to be a good human. I know I don't always do the right thing. But my intentions are good. are you fucking kidding me? Your dh is lovely but no. You're not getting paid to do two jobs. |
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Post by cakediva on Aug 14, 2024 12:58:09 GMT
There is an annual project that is due by August 1. I submitted for my program offices, she insisted on submitting for hers. (I've done the entire thing the past two years on my own. But she insisted.) We've received a joint email from those reviewing, they are questioning whether some projects they expected to be submitted haven't been. Are they not needed, if they are, enter them, etc. I reviewed the list, reached out to one of my offices, got confirmation, and submitted the project. I also did one for our central administration and she handles the budget for central admin so technically her responsibility but I did it because I knew the person in charge of the project. The rest are for her offices. The reviewers said their deadline was COB Wednesday, so tomorrow. Seriously - she INSISTED on doing her part. And then last minute, in the meeting - she says "you're doing it all though, right?" This lady may have had a stroke and may have accommodations (or whatever the workplace calls them) but she is not as incapable as she lets on. She is totally taking advantage that you will do her work for her, and getting paid for doing nothing. I may not be well versed on the subject - but isn't this a form of gaslighting? Good for you for saying NO. Yes there is money involved. But that cannot be all on your shoulders. You are part of a team, and in this case it feels like a freaking high school group project and you are doing all the work for the rest of the group and then they all get an A. These are grown ass adults getting paid to do a job. And you are doing that - doing what your job description says to do. You are carrying your parts of the assignment. You are not getting paid overtime (are you? lol) to do her shit too. |
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Aug 14, 2024 13:22:24 GMT
felt good that I was able to say no. That's so very unusual for me. I felt like my boss should have offered to help. I felt like I did the right thing. But then Jeremy...that guy...I swear he's the best guy ever...too sweet really...was like, I think you should have offered to help. Sounds like your boss was disappointed and that's why he didn't respond. And I was then unsure again. So I needed to take a break before I came back and responded. I think you handled the situation professionally and did a good job. It's not up to you to offer to help, she has a job to do as well. Nor was it on your boss to offer to help at that moment. Hasn't your boss told you in the past not to take on her work? Well, you did what he asked. Now he gets to deal with the aftermath of that. It's not your responsibility. As for Jeremy's comment, bless his heart (said in the true compassionate way, not snarky). I know he means well but you helping was not the answer. If your boss had wanted you to help out, it was on him to ask you to do so. I hope you were able to stop the 'what iffing' and get a good night's rest. Good luck with your continued job search! |
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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Aug 14, 2024 13:52:25 GMT
I agree here with mom. You did your part, your co-worker said she'd do hers, then was surprised when you didn't pick up her slack. What? That is not on you!! And your boss needs to do something about where the problem is. It's painfully obvious that your coworker can't and won't pull her own weight. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 14, 2024 14:03:49 GMT
I decided today that instead of sending an email to the reviewers which could be embarrassing that I would instead bring it up at our unit meeting today. It was me, her, our boss, and the assistant director. We showed the email on the screen and I said that I hadn't heard from anyone in regard to it and I was concerned because we had a deadline tomorrow. I stated exactly what I did in response to the email and that the remainder were for her offices. And then she looked at me and said, you're working on all of it though? You got this? And I said no. I said I did this X, Y, and Z. And that I was not responsible for the rest but I wanted to ensure they had seen this email so we could respond as a team. My bosses jaw was on the floor. He said to me, this is due tomorrow? And I said yes. And that's all he said. Not send me the email. Not if you need my help, let me know. Nothing. I felt good that I was able to say no. That's so very unusual for me. I felt like my boss should have offered to help. I felt like I did the right thing. But then Jeremy...that guy...I swear he's the best guy ever...too sweet really...was like, I think you should have offered to help. Sounds like your boss was disappointed and that's why he didn't respond. And I was then unsure again. So I needed to take a break before I came back and responded. I need to sleep now. Tomorrow is a new day. I swear I hate the drama. I just want to always do the right thing. I want to be fair. I want to be a good human. I know I don't always do the right thing. But my intentions are good. Oh HELL to the no, I cannot believe she had the balls to actually say that after insisting yet again that she would handle her part. And the same for your boss, for not taking the reins and offering to step up and do HIS job, which is to manage her and deal with her shortcomings. As for Jeremy, I totally, TOTALLY see how he could think that way because my DH is like that too. There are so many times when he will want to go so over and above to make some unworthy person happy and I’m like NO FREAKING WAY. He can be too nice, to the point where he WILL be taken advantage of, and I will not stand for that. I tell DH that I have to be the brakes to his gas, the mean to offset his nice. There is being nice and then there’s being a doormat. I’m glad you stood your ground and refused to be the doormat. And I agree, sometimes the shit has to hit the proverbial fan and the powers that be have to take a hit in the pocketbook before they wake up to the totality of the situation. Sometimes that’s what it takes for heads to roll. ETA: I would have replied to the email with what I had completed because that would be the professional thing to do, since the sender directly asked you and your coworker a question. I think you handled the situation perfectly by bringing it up in your meeting before replying. |
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