frankiegirl
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Post by frankiegirl on Aug 31, 2024 10:57:10 GMT
I had a minor procedure done yesterday so was resting and flipping through tv programs. In several of the programs friends would just walk into another friends house, same with neighbors. The only house I don't knock is my sister's house. I like my neighbors but it would freak me out if they just walked into my house (and I'm sure the same for them if I walked into their house). And I would never help myself to someone's refrigerator or cabinet without them telling me to .
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Post by gar on Aug 31, 2024 11:05:45 GMT
No. My neighbour and I are pretty friendly often lending/borrowing the proverbial pint of milk and we have keys to each other’s houses for emergencies etc. She has told me I can pop in anytime, even if they’re not there, and not to bother asking but I can’t. It just feels wrong.
At my Dad’s or my DD’s I might knock and enter if they’re expecting me but not totally unannounced.
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pilcas
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Post by pilcas on Aug 31, 2024 11:44:49 GMT
Are these houses just unlocked that anybody can walk in? A foreign concept to me.
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Post by lisae on Aug 31, 2024 11:55:46 GMT
I only ever did that with my parents and grandparents' homes.
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Post by lainey on Aug 31, 2024 12:11:33 GMT
No way, the thought of it makes me very uncomfortable. We always keep our doors locked so there's no danger of anyone walking straight in.
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Post by melanell on Aug 31, 2024 12:28:55 GMT
Only my parents and when my in-laws were both alive and in their own house with a dog who would alert them if a stranger approached, there as well.
Now it's only my MIL & she is in an apartment with no dog, and now I knock so as not to startle her by her door suddenly opening.
(I forgot, we used to walk right in at my aunts' house when they were alive---but only the back door, never the front door, and only in the warm weather months, so we could kind of call out "Hello!" as we opened the door, though. SO maybe that doesn't really count.)
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Post by littlemama on Aug 31, 2024 12:29:16 GMT
At my mother in law's yes. At my mom's, no, but only because she has the place locked up like Fort Knox and it faster to just knock and wait. At ds', yes. We dont really show up unannounced at any of those places though
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wellway
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Post by wellway on Aug 31, 2024 12:40:39 GMT
No. Reminds me of something that happened years ago. My friend, who lived a few doors away from me, was on a phone call to her mum when another neighbour just walked in and started to put on the kettle, ready for a chat. My friend mouthed at her she was on an overseas call to South Africa. Clueless neighbour stayed in the same room I told my friend she was much nicer than me because I would not have put up with that disrespect. Clueless neighbour must have realised how low my bar for shenanigans was because she rarely messed with me the way she did with others.
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Aug 31, 2024 13:22:05 GMT
Everybody just walks into my sister's house either expected or unexpected. I have the code to her keyless entry so I just walk in. I also help myself to wine. It's very casual down here but hers is really the only house I wouldn't knock at.
At my parent's apartment, I usually knock and let myself in with my key. They are both on walkers and it's hard for them to make it to the door so I save them the effort.
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Post by cmpeter on Aug 31, 2024 13:28:47 GMT
Just at one friend’s house. But, I never go over unannounced. She lives about 30 minutes from me. She leaves the garage door open and she knows her friends will just walk in.
At my house if we are expecting a close friend or family member, I’ll unlock the front door and tell them to just come in. Some do and some still knock.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Aug 31, 2024 13:31:24 GMT
No.
The only house I ever walked into without knocking was my grandmother's, when she couldn't get up to answer the door, and I had a key. I would still ring her up to let her know I was coming, then call out from the front door as I opened it so that she would know I was there.
Even if I have just called them from the front drive to say I'm here (pre-arranged) I'll still knock/ring the bell.
Earlier this week I went to an invited gathering at the Rectory. The door was unlocked but nobody just walked in. Everybody rang the bell. It's just something that we do here in the UK.
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 31, 2024 13:31:41 GMT
Never! I always knock before I open my mom's apartment door.
No one can do that do that to me, as I keep my doors locked. My DD lets herself in, but my Ring doorbell lets me know she's here. She always calls first.
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Post by gramasue on Aug 31, 2024 13:35:11 GMT
Never, even when the kids say "you don't have to knock", I say, sorry, it makes me uncomfortable to just walk in without knocking.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Aug 31, 2024 13:38:21 GMT
I walk in at my mom's house, but she's always expecting when I visit her. I knock at my daughter's most of the time. Both of them walk in at my house if the door is unlocked.
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Post by gillyp on Aug 31, 2024 13:53:10 GMT
Unlocked doors are still relatively normal here and people do just come in. I will go into my son's house without knocking but I'll shout that I'm there so as not to startle anyone. Likewise he or his family will just turn up and come in here. Workmen do that too, although it is becoming less common. I don't mean workmen who are in the middle of a job but someone who has said he'll pop round sometime to give a quote or similar. My doors are only locked after dark or if we are away. It would be totally different if we lived in a city but even in the town people have their doors unlocked.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Aug 31, 2024 14:14:40 GMT
No.
But I didn't think anyone actually does that. I thought it's just for tv flow, because shows would all be the same if every scene was a friend knocking on the door first and the other friend answering it.
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breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Aug 31, 2024 14:15:42 GMT
No and I wouldn't want anyone doing that to me either.
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Post by KikiPea on Aug 31, 2024 14:16:43 GMT
At my parents house I will, if they know I’m coming. Otherwise, they have their door locked. With friends, never, unless they know I’m coming and tell me to just come in when I arrive. Even when people know I’m coming (if they are having multiple people over), I usually still knock, unless they are in the backyard.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 31, 2024 14:22:43 GMT
Never. I don’t like it when people show up unexpected to my house so I always call first and then knock or ring the bell when I go to someone else’s house. My own house is always locked up even when we’re home. When my mom was alive and still living at home, I would let myself in with my key but she would always know I was coming and was expecting me.
On a related note, it would drive my DH absolutely INSANE when my siblings would show up and while visiting just help themselves to whatever was in the fridge, cabinets or out on the counter. To me it was no big thing and I totally didn’t care but he really thought it was rude for someone to just go rooting around for a snack, LOL. It’s totally the difference between growing up with seven siblings vs. growing up with one, we just automatically shared everything.
When I was a kid, we never had a lot of store bought treats and those things were rationed like gold, LOL. Once, a bunch of popsicles went missing and the tipoff that it wasn’t one of us was the small muddy footprints that led from the back door to the refrigerator. Turned out the little neighbor kid came over on her own while we were all out doing something out front and she just helped herself!
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Post by sueg on Aug 31, 2024 14:27:46 GMT
My door locks automatically - there’s no way to leave it unlocked unless I actually leave it open - so no one can just walk in to our place. I used to walk in at my parents place, but that was ages ago. If I am staying with my sister when I’m back home, I just walk in, but when I first arrive I will knock on the door and then may walk in if no one answers or if she calls out to me. My older DS’s house - if I’ve taken one of the kids out, I’ll just walk in but at the start of a visit I’ll knock, or wait for one of the dogs or kids to alert him.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Aug 31, 2024 14:56:30 GMT
Every door in my house is locked at all times, so no one is walking in here unannounced! And that is the case with pretty much everyone I know. Always assumed those scenes were just something that happened on tv, but not in real life.
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Post by epeanymous on Aug 31, 2024 15:05:21 GMT
Absolutely never. Never ever. Not even my own parents.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Aug 31, 2024 15:15:41 GMT
I would not. Almost everyone I know, keeps their doors locked at all times. I never leave my door unlocked, so anyone that wanted to enter, would have to knock. In addition to keeping the door locked for safety reasons, no one needs to see me bra-less.
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Post by katlady on Aug 31, 2024 15:16:23 GMT
Never! I assume everyone has their door locked, so I knock/ring the doorbell. Even when I go to relatives’ homes and they are expecting me, or going to a party at someone’s home, I don’t just open their front door.
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Post by scrapmaven on Aug 31, 2024 15:18:00 GMT
I do not. When we would visit mil we had keys, but always knocked, just so that we didn't startle her. As for the kitchen, that was different and we could make ourselves at home. When sil visits us she comes and goes as she pleases and the kitchen is her domain. She makes her coffee and grabs her snacks or tea at will. If anyone else did that I'd be very shocked.
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Post by wordfish on Aug 31, 2024 15:25:44 GMT
I don't even walk into my kids' homes without at least the "knock, then open the door" and that would only be if they knew I was coming, which is pretty much all the time.
My kids walk into my house without knocking and that is dandy, no issues. No one else should even try doing that, though: I have a Great Pyrenees, and he firmly believes it is his job to protect us from bad guys. Bad guys = anyone he does not know. Also: falling leaves, the air, the ice cream truck, train whistles, cascading feathers, butterfly farts.... One time I came home and startled him, so it took him a few seconds to realize it was me. All I saw was teeth, and all I heard was the impending attack of an extremely pissed off gigantic white dog. I didn't doubt his effectiveness prior to that day, but I really don't question it now. YIKES.
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Post by milocat on Aug 31, 2024 15:27:49 GMT
Yes I walk in to my mom, sister's, SIL's, used to to my inlaws and grandparents. I have a friend how does a knock and walk, knocks but comes in. If I'm expected and invited I just walk in. If I'm popping in I knock and walk. I would help myself to a drink, usually water without asking.
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Post by melanell on Aug 31, 2024 15:31:43 GMT
At my parent's apartment, I usually knock and let myself in with my key. They are both on walkers and it's hard for them to make it to the door so I save them the effort. My MIL has keyless entry, and we know the code, so while we do knock and say "Hi! It's just us!", we do then let ourselves in for the same reason.
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Post by melanell on Aug 31, 2024 15:41:10 GMT
My parents and MIL will walk in here without knocking, as will some of my kids' friends. DH & I both have a sibling living nearby, and they will both do the knock and enter, without waiting for a response.
We used to keep our front door locked at our last house because we couldn't see the front door, from anywhere in the house, plus we did not have a storm door there. We did keep out back screen doors open during the day, and people who knew us well knew they could come to the back deck and come in if they wished.
But now, we can see some combo of the front walk, back walk, driveway, and ground floor exterior doors from numerous spots in the house, AND each door has a storm/screen door, so we keep all of the doors open until the weather gets too chilly to do so. But even when it is cold, after the first person leaves for the day, the back door will be unlocked if anyone else is still home, and that's where any drop-in guests will enter the house. We can see people approaching that door from every room on the first floor, so it's very unlikely that someone will enter the house without us being aware that they are here first.
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Aug 31, 2024 15:49:29 GMT
It depends. Is the person expecting me? When I go to my Aunt's she's expecting me and I will walk right in. Same with my BFF's house & sister's house. If they weren't expecting me, I'd never walk right in. I didn't even do that at my parent's when I moved out.
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